OH has a friend (single) who over the years has regularly come over for the evening and almost always after a few drinks and dinner has ended up staying the night. We are talking many years and many many meals but not once has there been an offer to bring something towards the meal or to invite us. In addition, we have lent a lot of items from books and DVD's right up to the use of a car for a couple of months with many items never being returned. Something happened recently and OH wrote a letter basically saying we felt we were being taken advantage of. We have now received a package returning several items going back some years, no note and a feeling of stalemate. Part of me thinks that if this is the person's true colours, then so be it but what would others do to break this impasse?