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    do i say something at work or keep quiet?

    just wondering what other people would do. my boyfriend and i both work at the same place, as do 2 other couples. the other 2 get almost the same shifts as each other so get time together out of work but me and my boyfriend rarely do. this week i will get to see him for a couple of hours on saturday night and thats it. ive already mentioned to the manager about not seeing him a couple months ago. for a couple weeks after we had a day off together but its started again where we dont. i darent bring it up again as during a seniors meeting last week it was brought up about people complaining they arent seeing their partners and one of the workers said she was sick of hearing it. if the other couples were in the same position i would understand but they arent, so why are me and my bf? it just doesnt seem fair

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    If I were you I'd ask a few random people on the internet...

    You sure yor b/f hasnt arranged it that way?

    would have thought if there are 3 couples working for the same company,and all capable of doing each others jobs then it would be reasonable to expect some kind of rota system to be in place.

    get a new bf

    I dont see why your manager should care, business life and personal life should be separate

    get yourself another bloke for when he is at work

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    g1bbuk;8462618

    You sure yor b/f hasnt arranged it that way?



    lol im sure ;-)

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    numptyj;8462628

    get a new bfI dont see why your manager should care, business life and … get a new bfI dont see why your manager should care, business life and personal life should be separate



    might help if we had chance of a personal life! and i dont want a new bf, i would just like to have some time with this one

    Mine lives 150 miles away,be thankful you see him at all lol

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    I don't think you will get far, her business comes first before the staff and their personal lives providing they are meeting all their legal obligations with hols, time off, etc.

    You can mention it, you have to weigh up the possibility of the benefits vs the negatives, eg, is it more likely to hack your boss off.

    I havnt seen mine for years

















    ooops forgot, I havnt got one :oops:

    Cant hurt to ask can it?

    do shifts together? :lol:

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    boothy;8462682

    Cant hurt to ask can it?



    i have already, while she was fine about it i dont want to seem like a nag. if the other 2 couples didnt get time off too it wouldnt get me down as much, but why give them the same days off and not us?

    The person who said they were "sick of hearing it" isnt single by any chance is she? :?

    donna-lou;8462699

    i have already, while she was fine about it i dont want to seem like a … i have already, while she was fine about it i dont want to seem like a nag. if the other 2 couples didnt get time off too it wouldnt get me down as much, but why give them the same days off and not us?



    Can you not just bang him in the laundry room or something?

    boothy;8462710

    Can you not just bang him in the laundry room or something?



    that was my point :oops:

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    StevenA2000_uk;8462705

    The person who said they were "sick of hearing it" isnt single by any … The person who said they were "sick of hearing it" isnt single by any chance is she? :?



    no shes married, but she gets to see her fella so doesnt know what its like to only see each other for 2 hours once a week :x

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    boothy;8462710

    Can you not just bang him in the laundry room or something?



    haha! tempting, but im far too sensible for that and so is he

    tinkerbell28;8462665

    I don't think you will get far, her business comes first before the staff … I don't think you will get far, her business comes first before the staff and their personal lives providing they are meeting all their legal obligations with hols, time off, etc.You can mention it, you have to weigh up the possibility of the benefits vs the negatives, eg, is it more likely to hack your boss off.



    This pretty much covers it.

    donna-lou;8462721

    no shes married, but she gets to see her fella so doesnt know what its … no shes married, but she gets to see her fella so doesnt know what its like to only see each other for 2 hours once a week :x



    Yep. Tell her is she had any feelings at all then she wouldnt be "sick of hearing it".....the sad bovine that she is...lol

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    StevenA2000_uk;8462776

    Yep. Tell her is she had any feelings at all then she wouldnt be "sick … Yep. Tell her is she had any feelings at all then she wouldnt be "sick of hearing it".....the sad bovine that she is...lol



    the best part is i cant remember complaining to her :x but it cant have been any of the other couples cos they do see each other. shes just a 2 faced witch anyway

    StevenA2000_uk;8462776

    Yep. Tell her if she had any feelings at all then she wouldnt be "sick … Yep. Tell her if she had any feelings at all then she wouldnt be "sick of hearing it".....the sad bovine that she is...lol



    I'm shocked you even know what feelings are

    I'd mention it again if I were you. If neither of you have any intentions on changing your job anytime soon, nothing will change unless you try to make it

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    angelfairee;8462975

    I'm shocked you even know what feelings are :pI'd mention it again if I … I'm shocked you even know what feelings are :pI'd mention it again if I were you. If neither of you have any intentions on changing your job anytime soon, nothing will change unless you try to make it



    ive hinted to one of the seniors tonight, not the one whos sick of me, that if next weeks rota is the same then im going to start hunting for another job. shes friendly with the manager so im hoping she might say something to her? maybe not the best way to go about things i know

    you must have known that you may not get to work the same shifts when you started working there

    I wouild advise caution on this as it could lead to dismassal as most companies have a clause in the contracts that allows they to either relocate or dismiss 1 or other or both of the employees involved in a workplace relationship.

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    wickedteen;8463332

    you must have known that you may not get to work the same shifts when you … you must have known that you may not get to work the same shifts when you started working there



    we got to know each other through work, i didnt know him beforehand

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    sy278;8463353

    I wouild advise caution on this as it could lead to dismassal as most … I wouild advise caution on this as it could lead to dismassal as most companies have a clause in the contracts that allows they to either relocate or dismiss 1 or other or both of the employees involved in a workplace relationship.



    surely that would be unfair dismissal? discrimination? breach of human rights?

    besides they wouldnt go that far. the manager would just do her usual trick of not talking to you for weeks when shes annoyed

    donna-lou;8463370

    we got to know each other through work, i didnt know him beforehand



    so you knew the situtation you where getting into, lots of companies dont like couples working together

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    wickedteen;8463394

    so you knew the situtation you where getting into, lots of companies dont … so you knew the situtation you where getting into, lots of companies dont like couples working together



    we seemed to work similar shifts before we got together. our company doesnt mind as long as it doesnt affect your work. when we are on shift together we work seperate floors too which i dont mind at all

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    donna-lou;8463387

    surely that would be unfair dismissal? discrimination? breach of human … surely that would be unfair dismissal? discrimination? breach of human rights?besides they wouldnt go that far. the manager would just do her usual trick of not talking to you for weeks when shes annoyed



    Why? what part of the human rights, if it starts causing conflict at work they have every right to relocate you or ask you to leave, if they follow the correct disciplinary procedure.

    donna-lou;8463427

    we seemed to work similar shifts before we got together. our company … we seemed to work similar shifts before we got together. our company doesnt mind as long as it doesnt affect your work. when we are on shift together we work seperate floors too which i dont mind at all



    That's the key issue it will be affecting your work the minute you expect them to work the shifts around your personal relationship and it starts causing bad feelings as you feel other couples are getting better treatment.

    Tread carefully.

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    donna-lou;8463427

    we seemed to work similar shifts before we got together. our company … we seemed to work similar shifts before we got together. our company doesnt mind as long as it doesnt affect your work. when we are on shift together we work seperate floors too which i dont mind at all



    I met my wife at tesco, she worked check outs I worked the shelves :oops:

    Our relationship went from a little

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    into a beautiful

    http://eccstyle.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/purple_lotus_flower.jpg

    She went to university for 4 years, over 100 miles away 2+hr drive. In her final year she went to France, over 1000 miles away she came back and then we married. You have to fight for what you really want, god knows I did.

    donna-lou;8463033

    ive hinted to one of the seniors tonight, not the one whos sick of me, … ive hinted to one of the seniors tonight, not the one whos sick of me, that if next weeks rota is the same then im going to start hunting for another job. shes friendly with the manager so im hoping she might say something to her? maybe not the best way to go about things i know



    That's probably a good way to annoy her.

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    lumoruk;8463525

    I met my wife at tesco, she worked check outs I worked the shelves … I met my wife at tesco, she worked check outs I worked the shelves :oops:Our relationship went from a little into a beautiful She went to university for 4 years, over 100 miles away 2+hr drive. In her final year she went to France, over 1000 miles away she came back and then we married. You have to fight for what you really want, god knows I did.



    how lovely hope yous get to see more of each other now

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    donna-lou;8463604

    how lovely hope yous get to see more of each other now



    She cries sometimes begging me to come off night shifts but it would be financial suicide ;-)

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    lumoruk;8463616

    She cries sometimes begging me to come off night shifts but it would be … She cries sometimes begging me to come off night shifts but it would be financial suicide ;-)



    we dont get any extra for nights :x if we did i would permanantly work them lol

    doubt you'll ever get holiday dates off together either :cry:

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    loupomm;8463662

    doubt you'll ever get holiday dates off together either :cry:



    we would if we put them in before anyone else. my work isnt that cruel lol. one of the couples is married and they have all their hols together

    donna-lou;8463677

    we would if we put them in before anyone else. my work isnt that cruel … we would if we put them in before anyone else. my work isnt that cruel lol. one of the couples is married and they have all their hols together



    ahhh your lucky...we are not allowed to have holiday dates the same as anyone else.....obv that would depend on the amount of staff :oops:

    Used to work with the missus when she was my g/f years ago never again so many complications like your having op would suggest you or the b/f get a different job.

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    loupomm;8463692

    ahhh your lucky...we are not allowed to have holiday dates the same as … ahhh your lucky...we are not allowed to have holiday dates the same as anyone else.....obv that would depend on the amount of staff :oops:



    i think we are allowed 3 people on holiday each week. i already have my hols in for this year which arent any he wants but im ok with that as we arent planning on going away or anything
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