Anyone else feel like there kids hate em???????

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Found 18th Oct 2008
Im serious. I've had such a carp day. I love them more than anything in the world, but I'm sure they hate me :-(

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awww, hannah not true, theyre just being kids.. they probs love you more than anything!
:friends:

What's happened? How old are they?

yeah, i sometimes think my 13 year old daughter does the way she talks 2 me but its just her age :roll:

Your not the only one who feels like this, but I doubt they hate you, its just kids being kids, I have 3 under 5, my house is a constant noise with everything everywhere.

When I'm feeling like this I find throwing some things out help lol.

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aww i luv you hunni xxx

i do sometimes and mines only two. they dont hate you though, they hate being displined, and cared for etc.

AshleyRFC;3231467

When I'm feeling like this I find throwing some things out help lol.



not the kids tho? :w00t:

They are just struggling for independence, and learning boundaries. They don't hate you

MissRoo;3231482

not the kids tho? :w00t:



Lol no thats just wishful thinking, its usually just like old toys that I'm blooming fed up falling over.

they are just seeing how far they can push the boundaries hun........I honestly used to think my eldest hated the ground I walked on, but I know now thats so far from the truth....its hard I know, but make the most of them when they do show there better side, and think about those times when they are treating you like carp. xx

That's kids for you Hannah. Mine hate me every time I say no:)

When I have kids I'll let you know.

if they dont h4te you, your doing something wrong.

I know how u feel,i have 3 under 5 and my house is a mess and it really gets me down.My 2 year old daughter told me she hated me today! They are all the same.

I wish I had kids to "hate" me lol sounds so backwards but you know what I mean.

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Sorry, and thanks guys. Wasn't expecting so many replies in such a short time. They're 2 and 5 and I love em so much.
But I shout and get soo cross sometimes I am so sure they'd prefer to be with there dad on his own

Och dont be daft, as someone said if there not hating you then your not doing it right.

My 4 year old started her whole I hate you **** so now my 2 year old has learned it too, but for everything they do thats bad they always do 2 things that are great and make ya so proud.

Sometimes I sit down and think OMG I'm so not coping but then I think but god what would it be like without them which upsets me.

I know its hard but get them settled in bed, have a drink, have a bit of chocolate, buy a little something and cheer yerself up, tomorrow will probably be completely different.

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AshleyRFC;3231467

Your not the only one who feels like this, but I doubt they hate you, its … Your not the only one who feels like this, but I doubt they hate you, its just kids being kids, I have 3 under 5, my house is a constant noise with everything everywhere.When I'm feeling like this I find throwing some things out help lol.



I threw somethin this mornin and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting the kids see me like that. They must of been so scared of me - I was of myself!!!

Oh and if it cheers ya up a bit my middle one is called Hannah. :-D

hannah19790;3231574

Sorry, and thanks guys. Wasn't expecting so many replies in such a short … Sorry, and thanks guys. Wasn't expecting so many replies in such a short time. They're 2 and 5 and I love em so much.But I shout and get soo cross sometimes I am so sure they'd prefer to be with there dad on his own



Kids are a test in life - everyone who has them will tell you that. The thoughts you're having about them wanting to be with their dad are your own thoughts/concerns and I bet they're not even thinking that.

I've 3 kids which live with me - 6, 3 and 13 months. There are times I go through them (not so much the youngest of course) and I think they must really hate me. You can bet who gets the first hugs when I get home from work tho.

We all get cross and angry at our kids I bet - I know I do.

hannah19790;3231610

I threw somethin this mornin and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting … I threw somethin this mornin and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting the kids see me like that. They must of been so scared of me - I was of myself!!!



Oh I meant throwing stuff in the bin, it gets annoying falling over the same old **** everytime.

I have threw stuff too but sometimes its better than what else ya can do.

Chin up. ;-)

hannah19790;3231610

I threw somethin this mornin and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting … I threw somethin this mornin and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting the kids see me like that. They must of been so scared of me - I was of myself!!!



If you're getting this angry, you may want to look to someone nearby for a little assistance? This anger won't be you, but more how you're feeling at the time.

I feel my two daughters do, my ex-wife wont let me see them, not seen or spoke to them for months, selfish cow

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AshleyRFC;3231606

Och dont be daft, as someone said if there not hating you then your not … Och dont be daft, as someone said if there not hating you then your not doing it right.My 4 year old started her whole I hate you **** so now my 2 year old has learned it too, but for everything they do thats bad they always do 2 things that are great and make ya so proud.Sometimes I sit down and think OMG I'm so not coping but then I think but god what would it be like without them which upsets me.I know its hard but get them settled in bed, have a drink, have a bit of chocolate, buy a little something and cheer yerself up, tomorrow will probably be completely different.



Thanks hunni. The thing is, I know it's my fault if they hate me, not theirs. My eldest in particular is so good generally, just plays about sometimes!

hannah19790;3231672

Thanks hunni. The thing is, I know it's my fault if they hate me, not … Thanks hunni. The thing is, I know it's my fault if they hate me, not theirs. My eldest in particular is so good generally, just plays about sometimes!



Nah you do your best for your children, I can rememeber what I was like when I was younger I'm surprised my Mum even survived, its like the childrens code.

My oldest is generally very good too especially since starting school but she still knows how to push my buttons and her Dads and her sisters for that matter doesnt mean we would ever change them.

But if ya feel that your needing someone to talk to and help ya deal with things then talk to someone, even if its just a friend, your kids dont hate you, and even if they did its not your fault, there just kids who dont know any better, but to be honest they really dont know what hate means and if they did they wouldnt be saying it, its probably something they've heard at nursery or someone else saying it.

Right now my 2 oldest are sitting with the Toys R Us leaflet, they will be going to bed in about 5 mins and it honestly cant come any sooner lol.

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AshleyRFC;3231618

Oh and if it cheers ya up a bit my middle one is called Hannah. :-D



Aww, bless. yh, tht does cheer me up hun. Know that I got it off my chest I do feel better and I really appreciate ur comments x

Xb0xGuru;3231625

Kids are a test in life - everyone who has them will tell you that. The … Kids are a test in life - everyone who has them will tell you that. The thoughts you're having about them wanting to be with their dad are your own thoughts/concerns and I bet they're not even thinking that.I've 3 kids which live with me - 6, 3 and 13 months. There are times I go through them (not so much the youngest of course) and I think they must really hate me. You can bet who gets the first hugs when I get home from work tho.We all get cross and angry at our kids I bet - I know I do.


I think I may have sounded like I'm not with theie dad, sorry to confuse. I am with him and he's very good, but out at work a lot and so when he comes in or if it's his day off he's the best thing in the world!!

AshleyRFC;3231633

Oh I meant throwing stuff in the bin, it gets annoying falling over the … Oh I meant throwing stuff in the bin, it gets annoying falling over the same old **** everytime.I have threw stuff too but sometimes its better than what else ya can do. Chin up. ;-)


I know u did hun, I do that usually lol

Xb0xGuru;3231649

If you're getting this angry, you may want to look to someone nearby for … If you're getting this angry, you may want to look to someone nearby for a little assistance? This anger won't be you, but more how you're feeling at the time.


It's the first time I've ever thrown anything and got this angry to be honest and I'm pretty sure it won't happen again as I feel **** know!! Thanks though hun x

skusey;3231668

I feel my two daughters do, my ex-wife wont let me see them, not seen or … I feel my two daughters do, my ex-wife wont let me see them, not seen or spoke to them for months, selfish cow



Oh no hun, I'm sorry about that - I should be more grateful really, I know:thumbsup:

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no reply to me tho? :-( lol xx

I dunno what I've done wrong, my pic wont work lol.

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too big?

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there ...def too big tho , u might need to resize it :thumbsup:

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AshleyRFC;3231722

Nah you do your best for your children, I can rememeber what I was like … Nah you do your best for your children, I can rememeber what I was like when I was younger I'm surprised my Mum even survived, its like the childrens code.My oldest is generally very good too especially since starting school but she still knows how to push my buttons and her Dads and her sisters for that matter doesnt mean we would ever change them.But if ya feel that your needing someone to talk to and help ya deal with things then talk to someone, even if its just a friend, your kids dont hate you, and even if they did its not your fault, there just kids who dont know any better, but to be honest they really dont know what hate means and if they did they wouldnt be saying it, its probably something they've heard at nursery or someone else saying it.Right now my 2 oldest are sitting with the Toys R Us leaflet, they will be going to bed in about 5 mins and it honestly cant come any sooner lol.




I really feel loads better now hun, thank you.
They haven't said ' I hate you' yet, but it's just how I feel, u know? And they've been in bed about an hour so am feeling a bit better now I've had time to think too x

A bit like my avatar :?.

salder21;3231827

there ...def too big tho , u might need to resize it :thumbsup:



lol i'm trying.

hannah19790;3231772

I think I may have sounded like I'm not with theie dad, sorry to confuse. … I think I may have sounded like I'm not with theie dad, sorry to confuse. I am with him and he's very good, but out at work a lot and so when he comes in or if it's his day off he's the best thing in the world!!



Ah, no worries!

The only thing you need to be careful of is always being the 'bad person' in the fact it's you that tells them off etc. If the other parent doesn't reprimand them they get all the good stuff and it can *feel* like they're against you. If this is happening at the moment, sit down with their Dad and discuss it - regardless of whether he's working all day or not, he should still be dealing with the kids as if he was with them all day. I get in around 6pm each evening and as much as I would love to just lap up the attention from my three, I've a responsibility to share the parental load so my poor lovely wife can have a bit of a breather!

I dunno what I'm doing wrong lol, its never this big anywhere else..

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mummyspam1985;3231477

i do sometimes and mines only two. they dont hate you though, they hate … i do sometimes and mines only two. they dont hate you though, they hate being displined, and cared for etc.



See, I do think that it's down to the disiplin I am pretty strict with them (in a leanent way, if u know wot I mean)
black gerbil1;3231525

if they dont h4te you, your doing something wrong.



Thanks hun, I appreciate ur input. Hope ur rite x

jellybaby22;3231537

my daughter tells me she hates me..and sometimes she is very … my daughter tells me she hates me..and sometimes she is very convincing.....sometimes it gets to me..but I remember sayin and doing things to my poor mum and I know I didnt hate her for a minute..but I know how u feel :friends:



This is true, I do remember bein horrid to my mum myself and I love her to bits - poor mum x

bellabonkers;3231550

I wish I had kids to "hate" me lol sounds so backwards but you know what … I wish I had kids to "hate" me lol sounds so backwards but you know what I mean.


I do, and I wouldn't have it an other way hun, I love em soo much

nikkib123;3231674

My little baby boy cries when I come home from work and won't come to … My little baby boy cries when I come home from work and won't come to me.This is depressing when you have had a hard day at the office and just want a cuddle.



This must be horrible for u too hun, It's worse when my hubby's there coz it's like I might as well not be!

Xb0xGuru;3231856

Ah, no worries!The only thing you need to be careful of is always being … Ah, no worries!The only thing you need to be careful of is always being the 'bad person' in the fact it's you that tells them off etc. If the other parent doesn't reprimand them they get all the good stuff and it can *feel* like they're against you. If this is happening at the moment, sit down with their Dad and discuss it - regardless of whether he's working all day or not, he should still be dealing with the kids as if he was with them all day. I get in around 6pm each evening and as much as I would love to just lap up the attention from my three, I've a responsibility to share the parental load so my poor lovely wife can have a bit of a breather!



We have had 'words' before and he does try his best but he really struggles. He often goes so far then doesn't finish what he's started if you know what I mean

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AshleyRFC;3231848

lol i'm trying.



Aww, they are soo gorgeous hun. Got mine on an old picture thread will try and dig out the link:thumbsup:

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STILL no reply to my comment?!! :cry: xxx

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salder21;3231942

STILL no reply to my comment?!! :cry: xxx



Soo sorry, I did comment after the last 'no comment?' u left but obviously got lost somewhere:? Thank u sweetie, means alot x
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