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    awful feeling in my tummy.....like dread

    help! ive got nothing to 'dread'. maybe im psychic and know something is going to happen? or is just because ive found out my best friend has started talking to her ex who cheated on her and broke her heart again?

    it feels awful....make it go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Did anything happen between you and her ex then? :?

    Start drinking!

    need a good poo?

    i get that feeling when I have forgotten something, sometimes I worry unnessesarily and then forget what I was worried about - then I get that feeling, until I remember what I wa originally worried about - by then its sorted or I have to sort it - sound strange but then I am strange

    octobergirl;4311870

    i get that feeling when I have forgotten something, sometimes I worry … i get that feeling when I have forgotten something, sometimes I worry unnessesarily and then forget what I was worried about - then I get that feeling, until I remember what I wa originally worried about - by then its sorted or I have to sort it - sound strange but then I am strange



    I just forgot what I was gonna reply with :thinking:

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    StevenA2000_uk;4311834

    Did anything happen between you and her ex then? :?


    nooo dont be daft...im not like that
    robtallica;4311836

    Start drinking!


    wish i could but i have work at 3
    nikkib123;4311847

    Pregnant?


    dont you need to do something before that can happen? lol
    marsland95l2cr;4311864

    need a good poo?


    lol

    headphones on some good chill out tunes, will go away.
    :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

    We all get feelings like this from time to time ... nothing to worry about :friends:
    you'll only ever be as happy as you make your mind up to be ;-)
    always expect the unexpected!! & remember good things are just as likely to happen as bad! 50/50

    Awww honey it sounds like a touch of general anxiety, maybe.

    Have you been feeling stressed lately?

    Maybe you are worried that your friend may have her heart broken again and you are concerned for her, or are there other things perhaps that have been making you feel worried lately?

    When you feel anxious like this it is usually a good idea to take some time out and relax for a while. Do whatever it is that makes you feel happy. Watch a favourite tv programme, listen to some music, phone up a friend you havent spoken to in a while and have a good gossip, a mug of hot chocolate and a warm blanket for comfort.

    If theres anything outstanding that you havent seen to as yet ( such as an unpaid bill etc ) then if you get it sorted out the anxiety is likely to slip away all by itself. If it continues for a long while or frightens you at all, go have a friendly chat with your GP.

    Hope you feel better soon xxx

    I have the exact same feeling today - I can't stomach any food right now

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    ClarityofMind;4311982

    Awww honey it sounds like a touch of general anxiety, maybe. Have you … Awww honey it sounds like a touch of general anxiety, maybe. Have you been feeling stressed lately?Maybe you are worried that your friend may have her heart broken again and you are concerned for her, or are there other things perhaps that have been making you feel worried lately?When you feel anxious like this it is usually a good idea to take some time out and relax for a while. Do whatever it is that makes you feel happy. Watch a favourite tv programme, listen to some music, phone up a friend you havent spoken to in a while and have a good gossip, a mug of hot chocolate and a warm blanket for comfort. If theres anything outstanding that you havent seen to as yet ( such as an unpaid bill etc ) then if you get it sorted out the anxiety is likely to slip away all by itself. If it continues for a long while or frightens you at all, go have a friendly chat with your GP.Hope you feel better soon xxx



    thanks hun. unfortuantely i dont have time to just chill or enjoy something as im always working, im back there again at 3 today and wont have any time to myself until thursday when im off. maybe its time to put a weeks holiday in and have some me time. i do agree im worried for her. shes all excited and happy that theyre speaking again and shes wanting to spend time with him catching up and what not. i was in a similar situation with an ex last year and i just ended up hurt all over again, i dont want that to happen to her but i know that no matter what i say to her she wont listen. im not normally an anxious person unless i have reason so i dont think its time to go see the doc. it just today i have that awful strong feeling in my tummy. it might go away when i get to work and i have other stuff to concentrate on

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    fireheaven;4312079

    I have the exact same feeling today - I can't stomach any food right now



    its awful isnt it!!! hope your awful feeling goes soon xx

    All you can do is be happy for her when she is happy and comfort her if he makes her sad again. She wouldn't thank you for trying to warn her off or anything but, you can tell her that you really hope things work out well for her. It's hard to see a friend looking like they're heading for heartbreak and not being able to do anything about it! You are a good friend.

    Sounds like you have a hard schedule at work too! You must be worn out. Her situation is probably reminding you how you felt when it didn't work out for you and your ex. Try not to think about him, it's his loss he isn't with you ( men are so stupid lol )

    Hope you have a lovely day. Be happy xxx

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    ClarityofMind;4312170

    All you can do is be happy for her when she is happy and comfort her if … All you can do is be happy for her when she is happy and comfort her if he makes her sad again. She wouldn't thank you for trying to warn her off or anything but, you can tell her that you really hope things work out well for her. It's hard to see a friend looking like they're heading for heartbreak and not being able to do anything about it! You are a good friend. Sounds like you have a hard schedule at work too! You must be worn out. Her situation is probably reminding you how you felt when it didn't work out for you and your ex. Try not to think about him, it's his loss he isn't with you ( men are so stupid lol )Hope you have a lovely day. Be happy xxx



    thankyou. youve made me feel loads better. the situation does remind me of my own last year and suppose it does make me feel down about it all. but she warned me not to talk to my ex and i wouldnt listen. i understood where she was coming from but the urge to stay in touch with him was too much. so i cant expect me to tell her the same thing and think she will listen. i need something else to concentrate on i think. i wish more people were as helpful and understanding as you in this world. youre a gem xx

    :thumbsup:

    robtallica;4311891

    I just forgot what I was gonna reply with :thinking:

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    nikkib123;4312300

    Sounds like you had an anxiety attack, which I have every now and … Sounds like you had an anxiety attack, which I have every now and then.Sick feeling in stomach, overwhelming fear, sick etc.It normally passes and its good to talk to someone about your feelings as they normally put things in perspective for you.x



    well ive had a small chat with her. told her im chuffed theyre back talking but worried shes going to start to want another relationship from him. theres not much else i can say really and suprise suprise shes adamant she wont want him back and everything is hunky dory. she reminds me of myself last year when i ended up hurt again.

    Id advise just having a little sleep. I used to have anxiety attacks like that. Just get a sugary drink, deep breaths, listen to some good tunes and have a power nap. You'll wake up feeling revitalised and ready for the rest of the day.

    If you find that this is happening a lot, or whilst your at work etc then consult your Dr

    I have them when something is about to happen, never know what but can feel it ...........stay calm it may not be a nasty as you expect, sometimes it can be a nice surprise.............a bit like on a rollercoaster feeling, whatever it is chill, time sorts everything out!!

    just butterflies cause you're in love with ya mate ;-)


    .........or that muffin from last night

    donnaraine;4312237

    thankyou. youve made me feel loads better. the situation does remind me … thankyou. youve made me feel loads better. the situation does remind me of my own last year and suppose it does make me feel down about it all. but she warned me not to talk to my ex and i wouldnt listen. i understood where she was coming from but the urge to stay in touch with him was too much. so i cant expect me to tell her the same thing and think she will listen. i need something else to concentrate on i think. i wish more people were as helpful and understanding as you in this world. youre a gem xx



    aww, thank you :friends:

    I'm glad you got to speak with her today.

    Really it's wonderful that you have a friend you can care about so much. Shows you are a lovely person.

    Hope you are feeling better now xxx

    eat crumpets.

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    ClarityofMind;4311982

    Awww honey it sounds like a touch of general anxiety, maybe. Have you … Awww honey it sounds like a touch of general anxiety, maybe. Have you been feeling stressed lately?Maybe you are worried that your friend may have her heart broken again and you are concerned for her, or are there other things perhaps that have been making you feel worried lately?When you feel anxious like this it is usually a good idea to take some time out and relax for a while. Do whatever it is that makes you feel happy. Watch a favourite tv programme, listen to some music, phone up a friend you havent spoken to in a while and have a good gossip, a mug of hot chocolate and a warm blanket for comfort. If theres anything outstanding that you havent seen to as yet ( such as an unpaid bill etc ) then if you get it sorted out the anxiety is likely to slip away all by itself. If it continues for a long while or frightens you at all, go have a friendly chat with your GP.Hope you feel better soon xxx



    I have suffered with terrible stress and anxiety over the last few year's.

    I am just about getting through it, my life is still not 100% perfect but I just keep plodding on.

    You seem a nice person with good advice.

    I have repped you x x

    DLM;4313886

    I have suffered with terrible stress and anxiety over the last few … I have suffered with terrible stress and anxiety over the last few year's.I am just about getting through it, my life is still not 100% perfect but I just keep plodding on.You seem a nice person with good advice.I have repped you x x



    Aww, thank you. I think most of us girls experience some form of stress or anxiety at some point in our lives. It usually has a really good reason for starting but then doesn't know when to leave off once all is well again. Kinda like a reminder so we'll protect ourselves better next time. I first had it really bad when I was pregnant with my second child, we had medical complications, I was told she may have spina bifida, and I wasn't sure if my partner would stand by me or be able to cope with everything we were going to have to go through. It was a tough time and when I started experiencing anxiety I wasn't even sure what it was. But, patience gets us through these things and a lil kindness and understanding can go a long way to helping someone else when feeling that way and if we don't do it....who will? xx

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    ClarityofMind;4314100

    Aww, thank you. I think most of us girls experience some form of stress … Aww, thank you. I think most of us girls experience some form of stress or anxiety at some point in our lives. It usually has a really good reason for starting but then doesn't know when to leave off once all is well again. Kinda like a reminder so we'll protect ourselves better next time. I first had it really bad when I was pregnant with my second child, we had medical complications, I was told she may have spina bifida, and I wasn't sure if my partner would stand by me or be able to cope with everything we were going to have to go through. It was a tough time and when I started experiencing anxiety I wasn't even sure what it was. But, patience gets us through these things and a lil kindness and understanding can go a long way to helping someone else when feeling that way and if we don't do it....who will? xx



    Mine started 2 year's ago, a colleague at work commited suicide and my grandad died a month later.

    I ended up leaving my job and caring for my grandma.

    A lot of other bad thing's were happening at the same time too.

    I think I have had several nervous breakdowns and I am currently working part-time at a company my brother work's at to get back on my feet.

    I never thought I would settle at the job because I do get extremely anxious and start nervous talking.

    It is not my ideal job but it will pay some of my mortgage.

    Thankfully I have an amazing partner and he is still here even though thing's have been extremely difficult, I love him more every day.

    I'm glad you got through your difficult time x x

    It is so hard to experience one bereavement after another like you went through and huge life changes such as leaving work and caring for Grandma make it all the more difficult. And when one is helping someone else who is also suffering from grief it can be really difficult to find the time to attend to ones own needs also. I think as women we sometimes place ourselves last on the list of "important things to do" because there's always someone else who needs our time and energies. And then we cant possibly fulfil everything that is expected of us and so we feel guilty also, and everything piles on top of us. Two years ago is still very recent for you to have been through so much so be kind to yourself and don't feel too distressed if one day feels harder than another, healing is a long process, all ups and downs.

    I'm glad you are mostly able to work and pay the bills. I know exactly what you mean by not being able to settle. It can be so hard to just feel calm and concentrate after something like that happens. It's hard also to know who to confide in as it is rare in my opinion to find someone who can truly understand. I found some of the people who helped me most did so just by sitting with me and holding my hand as I cried.

    I am so glad you have a lovely partner and lots of support. Everything gets better from here xx

    awww.... donnaraine, try to relax :friends:

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    ClarityofMind;4314416

    It is so hard to experience one bereavement after another like you went … It is so hard to experience one bereavement after another like you went through and huge life changes such as leaving work and caring for Grandma make it all the more difficult. And when one is helping someone else who is also suffering from grief it can be really difficult to find the time to attend to ones own needs also. I think as women we sometimes place ourselves last on the list of "important things to do" because there's always someone else who needs our time and energies. And then we cant possibly fulfil everything that is expected of us and so we feel guilty also, and everything piles on top of us. Two years ago is still very recent for you to have been through so much so be kind to yourself and don't feel too distressed if one day feels harder than another, healing is a long process, all ups and downs.I'm glad you are mostly able to work and pay the bills. I know exactly what you mean by not being able to settle. It can be so hard to just feel calm and concentrate after something like that happens. It's hard also to know who to confide in as it is rare in my opinion to find someone who can truly understand. I found some of the people who helped me most did so just by sitting with me and holding my hand as I cried.I am so glad you have a lovely partner and lots of support. Everything gets better from here xx



    Thanks for your kind word's, I deleted the details because sometimes I don't like putting my life story on here.

    Anyway hope you stay a member of HUKD for a long time because you seem decent x x

    you're welcome, that's ok, I figured that. I know it can be hard to share.

    If you would like me to I will delete my post for you too if it would make you comfortable x

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    ClarityofMind;4314608

    you're welcome, that's ok, I figured that. I know it can be hard to … you're welcome, that's ok, I figured that. I know it can be hard to share. If you would like me to I will delete my post for you too if it would make you comfortable x



    It's ok, I wish I could do more for my gran but she live's 26 mile's away from me and I can not afford to be there all the time.

    I now also go to a local support group for people who have lost people through suicide.

    It has helped slightly but I heard a sad story whilst I was there and it really played on my mind the next day.

    I'll try to keep attending because it is great to be around people who have been through similar.

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    im pleased my post brought out some kind hearted people. its nice to know they still exist. hope everyone is feeling better, i know i am. next time it happens i will know and understand more what it is and how to deal with it so thankyou xx
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