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    Anyone here signed a pre-nup?

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    Just interested to see if anyone here signed or intends on sorting a pre-nuptial agreement?

    Personally, I would insist on one if I ever got married.

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    why??

    no, any relationship is based on trust.

    errrr no but i agree they are a good idea especially for men.
    Clarity cos you are a wonderful person you owuldnt rip anyone off.
    But some women take everythin.
    My dh had 2 relationships end and came out with only the clothes on his back.

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    they mean jack crap anyway

    Didn't think they were legally binding in the UK?

    I agree with COM, i didn't sign one but the wifey has got just as much as me so no need!

    meaningless in the united kingdom for one-can easily be overturned.

    secondly,anyone going into marriage on the basis of "what could happen in the event of divorce" shouldnt be getting married in the first place!

    you old romantic you, lol

    Supermod

    No. I also tell all of my clients not to do so unless they live in America. They are worthless in the UK.

    Banned

    pre-nups are for celebs or people with no trust

    If you're gonna sleep in the same room as someone, you have to trust they arent gonna ensure you dont wake up tomorrow.

    If you're gonna sleep WITH someone you have to trust they aren't gonna run several thousand miles away when you're suddenly both parents or give you some kind of deadly disease.

    If you're gonna spend time with someone you have to trust they aren't gonna fck with your head/soul/sister/and yes even bank account.

    I dont think a pre-nup is necessary if you already choose to trust em with all of that.

    Just interested to see if anyone here signed or intends on sorting a pre-nuptial agreement?
    [COLOR="Red"]No. Risible thought for our case; we didn't have anything when we got married.[/COLOR]

    Personally, I would insist on one if I ever got married.
    [COLOR="red"]Good luck with that then. You could write in all sorts of stuff, like dinner on the table at 6pm, slippers warmed, clothes laid out in the morning.[/COLOR]

    ClarityofMind;6273006

    why??no, any relationship is based on trust.



    couldnt agree more :thumbsup:

    Supermod

    nikkib123;6273047

    Joking aside, I wouldn't dream of signing one. When I married I married … Joking aside, I wouldn't dream of signing one. When I married I married forever, call me romantic but thats the way it is with me, all or nothing!



    You havent met me yet.

    no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 years was a house wife as he wouldnt let her work and was a bully when we all left home she left him and got nothing he walked away with well over 500,000 and all she got was half a house that she had to get a loan for the first time in her life just to pay him off his half or she would have last her home as well so its not only us girls that get everything

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    alexcruxon;6273067

    no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 … no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 years was a house wife as he wouldnt let her work and was a bully when we all left home she left him and got nothing he walked away with well over 500,000 and all she got was half a house that she had to get a loan for the first time in her life just to pay him off his half or she would have last her home as well so its not only us girls that get everything



    so she received half a house.....that isnt nothing:?

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    I thought I'd read that there was a case recently which meant they were now worth something - must be wrong.

    But in principle, I think they're a good idea. If you've amassed something you want to protect in the event of divorce, why not?

    No-one goes into marriage intending to get divorced, but I don't take my phone out with intention of losing it, drive my car with the intention of getting into a crash or want my home to get burgled.

    But I make sure I have insurance in case I do and the statistical chances of those are far lower than 50-50.

    Supermod

    alexcruxon;6273067

    no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 … no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 years was a house wife as he wouldnt let her work and was a bully when we all left home she left him and got nothing he walked away with well over 500,000 and all she got was half a house that she had to get a loan for the first time in her life just to pay him off his half or she would have last her home as well so its not only us girls that get everything



    She didnt get "nothing", did she. You said that she walked away with half a house. I dont want to sound unsympathetic but having to get a loan to pay someone off of the former martimonial home is the norm. It just so happens that your mum was unfortunate enough to not be able to work. If she still lives in the house then when she comes to sell that would be her settlement.

    There is also LOADS of other facts that get taken in to the settlement. Quality of life, cost of living etc. It obviously didnt help that your mum was "bullied" in to not working.

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    alexcruxon;6273067

    no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 … no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 years was a house wife as he wouldnt let her work and was a bully when we all left home she left him and got nothing he walked away with well over 500,000 and all she got was half a house that she had to get a loan for the first time in her life just to pay him off his half or she would have last her home as well so its not only us girls that get everything



    how did he walk away with over 500.000 :?

    Supermod

    casparwhite;6273080

    so she received half a house.....that isnt nothing:?



    ...not, it isnt. She did have to get a loan though to pay him off. Which was not ideal in the circumanstances. At the time it probably felt like nothing.

    well if u ask me half of everything should be just that not one get half a house and the other get all the money he wouldnt have all the savings if it wasnt for my mum keeping house so well and making it so they had money left over to save

    Supermod

    sassie;6273101

    how did he walk away with over 500.000 :?



    He could easily have built up a protected amount before their marriage. "Whats mine is yours" doesnt always happen when you are coming to the divorce settlement.

    alexcruxon;6273067

    no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 … no but they should change the rules in the uk my mum was with my dad 27 years was a house wife as he wouldnt let her work and was a bully when we all left home she left him and got nothing he walked away with well over 500,000 and all she got was half a house that she had to get a loan for the first time in her life just to pay him off his half or she would have last her home as well so its not only us girls that get everything



    I can understand this. Many women feel pressured not to work by a more.. dominant male partner and after nigh on 30 yrs and fulfilling her part of the role, providing him his kiddies, the evidence of his "manhood" and prolly waiting on him hand and foot.......... half a house and to actually PAY the man who made her suffer all this time, prolly felt like saltbeing rubbed into her wounds.

    Supermod

    alexcruxon;6273111

    well if u ask me half of everything should be just that not one get half … well if u ask me half of everything should be just that not one get half a house and the other get all the money he wouldnt have all the savings if it wasnt for my mum keeping house so well and making it so they had money left over to save



    Each case has to be judged on its own merit otherwise you would open the floodgates to people marrying for all the wrong reasons. You cannot (unfortunately in your mums scenario) split everything 50/50. It would never (ever) work.

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    magicjay1986;6273113

    He could easily have built up a protected amount before their marriage. … He could easily have built up a protected amount before their marriage. "Whats mine is yours" doesnt always happen when you are coming to the divorce settlement.



    not with a good solicitor

    Supermod

    sassie;6273140

    not with a good solicitor



    Yes, even with a good solicitor. I see it every day.

    he didnt have 2 pence to rub together when they married the money was saved well they was marriand my mum did wait on him hand and foot and looked after the pigeons that made them all the money she cleaned and feed them well he sat on his bum all day

    sassie;6273140

    not with a good solicitor



    I was thinking that he musta paid for a good solicitor.

    alexcruxon;6273148

    he didnt have 2 pence to rub together when they married the money was … he didnt have 2 pence to rub together when they married the money was saved well they was marriand my mum did wait on him hand and foot and looked after the pigeons that made them all the money she cleaned and feed them well he sat on his bum all day



    Jack and Vera?

    No seriously, there were a LOT of families formed just like that just a generation or two past xx

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    alexcruxon;6273148

    he didnt have 2 pence to rub together when they married the money was … he didnt have 2 pence to rub together when they married the money was saved well they was marriand my mum did wait on him hand and foot and looked after the pigeons that made them all the money she cleaned and feed them well he sat on his bum all day



    so he saved 500.000 in his account, not joint, and she walked away with just half the house :? or is the 500.000 half the house profit :w00t:

    FilthAndFurry;6273081
    I thought I'd read that there was a case recently which meant they were now worth something - must be wrong.



    I read that to, I think they were married in Germany though?

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    I have one. My missus wrote it. It said, "you **** with me and everything you own is mine". I didn't have the heart to say no when it was so eloquently written!

    Never really thought about pre-nups in gay partnerships though. I guess whoever is the lady would stand to gain most otherwise?

    Supermod

    guv;6273194

    I have one. My missus wrote it. It said, "you **** with me and everything … I have one. My missus wrote it. It said, "you **** with me and everything you own is mine". I didn't have the heart to say no when it was so eloquently written!Never really thought about pre-nups in gay partnerships though. I guess whoever is the lady would stand to gain most otherwise?



    Gay partnerships are not covered by the Marriage Act so if they do bring about pre nups it probably wouldnt be included in the Civil Partnership Act.

    he walked away with 500,000 + half the house and half of all the contents he hid the money as soon as he realised my mum wouldnt take hime back

    guv;6273194

    I have one. My missus wrote it. It said, "you **** with me and everything … I have one. My missus wrote it. It said, "you **** with me and everything you own is mine". I didn't have the heart to say no when it was so eloquently written!Never really thought about pre-nups in gay partnerships though. I guess whoever is the lady would stand to gain most otherwise?



    If you'e a woman marrying a gay man, not only are you gonna clean up financially you never have to spend a saturday evening feeling like a bottle of milk leaked into the bed :w00t:

    i told u about my mum so people would realise its not just women that get everything its selfish money grabing people male or female

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    alexcruxon;6273217

    he walked away with 500,000 + half the house and half of all the contents … he walked away with 500,000 + half the house and half of all the contents he hid the money as soon as he realised my mum wouldnt take hime back



    slightly different then, the court can only go on whats on paper, and i find hiding 500.000 pretty impossible to do, money like that can be traced

    Not the way to start a relationship in my book

    Original Poster Banned

    renown;6273446

    Not the way to start a relationship in my book



    100% of divorces occur in married couples.:thumbsup:

    I think pre-nups are a good idea, as I believe it's wrong to claim someone elses assets but it's not exactly the best way to start a relationship, as it can be construed as distrust.

    You never know what the future holds but if my gf wanted one, then it's all good, as I would never be with someone for their money, but for the person themselves. :thumbsup:

    FilthAndFurry;6273524

    100% of divorces occur in married couples.:thumbsup:



    No ! really :thinking::p

    snowflake;6277127

    I honestly believe the majority of pre-nups are instigated by men, I … I honestly believe the majority of pre-nups are instigated by men, I doubt many are instigated by women, I would be interested to know the statistics-serious.:?As for the issue itself, if a guy thought he had to get me to sign a pre nup i'd be out of the door in a shot, he obviously wouldn't know me at all ;-)



    I'm sure it wouldn't be like that but some people change at the end of a relationship...some people can really surprise you and that's after you've had them in your lives for many years.
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