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Hi all, just thought I would share the worst year of my life with you all. So here goes... Relationship of 10 years broke up, then found out he was seeing my best friend. Then my sister had a stroke a…
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7y, 5m agoPosted 7 years, 5 months ago
Hi all, just thought I would share the worst year of my life with you all. So here goes... Relationship of 10 years broke up, then found out he was seeing my best friend. Then my sister had a stroke and died 3 weeks later aged 38. Things are feeling pretty bleak right now.
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#1
im sorry and hopefully for you it will get better
#2
clearly not a best friend! Friends come before boyfriend/girlfriends until you get to the family life stage...
im sorry to hear all this i just hope things improve, theres not much else that can go bad
banned#3
will life get better - who knows


but you can allow your experiences to strengthen who you are, dont allow them to drag you down. mourn your loss and take strength from all that was good xx
1 Like #4
Sorry to hear of your hard time. Hopefully thing will pick up for you. :)
#5
how devastating for you I cannot even begin to imagine your loss, don't want to quote platitudes, but just hang in there, I really believe things will get better and hurt less, it needs time. I hope you have people close to you who can support and help you, take care xx
#6
chin up hopefully things will improve remember things you go through in your ilife will make you a stronger person, remember all the good times you had with your sister when your feeling down
#7
fairyworks
how devastating for you I cannot even begin to imagine your loss, don't want to quote platitudes, but just hang in there, I really believe things will get better and hurt less, it needs time. I hope you have people close to you who can support and help you, take care xx

:thumbsup:
#8
I've had a rough few months lately,but all I can say is things will eventually get better and easier.
banned#9
who were you going out with ? have u slapped him yet ?
#10
i always live by this motto! It will be reet in the morning i know life can get you down op trust me

my dad has mnd *terminal* and i care for him on a daily basis
my bro has austim
my mum is in a world of her own
my aunty has physopernia

and i am 18 and look after em all >.<

so how ever bad things look things can only get better trust me XD x

if you ever wanna talk msg me OP kk xxx
#11
How sad. :( i'm sorry for your loss.

It will all work out in the end.
#12
you know i remember posting something on here a while back of how i felt about something personal and i was told by one person to go get a life! (they were a minority) well you know what we all have one and sometimes we have other peoples to go with it and we try to cope and it doesnt always work because you are human and you do have feelings and i do hope that you get through this awful time in your life and you should be commended on how you are looking after your family members and how you have coped with your sisters passing also and there is light at the end of the tunnel and there are people on here lots of them who give you help and strength to go on so strength and love to you for what you are doing for you and your family
1 Like #13
Will life get any better???
Cant get any worse surely, so THE ONLY WAY IS UP.
#14
wow rotten luck, hope it gets better soon
1 Like #15
Thank you all for your kind messages and support. I am very lucky to have a fantastic mum and dad who always have and always will be there for me. I have two amazing children who are my world. My sister was a wonderful, caring person. She liked anything star shaped and sunflowers. I will love her forever and never forget her and hopefully one day I will see her again x x
#16
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#17
so sorry for your loss..can't imagine what it must be like to lose a sibling.
as your boyf- 10yrs is a loong time.. everything happens for a reason, and maybe by breaking it off with him you'll hopefully find someone who will treat you much better and be loyal. his loss... as for your (best) friend..no comment..
chin up, hopefully time will heal. it always does. (virtual hug)
#18
http://i860.photobucket.com/albums/ab166/jessylove3/rose.jpgI am so sorry - my thoughts and prayers are with you XX
#19
Me and my family feel for you.

Hope things turn around soon, fate obviously is playing you a poor hand at the mo.

Next year I'm sure will bring new hope for you and your family.

Chin up kiddo :)
banned#20
Everything happens for a good reason. Try and find the good and keep the wheels of your life spinning.
#21
How very sad......I can't imagine how u feel, chin up hun...... things will get better:friends:
banned#22
hope things improve for you em :thumbsup:
#23
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED
I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned that you can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.
I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learned that just because someone doesnt love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other.And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
I've learned that love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch - holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.
I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for ourselves.
I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.
I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by someone else. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned that making a living is not the same as making a life.
I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up.
I've learned that you can make someone's day by simply sending them a little card.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes by people who don't even know you.
I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned that mental stimulation is the way to a person's heart.
I've learned that just because your not together now doesn't mean it wasn't meant to be. Now is just not your time
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
#24
Sorry about how things are going for you.
I would recomend you do not read the rest of my reply.












Hate to say this but from my experiance no it will not get any better.

My life has got worse year on year for the last 10/12 years and I see no chance of it changeing anytime soon.

I have thought about just ending it all more than once but then thought that things can only get better.........then proven wrong again.

I am now on medication for depression, I am tired all the time and I am expecting at least one more bad thing to happen before the year ends!

Next year will be better it has to be, as I can not see how it can get worse.



Who am I kidding it will find a way.
#25
hannah19790
How very sad......I can't imagine how u feel, chin up hun...... things will get better:friends:


Yeh right:x
#26
samwants2save
so sorry for your loss..can't imagine what it must be like to lose a sibling.
as your boyf- 10yrs is a loong time.. everything happens for a reason, and maybe by breaking it off with him you'll hopefully find someone who will treat you much better and be loyal. his loss... as for your (best) friend..no comment..
chin up, hopefully time will heal. it always does. (virtual hug)


Yep and that reason is that god/life hates you.


Hate it back works for me.
#27
Mum2Connor&Cerys
I've had a rough few months lately,but all I can say is things will eventually get better and easier.


Get used to it becouse no they won't
#28
wulshaz
you know i remember posting something on here a while back of how i felt about something personal and i was told by one person to go get a life! (they were a minority) well you know what we all have one and sometimes we have other peoples to go with it and we try to cope and it doesnt always work because you are human and you do have feelings and i do hope that you get through this awful time in your life and you should be commended on how you are looking after your family members and how you have coped with your sisters passing also and there is light at the end of the tunnel and there are people on here lots of them who give you help and strength to go on so strength and love to you for what you are doing for you and your family


+1
banned#29
Albon;6551175
Yep and that reason is that god/life hates you.


Hate it back works for me.

from your previous post - obviously it doesnt work for you :w00t:
#30
csiman
from your previous post - obviously it doesnt work for you :w00t:


Well truth to tell no it does not but it gives me somthing to hate instead of turning all that hate inward.
#31
Albon
Get used to it becouse no they won't


Maybe it won't for u, who knows, but a positive outlook certainly can help. Im not gonna bore everyone with my experiences but i have been where the OP is at, all I can say is you can get through this, I have had clinical depression for years on n off and lots f life events have brought me to a halt at times. If u cant see any way out i would suggest you having a course of CBT Cognitive behavioural therapy..available on NHS through your GP.
banned#32
Em, *sigh*, what can I say? So many things will be in your mind right now, probably a lot of guilt, and the thinking that these events happened because of something you have done or said. I can assure you, these events are not your fault. Life is full of, and will continue to be full of, events that will rock you and make you waver. What makes us stronger is how we deal with these events. However, life is also full of some positive events, and whilst you wont be feeling positive right now, they will come I assure you.

There is nothing I can say or do to help you come to terms with these events in your life, but I can certainly offer an ear to listen to anything you wish to talk about.

In answer to your question, yes, things will improve, but dont rush it, cope with what you have on your plate right now, and take it one step at a time :thumbsup:
#33
cheekychic
Maybe it won't for u, who knows, but a positive outlook certainly can help. Im not gonna bore everyone with my experiences but i have been where the OP is at, all I can say is you can get through this, I have had clinical depression for years on n off and lots f life events have brought me to a halt at times. If u cant see any way out i would suggest you having a course of CBT Cognitive behavioural therapy..available on NHS through your GP.


Tried it it.

I am on anti D's myself and have been for quite a while.
Been to a scicolagist (talking therapy) which worked ....... then I got kicked in the teeth again and again and again.

Sorry I should just shut up but I am a bit pi**ed by all the positive talk with no counter point.
#34
Albon
Tried it it.

I am on anti D's myself and have been for quite a while.
Been to a scicolagist (talking therapy) which worked ....... then I got kicked in the teeth again and again and again.

Sorry I should just shut up but I am a bit pi**ed by all the positive talk with no counter point.


All u can do is keep tryin unfortunately life soes keep kickin u in the teeth but im sure ur a stronger person inside, i too have been on anti D's for a long time, i cant function w/out them now as put on ones years ago that a mightmare to come off (seroxat)
banned 1 Like #35
Albon
Tried it it.

I am on anti D's myself and have been for quite a while.
Been to a scicolagist (talking therapy) which worked ....... then I got kicked in the teeth again and again and again.

Sorry I should just shut up but I am a bit pi**ed by all the positive talk with no counter point.


The reason why people talk positively is because they have been to the place your are now and brought themselves out of it.

I understand you believe there is no way out right now, but you have admitted that there is (via psychology, or psychiatric treatment). It worked for you for a while, why did you decide to not continue with it?

I truly believe that getting yourself away from these feelings is the only way to succeed, and whilst you may think there is no way out, there is always, ALWAYS, an answer.

Again, I can lend you an ear to listen to your problems if you think I can help. :)
#36
http://i47.photobucket.com/albums/f160/ordinaryphotos/butter4.jpg
banned#37
it is ok to feel as you do, infact it is quite a natural feeling, the pain of loosing someone never leaves you, but over time you learn to deal with it, dont give yourself grief for the way you are feeling


lovely photo tony xx
banned#38
sculpturatus;6551792
The reason why people talk positively is because they have been to the place your are now and brought themselves out of it.

I understand you believe there is no way out right now, but you have admitted that there is (via psychology, or psychiatric treatment). It worked for you for a while, why did you decide to not continue with it?

I truly believe that getting yourself away from these feelings is the only way to succeed, and whilst you may think there is no way out, there is always, ALWAYS, an answer.

Again, I can lend you an ear to listen to your problems if you think I can help. :)

repped :thumbsup:

hating is not gonna achieve anything
#39
Be strong and a listening ear is always avail here, well mine is anyway, pm me i cant solve anyones probs but a prob shared is a prob halved :)
#40
snowflake
Hi hun how are you atm, dont forget im here if you need to chat about things xxxx did you get the support pillows sorted? x


yer we got one dw and ty x :thumbsup:

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