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    Dating sites - been asked before - any success stories?

    Ok guys i know this has been discussed before but i thought i'd air my annoyance with you all again and ask for a serious discussion to how you view them!

    right - a while ago i joined quite a few and regulary logged on and chatted to blokes etc and accumulated a couple of nice friends to chat to, so i thought! - One turned out to be a perv who was clearly looking to just get his jollies over the net and the other was talking to a friend of mine on the same site, nothing wrong in that as we were only chatting not getting married etc, except he was using the exact same lines/chat! pmsl!

    Now today i logged on to a couple of sites and it seems nothing changes, there seems to be alot of men wanting sex, alot of profiles suggest this in many different ways, im NOT suggesting all men are like this before anyone gets annoyed lol, but i would like you men out there to tell me if any of you take such sites seriously or are they just a laugh iyo?
    my main questions are?

    Am i wasting time with them or are there any genuine users?

    what sites do you/did you use/recommend?

    Any success stories?

    And how long do you chat to someone before risking meeting them? how do you know they are genuine etc?

    one last one for you men, does a women having kids put you off dating them, honestly?

    And yes im bored and feeling lonely today

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    My mum has met a few, some ok, some fakes, some down right weird.! No mr right found for her though. however a friend met her husband from dating site...

    I was lonely a couple of years ago.
    joined a site but never did anything or filled in profile.
    Met a girl in my local town(not through site) we got engaged, but she left me 2 weeks ago.
    So im sorta eedging towards joining up again
    And if i was to it would be seriously and not for a laugh.

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    pcnutta;2834723

    My mum has met a few, some ok, some fakes, some down right weird.! No mr … My mum has met a few, some ok, some fakes, some down right weird.! No mr right found for her though. however a friend met her husband from dating site...



    do you worry about her doing it? how does she decide if they are 'safe' enough to meet? :oops:


    ADAMHODG;2834733

    I was lonely a couple of years ago.joined a site but never did anything … I was lonely a couple of years ago.joined a site but never did anything or filled in profile.Met a girl in my local town(not through site) we got engaged, but she left me 2 weeks ago. So im sorta eedging towards joining up againAnd if i was to it would be seriously and not for a laugh.




    which ones do you know?

    I met one of the ex's online, she was alright actually, I wouldn't do it again though

    Trust me loup , me and mum FELL out over those darn sites!! She is so naive!! and gullable!!

    Ive got her now meeting in open place ( is cafe) telling me where, what time, who with etc
    she takes her mobile and gives me two rings from her mobile IF i need to ring her to make excuse to leave.
    If she doesnt feel comfortable etc...

    Its worrying as shes not exactly worldly wise!!

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    RedIron;2834761

    I met one of the ex's online, she was alright actually, I wouldn't do it … I met one of the ex's online, she was alright actually, I wouldn't do it again though



    why not?

    Original Poster

    pcnutta;2834763

    Trust me loup , me and mum FELL out over those darn sites!! She is so … Trust me loup , me and mum FELL out over those darn sites!! She is so naive!! and gullable!!Ive got her now meeting in open place ( is cafe) telling me where, what time, who with etcshe takes her mobile and gives me two rings from her mobile IF i need to ring her to make excuse to leave.If she doesnt feel comfortable etc...Its worrying as shes not exactly worldly wise!!



    see i dont have a problem with all the necessary safe 'rules' i'd just go with my local cos i know everyone, but its knowing if the person is genuine, im just as gullible there i think :oops:

    You'll know when you want to meet them as it will just feel right, i'm sure both parties would drop hints at it too

    I don't mind women with kids but then I have a daughter myself, a few years ago I did mind but i've matured since then.

    There are plenty of genuine men who use them, unfortunately there are more not genuine people than genuine

    Oh and make sure you look after yourself, meet in a public place, let someone know where you are going and who you are going to meet

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    RedIron;2834784

    You'll know when you want to meet them as it will just feel right, i'm … You'll know when you want to meet them as it will just feel right, i'm sure both parties would drop hints at it tooI don't mind women with kids but then I have a daughter myself, a few years ago I did mind but i've matured since then.There are plenty of genuine men who use them, unfortunately there are more not genuine people than genuineOh and make sure you look after yourself, meet in a public place, let someone know where you are going and who you are going to meet




    thank you :-D

    Banned

    My mum uses plentyoffish.com/ she's currently dating a man she met on there.

    Its free too.

    I met a woman I met up with online once, worked out great :thumbsup:

    loupomm;2834764

    why not?



    Well the man reason was we got to know each other really well and had lots in common, I didn't want to meet her and realise for example that we actually had nothing in common and she was in fact a he or something.

    I think too many people who do the online dating thing end up disappointed, I don't think it's worth the risk when I can just as easily go down the pub to meet someone

    yep loup, i tried it many yrs ago, ended up having a stalker.... it put me right off... which is sad as i am sure there are some very genuine people on them, its just finding them is the difficult thing... plenty of fakes, players etc...

    Tell u one guy... said he was single etc... came to meet mum ( travelled many miles) i smelt a rat..
    she only had his mobile number etccc * alarm bells**

    He came up , they had fab time etc... he left

    Things didnt add up so i did some searching........
    He WAS married !! I some times hate being so suspicious although in this case im glad, it was my mum this guy played!!

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    RedIron;2834798

    Well the man reason was we got to know each other really well and had … Well the man reason was we got to know each other really well and had lots in common, I didn't want to meet her and realise for example that we actually had nothing in common and she was in fact a he or something.I think too many people who do the online dating thing end up disappointed, I don't think it's worth the risk when I can just as easily go down the pub to meet someone



    ive not had much luck in the pubs :oops: maybe thats telling me something :?

    pcnutta;2834800

    yep loup, i tried it many yrs ago, ended up having a stalker.... it put … yep loup, i tried it many yrs ago, ended up having a stalker.... it put me right off... which is sad as i am sure there are some very genuine people on them, its just finding them is the difficult thing... plenty of fakes, players etc...Tell u one guy... said he was single etc... came to meet mum ( travelled many miles) i smelt a rat.. she only had his mobile number etccc * alarm bells**He came up , they had fab time etc... he leftThings didnt add up so i did some searching........He WAS married !! I some times hate being so suspicious although in this case im glad, it was my mum this guy played!!



    yeah thats the thing about the net, you never really know what your getting, but i guess the same could apply to joe bloggs from the pub, we only know what we get told, its all a risk :?

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    i will throw my hat in the ring for this one..have used a site , and some of the women are as bad as the blokes.
    Its been a waste of time, good job I dont have time to do stuff around the house what with work, than worry about how many dates i might or might not get, if your of the type that gets lonely these site are a waste of time , I dont have anything good to say about them..
    Get out in the real world and dont waste your hard earned cash on them

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    one last one for you men, does a women having kids put you off dating … one last one for you men, does a women having kids put you off dating them, honestly?



    This is the best answer I can give. Kids doesn't put me off initially, because I love kids to bits (especially mine) and have a great laugh with them. However, the experiences I have had where I meet a woman with children, I found the kids very hostile towards me, this is what put me off. So my advice is speak to your kids and see if they want mummy to get a new man round the place. :thumbsup:

    Am i wasting time with them or are there any genuine users?



    There are genuine users, but few and far between.

    what sites do you/did you use/recommend?



    Due to internet stalkers, I decline to answer.

    Any success stories?



    A few ladies got lucky.

    And how long do you chat to someone before risking meeting them? how do … And how long do you chat to someone before risking meeting them? how do you know they are genuine etc?



    Depends on the person, some a week, others never.

    one last one for you men, does a women having kids put you off dating … one last one for you men, does a women having kids put you off dating them, honestly?



    Not me, prefer the ones with kids as they are usually less picky.

    i'll throw my 2 cents in. i've had the opposite. good experience, you need to be patient though! the ratio of odd balls is 2:1 but you should be able to tell the difference between them. also depends on what sites you go to.

    My arguement is, if its joe bloggs in the pub, its likely hes local.. so u may know someone who knows someone who knows him... so peope dont generally bull sheeet in pubs etc cos its easy to find out about them.. online its diff, they can feed you an entire fabricated story.. and it will take a longer time to discover the truth..
    My lists to watch out for..

    a) they give umobile number only saying they dnt have home phone!!
    b) they wont give u an address or say they are living with mates and dnt wanna give out number or phone!
    c) they cut conversations short making out the mobile cut out or flat battery
    d) they wanna meet anywhere except THERE place!
    e) they turn there phone off when around u



    The stories i know would put u off for life...

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    dog_cop;2834818

    i will throw my hat in the ring for this one..have used a site , and some … i will throw my hat in the ring for this one..have used a site , and some of the women are as bad as the blokes. Its been a waste of time, good job I dont have time to do stuff around the house what with work, than worry about how many dates i might or might not get, if your of the type that gets lonely these site are a waste of time , I dont have anything good to say about them..Get out in the real world and dont waste your hard earned cash on them



    i have not paid for any, i only use the free ones :giggle:

    so no good stories? which ones have you used?

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    catinthehat;2834846

    i'll throw my 2 cents in. i've had the opposite. good experience, you … i'll throw my 2 cents in. i've had the opposite. good experience, you need to be patient though! the ratio of odd balls is 2:1 but you should be able to tell the difference between them. also depends on what sites you go to.


    nah disagree with the depends on which site, heard some horror stories from a well known dating site :roll:

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    And how long do you chat to someone before risking meeting them? how do … And how long do you chat to someone before risking meeting them? how do you know they are genuine etc?



    You need to know them inside and out, so to speak, spend as long as you feel is necessary to confirm your own feelings. Also, dont get tied up in the heat of the moment because someone is showing you some attention. Take it easy, the genuine guys that appreciate you for you will hang in there until you are ready to meet up.

    I advised my mum to ask 'whether they pleasure themselves', and if the answer comes back as 'no' you know they are a liar. She said it was quite effective way of weeding out the carp :giggle:

    when i uses them my ratio was...

    One raving looney stalker
    One bloke who i dated who now STILL 7 yrs later emails me saying he still loves me!
    few i found out were married
    A couple or normal ones *

    Each to there own however from my experience.. leave well alone, go to a pub, u see what u get generally.

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    loupomm;2834856

    i have not paid for any, i only use the free ones :giggle:so no good … i have not paid for any, i only use the free ones :giggle:so no good stories? which ones have you used?



    I dont think its idea to mention the sites on here as I might fall foul of the rules and get an infection:roll:,, but if you want to know I will pm you

    loupomm;2834856

    i have not paid for any, i only use the free ones :giggle:so no good … i have not paid for any, i only use the free ones :giggle:so no good stories? which ones have you used?



    ok i'll pm you.

    dog_cop;2834858

    nah disagree with the depends on which site, heard some horror stories … nah disagree with the depends on which site, heard some horror stories from a well known dating site :roll:



    i guess so yeah, i really comes down to the individual, its all a risk at the end of the day, sometimes it pays off, sometimes it doesn't.

    dog_cop;2834818

    i will throw my hat in the ring for this one..have used a site , and some … i will throw my hat in the ring for this one..have used a site , and some of the women are as bad as the blokes. Its been a waste of time, good job I dont have time to do stuff around the house what with work, than worry about how many dates i might or might not get, if your of the type that gets lonely these site are a waste of time , I dont have anything good to say about them..Get out in the real world and dont waste your hard earned cash on them



    I agree!

    I joined LoopyLove.com a couple of years ago and had a paid membership with them but it was all a waste of time and money. Most girls who were writing me letters were actually carpet crawling meaning that they send a letter and it automatically gets emailed to male members around the local area. I then cancelled my subscription. I then joined PlentyofFish.com and got a couple of genuine emails of interest from women in my local area. I actually arranged a coffee with one of the women who emailed me. The date went fine but I never heard back from her:?

    I have been told by alot of women in the real world that I am a nice decent handsome young man but to be honest if you have no confidence (which I lack in life) and no job or money then women are not interested and those sites are a waste of time and money. I guess its true. I guess when women want Mr Right they mean a man with tons of confidence and money.

    Artmuzz

    a) they give umobile number only saying they dnt have home phone!!



    You have to be very lucky to get my home number, I rarely give it out

    b) they wont give u an address or say they are living with mates and dnt … b) they wont give u an address or say they are living with mates and dnt wanna give out number or phone!



    Again I don't make a habit of telling strangers on the internet my address

    c) they cut conversations short making out the mobile cut out or flat … c) they cut conversations short making out the mobile cut out or flat battery



    Batteries do go flat

    d) they wanna meet anywhere except THERE place!



    See b)

    e) they turn there phone off when around u



    That's just being gentlemanly when I am with a date I put them before anything else meaning the mobile phone gets switched off

    I met my OH on datingagency.com. We've been together 4 years and got married a month ago. My daughter met her partner on the same dating site over a year ago - they now live together and are happy. I'd recommend this dating site - didn't try any others. My husband has just said he thinks this site is the best one (but then he would - he got me!) He did try others (dating sites) but didn't like them.
    I met several nice men and only one weirdo (and, no, that's not the one I married!)
    and, in reply to comments from others - he did not exude confidence and certainly isn't rich. My aim was to love and be loved and that is what I have!

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    Artmuzz;2834917

    I agree!I joined LoopyLove.com a couple of years ago and had a paid … I agree!I joined LoopyLove.com a couple of years ago and had a paid membership with them but it was all a waste of time and money. Most girls who were writing me letters were actually carpet crawling meaning that they send a letter and it automatically gets emailed to male members around the local area. I then cancelled my subscription. I then joined PlentyofFish.com and got a couple of genuine emails of interest from women in my local area. I actual arranged a coffee with one of the women who emailed me. The date went fine but I never heard back from her:?I have been told by alot of women in the real world that I am a nice decent handsome young man but to be honest if you have no confidence (which I lack in life) and no job or money then women are not interested and those sites are a waste of time and money. I guess its true. I guess when women want Mr Right they mean a man with tons of confidence and money.Artmuzz



    AMEN bro

    I used match.com, the 6 months to find love advert is a load of rubbish. People are looking for mr/ms perfect and really choosy (me included!!), however i met my current girlfriend on there and we've been together for 6 months and really happy! She has 2 kids and so do i, so no a woman having kids didn't put me off at all.

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    ADAMHODG;2834733

    I was lonely a couple of years ago.joined a site but never did anything … I was lonely a couple of years ago.joined a site but never did anything or filled in profile.Met a girl in my local town(not through site) we got engaged, but she left me 2 weeks ago. So im sorta eedging towards joining up againAnd if i was to it would be seriously and not for a laugh.



    Sorry to hear about your break up.

    Good luck with the future, just keep it real.

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    loupomm;2834779

    see i dont have a problem with all the necessary safe 'rules' i'd just go … see i dont have a problem with all the necessary safe 'rules' i'd just go with my local cos i know everyone, but its knowing if the person is genuine, im just as gullible there i think :oops:



    Is there no one in your local?

    I met my current bf at work.

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    Foosball Chum;2834797

    My mum uses http://www.plentyoffish.com/ she's currently dating a man she … My mum uses http://www.plentyoffish.com/ she's currently dating a man she met on there.Its free too.I met a woman I met up with online once, worked out great :thumbsup:



    Was that the wife or somebody else :w00t:

    Banned

    Prissy and I first met on a dating site

    Now happily married and seven children though one fo them looks like sy :x

    Original Poster

    DLM;2834963

    Is there no one in your local?I met my current bf at work.



    of course there are people at my local :w00t:

    just no one i wanna date

    thank you everyone for your replies, i am reading through!

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    DLM;2834963

    Is there no one in your local?I met my current bf at work.



    You liar, we met at local striptease

    Banned

    loupomm;2834986

    of course there are people at my local :w00t:just no one i wanna date … of course there are people at my local :w00t:just no one i wanna date :pthank you everyone for your replies, i am reading through!



    Do you work, ,my last job was mainly male colleagues, i had my pick :-D

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    DLM;2834995

    Do you work, ,my last job was mainly male colleagues, i had my pick :-D



    i do work yes, no one there my age and i dont think chattingup the customers will be seen as legal in my job :thumbsup:

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    loupomm;2835007

    i do work yes, no one there my age and i dont think chattingup the … i do work yes, no one there my age and i dont think chattingup the customers will be seen as legal in my job :thumbsup:



    Funny for some reason I thought you were a chap loupo you a girl :?

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    loupomm;2835007

    i do work yes, no one there my age and i dont think chattingup the … i do work yes, no one there my age and i dont think chattingup the customers will be seen as legal in my job :thumbsup:



    Get another job with lot's of tottie. ;-)
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