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    for crying out loud GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

    went out and left my 2 lads at home,one 16 and one 14,14 year old went out to play footy,16 year old stayed in,got home earlier than expected,he obviously didnt hear me come through the door and i found him with the home phone in his room in the middle of a conversation,snatched the phone off him and turns out he has been on the phone to his mates mobile for an hour and 2 minutes!!

    I am ruddy fuming to say the least,am i mean or would you make him pay for the call? I'm waiting for an itemised breakdown and have spoken to virgin and had all calls barred for the time being.
    I dont think this is the first time either as last months phone bill alone was £70+ but I didnt think to check it closely

    I think he should pay and hopefully learn a lesson,he has a mobile and i have never allowed him to use the landline without asking first,he has a saturday job (works approx 1 and a half hours) and earns £25+ what would you do?,my mate thinks I'm mean making him pay for the call/s but I think it would teach him a lesson

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    There are far worse things you could of caught him doing.....



    Make him pay, whether with money or chores etc up to you but teach him a lesson

    I'd make him pay, hopefully it will make him think in the future.

    Banned

    if your son is aware of the fact you dont allow him to use the phone in tis manner then he should pay for the calls

    make the little sod pay, and if he doesnt when he tops up his mobile, (if its a pay as you go) use all his credit up!

    He's 16 now..........time to learn some responsability. Make him pay. :thumbsup:

    I had the same incident with my eldest, I cant remember the exact figure but it was a significant amount, he too had a part time job and YES we made him pay for the call. he learn his lesson and it never happened again.
    They have to take responsibility for their actions, Im with you all the way hun!

    Banned

    make him pay!! my parents always made us pay when we did stupid things like that - my sister got billed £45 by my parents one time!!

    Original Poster

    its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile

    make him pay half cash and half in chores,- hit him in the pocket- it will hurt the most! But by making him payback in chores you aint being too cruel ( I reckon anyway!) Teenage boys haven't got a brain when it comes to other peoples cash , but they mind BIG TIME when its their own:-D Good luck:thumbsup:

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    nono2522;2869890

    make the little sod pay, and if he doesnt when he tops up his mobile, (if … make the little sod pay, and if he doesnt when he tops up his mobile, (if its a pay as you go) use all his credit up!

    oh now he wouldnt like that lol

    Just get a pin number put on the landline - it wont allow any outgoing calls without it except emergency calls

    Mardyass;2869905

    its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him … its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile




    I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:

    Mardyass;2869905

    its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him … its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile



    stick with it hun, my eldest is now 19 and has his own place. Last time we went out, just the two of us, he told me how much he appreciated the way we bought him up and how it has made him a better person today.........its so rewarding to hear that from him as he was always moaning about how strict we were with him compared to his mates parents. :-D

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    Mardyass;2869905

    its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him … its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile



    One day he will have his own children, sadly with some kids it takes that to happen before they realise what a good parent is ;-)

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    ChrisUK;2869917

    Just get a pin number put on the landline - it wont allow any outgoing … Just get a pin number put on the landline - it wont allow any outgoing calls without it except emergency calls

    thats what ive done,they said it will take 24 hours to activate tho,then its emergency calls only unless you know the pin code

    You can work out what it should cost from their prices here:
    allyours.virginmedia.com/pdf…n08

    For most networks its 15p per minute but to 3 it seems it is 27p per minute (plus vat) so it will either have cost just under £11 or almost £20 - definitely make him pay!!!

    Original Poster

    were off on holiday next week and because of his age he had to go as an "adult" ........oh thought he marvellous......he now reckons that as he is classed as an "adult" he can use the all inclusive to his advantage and drink as much alcohol as he wants,over my dead body,I've already peed on his fireworks and told him I will make sure the hotel give him a CHILDS wristband lolol

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    jah128;2869952

    You can work out what it should cost from their prices … You can work out what it should cost from their prices here:http://allyours.virginmedia.com/pdf/uk_non-geographical_calls_a.pdf?jun08For most networks its 15p per minute but to 3 it seems it is 27p per minute (plus vat) so it will either have cost just under £11 or almost £20 - definitely make him pay!!!

    Thanks so much for that

    I would say he has to learn the cost of things, so make him pay. But you could do yourself a favour and start making a log book of all the additional or excessive costs he's put you to and present him with it at Christmas or his Birthday. Makes me think of that song, going way back, when a Mother writes to her son and says something along the lines of ... sorry had to google ...
    Now our little boy came up to his mom
    In the kitchen this evenin' while she was fixin' supper
    And he handed her a piece of paper he'd been writin' on
    And after wipin' her hands on her apron
    She read it, and this is what it said.

    For mowin' the lawn, five dollars
    For makin' my own bed this week, one dollar
    And for goin' to the store, fifty cents
    An' playin' with little brother while you went shoppin', twenty-five cents.

    Takin' out the trash, one dollar
    Gettin' a good report card, five dollars
    And for rakin' the yard, two dollars
    Total owed, fourteen seventy-five.

    Well, as mom looked at him standin' there expectantly
    And I could see the mem'ries flashing through her mind
    And so she picked up the pen, and turnin' the paper over
    This is what she wrote.

    For the nine months I carried you growin' inside me, no charge
    For the nights I've sat up with you
    Doctored you, and prayed for you, no charge
    For the time and the tears
    That you've cost through the years, there's no charge
    And when you add it all up
    The full cost of my love is no charge.

    For the nights filled with dread
    And all the worries ahead, no charge
    For advice and the knowledge
    And the cost of your college, no charge
    For the toys, food and clothes and even for wipin' your nose
    There's no charge, son
    And when you add it all up
    The full cost of my love is, no charge.

    Well, when he finished readin'
    He had great big old tears in his eyes
    And he looked up at her standing there and said
    Mama, I sure do love you
    Then he took the pen,
    And in great big letters
    He wrote PAID IN FULL.

    Lord knows when you add it all up
    The cost of real love is, no charge...

    definity pay for all his socails calls.

    my parents were overjoyed when bt introduced itemised billing. i could go on the phone for as long as i wanted so long as i paid.

    your lad has to learn the value of money.

    Syzable;2869920

    I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. … I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:



    thats a pretty moronic statement in itself.

    Mardyass;2869959

    Thanks so much for that



    You sound like a sensible parent, pity there are not more like you.:thumbsup:

    ODB_69;2869878

    There are far worse things you could of caught him doing.....Make him … There are far worse things you could of caught him doing.....Make him pay, whether with money or chores etc up to you but teach him a lesson



    Def make him pay!

    but much like ODB said, at that age I was doing much worse and my parents were just glad it wasnt a 097 number, or whatever they are these days.

    ( I always paid the price, in more ways than one on the odd occasion.)

    But you need to learn responsibility so it should be taught and encouraged.

    hey they need to learn, i am making my little lad pay for his own toothbrush cause he thought it was funny to chew it, he is not quite yet five but its never too early for them to learn about looking after your money

    I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.

    (BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)

    cannyscot;2870159

    I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at … I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.(BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)



    The digs idea is genius, making him pay for his own hol/christmas. I would still get him to pay the phone bill as well though. I worked since 14 moved out at 17. you need to pay your way. You're helping him. I know so many spoilt folk that dont have a clue about the value of money.

    Syzable;2869920

    I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. … I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:



    If drinking is seen as a 'big thing' to someone that age, they will want to do it more. It's always the same.

    why let him get away with simply paying you ... introduce his rear end to a cane ... thatll teach him a lesson.

    :thinking: Never known a male species to talk for that long on a phone....thought it was just females.

    I can talk for hours, not to mobiles though

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    cannyscot;2870159

    I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at … I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.(BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)

    his football coach owns a business and he works for him on a saturday morning,its a parcel company and all he has to do is load packages into the correct trolleys for their postcode area,think I need a job there too lol sometimes he only spends 30 mins sorting the parcels and he still gets paid £25

    He obviously knows what he has done was sneaky beaky - which is why he wiated for you to be out before makinbg the calls - check your previous bill - it could be that he made calls before and because nothing was said expected the same result again - if he made calls on that occasion you have already paid for the calls so on this new occurance make him pay for his calls - He wont like it and will show it verbally and behaviourally but it will or should stop the problem from recurring - though from the sound of things you have a bigger problem with him than unauthorised phone calls.

    i'd make him pay if it were my sons. and if you do get a pin on your phone, make sure if you dial any number after putting it in as my mum used to have a pin on her phone and she had a phone that displayed the numbers on the screen and i pressed redial and found the pin out. (the things you do when you're young lol)

    MAKE HIM PAY!!!!

    He might not like it now, but in the future he will thank you! When starts work etc... he will know discipline and it will help him immensely.

    remember running up my mums phone bill £180 many many years ago
    she made me pay £150 and still takes great pleasure in reminding me about when i moan
    about my daughter using the phone.make him pay

    yup pretty unanamous about making him pay lol

    Mum always made us pay our phone bills. Used to dread the postman comng whne I know it was phone bill time
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