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    bit of advice

    my friends daughter has been in a car accident and is in a really bad way, i really want to send her a message to show im thinking of her and her family but im unsure wether to or not, i keep writing a txt message but then deleting it as i dont know what to write. do you think its a nice idea or should i just leave it for now. i dont want her to think i dont care but she might be sick of people txting her.

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    Not sure that makes sense, why wouldn't they want a good will text. Is there tension between you and her parents?

    Visiting them in person normally shows you care. If thats not possible then leave it for a bit and call them up. It means more than sendin a text message imo.

    But anyways, pop round n try to cheer her up, she'll appreciate it

    Or you could send some sort of card instead,as above,better to do something than nothing at all.

    How about send them one of those "get well cards"

    Or ring the ward and ask for a message to passed on.

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    Adam2050;8234820

    Not sure that makes sense, why wouldn't they want a good will text. Is … Not sure that makes sense, why wouldn't they want a good will text. Is there tension between you and her parents?



    no were good friends, but her head must be all over the place, its not looking good for her daughter.

    pink-ka;8234871

    no were good friends, but her head must be all over the place, its not … no were good friends, but her head must be all over the place, its not looking good for her daughter.



    Send your love then.

    I understand what you mean they will be all over the place.

    Why not write a card...sending your love telling them you are thinking of them. Add a little note saying you feel they might be fed up of people phoning all the time but you are on the phone for whenever your friend wants a chat. As the days go by depending on the circumstances it may be that you need to go round at some stage.

    A card. Texting always strikes me as soulless.

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    gari189;8234889

    This probably isn't a good idea - if all friends and acquitances did this … This probably isn't a good idea - if all friends and acquitances did this it would just clog the telephone lines to the wards and would distract the ward staff from their work. Some hospitals recommend having one or two relatives who are main liaison with the hospital and they let firends/other relatives know whats happening........Some hospitals still don't allow mobiles so she won't be able to read the text - a card is probably your best bet.



    i dont really want to send a get well soon card, its not like shes ill, if you know what i mean. dont mean that to sound horrible, shes in intensive care and are taking it hour by hour her injuries are that bad.

    pink-ka;8234955

    i dont really want to send a get well soon card, its not like shes ill, … i dont really want to send a get well soon card, its not like shes ill, if you know what i mean. dont mean that to sound horrible, shes in intensive care and are taking it hour by hour her injuries are that bad.



    That's why i mentioned some sort of card in my previous post,you can buy a blank one and add your own message,thinking of you etc:thumbsup:

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    thanks everyone, will get a blank card and send my love that way.

    pink-ka;8235026

    thanks everyone, will get a blank card and send my love that way.



    :thumbsup:

    awww hope she pulls through x

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    superskilly;8235188

    awww hope she pulls through x



    me to, it must be so hard and i cant imagine what my friends going through, her daughter has 2 young children so i just hope she pulls through for there sake.

    Erm? If you're good friends why would you think about texting? What's wrong with actually calling them to offer your love and support?

    go round and see how she/they are.
    visit the hospital or something.
    there aint not better way then "being there"

    I'd send a simple text saying "i'm here if you need me"

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    [QUOTE=deek72;8235230]Erm? If you're good friends why would you think about texting? What's wrong with actually calling them to offer your love and support?[/QUOTE

    she hasnt left the hospital since the accident, so its not like i can just pop round and i think it will be family only at the hospital as shes in such a bad way. she will have all her family round her at the hospital, its not that i dont want to ring her but i know it will be hard for her to talk about it and i know i will end up in floods of tears and i dont want to upset her anymore.

    As you say, its your friend's daughter, my advice would be to give your friend a quick phone call to her mobile (then leave a voice message) or drop her a text message saying your here if needed and your thoughts are with them all.

    If the daugher is in such a bad way, I would just show your support as your friend will know you are there anyway (even if you did not say anything she will know) and leave her and family to do what they need to do..

    Hope everything works out.

    awww any update? hope shes ok.

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    superskilly;8238992

    awww any update? hope shes ok.



    hi not heard anything for a while, i really hope she pulls through, her two little kids will be heartbroken not having there mummy and my friend will be devestated to lose her daughter, somethings in life are just not fair.

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    pink-ka;8239856

    hi not heard anything for a while, i really hope she pulls through, her … hi not heard anything for a while, i really hope she pulls through, her two little kids will be heartbroken not having there mummy and my friend will be devestated to lose her daughter, somethings in life are just not fair.



    Aw, did the car accident happen in Bolton?

    Hope she pulls through and you and your family are ok x x

    hope she pulls through.any update?

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    DLM;8239901

    Aw, did the car accident happen in Bolton?Hope she pulls through and you … Aw, did the car accident happen in Bolton?Hope she pulls through and you and your family are ok x x



    no it happened it whitefield, still not heard anything more.

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    pink-ka;8241743

    no it happened it whitefield, still not heard anything more.



    I have read about it.

    Any news?

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    DLM;8249387

    I have read about it.Any news?



    no, i think they have done all the operations they can do up to now and they said its a waiting game to see if she comes round, the nurses have said shes only got a slim chance. x

    pink-ka;8241743

    no it happened it whitefield, still not heard anything more.



    The roads were closed there on Sunday was that why:-(

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    pink-ka;8250077

    no, i think they have done all the operations they can do up to now and … no, i think they have done all the operations they can do up to now and they said its a waiting game to see if she comes round, the nurses have said shes only got a slim chance. x



    Aw, hope she get's better soon,

    Hope you are ok x x

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    deb8z;8250526

    The roads were closed there on Sunday was that why:-(



    Yes.

    I also read about this young lady in the newspaper:-

    manchestereveningnews.co.uk/new…ash

    Very sad :-(

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    ive just heard there doing some operatoins on her legs today, and taking a few tubes and wires out and also taking her off some of the sedation to see if she responds. she also coughed which doesnt sound much but they said its a good sign that her brain is telling her to cough.

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    pink-ka;8251259

    ive just heard there doing some operatoins on her legs today, and taking … ive just heard there doing some operatoins on her legs today, and taking a few tubes and wires out and also taking her off some of the sedation to see if she responds. she also coughed which doesnt sound much but they said its a good sign that her brain is telling her to cough.



    Great stuff :thumbsup:

    pink-ka;8251259

    ive just heard there doing some operatoins on her legs today, and taking … ive just heard there doing some operatoins on her legs today, and taking a few tubes and wires out and also taking her off some of the sedation to see if she responds. she also coughed which doesnt sound much but they said its a good sign that her brain is telling her to cough.



    That sounds hopeful:)

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    deb8z;8251895

    That sounds hopeful:)



    i hope she improves, even if its only a tiny bit a week its still better then nothing. shes a strong women so i hope she keeps up the fight.

    I've not read the thread, but to answer the OP, I'd send a proper get well or thinking of you card. Maybe just something with no verse jsut a big sunflower on the front!
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