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    At what age do you let your child play outside on their own?

    I'm talking about just letting them out, and giving them a time to be back in for.......

    I'm dreading it, I know I got up to some stuff.........

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    How old are they/him/her?

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    My eldest is 5 and some of the kids her age in the street are already playing out in the street alone :w00t:

    i think its nuts, i mean i did the same at that age but things are different now xx

    thesaint;5913150

    How old are they/him/her?



    and where do you live? main road? cul-de-sac? etc

    student_mummy;5913159

    My eldest is 5 and some of the kids her age in the street are already … My eldest is 5 and some of the kids her age in the street are already playing out in the street alone :w00t:i think its nuts, i mean i did the same at that age but things are different now xx



    They aren't, that's the thing that most parents don't realise.

    Apart from traffic which is a lot more busier

    Mines 6 he plays out but generally with his elder sister/s and theirs not many cars and it is a one way, Loads of kids even younger than that are usually always out on their own.

    He's got good road sense and doesn't wonder off.

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    thesaint;5913199

    They aren't, that's the thing that most parents don't realise.Apart from … They aren't, that's the thing that most parents don't realise.Apart from traffic which is a lot more busier



    It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked to see youngsters on their own outside. Fair enough its the parents choice but i wont be taking the chance for quite a few years yet x

    Original Poster

    He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now he wants to go off to the park with friends etc. I feel bad about it at times as there are kids as young as 7 roaming the streets around here at 10pm some nights.

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    student_mummy;5913218

    It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked … It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked to see youngsters on their own outside. Fair enough its the parents choice but i wont be taking the chance for quite a few years yet x



    You sound a sensible mummy.

    Where I live they toss them outside as soon as they are out of nappies.

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    student_mummy;5913218

    It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked … It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked to see youngsters on their own outside. Fair enough its the parents choice but i wont be taking the chance for quite a few years yet x



    Is it really that different though, I don't think children today are in any more danger than we were, if anything they are probably more clued up, have mobiles etc.

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    jtx;5913226

    He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now … He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now he wants to go off to the park with friends etc. I feel bad about it at times as there are kids as young as 7 roaming the streets around here at 10pm some nights.



    At 11 i was allowed to go on a bus to the nearest town on a saturday but i was mature for my age (so i was told anyways lol) and i never really did the whole hanging round at night thing so its a tad different in my case xx

    student_mummy;5913218

    It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked … It is different, when i was younger it was the norm, now im quite shocked to see youngsters on their own outside. Fair enough its the parents choice but i wont be taking the chance for quite a few years yet x



    What is different?
    I understand it's not usual to see children playing outside at 5/6 as I did when I was that age, but nothing is "different".

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    DLM;5913236

    You sound a sensible mummy.Where I live they toss them outside as soon as … You sound a sensible mummy.Where I live they toss them outside as soon as they are out of nappies.



    jtx;5913240

    Is it really that different though, I don't think children today are in … Is it really that different though, I don't think children today are in any more danger than we were, if anything they are probably more clued up, have mobiles etc.



    Not different in terms or murderers/paedophiles etc just traffic and the way people view young kids out on theri own iykwim?
    An 11 year old is a whole different kettle of fish to a 5 year old though, I would imagine ill be more relaxed 6 years from now x

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    thesaint;5913263

    What is different? I understand it's not usual to see children playing … What is different? I understand it's not usual to see children playing outside at 5/6 as I did when I was that age, but nothing is "different".



    Like I said above ^^^ its just not the norm anymore. Esp not for young kids x

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    DLM;5913236

    You sound a sensible mummy.Where I live they toss them outside as soon as … You sound a sensible mummy.Where I live they toss them outside as soon as they are out of nappies.



    Lol, really? where you from?

    I once found a baby, cant have been more than 18 months, out on his own!
    Angry wasnt the word, some people!!! :x

    jtx;5913226

    He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now … He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now he wants to go off to the park with friends etc. I feel bad about it at times as there are kids as young as 7 roaming the streets around here at 10pm some nights.



    I think it's a bit of how comfortable he feels, and how comfortable he does.

    My son has been allowed off my street since he was about 7. This was only with friends, and they all had to stay together.

    I would say that the last year I have given him more freedom, and allowed him by himself.
    He walks to and from school on his own some days.
    He also can go to friends by himself.

    I had a friend who's son was not even allowed off his street until aged 11 when he started secondary school. All of a sudden, he had to walk a mile and a half to school by himself.

    His parents didn't approach it right at all.

    student_mummy;5913266

    Not different in terms or murderers/paedophiles etc just traffic and the … Not different in terms or murderers/paedophiles etc just traffic and the way people view young kids out on theri own iykwim?An 11 year old is a whole different kettle of fish to a 5 year old though, I would imagine ill be more relaxed 6 years from now x



    I taught my son road sense, and couldn't care what "others" think.

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    [QUOTE=thesaint;5913295]I think it's a bit of how comfortable he feels, and how comfortable he does.

    My son has been allowed off my street since he was about 7. This was only with friends, and they all had to stay together.

    I would say that the last year I have given him more freedom, and allowed him by himself.
    He walks to and from school on his own some days.
    He also can go to friends by himself.

    I had a friend who's son was not even allowed off his street until aged 11 when he started secondary school. All of a sudden, he had to walk a mile and a half to school by himself.

    His parents didn't approach it right at all.



    I taught my son road sense, and couldn't care what "others" think.[/QUOTE]

    Like I said thats your choice to make as his parent.

    I think it depends what the area is like where you are, who they are with, will any other parents be watching etc.

    There are 2 lads that are twins they play out at the top of my grove (they are in reception so 4/5) they play put whilst there mum blasts music with the door shut. Imo that is not safe. They ride there bikes accross the road at the top aswell, not a busy road but still.

    My eldest is 4 so not really sure when I will let her out but definatly not any time soon.

    At 11 I think a child is responsable enough & as long as you know where he is and who with personally I would let him out.

    My daughter has just turned 7 and asked me once if she could play out on her own but there's no way!! She is a sensible girl but still a child and i think if someone was to offer her a bag of sweets to go with them for 2 minutes she would probably go!

    Ive seen kids as young as 4 out on bikes etc on my estate and as lovely and quiet it is i still think its too young. Whats wrong with playing in the garden these days?

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    vinylandtrinkets;5913311

    its totally different from when we were kids, in the 70's & 80's when i … its totally different from when we were kids, in the 70's & 80's when i grew up if there was a paedophile in the area the dads would make sure he wasnt near any kids. There wasnt that many druggies, there wasnt that much traffic, everyone knew everyone, you knew who you could trust and who couldnt Where i live now is a private street but we are surrounded by druggies thanks to the cheap houses a few years back. there are kids as young as 12-18 months old out playing in the road which everyone uses as a turning point. my god ive taken a 12 month old boy home and his parents didnt even answer the door.My son is 7 and i wouldnt dare leave him out in the street to play its just to rough. and i grew up on a really rough bad council estate.His mates come over here and he goes over there so hes happy with that,



    Totally agree, just said the above about murderers etc before i got lynched. I meant there is no more murderers/paedophiles around now than 50 years ago but it isnt the same society as many of us grew up in. Im not happy taking the risk, my 5 year old is very good around roads and knows her green cross code but that doesnt mean ill be taking any risks to have an hour or so's peace!
    Im much happeir to have her and her friends here x

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    thesaint;5913295

    I think it's a bit of how comfortable he feels, and how comfortable he … I think it's a bit of how comfortable he feels, and how comfortable he does.My son has been allowed off my street since he was about 7. This was only with friends, and they all had to stay together.I would say that the last year I have given him more freedom, and allowed him by himself.He walks to and from school on his own some days.He also can go to friends by himself.I had a friend who's son was not even allowed off his street until aged 11 when he started secondary school. All of a sudden, he had to walk a mile and a half to school by himself.His parents didn't approach it right at all.




    He's comfortable enough, he wants to be out all the time.....

    He goes to a few friends houses when I say he can for an hour or so, He always takes his phone and rings me if there's a problem so I suppose he is mature enough.

    To be honest I think there's a good chance I'm not dealing with it right either, hence the thread.
    Suppose I'll have to let go of the reins a bit:|

    My eldest was about 2 or 3 when he used to zip around on his little scooter with the other children across the large park area that was in front of our home at the time... I could see him clearly at all times, but he was being big and independent and felt proud while he was having fun. He's grown into the most self-confident independent person.

    I've become more protective as I've got older... I have to bite my lips now to allow my daughters to go out to their mini clubs/discos etc. They don't push it often but when they realise I'll allow them to do it, they rarely ask again, and i know I can trust them... allow them to leave the country without me, even.

    Very hard to be a parent in this day and age, its all about trust in them and encouraging their self-confience, understanding of the world they live in and their sense of self-belief.

    However, you talk to my 15yr old daughter and her beliefs and understandings are just like mine, in fact she takes my breath away at times how well she knows her stuff. Head screwed on and all that... maybe I wouldn't trust so easily if I didn't know I had kitted them out and they are armed and protected by everything i have taught them.

    jtx;5913336

    He's comfortable enough, he wants to be out all the time.....He goes to a … He's comfortable enough, he wants to be out all the time.....He goes to a few friends houses when I say he can for an hour or so, He always takes his phone and rings me if there's a problem so I suppose he is mature enough.To be honest I think there's a good chance I'm not dealing with it right either, hence the thread. Suppose I'll have to let go of the reins a bit:|



    It does sound like he is sensible enough to me.

    The best times in my childhood were when me and my mates went out on "adventures", still here to tell the tale.

    So many children these days have missed out on these experiences, but at least they are "safe" from god knows what.

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    vinylandtrinkets;5913359

    if i remember rightly when i was growing up there was only one paedophile … if i remember rightly when i was growing up there was only one paedophile in the entire valley and he was " driven" out by the dads. 2009 is totally different to 1970+ not just what already been mentioned but theres hundreds of things that are different these days. do you leave your front door unlocked during the day? we dont, we darent,My son know his green cross code also taught him that from a very young age, but i still agree with you if someone offered them sweets they might go. like you said not worth the risk.waits for being called over protective:roll:



    Lol, id rather be called an over protective parent than a sorry one :thumbsup:

    Wasnt alive in 197o so cant comment on then personally lol :lol:

    Mines in unlocked but we live in a quiet place, obv when were out we do but when i was a child i knew all the neighbours and more often than not, their extended families too lol.
    Where i live now, i only know a couple of neighbours by name. Things just arent the same !

    vinylandtrinkets;5913359

    if i remember rightly when i was growing up there was only one paedophile … if i remember rightly when i was growing up there was only one paedophile in the entire valley and he was " driven" out by the dads. 2009 is totally different to 1970+ not just what already been mentioned but theres hundreds of things that are different these days. do you leave your front door unlocked during the day? we dont, we darent,My son know his green cross code also taught him that from a very young age, but i still agree with you if someone offered them sweets they might go. like you said not worth the risk.waits for being called over protective:roll:



    The level and incidence of paedophilia has changed very little over the decades but there is now far more focus on such by the media.

    Wouldn't dream of calling you over-protective hon, babies don't come with "how-to" manuals and parents just muddle through doing what they think best, myself included x x

    i would not let mine out either as i would rather be safe than sorry you can never replace a child and unfortunately in this day and age it is not advisable to let your kids go off on their own or with friends to parks ect... we live in a culdesac and lucky for us the side of the house is very big so the kids normally play there with their football or trampoline and sometimes their dad takes them down the back path which leads to football parks to play football for a couple of hours but thats my biggest fear as with many parents is something happening to your child so no i wouldnt let them out on their own or to wander.

    I think it's the memories of what you yourself got up to at any particular age that is so hard for parents...

    I think, wow, my kids are so much nicer than I was at their age so I must be doin summin right!lol

    we stay in a lovely quiet street where the only traffic is the homeowners and occasional deliveries, nice and quiet for the kiddies.my eldest is six and has been out since he was four, and the wee one is three and goes out with the gang. the gang consists of two 6yr olds, two 5yr olds and a 3yr old!! the wee one feels so grown up now he's joined the big boys to play.
    when i was young we were allowed to go play for hours with no worries my mum never had anything to worry about but i think you are more aware of possible situations nowadays.

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    daughter is 15 and have never let her walk the streets, she is allowed out and goes to friends homes and town with friends and out for meals etc,etc but has never played out on streets, thankfully she has no interest in hanging out on the streets either, son is only 7 and will be treated the same

    jtx;5913226

    He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now … He's 11, I let him out on the road where I can see him sometimes but now he wants to go off to the park with friends etc. I feel bad about it at times as there are kids as young as 7 roaming the streets around here at 10pm some nights.




    at eleven my parents never knew where i was :whistling: usually about 3 miles from home but i was pretty streetwise as a kid ,went on a bus when i was 5 with a friend and got found 10 miles away

    things were diff then as others have said very few people carried knives in those days and never knew any young kids too but its a different kettle of fish nowadays imo the government have to hammer any one with a knife or gun to deter kids from using them the other problem is alcohol too much dutch courage its bad enough adults drunk but kids drunk is just asking for trouble

    Never.

    I wouldn't even let my Old English Sheepdog out to play on his own.

    Children are children, they need guidance until they are old enough to make it on their own.

    Parents are responsible for their children.

    What parent thinks it's right to allow a 5 year old out to play?

    (But they are with the older sibling) So i guess it's alright to put a child in charge of a younger child?

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    liveforfree;5914166

    Never.I wouldn't even let my Old English Sheepdog out to play on his … Never.I wouldn't even let my Old English Sheepdog out to play on his own.Children are children, they need guidance until they are old enough to make it on their own.Parents are responsible for their children.What parent thinks it's right to allow a 5 year old out to play?(But they are with the older sibling) So i guess it's alright to put a child in charge of a younger child?



    Up to what age?

    liveforfree;5914166

    Never.I wouldn't even let my Old English Sheepdog out to play on his … Never.I wouldn't even let my Old English Sheepdog out to play on his own.Children are children, they need guidance until they are old enough to make it on their own.Parents are responsible for their children.What parent thinks it's right to allow a 5 year old out to play?(But they are with the older sibling) So i guess it's alright to put a child in charge of a younger child?



    way over the score with your summary have you got children? if so what ages? do you drop them off at school wait outside and watch them during breaks and take them home at end of day??

    no didnt think so so you dont watch them 24 /7 no one does

    my eldest 2 play out (14 and 12)
    but my younger children 6 and 4 just play in the garden,a couple of my 6yr olds friends play out but personally i think its too young
    we live on a road leading into a cul de sac but some idiots speed up and down our road

    Sassie I think there is a difference in 'hanging' around the streets and 'playing'. I would let my kids play when they are older, but not hang around and walk streets.

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    4lyons09;5914313

    Sassie I think there is a difference in 'hanging' around the streets and … Sassie I think there is a difference in 'hanging' around the streets and 'playing'. I would let my kids play when they are older, but not hang around and walk streets.



    neither of them have played on/in the streets, we have a back garden and there is no reason for them to play on/in the streets

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    4lyons09;5914313

    Sassie I think there is a difference in 'hanging' around the streets and … Sassie I think there is a difference in 'hanging' around the streets and 'playing'. I would let my kids play when they are older, but not hang around and walk streets.



    I used to play out in the streets, on my bike or with a football. I was lucky I lived in a nice area (which my parents worked hard for) so I could do these things.

    Used to go for bike rides to the woods and indulge my sense of adventure.

    Can't imagine keeping my kids cooped up in the house all day. How would they meet new people?

    jamstaruk1972;5914212

    way over the score with your summary have you got children? if so what … way over the score with your summary have you got children? if so what ages? do you drop them off at school wait outside and watch them during breaks and take them home at end of day??no didnt think so so you dont watch them 24 /7 no one does



    Hello brownstar72,

    How pleasant your reply is.

    Clearly demonstrating how well you were dragged up as a child.

    But then again, you were alright on the bus at 5 years old.

    How lucky...

    I have 2 children. A daughter of 4 weeks and a son who is nearly 9.

    God only knows where your children go to school, but my son isn't allowed out of school at breaks.

    Neither have the urge or need to go out to play on the streets.

    When i decided to become a parent, i also decided to devote my life to raising my children as best as possible.

    If they need my time they get it. Not in a minute or later.

    They will never be latch key kids.

    The problem today is with the parents who don't care properly for their children.

    Only a bad parent would allow a 5 year old out on the streets to play.

    I feel the country would be a better place if parents were more responsible in the first place.

    FilthAndFurry;5914367

    I used to play out in the streets, on my bike or with a football. I was … I used to play out in the streets, on my bike or with a football. I was lucky I lived in a nice area (which my parents worked hard for) so I could do these things.Used to go for bike rides to the woods and indulge my sense of adventure.Can't imagine keeping my kids cooped up in the house all day. How would they meet new people?



    That's the point I was trying to make earlier.
    My best memories were when we (my brothers and me), went out jumping brooks, scrumping etc.

    The amount of times that my son says "Somebody might take me"(paedo's) when I encourage him to venture a little a bit out of his comfort zone is really disheartening.

    Banned

    liveforfree;5914426

    Hello brownstar72, How pleasant your reply is.Clearly demonstrating how … Hello brownstar72, How pleasant your reply is.Clearly demonstrating how well you were dragged up as a child.But then again, you were alright on the bus at 5 years old.How lucky...I have 2 children. A daughter of 4 weeks and a son who is nearly 9.God only knows where your children go to school, but my son isn't allowed out of school at breaks.Neither have the urge or need to go out to play on the streets.When i decided to become a parent, i also decided to devote my life to raising my children as best as possible.If they need my time they get it. Not in a minute or later.They will never be latch key kids.The problem today is with the parents who don't care properly for their children.Only a bad parent would allow a 5 year old out on the streets to play.I feel the country would be a better place if parents were more responsible in the first place.



    That's a tad extreme:w00t:

    I'm all for responsible parenting but I think that there's a reasonable middle ground.

    At 9 I was riding my bike of skating around the streets, going to the park after school to play football with friends and meeting new people.

    FilthAndFurry;5914367

    I used to play out in the streets, on my bike or with a football. I was … I used to play out in the streets, on my bike or with a football. I was lucky I lived in a nice area (which my parents worked hard for) so I could do these things.Used to go for bike rides to the woods and indulge my sense of adventure.Can't imagine keeping my kids cooped up in the house all day. How would they meet new people?



    Read my reply again. I said WOULD let them play. Just not walk the streets.
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