Dilemma....

Bit of advice needed, especially from the ladies on here

All of the gifts I got from the girlfriend this year are a bit c***. I've either already got the stuff or its stuff I didn't want. The dilemma is is it wrong of me to ask her for the receipts so that I can exchange it for stuff that I do want?

We both agreed to have a relatively small limit on our budgets for each other this year as we have recently moved abroad and in together for the first time. In previous years I wouldn't have been bothered but this year we're on quite a tight budget and there's loads of stuff I really want at the mo so thats why I wana exchange....

Thing is will she get really ****** off?!

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Get what you want! If she can't hack it then get rid of her.

Yep, she'll get peed off! But you should still tell her - honesty being the best policy and all that ;-)

Get the receipts and get the cash back or exchange it for something else..

Whats the point of keeping something if you dont want it or never going to use it.

Im taking some stuff back...

she should know what you already have and know what you are into without getting you naff gifts! Ask away!

Banned

Well there's a fine line to tread here... that one between being a man and being pussy whipped!

Banned

your in for a rough few days afteryou tell her but she'll realise its for the best... just buy her some flowers, although she might ask you to change them :P

ask her if she liked your presents and does she want the receipt, if yes bingo ask her for the receipts, if no dont mention anything. BTW she will be **** off if she took time in choosing them btw most shops now i think give you a giftcard if you return the item back without a reciept
Edited by: "MR1123" 27th Dec 2010

you have to train her for next year......if you both make it to next year that is

call her round and have it all packed up in a bag, as soon as she walks in hand it to her and say "your dumped, jog on love"

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whatsThePoint

Can't see it lasting long with your ungrateful attitude anyway, so yeah … Can't see it lasting long with your ungrateful attitude anyway, so yeah why not ask for the receipts



haha, we've been together for years now already

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stephchapman1980

she should know what you already have and know what you are into without … she should know what you already have and know what you are into without getting you naff gifts! Ask away!



thing is some of the stuff she bought are things I've lent her in the past (tv series etc)!

I don't see why you cant start with saying, 'do you mind if I say something and I don't want you to take it personally but if we are going to make a good go of being together and staying together, can I be honest with you?' And also say she can do the same. She wont want to make the same mistake again and you must look stricken as if it pains you to say it, be ever so grateful but..........

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whatsThePoint

Show her this and hope she gets the … Show her this and hope she gets the hinthttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KnZ029bxeoI



haha, love it

Depends what the gifts were, if say they were clothes as long as tags are still on then you should be able to exchange without a receipt, or get a credit note. Dvd's & games are different, think they will only exchange if faulty, but if they are sealed you might have some luck.

Banned

she's cheating on you. classic sign.


(only joking, I'd tell her but tactfully!)

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aunty jane

Depends what the gifts were, if say they were clothes as long as tags are … Depends what the gifts were, if say they were clothes as long as tags are still on then you should be able to exchange without a receipt, or get a credit note. Dvd's & games are different, think they will only exchange if faulty, but if they are sealed you might have some luck.



dvds all have seals on

why dont you just sell em instead of **** her off?

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MR1123

why dont you just sell em instead of **** her off?



don't have time really, head home the day after tomorrow, and the shipping costs from abroad will make them unsellable

and anyway she would ask where they were so the effect would be the same

Thankfully I told my Girlfriend what I wanted so got that and some awesome surprises too.

Told her before Xmas I didn't want her to waste money on things I didn't want.

you need to come clean..but like Bernyrabbit said, nicely.
Dont understand why she would buy you something you have already?

telling the truth is the best thing to do, or then she will keeping on buying things you dont like.

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plumberman01

Dont understand why she would buy you something you have already?



lack of thought put into it?

honesty is always best. If you sneakily exchange she will be upset when she finds out. If you store at the back of a cupboard she will be upset when she finds out. And next year it will happen again. And the year after...

So tell her, gently and make it easy for her to get it right. "any single malt from Islay" works for me :-)

lol, I have this dilema every year with my in-laws presents but my hubby wont let me ask for the receipts. This year I got a fake fur massive bear hunter hat (my hubby got a matching one) and a silver animal print wool scarf... It's very kind of them but !!!!!!!

If you do own up, tell her what a dilema you've been in contemplating asking for the receipts. She might be offended but then again she may not, hopefully she'll understand and will laugh about for years to come.

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AberdeenDad

honesty is always best. If you sneakily exchange she will be upset when … honesty is always best. If you sneakily exchange she will be upset when she finds out. If you store at the back of a cupboard she will be upset when she finds out. And next year it will happen again. And the year after...So tell her, gently and make it easy for her to get it right. "any single malt from Islay" works for me :-)



I did drop hints, and even told her directly not to buy me several small items but that I'd rather one decent gift, did no good though, she did the exact opposite

im lost for words tbh...she didnt put any thought into it despite your hints? doesnt she care?
seems silly.
Anyway sit her down and tell her you're really sorry but need to be honest..you have some of the items so can she help you change them? wouldnt worry me tbh.

Maybe she didn't buy them, maybe she shoplifted them?

LoveHearts

Maybe she didn't buy them, maybe she shoplifted them?



lol X)

Marina

lol X)



Haha you never know, maybe they were the easiest things to nick X)

LoveHearts

Haha you never know, maybe they were the easiest things to nick X)



lol X) X)

You'll know your OH better OP, if she will get too upset maybe its not worth it. If it was me, i'd be happy if my husband will return and get something that he will actually use.

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Marina

You'll know your OH better OP, if she will get too upset maybe its not … You'll know your OH better OP, if she will get too upset maybe its not worth it. If it was me, i'd be happy if my husband will return and get something that he will actually use.



hhhmmm, its a hard one to call. I know it would probably be fine if I returned one or two things but if I returned the lot she'd probably be arsey about it. Im sure most of it was bought online as well which makes it a pain to return and then she'll just be issued with a refund, I'll feel well cheeky asking for the cash from her!

roryk83

hhhmmm, its a hard one to call. I know it would probably be fine if I … hhhmmm, its a hard one to call. I know it would probably be fine if I returned one or two things but if I returned the lot she'd probably be arsey about it. Im sure most of it was bought online as well which makes it a pain to return and then she'll just be issued with a refund, I'll feel well cheeky asking for the cash from her!



Probably keep the less value ones or ones that cannot be returned easily, use or recycle them as gifts or ebay them at later date and get her to return the pricey ones and buy stuff you actually want with that money?

Tricky situation indeed!

If she ordered online and they managed to get delivered then she must have ordered them in plenty of time ... so not last minute panic buying or anything ... does sound like she's really not put much thought into getting you what would make you happy to be honest ... sounds like you two need to sit down and have a heart to heart ... but definitely talk to her about returning at least some of the items or it'll get worse each time - if she doesnt listen to what you want now, how will it be in a couple of years time .... and then in 10 years ... etc

Good luck
Edited by: "vraptorchick" 27th Dec 2010

Save them for gift's for other people ?

i had this a few years back. She went nuts and started crying. Now i tell her what i want. She told all my family how much of a pig i was. Now my family give me money. I have just returned from town with a nice watch. I got a set of pjs two pillows for work and an xbox game. Things i wanted. She brings it up every year but we have just had our 8th xmas together.

bykergrove

she's cheating on you. classic sign.(only joking, I'd tell her but … she's cheating on you. classic sign.(only joking, I'd tell her but tactfully!)


Ha Ha! I've just pi*sed myself!

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told her....she was really annoying me so I was kind of blunt in response, think shes in a bit of a huff

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roryk83

told her....she was really annoying me so I was kind of blunt in … told her....she was really annoying me so I was kind of blunt in response, think shes in a bit of a huff



What a prat.

roryk83

told her....she was really annoying me so I was kind of blunt in … told her....she was really annoying me so I was kind of blunt in response, think shes in a bit of a huff



i kept all the receipts incase my OH didnt like summit, i would rather he get summit he did like than waste the money and keep quiet

it certainly wouldnt of helped blurting it out in a nasty way - X)
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