Entitlement or plain ignorance

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Posted 1st Dec
The good old story: you left your car in a parking lot and then when you come back you find a new scratch on it.
Yesterday I finally caught a trash. I was at Tesco in my car checking my emails when suddenly my car started shacking. When I checked my outside mirror I could see a "person" (50-60 years old) trying to fit a large TV in his new Kia sportage through his side doors (not the hatchback door). So, he was going around his car wondering why his tv is not fitting then opening his rear door and slamming against my car rear door. I got out and as his door was resting on my car I pushed the door back ...and surprisingly the tv got automatically in the car and his door was finally closed.

The result of his stupidity, more than 1cm scratch on my rear door. It is not a big deal, but his attitude of repeated ignorance really ***** me off. To scare him I asked for compensation and his insurance; he stated that he wasn't having his insurance with himself, but he will send these details via email; 24 hours later no message from him. I have a Customer Vehicle Damage Report from Tesco ...just to have a trace of the incident.

I understand a mistake, but sometimes some "people" think they are alone in the Universe. Similar with mothers and their stupid kids slamming the doors in others' people parked cars. Are you one of them ? ...shame on you; it's time to change your attitude ...who I'm kidding; you can make a fart to smell like roses.
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Full sympathy. I spend a lot of time polishing my car and the sheer disregard some people show is bleeding annoying.
"think they are alone in the Universe"

Like the ones who have a long life chat in the supermarket blocking everyone, and call you rude for trying to get pass like you disturbed their conversation. They think they own the place.

That is not a mistake they just couldn't care less, if they did they would have moved their car out of the space where they can gain easier access.

Most of them couldn't care less and their attitude will be it's a little scratch or dent, get over it.
Definitely entitlement. A lot of people complain about the yoof of today but a lot of them put the older generation to shame.
Same thing happened to me a few months back when a woman of about 70 scratched my car when she was getting into hers. Completely denied it even though I had been sitting in the car and watched her do it.
If the shoe was on the other foot you can be guaranteed she would've been like a rabid dog.
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I don't have any sympathy for you.
Full sympathy. I spend a lot of time polishing my car and the sheer disregard some people show is bleeding annoying.
Definitely entitlement. A lot of people complain about the yoof of today but a lot of them put the older generation to shame.
Same thing happened to me a few months back when a woman of about 70 scratched my car when she was getting into hers. Completely denied it even though I had been sitting in the car and watched her do it.
If the shoe was on the other foot you can be guaranteed she would've been like a rabid dog.
"think they are alone in the Universe"

Like the ones who have a long life chat in the supermarket blocking everyone, and call you rude for trying to get pass like you disturbed their conversation. They think they own the place.

That is not a mistake they just couldn't care less, if they did they would have moved their car out of the space where they can gain easier access.

Most of them couldn't care less and their attitude will be it's a little scratch or dent, get over it.
I remember years ago someone in a nice car reversed into my old ford escort and the fella got out apologised and said to me that my car was really old so I should be able to get the new bumper (tiny crack) and headlight from a scrap yard and fix it myself and he’ll give me money back. For his cheek I went to ford and got a £700 estimate for the work and made him pay that, I then replaced the parts second hand and got my car fully fixed, new tyres along with mot and serviced all paid by him. (He gave cheque payable to garage so had to get the £700 worth of work done)

If I was you since he’s playing games I’d call his insurance and start a claim against him, go direct to his so it won’t effect you at all. Also get a quote and when he calls after his insurance get in touch with him then offer to settle for the cost of the estimate you get.
Plain ignorance for me, and I would throw in disregard (lack of respect) for other people and their property; this I am afraid is all about attitude to others and really it shouldn’t be anything other than an apology and offer to put the damage right...
He is old... Could he have forgotten about it all and that's why he hasn't been in touch with you?
Edited by: "davewave" 1st Dec
This kind of thing, and good on the train conductor
Edited by: "OllieSt" 1st Dec
Please don’t assume that all mothers allow their kids to do this. My kids have been taught from a very young age to be careful getting out the car, most of the time I hold the door open for them.
That's why I rarely park by anyone if I can help it, the further away the better.. Yet even if I parked on the moon I reckon someone would rock up next to me sometimes (although that's the nature of a car park tbf).

Park taking up two to avoid it and you'll end up put on Spotted / Facebook for your bad parking aswell..

I parked in a hospital car park, saw an old guy in an open top Merc drive in as slow as.. I carried on with my emails.. looked up to see his car reversing slowly towards mine.. assumed he was just being careful, then I felt my car move..
Got out and walked around and he was still scraping his wheel/car down the side of mine. Despite yelling, waving my arms etc he carried on.. watching it was torture!
He sat there, turned off the engine, asked "what's up with you?" - I'd lost count of the amount of times I'd told him he'd driven into my car.. I stood there some more whilst he put up the roof.. he finally got out, looked all confused, walked around the back and saw what he'd done, hurriedly got back in, moved his car, got back out again and told me I'd done it, I'd moved my car, Id bumped into him, allsorts.. he carried on arguing, then smugly leaned in and said "nobody saw me do it though, did they?"

Other than the dash cam, and me with my camera phone, maybe not..


You had my sympathy, but then lost me @ 'Similar with mothers and their stupid kids..'

Most mum's use the mother and baby spots, then likely go on to use spaces big enough to get their older kids out.. I did anyway. To this day I still open my lads door if we're close to another car, that way it's my hand getting squashed not our door scratching someone else's property.
It's never been kids, always the adults.. in my experience anyway.
It's the shacking I'm worried about
OllieSt01/12/2019 22:39

This kind of thing, and good on the train conductor



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jimmy_the_fridge01/12/2019 18:38

Definitely entitlement. A lot of people complain about the yoof of today …Definitely entitlement. A lot of people complain about the yoof of today but a lot of them put the older generation to shame.Same thing happened to me a few months back when a woman of about 70 scratched my car when she was getting into hers. Completely denied it even though I had been sitting in the car and watched her do it.If the shoe was on the other foot you can be guaranteed she would've been like a rabid dog.


Couldn’t agree more.
It's a worry parking in car parks, I only park if the supermarket has an empty area far away from the shop and trolleys. My 4C has a tri coat paint so any damage and it's a respray maybe 3 or 4 grand to put right. You can't just touch up. Lucky the 4C is flexible as it's composite material so dings are rare but scratches aren't. People are ignorant and don't care about other people's pride and joy.
davewave01/12/2019 20:24

He is old... Could he have forgotten about it all and that's why he hasn't …He is old... Could he have forgotten about it all and that's why he hasn't been in touch with you?


Old? forgetful at 50-60, how old are you Dave?

I just laughed at the 'compensation' bit - did you take his registration number, name, address?, granted he can give a false name but can be tracked through the registration.

Agree that some people have no regard for other peoples property, he can't have that much regard for his own doing what he was doing.
airfix02/12/2019 12:25

It's a worry parking in car parks, I only park if the supermarket has an …It's a worry parking in car parks, I only park if the supermarket has an empty area far away from the shop and trolleys. My 4C has a tri coat paint so any damage and it's a respray maybe 3 or 4 grand to put right. You can't just touch up. Lucky the 4C is flexible as it's composite material so dings are rare but scratches aren't. People are ignorant and don't care about other people's pride and joy.


Ever come back to your car with an empty ish car park and there's people parked either side of your car? believe me, it happens
Earlier in the year I backed into someones car, the majority of the damage was to my own car (completely smashed my rear wing as it was fiberglass - but I had a couple of steel replacements I was planning to replace them with anyway as I wasn't a fan of the fiberglass ones) with a small scuff to the bumper of the other car that I doubt the owner would have even noticed. No witnesses and no CCTV so I could have just left but dd I? Hell no I did the right thing and left a note with my number and address, it turned out to be a lovely old gent who was a Vicar attending a conference at the local church hall, by the time he had called me I had already informed my insurance company, I was paid out within a week after they sent an assessor to view my cars damage, and his was paid out and fixed quickly too, for his they had it done at a garage for mine they just paid me £300 cash quite oddly but it worked out for me a it paid for other jobs I wanted to do anyway. I actually came out of it well seeing as I already had the wings and the premium increase looks to be about £40 due to my claim.
maccy1i02/12/2019 12:52

Ever come back to your car with an empty ish car park and there's people …Ever come back to your car with an empty ish car park and there's people parked either side of your car? believe me, it happens


So far in my 4C, no , thankfully, if that happened I wouldn't be able to open the door to get in, haha, it opens very wide, only way then is to lean in and take of the handbrake and push the car out
maccy1i02/12/2019 12:51

Old? forgetful at 50-60, how old are you Dave? I just laughed at …Old? forgetful at 50-60, how old are you Dave? I just laughed at the 'compensation' bit - did you take his registration number, name, address?, granted he can give a false name but can be tracked through the registration.Agree that some people have no regard for other peoples property, he can't have that much regard for his own doing what he was doing.


Ha ha, sorry my mistake, maybe he is too young to be so forgetful.
BargainLovingMum01/12/2019 23:43

Please don’t assume that all mothers allow their kids to do this. My kids h …Please don’t assume that all mothers allow their kids to do this. My kids have been taught from a very young age to be careful getting out the car, most of the time I hold the door open for them.


That's perfect; it was your obligation and probably you've done a good job.
Nikki99902/12/2019 00:05

You had my sympathy, but then lost me @ 'Similar with mothers and their …You had my sympathy, but then lost me @ 'Similar with mothers and their stupid kids..'Most mum's use the mother and baby spots, then likely go on to use spaces big enough to get their older kids out.. I did anyway. To this day I still open my lads door if we're close to another car, that way it's my hand getting squashed not our door scratching someone else's property.It's never been kids, always the adults.. in my experience anyway.


There is always one who is going to feel offended. That's ok, seriously. No problemo !
maccy1i02/12/2019 12:51

Old? forgetful at 50-60, how old are you Dave? I just laughed at …Old? forgetful at 50-60, how old are you Dave? I just laughed at the 'compensation' bit - did you take his registration number, name, address?, granted he can give a false name but can be tracked through the registration.Agree that some people have no regard for other peoples property, he can't have that much regard for his own doing what he was doing.


He gave my some phone number and a name. I have pictures (and video) with his car and himself. It's not a big deal, but
We'll meet again, Don't know where, don't know when, But I know we'll meet again Some sunny day....

maccy1i02/12/2019 12:52

Ever come back to your car with an empty ish car park and there's people …Ever come back to your car with an empty ish car park and there's people parked either side of your car? believe me, it happens


It makes me think about this:
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If some people cannot hold their doors, why they don't buy some door guards ?
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