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    Bizarre problem with a mate

    i have this mate, used to be pretty good friends but he seens to spend 90% of his time with his girlfriend as far as i know. last time i saw him was november, i dont really bother calling him anymore as he never answers his phone/replies to txts or emails most of the time.

    it doesnt really bother me as i have other friends to see but this is what i dont get. he's left 2 messages on my facebook page askin when im back from holiday and another one saying when im back we should go for a beer. So, a couple weeks after i txt him and said im back whens he wanna meet. No reply. then a week later i called his phone, its always turned off and no reply to my email either.??

    Whats the point in contacting me to meet up, if you dont reply back??

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    He aint much of a mate. Prolly suited him at the time but now hes got better things to do.

    Maybe when he left those messages his gf was out. Or they had had a row.

    That's how it is when one of your mates gets a partner. Don't judge him for it, lol.

    ive got a mate, that is addicted to the online game EVE, i think thats what its called. Ive not seen him in ages, in fact i think he might have been dragged inside his computer :?

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    but to be completely uncontactable is just odd

    Eez1;8103555

    He aint much of a mate. Prolly suited him at the time but now hes got … He aint much of a mate. Prolly suited him at the time but now hes got better things to do.



    Have to agree with this ^^^^^

    If you want his attention then consider putting on a skirt and looking just as appealing as his girlfriend :thumbsup:

    maybe hes 1 of those guys that gets a girl and completely shuts down his former life to devote all his time to her. hes a mug and needs to realize ur mates were there before and wont be after if hes going on like that.

    Simon? Is that you mate? Sorry. I was... err... out of the country.

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    Eez1;8103612

    maybe hes 1 of those guys that gets a girl and completely shuts down his … maybe hes 1 of those guys that gets a girl and completely shuts down his former life to devote all his time to her. hes a mug and needs to realize ur mates were there before and wont be after if hes going on like that.



    yes i definately wont be available when hes having his stag party which is coming up

    peterjmay;8103637

    yes i definately wont be available when hes having his stag party which … yes i definately wont be available when hes having his stag party which is coming up



    the trouble is you will say that now, but come the time............

    why do you need a text or an email invitation to see your mate? just turn up with a pack of beer and see what he has to say when you're face to face?

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    richp;8103657

    the trouble is you will say that now, but come the time............



    come the time it will be the same

    wait so hes marrying her? lol

    There's also the option that the girlfriend is a possessive bitch and won't let him see any of his former mates.

    has he changed his phone number?

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    bros b4 hoes

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    hncb0809;8103692

    bros b4 hoes



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    Eez1;8103671

    wait so hes marrying her? lol



    lol yeh theyve been goin out for 8 years or so. she doesnt come off as a possesive bitch , he always tells me he hates goin out with her and her boring mates lol too:roll:

    peodude;8103672

    There's also the option that the girlfriend is a possessive bitch and … There's also the option that the girlfriend is a possessive bitch and won't let him see any of his former mates.



    Yeh i had a mate with a gf like that. I saw it 1st time i met her but he was still too loved up at the time. I knew it was gonna end bad and did. I stuck by him tho cuz hes a good kid.

    To the OP it really depends how good of mates u were to how u should handle this. If he was a best mate uve known years like in my case then u can defo chat to him on a level and explain that hes not been much of a mate lately. If hes being manipulated then he might see sense, otherwise he aint worth the effort.

    Bromance b4 Romance

    richp;8103578

    ive got a mate, that is addicted to the online game EVE, i think thats … ive got a mate, that is addicted to the online game EVE, i think thats what its called. Ive not seen him in ages, in fact i think he might have been dragged inside his computer :?



    lol.. don't knock eve :P I was hooked for a month.. and then gave up... never touching MMO's again.

    Maybe facebook the dude? like he did to you? "I'm back from holiday!" or something along those lines... could be the missus has his phone now lol "My phone is your phone"

    Good luck... sounds like you still consider him a friend... don't give up.

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    5nowman;8103730

    lol.. don't knock eve :P I was hooked for a month.. and then gave up... … lol.. don't knock eve :P I was hooked for a month.. and then gave up... never touching MMO's again.Maybe facebook the dude? like he did to you? "I'm back from holiday!" or something along those lines... could be the missus has his phone now lol "My phone is your phone"Good luck... sounds like you still consider him a friend... don't give up.



    i did email him on fb and no reply. i know he dont use it much but hes got a blackberry so knows when he gets a message, its just bloody rude and really odd behaviour

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    peterjmay;8103717

    lol yeh theyve been goin out for 8 years or so. she doesnt come off as a … lol yeh theyve been goin out for 8 years or so. she doesnt come off as a possesive bitch ,



    peterjmay;8103771

    i did email him on fb and no reply. i know he dont use it much but hes … i did email him on fb and no reply. i know he dont use it much but hes got a blackberry so knows when he gets a message, its just bloody rude and really odd behaviour



    Rather than infatuation/him being possesed by the she devil, maybe he has just moved on in life. That happens people grow apart friends as well as romances. People move in different directions, jobs, interests, where they live, where they are in life.

    Maybe life is too busy or maybe just maybe he is settled and like being at home but is too embarrased to say.

    FB is an easy way to chat, one of my best mates from home wrote on my wall FRI, to ask if I was coming down yesterday for a night out, I totally forgot about it as I had other stuff going on life/kids/hubby work and I had to decline. We are still mates it's just that life took us in different directions and we catch up if and when we can.

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    tinkerbell28;8103916

    Rather than infatuation/him being possesed by the she devil, maybe he has … Rather than infatuation/him being possesed by the she devil, maybe he has just moved on in life. That happens people grow apart friends as well as romances. People move in different directions, jobs, interests, where they live, where they are in life.Maybe life is too busy or maybe just maybe he is settled and like being at home but is too embarrased to say.FB is an easy way to chat, one of my best mates from home wrote on my wall FRI, to ask if I was coming down yesterday for a night out, I totally forgot about it as I had other stuff going on life/kids/hubby work and I had to decline. We are still mates it's just that life took us in different directions and we catch up if and when we can.



    yes, thats all fine and understandable but to not reply to any medium when he asked me to in the first place is still weird

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    peterjmay;8103997

    yes, thats all fine and understandable but to not reply to any medium … yes, thats all fine and understandable but to not reply to any medium when he asked me to in the first place is still weird



    Maybe he is just busy and forgot, he asked when he has time and then the moment has gone kind of thing, like I say maybe he has moved on now, he'd rather be in witht he mrs or has a new circle of friends, busy job or something.

    U dont forget ur mates.

    I did this too, although my friends semi abandoned me, and now I'm proper whipped, but it's fine, I'm too lazy and can't be bothered with "friends" (having been stabbed in the back by several life friends) although I do still have some I see occasionally, but I rarely make the effort.

    That's life.

    my best mate did this as well, gets in touch with his mates once or twice a year to go for a beer when it suits him. I have zero time for him, not much of a mate

    DragonChris;8107216

    I did this too, although my friends semi abandoned me, and now I'm proper … I did this too, although my friends semi abandoned me, and now I'm proper whipped, but it's fine, I'm too lazy and can't be bothered with "friends" (having been stabbed in the back by several life friends) although I do still have some I see occasionally, but I rarely make the effort.That's life.



    is this a joke reply or are you really that whipped and bitter?:?
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