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    how far before the police are called in a domestic dispute?

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    shouting,screaming,plates thrown,crying?

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    Surely until one or the other or a neighbour phone them?
    Edited by: "AshleyRFC" 19th Aug 2010

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    when you ring 999

    Shouting - No - unless there are serious threat made to life

    Screaming - As above - everyone argues

    Plate throwing - Still no, could just be a dropped plate, you don't know individual circumstances

    and again probably the same with crying, who knows what is going on, if it concerns you or you think something more serious is happening try and talk to the person you think it involves. Calling the police could cause the individual more problems in the long run.

    I'd go as far as plates... once you start crying you can't see the numbers on the phone..

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    dog_cop

    when you ring 999



    whats that do?

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    jonb2412

    I'd go as far as plates... once you start crying you can't see the … I'd go as far as plates... once you start crying you can't see the numbers on the phone..



    lol.

    Do you mean

    a) if you hear this going on next door to you?

    or

    b) if it is going on in your own household?!

    I am a little confused now!

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    asayer

    Shouting - No - unless there are serious threat made to lifeScreaming - … Shouting - No - unless there are serious threat made to lifeScreaming - As above - everyone arguesPlate throwing - Still no, could just be a dropped plate, you don't know individual circumstancesand again probably the same with crying, who knows what is going on, if it concerns you or you think something more serious is happening try and talk to the person you think it involves. Calling the police could cause the individual more problems in the long run.



    I appreciate your reply but we get calls for far less, and to say No just for shouting might be a bad call

    dog_cop

    I appreciate your reply but we get calls for far less, and to say No just … I appreciate your reply but we get calls for far less, and to say No just for shouting might be a bad call



    This is why i put about the content of the shouting, calling the police for an arguement about cat food is different if you hear threats being made ect. Obviously it is difficult to comment without knowing a precise circumstance.

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    asayer

    Shouting - No - unless there are serious threat made to lifeScreaming - … Shouting - No - unless there are serious threat made to lifeScreaming - As above - everyone arguesPlate throwing - Still no, could just be a dropped plate, you don't know individual circumstancesand again probably the same with crying, who knows what is going on, if it concerns you or you think something more serious is happening try and talk to the person you think it involves. Calling the police could cause the individual more problems in the long run.



    no i mean whilst the arguing is taking place of course. not just hearing a plate get dropped.

    ring them at any point and wait 24 hours for them to show........ if you are lucky

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    with most calls we have the facility to find who if the police have been to the address before, I would always advise on making the call.. I always would go to finding nothing more than raised voices , than something worse , plus the caller can remain anon

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    Marty1981

    ring them at any point and wait 24 hours for them to show........ if you … ring them at any point and wait 24 hours for them to show........ if you are lucky



    lol hardly fair.. its not that bad.

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    Marty1981

    ring them at any point and wait 24 hours for them to show........ if you … ring them at any point and wait 24 hours for them to show........ if you are lucky



    and another helpful snippet of advice .. *rolls eyes*

    dog_cop

    with most calls we have the facility to find who if the police have been … with most calls we have the facility to find who if the police have been to the address before, I would always advise on making the call.. I always would go to finding nothing more than raised voices , than something worse , plus the caller can remain anon



    It's a difficult one though, I was always under the impression that you should speak to the person you thought may be suffering to help them out, sometimes calling the police can cause greater problem for the abused victim after the police have left?

    Obviously though, if I heard threats being made or physical violence or suspected it I would contact the police straight away.

    dog_cop

    and another helpful snippet of advice .. *rolls eyes*



    had it many a time once phoned police where i worked as people were outside drug taking/ lewd behaviour took them hours to arrive must have been a one off............ suppose though if it counts to there targets they will arrive
    Edited by: "Marty1981" 19th Aug 2010

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    dog_cop

    with most calls we have the facility to find who if the police have been … with most calls we have the facility to find who if the police have been to the address before, I would always advise on making the call.. I always would go to finding nothing more than raised voices , than something worse , plus the caller can remain anon



    well thats what i thought.. we had it happen a few doors down last night. really louud aggressive shouting then a few plates.. i was in the mind to phone the police but my family said its best we dont. i was just wandering how far others would let it get before doing so.

    If you think there is any physical abuse going on. Call. I wish someone would have called for me, when my husband was battering me.

    when the glock comes out and one of them puts a cap in an ass

    I wonder how many people have wished they had called the police when it turns out something bad has happened.
    call em, better they waste five mins making sure its nothing
    Edited by: "michelleleemoo" 19th Aug 2010

    you have to ring them to make a appointment for them to come round, maybe 1 or 2 weeks notice

    I think if it crosses your mind to phone the police then do it. Better to be safe than sorry isn't it

    is this something that happens alot or is it a one off?
    i think i would call them just incase

    He's not replied for half an hour, do you think he's been arrested?

    There's no point ringing the police. "It's just a domestic"..... *sigh*

    DangerGod

    well thats what i thought.. we had it happen a few doors down last night. … well thats what i thought.. we had it happen a few doors down last night. really louud aggressive shouting then a few plates.. i was in the mind to phone the police but my family said its best we dont. i was just wandering how far others would let it get before doing so.



    Last night oO so u post this thread up the next day. Act on your instinct and by sounds of it you wish you had of called them - I would have phoned. Rather a wasted visit by the police than hearing the next day of something awful that happened

    Trogglescow

    There's no point ringing the police. "It's just a domestic"..... *sigh*



    how many women get killed by their partners each year as a result of "just a domestic" (not being sexist just that the number is higher)

    The Bidman cycle indicates that domestic VIOLENCE is suffered 37 times before the injured party contacts anyone. I would like to attend on the first call, as it nearly always progresses to more harm
    If it is just an argument, fine, I'll leave once I know everyone is safe.
    Not sure how that can cause more problems, and for the pillock above, they are treated as immediates and we will be there within 19 minutes max even if it means a blue light run from the other side of my 400km square patch !!

    cherishu2

    If you think there is any physical abuse going on. Call. I wish someone … If you think there is any physical abuse going on. Call. I wish someone would have called for me, when my husband was battering me.



    I'm with you on this - wish someone would've done it for me too when my ex boyfriend was shouting swearing and waving a blade at me. Too many people 'walk on by' these days

    In Cardiff, we can call 101 and they deal with domestics and non urgent calls. I call them a lot as my neighbours downstairs are always fighting. I called them 5 weeks ago because 2 neighbours were fighting! Two police cars and a van turned up 30mins later and 5 cops!! They also found drugs and then last week, one of the women made a rape allegation against another neighbour which she says happened on the same day she was fighting (I live in a block of flats). Because the police had already been called out to the flat, they remembered details from that occasion and it turns out the rape allegation was untrue!!!

    If you are worried, always call. Better to be safe than sorry for not doing something.

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    fern37

    In Cardiff, we can call 101 and they deal with domestics and non urgent … In Cardiff, we can call 101 and they deal with domestics and non urgent calls. I call them a lot as my neighbours downstairs are always fighting. I called them 5 weeks ago because 2 neighbours were fighting! Two police cars and a van turned up 30mins later and 5 cops!! They also found drugs and then last week, one of the women made a rape allegation against another neighbour which she says happened on the same day she was fighting (I live in a block of flats). Because the police had already been called out to the flat, they remembered details from that occasion and it turns out the rape allegation was untrue!!! If you are worried, always call. Better to be safe than sorry for not doing something.



    It sounds delightful where you live.
    Edited by: "DLM" 19th Aug 2010

    I hate it!! It's gone downhill this last year and the stress is triggering my medical condition and landing me in hospital! I've phoned the council about it all and am going to ask for a transfer on medical grounds!!

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    fern37

    I hate it!! It's gone downhill this last year and the stress is … I hate it!! It's gone downhill this last year and the stress is triggering my medical condition and landing me in hospital! I've phoned the council about it all and am going to ask for a transfer on medical grounds!!



    Hope you get to live somewhere more peaceful soon and you can be like your cat in your avatar.

    DLM

    Hope you get to live somewhere more peaceful soon and you can be like … Hope you get to live somewhere more peaceful soon and you can be like your cat in your avatar.



    Thank you DLM x

    Why would anybody be with someone who is likely to beat them? Even more to the point, why do people stay with said abuser after the first instance? The mind boggles...

    CReilly

    Why would anybody be with someone who is likely to beat them? Even more … Why would anybody be with someone who is likely to beat them? Even more to the point, why do people stay with said abuser after the first instance? The mind boggles...



    Well my mum did it for the sake of us, her children. I do feel quilty now as if i'd of known id of told her to leave him years ago. But there are lots of reasons why this happens and its not as simple/easy as you think.

    Going back on topic. My next door neighbours daughter is the child from hell. She is a asbo waiting to happen. In the last few years ago shes got worse (i think shes about 19ish), and the other week i rung the police at 5am cause her party/gathering whatever it was had gone wrong and someone from inside the house came out and smashed a cars windows outside her house. But we've heard temper tamstrums, screaming, crying, slamming doors, loud music till 4am etc etc and the police wont do anything. Ive been woken up loads of times at stupid hours of the morning because of her. I did ring once previously and that was when she was playing music at 4am and they didnt do anything. I even asked them so if I play my music equally as loud you wont do anything and they said no it was an enviromental health problem.

    In my experience i would say untill someone is threatened, hurt or something is damaged then I wouldnt bother ringing. Other than that, get the number for your local police station rather than 999 if your unsure as to ring or not.

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    keep your nose out. Its none of your business unless its disturbing your peace and quiet. And dont call 999 as its unlikely to be an emergency. If you must call, then call your local station number.

    csiman

    keep your nose out. Its none of your business unless its disturbing your … keep your nose out. Its none of your business unless its disturbing your peace and quiet. And dont call 999 as its unlikely to be an emergency. If you must call, then call your local station number.



    oO

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    When you see the cat's decapitated head stuck on top of a fence post.

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    CReilly

    Why would anybody be with someone who is likely to beat them? Even more … Why would anybody be with someone who is likely to beat them? Even more to the point, why do people stay with said abuser after the first instance? The mind boggles...



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