Help with problem on Facebook

I have reported this issue to Facebook directly 2 days ago but as yet had no response. My granddaughter has been given an account by her mother, who I don't really get on with so can't deal with her personally.
Problem is that GD is 8 years old. Even put a picture on there. I know the minimum age for an account is 13 but there is no report subject that covers this event. I used 'fake profile'.

My question is where do I go next if Facebook won't / don't remove her from the site?

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I'm sorry but... Mums have responsibility for their kids actions right?

Doubt your daughter will appreciate your input if you don't get along....

and with the best will in the world... it wont end well xx

If you know your GD is on facebook, join up and protect her........ behind the scenes as it were...

Would be a better way to approach the situation methinks xx

And before you say anything... I'm sure you have your reasons and I'm sure you mean well, I can understand where you're coming from.... just suggesting a better way to approach this xx

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please dont give out her link to anyone on here, report it again, she is 8 yrs old and shouldnt have an account, but even if remnoved no doubt the mother will get her another one as she already obviously put a fake dob in im not really sure there is anything fb can do really

Lots of adults have made profiles for there children. i can understand your concern however maybe your daughter blocked her applications except for the games?
Maybe she cannot be added as a friend etc? You see where im coming from. There are privacy settings your daughter took before allowing your GC on facebook.

Personally i dont agree with the pic thing, i wouldnt do that. However your GD wont thank you if she finds out you may be the one who reported her and stopped her from playing her fav game...
You catch my drift? I do understand what your saying and respect you for showing concern for her well being, however I would suggest talking to your daughter - clarify if she has privacy settings as maximum.

ClarityofMind;6450252

I'm sorry but... Mums have responsibility for their kids actions … I'm sorry but... Mums have responsibility for their kids actions right?Doubt your daughter will appreciate your input if you don't get along....and with the best will in the world... it wont end well xxIf you know your GD is on facebook, join up and protect her........ behind the scenes as it were...Would be a better way to approach the situation methinks xxAnd before you say anything... I'm sure you have your reasons and I'm sure you mean well, I can understand where you're coming from.... just suggesting a better way to approach this xx



spot on!

Can't facebook be harmless (as much as it can on the net) even to an 8 yo, if monitored by her mum properly?

I don't think she should have one but if her mum is policing it correctly then maybe there are far worse things she could be doing.

As above though intefering is only going to end one way.

I'm afraid you either need to let it go or speak to her mum and educate her about facebook.

greg_68;6450298

Can't facebook be harmless (as much as it can on the net) even to an 8 … Can't facebook be harmless (as much as it can on the net) even to an 8 yo, if monitored by her mum properly?



My kids certainly use it...Though they're teens and our rules are to use fake names, fake contact info, etc with anyone that they didn't primarily know in real life.

I know as a Mum how passionately angry I'd be if my mother or my mother-in-law dared to voice how she felt about my parenting abilities whether they agreed with them or not...

not the way to go as a grandmother :roll: Will just cause ructions at home.

How can you report an account, I assume mom has made up the DOB, so what grounds for complaint can you have? Surely you can't just say I know she's under 13 and expect them to close it down can you?

If multiple people i.e a posse on here all complained would that get anywhere?

Quite a lot of my kids friends aged 7 upwards have facebook accounts, don't think some of the mom's realise the dangers. Wife who is a FB pro is always calling me to show me men who are trying to befriend (and sometimes have) friends of 7+ showing their parents obviously aren't in control of the situation.

ClarityofMind;6450326

My kids certainly use it...Though they're teens and our rules are to use … My kids certainly use it...Though they're teens and our rules are to use fake names, fake contact info, etc with anyone that they didn't primarily know in real life.I know as a Mum how passionately angry I'd be if my mother or my mother-in-law dared to voice how she felt about my parenting abilities whether they agreed with them or not...not the way to go as a grandmother :roll: Will just cause ructions at home.




yeah thats my worry, it would cause more trouble.

Add her as a friend and watch what shes doing... the best way to tackle this i reckon.

greg_68;6450332

How can you report an account, I assume mom has made up the DOB, so what … How can you report an account, I assume mom has made up the DOB, so what grounds for complaint can you have? Surely you can't just say I know she's under 13 and expect them to close it down can you?



I doubt it as then it could be malicious.......

In fact there's any number of reasons someone could wish to close someone else's facebook account and the "under age" excuse could be a cover for any one of them.

if a number of people report it, hopefully it gets removed.

pcnutta;6450338

yeah thats my worry, it would cause more trouble.Add her as a friend and … yeah thats my worry, it would cause more trouble.Add her as a friend and watch what shes doing... the best way to tackle this i reckon.



+1 xxx

We can't expect our kids to not indulge in behaviours that are completely without danger 100% of the time... the key is to allow them to explore but to maintain their environment and decisions within that environment are as safe and common sensical as they can possibly be at any given moment.

We dont stop them going swimming " in case they drown" we teach them to swim.

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should we also encourage them to sit in pubs without a beer, the child is 8 and shouldnt be on facebook, their is an age limit for a reason, the same as there is one for many things

ClarityofMind;6450380

+1 xxxWe can't expect our kids to not indulge in behaviours that are … +1 xxxWe can't expect our kids to not indulge in behaviours that are completely without danger 100% of the time... the key is to allow them to explore but to maintain their environment and decisions within that environment are as safe and common sensical as they can possibly be at any given moment. We dont stop them going swimming " in case they drown" we teach them to swim.



+1 quite deep for a Thursday lunchtime. :thumbsup:

The more you restrict them the more they'll go behind your back.

greg_68;6450417

+1 quite deep for a Thursday lunchtime. :thumbsup:



soz... lol xxx

Surely is she has selected private only people who she has accepted can view and post as well as look at any photos so she need to be careful who they let add her as friend if you are unable to get it removed.

I think the guy who suggested you add her and monitor it to protect her sounds the best advice

sassie;6450402

should we also encourage them to sit in pubs without a beer, the child is … should we also encourage them to sit in pubs without a beer, the child is 8 and shouldnt be on facebook, their is an age limit for a reason, the same as there is one for many things



Similarly, nothing wrong with kids going into a pub/bar at certain times where this is allowed.

Sunday lunchtime for a nice meal with Mum and Dad.... I really don't see the problem.

A pub doesn't need to be seen as a den of inequity or anything like that... better our kids experience as much as possible to equip them for the world ahead when Mum/Dad won't always be there to pick up the pieces when things go wrong which they inevitably do from time to time xx

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ClarityofMind;6450491

Similarly, nothing wrong with kids going into a pub/bar at certain times … Similarly, nothing wrong with kids going into a pub/bar at certain times where this is allowed. Sunday lunchtime for a nice meal with Mum and Dad.... I really don't see the problem. A pub doesn't need to be seen as a den of inequity or anything like that... better our kids experience as much as possible to equip them for the world ahead when Mum/Dad won't always be there to pick up the pieces when things go wrong which they inevitably do from time to time xx



exactly my point, this isnt allowed on facebook, neither is sitting in a pub at the age of 8 unsupervised, the child is 8, there is plenty of years left yet to experience lots of things and to say add her and monitor her is of little use when you can chat on their privately

sassie;6450511

exactly my point, this isnt allowed on facebook, neither is sitting in a … exactly my point, this isnt allowed on facebook, neither is sitting in a pub at the age of 8 unsupervised, the child is 8, there is plenty of years left yet to experience lots of things and to say add her and monitor her is of little use when you can chat on their privately



As I said, my kids are using facebook as teens, I'd be concerned at 8 where there isnt so much judgement of others.. but theres always gonna be people who lie and cheat and manipulate others no matter the ages involved, I'd still say... the child needs protecting, educating and watching over rather than removing completely, especially as this is purportedly a grandmother's concern and not even the mothers. We all need the support of others to keep us safe at times.

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op have you discussed this with your grand daughter? I'm assuming you still have contact even though your relationship with your daughter has broke down

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OP - why interfere?

People have to make their own mistakes and learn from them

There is nothing more annoying than grandparents who intefer with how their grand children are raised

my 6 years old daughter uses my facebook account all the time, she loves farmville

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black gerbil1;6450379

if a number of people report it, hopefully it gets removed.



if a number of people report you will you get removed?

:thumbsup:

investigate more before interfering....she may have it set so no one can add her, then no one can see her profile/pictures/info, she may have it registered to an email that she can monitor who she adds,who posts, sends messages etc, these emails also have the message included in them, so it can be monitored closely, it does not have to be 'public'

facebook is as safe and personal as you want it to be

i agree with the fact that her mom has created her account and that its at her say so im affraid as someone else said she will have hopefully done all the security setting so its more safe for her , as i have a mil who me or my husband doesnt speak to if she done as you have it would cause another argument in the family as id see it as interfeering , please dont take it the wrong way as i know you obviously are thinking about your gd`s safety , im just giving you an insight to what i would think if it was my mil xx

just to add tho our daughter is 10 and has a fb account so she can talk to our family 200 mile away and we have set her settings so its safe and check her account regularly xx

hassony;6450647

There is nothing more annoying than grandparents who intefer with how … There is nothing more annoying than grandparents who intefer with how their grand children are raised



i agree as it was the cause of our fall out between myself , husband and his mother xx

dimebars;6450604

OP - why interfere?People have to make their own mistakes and learn from … OP - why interfere?People have to make their own mistakes and learn from them



Nice one ,When the 8 year old doesnt come home from school one day and is never seen again at least she will have learned a lesson, I thought people on here would have a bit knowledge about how dangerous the internet is but obviously not,

Original Poster

Well the opinions certainly seem to be in favour of me doing nothing. That is not an option in this case. I would rather interfere before and be thought of as a spoilsport than kick myself after the event knowing I should have done something. Daughter and family are 300 miles away and sadly I have very little contact with any of them.

Daughter is a facebook junkie and wants her daughter to be a 'mini me' regardless of the fact that this particular thing isn't safe.

I know there are bad people everywhere and she is likely to meet one in real life as online but at 8 years old she is still accompanied most places she goes. Online this is not the case, as I have already seen from the comments she has made to other people on Facebook.

I am already 'friends' with her so can monitor her a little but its the language and innuendoes that she will be reading on other pages that worry me.

My main question though has gone unanswered, is there an higher authority I can report Facebook to if they won't act?

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good on you, i wouldnt really care if my child thought me a spoilsport or an interefering old cow, as long as my grandchild wasnt put at risk, im not sure if there is anywhere else you can go, again have you spoke to your gd about this

Im with you on this,Im surprised at the number of people here advising you how safe facebook is who only recently were asking for help removing viruses from their PCs,The chance s are they picked up these viruses from facebook in the first place,Anyone who knows anything knows it is rife with uploaded games containg keyloogers ,Trojans and rootkits designed to find all your personal details,losing your credit card details is one thing but losing an eight year old is something else.

If you want rid of it just hack into the email address...get their login details and deactivate the account....change login details so they cant change back and job done....either way....if the account gets terminated wont the mother just create a new one????

fluffykit;6451077

My main question though has gone unanswered, is there an higher authority … My main question though has gone unanswered, is there an higher authority I can report Facebook to if they won't act?



God?

fluffykit;6451077

My main question though has gone unanswered, is there an higher authority … My main question though has gone unanswered, is there an higher authority I can report Facebook to if they won't act?



I would think prob not....Facebook will just say they will get round to it when they can....otherwise they will say they are acting upon the info they were given at the signup date (fake DOB).....so from their POV it isnt an 8year old using it...not sure how you would be able to prove to them that shes 8 without them asking her so they delete the account....

If her mom's a FB junkie then hopefully she is fully aware of the dangers, better maybe than the mom being a noob and totally unaware of what goes on on FB. The GD can be protected to the correct degree if needs be.

dcx_badass;6451179

You missed the next step, get arrested.



lol :thumbsup: fair enough I dont really see why OP is so worried about facebook (im sure an 8 year old is old enough to be told what to do and what not to do and follow this) but If I was worried about a young family member for something like this then perhaps this would be viable.....It is the only way of closing the account if Facebook themselves dont and I just thought it odd that no1 else had mentioned it :whistling:

tell there mom howyou feel, why got behind there back to get it removed, its only facebook.

hassony;6450647

There is nothing more annoying than grandparents who intefer with how … There is nothing more annoying than grandparents who intefer with how their grand children are raisedmy 6 years old daughter uses my facebook account all the time, she loves farmville



x2!

tonyg1962;6451122

Im with you on this,Im surprised at the number of people here advising … Im with you on this,Im surprised at the number of people here advising you how safe facebook is who only recently were asking for help removing viruses from their PCs,The chance s are they picked up these viruses from facebook in the first place,Anyone who knows anything knows it is rife with uploaded games containg keyloogers ,Trojans and rootkits designed to find all your personal details,losing your credit card details is one thing but losing an eight year old is something else.



not sure who this is aimed at, but i said facebook is as safe as you want it to be - however i do know its not 100% as nothing online is, i recently had my FB hacked and porn images added to it, i got it back, but for these reasons i wont add other peoples children to mine (i know someone whos 5 year old has a FB :shock:)as i wont be responsible for any seeing these things, my 3 kids are age 14,12 & 9, and only my eldest has a FB account, which i do check regulary, my post was trying to point out that even tho her daughter was allowing her 8 year old to have FB she may be monitoring it as it is possible....

sadly age restrictions are not always adhered too across many things and although i do follow on FB, i will admit to letting my kids watch films that are above their age if i think are ok :oops:

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tonyg1962;6450902

Nice one ,When the 8 year old doesnt come home from school one day and is … Nice one ,When the 8 year old doesnt come home from school one day and is never seen again at least she will have learned a lesson, I thought people on here would have a bit knowledge about how dangerous the internet is but obviously not,



its not the 8 year old i was talking about.............

lil_tiger;6451157

If you want rid of it just hack into the email address...get their login … If you want rid of it just hack into the email address...get their login details and deactivate the account....change login details so they cant change back and job done....either way....if the account gets terminated wont the mother just create a new one????



I love you lil one x x x;-)
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