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    Advice on Neighbour UPDATE with todays incident!!

    I am really fed up and down today, I have had enough. I had 2 neighbours who are known * gossipers* etc, talking about everyone and anyone.
    Over the last yr they are targeting my family, i know the law in relation to non molestation order and harassment etc which I have decided to persue as it is upsetting me now. However I am wondering if it would be worth getting a solicitots letter sent to them, telling them to make NO contact with me or my family, basically saying that i will pursue down the legal road IF they continue to be malicious, make accusations, etc

    People say ignore it, but its really hard when your confronted and accused of things, I cannot retaliate due to my position in my job ( they know i cant and have only started being like this since my new/change of job a year ago)

    What would you do...

    Sorry to have a moan, its even making me think of moving! when why should I , Ive been here longer than those and it was lovely until recent!

    64 Comments

    Exactly how bad are they? Like you step out of your house and they are bombarding you with these accusations?

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    Hun...could you not have a word with a couple of former work colleagues, get them to have a quiet word?

    Original Poster

    ODB_69;5503940

    Hun...could you not have a word with a couple of former work colleagues, … Hun...could you not have a word with a couple of former work colleagues, get them to have a quiet word?



    I could indeed lol but im following procedures... trouble is i have to have 3 incidents where i dont retaliate or answer back......... impossible to do!! Iol

    whats the story? 2 gossipers over a fence just yappin to each other about everyone? sounds like every street ive ever lived in tbh

    Original Poster

    JasonAJB;5503939

    Exactly how bad are they? Like you step out of your house and they are … Exactly how bad are they? Like you step out of your house and they are bombarding you with these accusations?



    trust me, we get in the car and she comes over and starts accusing, blaming etc.. U wouldnt believe it. Everything from me filling her bin with lager cans to we neglect our rabbit!!
    It may seem petty but is IS harassment and when its continually its draining.....She even barged in my house on my hen night!! pushed her way in ranting!

    pcnutta;5503954

    I could indeed lol but im following procedures... trouble is i have to … I could indeed lol but im following procedures... trouble is i have to have 3 incidents where i dont retaliate or answer back......... impossible to do!! Iol



    keep a diary of all the events for back up if that dont work send round a mob to threaten to smash their knee caps

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    kungfu;5503957

    whats the story? 2 gossipers over a fence just yappin to each other about … whats the story? 2 gossipers over a fence just yappin to each other about everyone? sounds like every street ive ever lived in tbh



    They spread lies, etc, i know cos they have got back to me.. ive confronted them and it stopped for a while but its started again.

    They really ought to get a life , dont people like these have anything better to do !

    pcnutta;5503968

    trust me, we get in the car and she comes over and starts accusing, … trust me, we get in the car and she comes over and starts accusing, blaming etc.. U wouldnt believe it. Everything from me filling her bin with lager cans to we neglect our rabbit!! It may seem petty but is IS harassment and when its continually its draining.....She even barged in my house on my hen night!! pushed her way in ranting!



    lol , sounds mentally ill (srsly) , on the dole no doubt?

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    knock her out she wont come round again

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    ding;5503971

    keep a diary of all the events for back up



    Yep im doing that, thing is it has to be 3 incidents when ive not retaliated... not even speak back or engage in conversation, but when you have someone saying lies its hard!! so i never get past incident 2!! cos i have to say something. nightmare

    So sorry you are feeling like this sweetheart.

    Have you begun legal action yet to obtain the anti-molestation order? Your solicitor will advise you on the best course of action to take when you speak to him/her. I think it would be fair to have a solicitor send out a legal letter to them explaining that you are prepared to take further legal action should their malicious accusations and harassment of you and your family not cease.

    You will need to keep evidence of any examples you have of their behaviour. Have a camera handy if necessary with you when you are leaving home each day and record any incidence of harassing behaviour in detail.

    I don't blame you for wanting to move home love, I think I would too under the same circumstances.

    Please don't allow them to make you feel down. Everything will be fine x x x

    just smile and laugh.
    it will wind them more and make you feel better.

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    kungfu;5503979

    lol , sounds mentally ill (srsly) , on the dole no doubt?



    U know i thought that, cos she never used to be like it, i even said to the coppers i think all is not well.. she used to give kids easter eggs etc!! then suddenly as if the plot has been lost!

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    landofdan;5503997

    just smile and laugh.it will wind them more and make you feel better.



    HAHAH my sister said to do that!!! lolllll

    pcnutta;5503954

    I could indeed lol but im following procedures... trouble is i have to … I could indeed lol but im following procedures... trouble is i have to have 3 incidents where i dont retaliate or answer back......... impossible to do!! Iol



    Sweetheart, if I can bite my tongue so can you.

    Just hold back, go indoors and laugh because you'll be on your way to getting what you need x

    landofdan;5503997

    just smile and laugh.it will wind them more and make you feel better.



    gotta say this is best advice, people like that are just begging for a reaction, gives them even more to gossip about, laugh at her and call her a saddo everytime, it will stop :thumbsup:

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    people like that strive for a reaction, i would just smile and move along, or on a bad day tell them to eff off and get a life

    landofdan;5503997

    just smile and laugh.it will wind them more and make you feel better.



    So true, they want a response and that is the perfect way to wind them up and get what you want. Easier said then done though when you just want to smack the feller/missus.

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    Yeahh your right, ive only got to do it 3 consec times to get it sorted.

    My mum even got popped at lastnight! That upset me, but mum put her/then in there place.

    carry a small video camera with you-every time she starts mouthing off just point it right at her and tape everything-she will stop if she has any sense then.

    Agree with sassie, smile and walk away - that way you are in control and have the upper hand. She will just look like a babbling fool.
    Also try to have a voice activated tape recorder on you any time you leave the house, this will help your case if it gets involved with solicitors.

    People who live opposite me have got a large builders van and always park opposite my driveway and i am on a reasonably busy road- it dtives me nuts when i am reversing out!

    So many people are just so inconsiderate. My heart goes out to you in your dreadful situation.

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    bluetigermobiles;5504071

    Agree with sassie, smile and walk away - that way you are in control and … Agree with sassie, smile and walk away - that way you are in control and have the upper hand. She will just look like a babbling fool.Also try to have a voice activated tape recorder on you any time you leave the house, this will help your case if it gets involved with solicitors.People who live opposite me have got a large builders van and always park opposite my driveway and i am on a reasonably busy road- it dtives me nuts when i am reversing out!So many people are just so inconsiderate. My heart goes out to you in your dreadful situation.




    I would love to move, sadly my husband is being made redundant in the next couple of months. If hes able to find another job I will move. I know of a house coming up in the street i grew up in, and i know everyone! Its a lovely place.

    I will sell my house to students who party all night! that will give her something to complain about! ha

    This isn't meant to sound cruel at all and is just a personal observation. In my experience lots of women go through a similar stage when they're getting a little over the hill and don't have enough to fill their life, i.e work and kids no longer keep them busy and their mind starts filling with the lives of other people as they don't have enough of a life basically to fill their time. Is she at that age where she may be menopausal, lack of work/family responsibilities and/or losing it a bit? I'm not saying that everyone goes through this, I know plenty of people don't and not trying to find an excuse for her behaviour, but am just interested in the details of what is happening.....

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    pcnutta;5504084

    I would love to move, sadly my husband is being made redundant in the … I would love to move, sadly my husband is being made redundant in the next couple of months. If hes able to find another job I will move. I know of a house coming up in the street i grew up in, and i know everyone! Its a lovely place. I will sell my house to students who party all night! that will give her something to complain about! ha



    remember anything statemented (if there is such a word) will have to be passed on to potential buyers :thumbsup:

    sassie;5504093

    remember anything statemented (if there is such a word) will have to be … remember anything statemented (if there is such a word) will have to be passed on to potential buyers :thumbsup:



    stated? ......and only if they ask :thumbsup:

    kungfu;5504101

    stated? ......and only if they ask :thumbsup:



    I thought if you had any problems with neightbours where you involved an outsider ie; Environmental health for noise or solicitors this had to be declared when selling.

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    kungfu;5504101

    stated? ......and only if they ask :thumbsup:



    considering the op cannot go outside without being harrsessed me thinks potential buyers may notice this and ask, and i thought you had to inform once its been documented

    bluetigermobiles;5504129

    I thought if you had any problems with neightbours where you involved an … I thought if you had any problems with neightbours where you involved an outsider ie; Environmental health for noise or solicitors this had to be declared when selling.



    I think so, if it involves an offical party like EH, police etc.

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    so people are just randonly picking oin you for no reason?

    i find this hard to believe tbh, dont think we are getting the full story

    pcnutta;5503968

    trust me, we get in the car and she comes over and starts accusing, … trust me, we get in the car and she comes over and starts accusing, blaming etc.. U wouldnt believe it. Everything from me filling her bin with lager cans to we neglect our rabbit!! It may seem petty but is IS harassment and when its continually its draining.....She even barged in my house on my hen night!! pushed her way in ranting!



    she FORCED her way into your property and the police did nothing?

    casparwhite;5504200

    so people are just randonly picking oin you for no reason?i find this … so people are just randonly picking oin you for no reason?i find this hard to believe tbh, dont think we are getting the full story



    youve never lived in a rough area full of doleys then , ive seen people like this many times on a few estates ive lived in , harrassing for no reason

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    kungfu;5504229

    youve never lived in a rough area full of doleys then , ive seen people … youve never lived in a rough area full of doleys then , ive seen people like this many times on a few estates ive lived in , harrassing for no reason



    council estate terrorists lol

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    casparwhite;5504200

    so people are just randonly picking oin you for no reason?i find this … so people are just randonly picking oin you for no reason?i find this hard to believe tbh, dont think we are getting the full story




    No its one woman and her friend, if you read the beginning i said they gossip etc about everyone, noone likes them because of what they do and say etc.

    I also said I have only been targeted since i got my new job/position.

    so what is your new job then? does se not agree with what you do?

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    pcnutta;5504252

    No its one woman and her friend, if you read the beginning i said they … No its one woman and her friend, if you read the beginning i said they gossip etc about everyone, noone likes them because of what they do and say etc.I also said I have only been targeted since i got my new job/position.



    so if they target eveyone why the hell are you worried?

    tell to **** off and mind their own business

    job done

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    landofdan;5504258

    so what is your new job then? does se not agree with what you do?



    Dnt really wanna say too much on here but i can tell you in PM


    Thanks for all your advice, im gonna bite my tongue and proceed with legal channel.

    she might be reading..send her a greeting on here

    pcnutta;5504288

    Dnt really wanna say too much on here but i can tell you in PM :)Thanks … Dnt really wanna say too much on here but i can tell you in PM :)Thanks for all your advice, im gonna bite my tongue and proceed with legal channel.



    good for you sweetie x x

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    pcnutta;5504288

    Dnt really wanna say too much on here but i can tell you in PM :)Thanks … Dnt really wanna say too much on here but i can tell you in PM :)Thanks for all your advice, im gonna bite my tongue and proceed with legal channel.



    Please remember this may have an affect on selling your property next year, just a thought to bear in mind

    i'd love to know, i wont tell.:friends:
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