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    can you be happy with someone yet have feelings for someone else?

    i wouldnt have said so having gone on past experience. what do yous think?

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    Depends if its lust or love - lust yes, love no (unless you love the person you're with more).....

    yes, i think you can

    I think it's human nature (at least mine) to get into routine with the ones you care about, then eventually go about seeking the next 'thrill'. If 2009 has taught me anything, it's that the spark of a relationship will never last forever, and it's all about comprises.

    I've made some decisions this year that I still don't know were/are for the best based around this nonsense.

    Don't let lust cloud your judgment!

    Banned

    Definately

    okay donna - spill !

    hang on a min though till I go get my pringles lol


    okay got them .............am all ears xx

    Yes, I'm happy but have had feelings for somebody else for a long time. Unfortunately Kelly Brook never been about to tempt my commitment!:oops:

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    bossyboots;7171269

    okay donna - spill !hang on a min though till I go get my pringles … okay donna - spill !hang on a min though till I go get my pringles lolokay got them .............am all ears xx



    lol nothing to spill really, just a mate of mine whos with someone has been flirting massively with a lass and when i asked him he said he does have feelings for her but is happy with his gf. just got me thinking about my past and stuff.

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    jellybaby22;7171410

    no you cant



    youre the first to say that! i think it too though. so what makes you say it?

    Its a big yes from me:oops:

    I agree with Jellybaby - the old cliche "the grass is always greener" jumps to mind..................but its not................"playing with fire" is the reality of a situation like that. I have never put myself in a situation like that and if I did then that would tell me that something is wrong with my relationship.

    Mind u I fancy George Clooney something terrible - have dreams about him on a regular basis:oops: ( and renown too)

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    renown;7171440

    Its a big yes from me:oops:



    but surely if you love someone you wouldnt develop feelings for other people? or maybe you just think you love them when you dont?

    maybe im thinking too hard about it all lol

    donnaraine;7171480

    but surely if you love someone you wouldnt develop feelings for other … but surely if you love someone you wouldnt develop feelings for other people? or maybe you just think you love them when you dont? maybe im thinking too hard about it all lol



    I know i have i think it depends how soft you are I'm not proud of it i think its a weakness but a definite yes

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    bossyboots;7171453

    I agree with Jellybaby - the old cliche "the grass is always greener" … I agree with Jellybaby - the old cliche "the grass is always greener" jumps to mind..................but its not................"playing with fire" is the reality of a situation like that. I have never put myself in a situation like that and if I did then that would tell me that something is wrong with my relationship.



    i moved in with a fella in the past and developed feelings for a friend. needless to say i hurt the fella i was with and left him for my friend. it didnt work out in the end but i would never dream of wanting someone else when i was with him. i now realise that if i was with someone and found myself thinking about someone else then there are problems with the relationship

    maybe men just work differently to us women

    no never as for one it wouldnt be fair on the other person or to yourself

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    bossyboots;7171467

    Mind u I fancy George Clooney something terrible - have dreams about him … Mind u I fancy George Clooney something terrible - have dreams about him on a regular basis:oops: ( and renown too)



    lol well we all want a bit of renown

    george clooneys not my type though :-D

    NO.

    But you can learn to live with it.

    davelfc;7171530

    NO. But you can learn to live with it.



    yes but why should the other person?

    no not true feeling iv you feeling for some one else and you really mean it then knowingly or not the person your with now your just making do with

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    renown;7171440

    Its a big yes from me:oops:



    You know I would but I can't

    in other words would you like to be second best to anyone? because i know i wouldnt

    Every single person is different so the feelings you develop for different individuals are unique in their shape and form and longevity also. Of course you can have feelings for more than one person at once... can you be " in love with" more than one..... I don't think so xxxx

    donnaraine;7171516

    maybe men just work differently to us women



    No maybe about it - THEY DO !!!!!!!!! This is so true - today when driving home with my son who is ten this was the conversation..................

    "Mum, I think Meagan likes me because she keeps smiling at me all the time, but then at play time she pushes me"

    "Son, women are strange sometimes as when they like someone they will act like they dont like them, but they really do"

    "Mum, I dont think I understand girls"


    well I just lmao and said to him that am so glad he has realised that at the grand old age of ten as he will NEVER understand us !

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    do you think he could be 'settling' for his gf incase it wouldnt work out with this other girl? maybe he feels safer with his gf?

    Donna - this is really about you isnt it. You like a guy who is in a relationship with another woman...................come on tell us about it!

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    Big T 721;7171549

    no not true feeling iv you feeling for some one else and you really mean … no not true feeling iv you feeling for some one else and you really mean it then knowingly or not the person your with now your just making do with



    yeah maybe he will realise one day that maybe his gf isnt the girl for him if he likes this other person. only time will tell eh!

    DLM;7171550

    You know I would but I can't



    :-(:cry::cry: but i thought

    bossyboots;7171558

    No maybe about it - THEY DO !!!!!!!!! This is so true - today when … No maybe about it - THEY DO !!!!!!!!! This is so true - today when driving home with my son who is ten this was the conversation.................."Mum, I think Meagan likes me because she keeps smiling at me all the time, but then at play time she pushes me""Son, women are strange sometimes as when they like someone they will act like they dont like them, but they really do""Mum, I dont think I understand girls"well I just lmao and said to him that am so glad he has realised that at the grand old age of ten as he will NEVER understand us !


    aww bossyboots absolutely priceless i need to give rep as that is spot on! i felt as though i was back in the car with one of my 3 and no wonder women confuse them! :thumbsup:

    donnaraine;7171516

    i now realise that if i was with someone and found myself thinking about … i now realise that if i was with someone and found myself thinking about someone else then there are problems with the relationship



    Depends what you mean by 'thinking', but yeah you're right if this new interest is pushing the person you're with to the side. In my experience (or lack thereof) such pursuits are rarely worth the trouble they cause to a relationship and can really knock things for 6. Best dealing with stuff as it arises.

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    bossyboots;7171583

    Donna - this is really about you isnt it. You like a guy who is in a … Donna - this is really about you isnt it. You like a guy who is in a relationship with another woman...................come on tell us about it!



    no lol. debated about making this thread as thought people would think that, it is just a mate who seems like he doesnt know what he wants

    bossyboots;7171583

    Donna - this is really about you isnt it. You like a guy who is in a … Donna - this is really about you isnt it. You like a guy who is in a relationship with another woman...................come on tell us about it!



    Lets just come clean i can't take any more :whistling:

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    renown;7171586

    :-(:cry::cry: but i thought



    Sorry, I meant to let you down gentler :oops:

    donnaraine;7171597

    no lol. debated about making this thread as thought people would think … no lol. debated about making this thread as thought people would think that, it is just a mate who seems like he doesnt know what he wants



    Is this the guy who has a baby? I remember a while back u posted a thread about a guy who was with someone ................yadeeda.............If it is that guy ur talking about - steer clear - too much baggage and u will be the current gf then the ex, then the current gf and back to being the ex

    renown;7171600

    Lets just come clean i can't take any more :whistling:



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    bossyboots;7171624

    Is this the guy who has a baby? I remember a while back u posted a … Is this the guy who has a baby? I remember a while back u posted a thread about a guy who was with someone ................yadeeda.............If it is that guy ur talking about - steer clear - too much baggage and u will be the current gf then the ex, then the current gf and back to being the ex



    nah hes not part of this story lol

    i swear my life is like eastenders at times haha

    @donnaraine, wanna cyber?

    donnaraine;7171639

    nah hes not part of this story loli swear my life is like eastenders at … nah hes not part of this story loli swear my life is like eastenders at times haha



    okay am glad it aint you:) Tell ur friend though she should steer clear and not waste her time on him - it wont work and its always easier for an outsider looking in to see things clearer.

    donnaraine;7171584

    yeah maybe he will realise one day that maybe his gf isnt the girl for … yeah maybe he will realise one day that maybe his gf isnt the girl for him if he likes this other person. only time will tell eh!



    yea hopfully cause its not nice watching or even just knowing people getting hurt like this, follow fate and see were it leads you you can only effect fate in bad ways so just go with it

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    I'm sorry but you had your chance:thinking: and you let me slip through your fingers:-D Yeah what we had was good but theres more than just sex you know, and you just wer'nt prepared to commit,:? so I had no choise but to go else ware for a deeper more meaningful relationship which yes I thought I'de found with Dlm :oops: Ok I was wrong I made a mistake so I'm back on the market

    I don't think it's fair on anyone in the little love triangle if this kind of thing happens...
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