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    Is a kiss cheating or does it have to be something more than that? Need opinions from people who are still up

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    Depends on what type of kiss it was i guess. Most people kiss one another as a manner of greeting. A kiss can lead to other things though, so keep an eye out. I don't think it can be considered as cheating though.

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    amibees

    Depends on what type of kiss it was i guess. Most people kiss one another … Depends on what type of kiss it was i guess. Most people kiss one another as a manner of greeting. A kiss can lead to other things though, so keep an eye out. I don't think it can be considered as cheating though.



    Thank you, that's what I think. It's not a greeting kiss as such but basically if your other half doesn't know about it it's basically irrelevant I think

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    kissing,poking & cuddles dont count when drunk/high

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    whatsThePoint

    If its a kiss where lips touch the bloke is looking for a ****



    Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so if I'm out with mates and something happens with a girl it's just part of the night, it doesn't mean anything serious. Maybe I'm deluding myself but it's completely irrelevant

    depends, do you tell your girl friend or not?

    I would say kissing is cheating, tbh

    yes kissing is cheating imo

    Imo it's definitely cheating. To me 'cheating' is doing anything that would hurt your partner. And I would be gutted if I found out my OH had kissed someone else.

    JonnyIrish

    Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so … Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so if I'm out with mates and something happens with a girl it's just part of the night, it doesn't mean anything serious. Maybe I'm deluding myself but it's completely irrelevant

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    Yes you are deluding yourself. Ask your girlfriend how irrelevant your actions are.

    If you have a partner going out and having 'something happen' should never be 'just part of the night' if that's how someone thinks imo they need to look at long and hard at their relationship.

    Agree with above ^^ a kiss is cheating and you must think its relevant as you've asked about it

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    JonnyIrish

    Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so … Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so if I'm out with mates and something happens with a girl it's just part of the night, it doesn't mean anything serious. Maybe I'm deluding myself but it's completely irrelevant


    of course you are deluding yourself. its cheating if you feel guilty. if you dont feel guilty then you obviously dont think much of the english girl.

    It depends on what your partner classes as cheating.

    Some would be fine with a full on sexual encounter, some would class a chat with someone else over a coffee as cheating.

    Think about it this way if your girlfriend was going around 'kissing' other blokes wouldn't you feel as though she's cheated on you?

    to ask you already know and its the start of a cheating life

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    JonnyIrish

    Thank you, that's what I think. It's not a greeting kiss as such but … Thank you, that's what I think. It's not a greeting kiss as such but basically if your other half doesn't know about it it's basically irrelevant I think



    Does that not apply if you have sex with someone?
    If you really believe it's not cheating then tell her as you have done nothing wrong.

    JonnyIrish

    Thank you, that's what I think. It's not a greeting kiss as such but … Thank you, that's what I think. It's not a greeting kiss as such but basically if your other half doesn't know about it it's basically irrelevant I think



    So if she doesn't find out your being unfaithful it's fine.

    I so hope she is copping off every time she goes out without you. That's not cheating right? because YOU don't know about it ?

    Goose gander, if you'd be annoyed if your partner did it to you then it's cheating you REALLY don't need to come here looking for support to make YOU feel better about the fact you cheat on her "but it's fine because she won't know"

    I always consult Jeremy Kyle on such matters. 09011 123 456.

    To be blunt - you are talking about a snog and not a peck on the cheek as a 'cultural greeting'? It is cheating...low level cheating, but cheating nontheless. I would say that the mere fact that you feel your consience has been pricked sufficiently to ask others opinion, means that deep down - you know you shouldn't be doing what you are.

    I think cheating starts when you have the hope or the intention of it going further. If you can say that it was a kiss for a kisses sake and had no further intention then you were not cheating. Any man that can actually stand up and say they did not have that intention is a liar.

    I should know. I'm a man and I've cheated big-style in the past.

    and if she had kissed someone else?

    I think it has to depend on th context of the relationship. I.e is it serious/ been a long time
    Is it something that has happened before etc

    I'd say it does count as being unfaithful, but im old and married, to me a kiss would be the end of my world, to a 16yr old it's probe minor issue

    tinkerbell28

    Depends, not everyone is monogamous, which is all well and good if all … Depends, not everyone is monogamous, which is all well and good if all parties are consenting and are truthful. It's cheating when you are lying to your gf, either directly or by omission as you know they won't like or agree with what you are doing.It's really selfish, because even if you do use condoms with your one nighters, "when things happen" you can't eliminate the risk of picking some things up. Your gf is in the dark about this, yet you are playing games with her sexual health. You have taken that choice of risk away from her by lying. In general if you are being deceptive and hiding the truth for whatever the reasons, it's cheating. Just tell your gf honestly you want an open relationship whilst she is not around as her still being the primary partner. What's the issue like you say? If she does not agree with your stance, let her go.If you were my bf, I'd be using your nads for air fresheners.



    I did lol and Id also do something similar

    Mod & Ed

    If my oh kissed a girl when on a night out other than a casual greeting, I would rip his testicles off, put them in a blender with dog poo and make him drink the resulting smoothie, I would then go to the nearest, best divorce lawyer and leave him in the gutter for the rest of his life, whereupon every day I would drive past and pelt him with rotting fish.

    JonnyIrish

    Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so … Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so if I'm out with mates and something happens with a girl it's just part of the night, it doesn't mean anything serious. Maybe I'm deluding myself but it's completely irrelevant



    You're deluding yourself. A kiss in my book is cheating, and it would be cheating in my girlfriends book as well.

    If you both socialise and kiss other people and are happy with that, than that's your choice as a couple. However, if you're doing it on the sly and want to keep it a secret - then it doesn't sound very kosher does it? If she did that to you, how would you feel about it?

    OP your post reminded me of my ex. I was with him 1.5yrs total.
    He thought all that stuff was part of a lads night out.. He also thought it was ok because I didn't know about it (for a while). And Im not suggesting you will do the same, but in the end he didn't stop at a kiss. His excuses were that I wasn't around enough.. (yet I saw him most evenings and weekends, well, the weekends he wasnt out cheating!).
    It started with kissing.. Sometimes he was kind enough to dump me on a Friday and miraculously make up with me on the Monday (he put me through the ringer several weekends, but at least he had a clean conscience for his nights out) and basically ended up with 'a mistake' and getting a girl pregnant.

    It was over 10 years ago, thankfully Ive grown up a bit since then.

    But yes, its cheating. And tbh, I feel for your girlfriend with the attitude you have towards her. Do her a favour and tell her, or at least split up (although she'll probably do that part for you once you tell her!).

    P.s, I'm guessing this kissing other people isn't something you've both agreed on, otherwise you would have had this conversation with your girlfriend and wouldn't be asking others if it were ok or not, you'd have already agreed the boundaries together. If I'm wrong though I'll stand corrected!
    Edited by: "Nikki999" 4th Feb 2011

    http://amazingdata.com/mediadata30/Image/hot_weird_funny_amazing_cool3_cheat-heart-destroy-car-41_200907260138409155.jpg

    Syzable, for some reason that pic reminded me of Cheaters! Anyone ever see that program? I used to watch it at my parents on Sky, Living TV maybe? Some American cheese, trying to catch peoples' partners in the act with others.

    Cheatin' is a crime, it happens everyday.. (That was part of the theme tune btw!)

    Nikki999

    Syzable, for some reason that pic reminded me of Cheaters! Anyone ever … Syzable, for some reason that pic reminded me of Cheaters! Anyone ever see that program? I used to watch it at my parents on Sky, Living TV maybe? Some American cheese, trying to catch peoples' partners in the act with others.Cheatin' is a crime, it happens everyday.. (That was part of the theme tune btw!)



    I had to look that up and found this on youtube youtube.com/wat…nVk X)

    http://declubz.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/car-after-divorce.jpg

    Of course kissing someone else is cheating, it also shows complete disregard for the person you are cheating on too if you think that its fine if she doesn't find out. Tell the girl what you are doing every week and see her reaction!

    I was just about to post that, am In the middle of watching it.. Lovin the guy with the paintball gun! lol

    Syzable

    I had to look that up and found this on youtube … I had to look that up and found this on youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x35kmFM9nVk X)


    Edited by: "Nikki999" 4th Feb 2011

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    what part of ASB,s anatomy were you kissing at the time?

    iam sure she will forgive you!

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    hey where did my post go..............................aw, oh!

    Fair play I am suprised how many people agree it is cheating as most men I went out with before didn't think it was!
    If my Boyf told me he kissed someone even in the first few weeks of our relationship I would finish it now (5 years down line). Thats how strongly I feel about it!

    Banned

    Been kissed a couple of times by female acquaintances while I had a girlfriend, found it totally inappropriate and felt like I had been sexually assaulted.

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    Okay yeah, kinda expected these responses. Gotta come clean I guess, these long distance things just don't work

    jellybaby22

    Wishihadadonkey summed it up perfectly I would class a kiss as cheating … Wishihadadonkey summed it up perfectly I would class a kiss as cheating and if my oh behaved the way you do I would kill him...... No wait.... I wouldn't kill him that would be too kind.... I would make the rest of his life a living nightmare X)



    give his new mobile number to a stalker? lol sounds like a good enough punishment to me

    If My OH ever cheated on me, i would pack his bags and send him on his way
    i would be upset but id get over it and find someone who deserved to be in my presence

    of course i would have visions of revenge but we have a child together and obviously would have to be amicable for her sake

    jellybaby22

    Loooooooool I'm going to threaten him with that



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    JonnyIrish Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in … JonnyIrish Not necessarily I think. I have a girlfriend but she lives in England so if I'm out with mates and something happens with a girl it's just part of the night, it doesn't mean anything serious. Maybe I'm deluding myself but it's completely irrelevant


    you have a girlfriend and your avatar is of Louie "me lucky charms" Walsh.

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    Don't speak ill of Louis
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