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    Ok my partner's nan passed away this week and we've been told the funeral won't be till May so got a couple weeks yet. I'm unsure what to do about flowers,only been to a funeral for a baby and we bought an open teddy ornament with flower arrangment in and I'm sure we took them to the church on day,oh I not sure now what happened.

    Anyway what do we do,also we don't want anything on big scale,is it the case that you order what you want and they deliver to the church? Could I order online and get something delivered to a church,would there be any mix-ups,just no idea about this kind of thing.

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    Original Poster

    If can be done online,suggestions what kind of thing to buy be helpful.

    Find out who the Funeral Directors are and have them sent there.

    sorry to hear about your oh's nan :-(
    when my hubby's grandad died flowers were delivered to his nan's house & taken in the hurse with him to the crematorium.
    or i think you can get them sent to the funeral parlour to go in the hurse

    Could you give the funeral directors a call and ask them? Im sure they wont mind, most people dont know what to do in these situations.

    check with the funeral directors thats part of their role,also sometimes families ask for donations to hospice and suchlike rather than flowers

    Original Poster

    cheerleader;4954843

    sorry to hear about your oh's nan :-(when my hubby's grandad died flowers … sorry to hear about your oh's nan :-(when my hubby's grandad died flowers were delivered to his nan's house & taken in the hurse with him to the crematorium.or i think you can get them sent to the funeral parlour to go in the hurse



    She was in nursing home until she fell ill with this so probably be sent to parlour then.
    She was in QEQM,her brain kind of switched off a few days ago and she went into coma but the rest of her organs been gradually shutting down,she was nearly 87.

    Original Poster

    Yes as few of you suggested I need get them delivered to the parlour,at moment I don't know where that is or anything,we just found out earlier that she passed completely yesterday,although been expecting it for a few days now.
    I'll need call up my partner's mum and get some info then but will give her a little while before we bring it up again.

    I normally just buy flowers and take with me...but as its your oh nan (sorry to hear that btw) call the funeral directors (assuming you know who they are)

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    bargainhunter2009;4954969

    I normally just buy flowers and take with me...but as its your oh nan … I normally just buy flowers and take with me...but as its your oh nan (sorry to hear that btw) call the funeral directors (assuming you know who they are)



    Yeh,it doesn't seem right to take them along with us,I'm not even sure what kind of thing to get.

    Mum2Connor&Cerys;4955016

    Yeh,it doesn't seem right to take them along with us,I'm not even sure … Yeh,it doesn't seem right to take them along with us,I'm not even sure what kind of thing to get.



    yeh totally understand. How about a wreath? flowersdirect.co.uk/flo…tml or interflora.co.uk/cat…2=0 - some nice ones on interflora. Have a look on a few websites see what you like, you can order online then speak to funeral directors

    buy a small tree and plant it in memory, that way the thought wont end up on a compost heap..

    when my nan died I called around the florists local to the funeral directors to ask what they could do for my budget. They differed widely in price and I ended up being able to choose the flowers I liked and they were delivered there. Its def worth phoning about, some wanted a lot more than others. I got a lovely spray which included sun flowers and everyone commented on how lovely they were and nicer then a wreaf (and they only cost £20).

    Original Poster

    bargainhunter2009;4955118

    yeh totally understand. How about a wreath? … yeh totally understand. How about a wreath? http://www.flowersdirect.co.uk/flowers/send-funeral-flowers-uk/fn.html or http://www.interflora.co.uk/catalog/category.xml?category_id=7;pcid1=0;pcid2=0 - some nice ones on interflora. Have a look on a few websites see what you like, you can order online then speak to funeral directors



    They quite reasonable,yes I need find out who dealing with it and what their arrangements are to receive something online and have delivered.

    Original Poster

    ray magini;4955138

    buy a small tree and plant it in memory, that way the thought wont end up … buy a small tree and plant it in memory, that way the thought wont end up on a compost heap..



    It's a good idea but I think it flowers it be best,I personally don't like flowers and noone ever bought me any for V'Day etc...but like I think she wanted flowers and I think my partner's Mum would like for us to buy flowers as she pleased with getting flowers for b'days,Mothers Day etc.
    My partner just leaving it for me to dea and said sort flowers out, so thats why I'm asking here for ideas as no idea about it all.

    Original Poster

    owens101;4955332

    when my nan died I called around the florists local to the funeral … when my nan died I called around the florists local to the funeral directors to ask what they could do for my budget. They differed widely in price and I ended up being able to choose the flowers I liked and they were delivered there. Its def worth phoning about, some wanted a lot more than others. I got a lovely spray which included sun flowers and everyone commented on how lovely they were and nicer then a wreaf (and they only cost £20).



    £20 is good price! I can probably stretch to a bit more if needed. Don't want to spend a rideculous amount as I'm personally not too keen for flowers but it ain't my funeral!

    Definitely check with the funeral directors, they will know where the funeral is going from and where to, and also whether its family flowers only.

    We have recently buried my grandad and we asked for donations to the hospice he has been going to once a week instead of flowers. The funeral went from our house because he was in a one roomed flat so it wouldnt of been able to go from there.

    I have been to others where we have had the flowers delivered to the place that the body is going from, that way they can be put in the car with the coffin

    So sorry to hear about your OH's nan.

    I looked after my husbands nan before she died. She was increasingly confused and fell down a lot, but the children continued to benefit from her and her little rhymes and songs for them right up until she passed on. When she became distressed with not being able to remember things, she always responded really well to a good roast meal with all the veggies etc...

    Me and the kids still miss her.

    I always buy a spray of white roses for a funeral... don't like things to look too ostentatious or celebratory... just something beautiful and classic. Why not pop along to your local florists and see what flowers they have available closer to the day? It will probably be cheaper that way and heaps more personal....

    I hope the funeral goes smoothly for you all x x x

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    kelly_o_fanatic;4955431

    Definitely check with the funeral directors, they will know where the … Definitely check with the funeral directors, they will know where the funeral is going from and where to, and also whether its family flowers only.We have recently buried my grandad and we asked for donations to the hospice he has been going to once a week instead of flowers. The funeral went from our house because he was in a one roomed flat so it wouldnt of been able to go from there.I have been to others where we have had the flowers delivered to the place that the body is going from, that way they can be put in the car with the coffin



    Yeh I will leave it till next week and find out from there,I'm not sure if they bring her into house 1st or what,I never thought of that... I don't know much about funerals at all.

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    ClarityofMind;4955537

    So sorry to hear about your OH's nan. I looked after my husbands nan … So sorry to hear about your OH's nan. I looked after my husbands nan before she died. She was increasingly confused and fell down a lot, but the children continued to benefit from her and her little rhymes and songs for them right up until she passed on. When she became distressed with not being able to remember things, she always responded really well to a good roast meal with all the veggies etc... Me and the kids still miss her. I always buy a spray of white roses for a funeral... don't like things to look too ostentatious or celebratory... just something beautiful and classic. Why not pop along to your local florists and see what flowers they have available closer to the day? It will probably be cheaper that way and heaps more personal....I hope the funeral goes smoothly for you all x x x




    Yeh it's a sad time.I ain't got a clue what to do or say about any of it,we told our kids,had to,when he come off phone,daughter who don't miss a thing was saying about it,she picks up on way too much. We'll need to explain more on the day.
    I no family here with me apart from my parents and not been back up North since I was a child as my parents had a falling out with family and they only recently got on speaking terms with some of them,so I know nothing of arranging anything.

    Mum2Connor&Cerys;4955640

    Yeh I will leave it till next week and find out from there,I'm not sure … Yeh I will leave it till next week and find out from there,I'm not sure if they bring her into house 1st or what,I never thought of that... I don't know much about funerals at all.



    that all depends on what the family have chosen x x

    Mum2Connor&Cerys;4955693

    Yeh it's a sad time.I ain't got a clue what to do or say about any of … Yeh it's a sad time.I ain't got a clue what to do or say about any of it,we told our kids,had to,when he come off phone,daughter who don't miss a thing was saying about it,she picks up on way too much. We'll need to explain more on the day.I no family here with me apart from my parents and not been back up North since I was a child as my parents had a falling out with family and they only recently got on speaking terms with some of them,so I know nothing of arranging anything.



    How old are your kiddies?

    It's worse for them if its kept from them.. even the very young can be quick to understand. How you deal with it very much depends on your own feelings on the matter. You could have them paint pictures of nanny in heaven... that kind of thing, if you don't feel that would be apropriate just encourage them to express their feelings in whatever way would suit them.

    In my experience children are somewhat protected from bereavement by their youth.. its almost like a barrier in a way, helps them not feel loss as sorely as we do.

    It was harder for my adolescent daughter than my younger or elder child as she was just at the age when she was becoming so much more aware of so many other things.

    Don't feel shy to say to other members of the family.. " This much be such a hard day for you. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you" So many people appreciate that kind of sentiment after a loss of any form and it is so much better than just not knowing what to say or being scared of saying the wrong thing and so ending up saying "nothing".

    The people who helped me most through my bereavements did so just by sitting with me and crying with me... just by being there.

    You'll all be just fine sweetie x x x

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    ClarityofMind;4955762

    How old are your kiddies?It's worse for them if its kept from them.. even … How old are your kiddies?It's worse for them if its kept from them.. even the very young can be quick to understand. How you deal with it very much depends on your own feelings on the matter. You could have them paint pictures of nanny in heaven... that kind of thing, if you don't feel that would be apropriate just encourage them to express their feelings in whatever way would suit them.In my experience children are somewhat protected from bereavement by their youth.. its almost like a barrier in a way, helps them not feel loss as sorely as we do. It was harder for my adolescent daughter than my younger or elder child as she was just at the age when she was becoming so much more aware of so many other things. Don't feel shy to say to other members of the family.. " This much be such a hard day for you. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you" So many people appreciate that kind of sentiment after a loss of any form and it is so much better than just not knowing what to say or being scared of saying the wrong thing and so ending up saying "nothing". The people who helped me most through my bereavements did so just by sitting with me and crying with me... just by being there. You'll all be just fine sweetie x x x



    8 & 6

    I don't usually keep much from them cos they hear discussions anyway and ask,Cerys although youngest,does ask more than Connor does,she don't miss a thing,and always catches on with the littlest said.

    Mum2Connor&Cerys;4955923

    8 & 6 I don't usually keep much from them cos they hear discussions … 8 & 6 I don't usually keep much from them cos they hear discussions anyway and ask,Cerys although youngest,does ask more than Connor does,she don't miss a thing,and always catches on with the littlest said.



    Girls are always so fast to judge how mummy is feeling too..

    my eldest's name is "Karis" very close to your Cerys You have a lovely choice of kiddies names lol Mine is ultra fast to empathise with people's feelings also... maybe there's something in the name!

    Will you allow them to attend the funeral?

    Original Poster

    ClarityofMind;4955978

    Girls are always so fast to judge how mummy is feeling too.. my eldest's … Girls are always so fast to judge how mummy is feeling too.. my eldest's name is "Karis" very close to your Cerys You have a lovely choice of kiddies names lol Mine is ultra fast to empathise with people's feelings also... maybe there's something in the name! :)Will you allow them to attend the funeral?




    Yeh I don't mind if they go,their Dad said he wanted them to attend.
    Well Connor autistic and he doesn't ask that much about things,he have some questions on the day afterwards likely,but Cerys be the one who asking me the most. She asked me other day when we waiting in ante-natal if I'd be sad if the baby died. I was shocked by it,her Dad said she just asking.I'm currently pregnant with #3.

    Mum2Connor&Cerys;4956124

    Yeh I don't mind if they go,their Dad said he wanted them to attend.Well … Yeh I don't mind if they go,their Dad said he wanted them to attend.Well Connor autistic and he doesn't ask that much about things,he have some questions on the day afterwards likely,but Cerys be the one who asking me the most. She asked me other day when we waiting in ante-natal if I'd be sad if the baby died. I was shocked by it,her Dad said she just asking.I'm currently pregnant with #3.



    She's very close to you obviously. Just answer her questions openly and with respect to her age. She is obviously thinking about death and the effects it can have on the people she loves so she's a very clever and sympathetic little girl. She probably is used to thinking of Connors needs too.

    Original Poster

    ClarityofMind;4956193

    She's very close to you obviously. Just answer her questions openly and … She's very close to you obviously. Just answer her questions openly and with respect to her age. She is obviously thinking about death and the effects it can have on the people she loves so she's a very clever and sympathetic little girl. She probably is used to thinking of Connors needs too.



    Yeh she is pretty caring,oh she's daddy's girl for sure,she more for him than me.
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