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    how to organise a christening

    this is going to sound very silly but i would like to have my daughter christened and i dont have a clue how to do this..i dont go to church yet both me and my partner were christened. what church would i go to..i have looked at our local ones but they are c of e and united reformed..do they all perform the service?..do i ring them?or visit them?...would i have to go to church a few times before they will do this?i know im sounding really dumb but i genuinely dont have a clue!..thanks for all your help guys

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    Yes they all perform the service. Best going to the denomination of you or your partner. I would think you may have 1 informal visit first or if RC several visits!

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    speak to the local sky pilot

    i know im sounding really dumb

    If you are not practising then why Christen your child?

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    greg_68;3963827

    If you are not practising then why Christen your child?


    why not :thinking:

    dog_cop;3963835

    why not :thinking:



    I find it a bit hypocritical, just my opinion.

    Why not have a naming day if you dont practise and you would like it just for a celebration.
    I dont get why people who arent particularly religous get christiened.
    I was never christened and my parents said it was so we could make our own choices when we wanted too.
    Im glad i wasnt.

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    greg_68;3963855

    I find it a bit hypocritical, just my opinion.


    are you christened ?

    hello. x

    my daughters bar the baby are all christened church of england. i am in the process of arranging the baby's. you are supposed to go to your local church but if you do choose to go somewhere else, the church conducting the christening will get in touch with your local one to notify them they are performing your service. most churches have one evening a week where they are open to book certain services ie. christenings / weddings etc. you should be able to drop in. you could always ring them & the vicar will call round to your house to fill in the paperwork. you don't have to attend church but your god parents that you choose must be christened. hope this helps. have a lovely service. x

    greg_68;3963855

    I find it a bit hypocritical, just my opinion.



    I agree. If you dont follow the religion, whats the point?
    to have a party??? Well then have a naming day!!

    greg_68;3963855

    I find it a bit hypocritical, just my opinion.



    +1

    dog_cop;3963873

    are you christened ?



    I am.

    mrs nutt;3963874

    hello. xmy daughters bar the baby are all christened church of england. i … hello. xmy daughters bar the baby are all christened church of england. i am in the process of arranging the baby's. you are supposed to go to your local church but if you do choose to go somewhere else, the church conducting the christening will get in touch with your local one to notify them they are performing your service. most churches have one evening a week where they are open to book certain services ie. christenings / weddings etc. you should be able to drop in. you could always ring them & the vicar will call round to your house to fill in the paperwork. you don't have to attend church but your god parents that you choose must be christened. hope this helps. have a lovely service. x



    Well my brother was a god parent to his friends baby and he has never been christened. The parents just told them he had so im guessing they dont check or anything!!

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    greg_68;3963898

    I am.


    good for you

    greg_68;3963827

    If you are not practising then why Christen your child?



    i recently read going to church does not make you a christian like standing on the forecourt of a garage doesn't make you a car.........!

    not my opinion though. just thought i'd pass it on. x

    mrs nutt;3963930

    i recently read going to church does not make you a christian like … i recently read going to church does not make you a christian like standing on the forecourt of a garage doesn't make you a car.........!not my opinion though. just thought i'd pass it on. x



    Going to Church and practising a religion are completely different.

    mrs nutt;3963930

    i recently read going to church does not make you a christian like … i recently read going to church does not make you a christian like standing on the forecourt of a garage doesn't make you a car.........!not my opinion though. just thought i'd pass it on. x



    lol - strong 173rd post.

    StudentJo;3963926

    They all do christenings but the idea is to get your child Christened … They all do christenings but the idea is to get your child Christened into a church you want them to join so best to pick your favourite. Just got my son christened and I had never been to church so thought I'd pay a visit and they just gave me a number so the best thing to do is look up your parish's number online and skip the visit out. The procedure for me was to book a date with the church's secretary, either within a normal service or on a Saturday. I booked a date so my son was Christened at the same time as another child which was quite nice cos they 'welcomed' each other into the church. The next thing the vicar rang me then paid a visit before the service, she had to confirm godparents etc. but was very nice.Doesn't cost anything, we just paid for the organist and then they have a donation plate on the day. Everything else is just picking hymns and the service itself is written on a leaflet for everyone to join in with the bits they need to say on the day.C of E won't make you attend church beforehand, they will never refuse to baptise a child into their church, godparents should be baptised themselves (but one of my son's wasn't). In my case they invited my son to a church service about a month after his baptism to be welcomed.



    Oh so now i get it, its a cheap (or free) get together before having the after party!! lol.

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    greg_68;3963950

    Going to Church and practising a religion are completely different.


    does that mean the more you practise the more chance you`re not going to Hell ?

    robtallica;3963962

    lol - strong 173rd post.



    why thankyou! ;-)

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    StudentJo;3964015

    You don't have to attend church to have Christian beliefs. You can … You don't have to attend church to have Christian beliefs. You can worship God, in your house, outside or in public, attending church on a Sunday is not a prerequisite for Christianity. People attend church for many reasons but largely because they want to, but generally it is a community which you are a member of will welcome you even if you only go every so often. I don't really see the hypocracy or the relevance of those comments to the post.


    I find the best time to worship god is when I am being all down the big white telephone :-D

    StudentJo;3964015

    You don't have to attend church to have Christian beliefs. You can … You don't have to attend church to have Christian beliefs. You can worship God, in your house, outside or in public, attending church on a Sunday is not a prerequisite for Christianity. People attend church for many reasons but largely because they want to, but generally it is a community which you are a member of will welcome you even if you only go every so often. I don't really see the hypocracy or the relevance of those comments to the post.



    Im guessing tho, most people who dont go to church dont worship God at home. Just my opinion.
    And although you dont see the hypocracy or the relevance everyone is entitled to an opinion and everyone who uses this site knows that when people post questions (no matter what they are about or regarding) people will post their opinions. Nothing wrong with that.
    However im sure you have only ever posted comments on threads which are relevant to the thread and never express your opinions.

    StudentJo;3964142

    My son is Christened because I decided I wanted to bring him up in the … My son is Christened because I decided I wanted to bring him up in the Christian faith. Myself and the majority of my guests donated generously to the church. I mentioned that it didn't cost anything because it is a common misconception that Christenings were expensive like weddings so I thought it was important, I was flat broke when I got my son Christened so would have been unable to do it if the church charged a big fee. Why not a naming day? because declaring my son's name publicly would have been pretty pointless when he was nearly 2 years old and everyone knew it.



    I wasnt being personal when i said that, sorry if it seemed like that but i wasnt meaning you.
    I meant i never understood why people who are not religous (like my brothers friends) have their children christened. Then when you said it was free (which i didnt know) it all became obvious why 'some' people who arent religous have their children christened.
    I wasnt being personal to you at all.
    And again, when i said about the naming day i was meaning people who arent religous and just want to celebrate the birth of their children, why dont they just have a naming day but i think i have worked out now that the reason for this is because naming days are expensive compared to free or cheap christenings.
    As i said, sorry if you think i was being personal when i said that but i didnt mean you.

    StudentJo;3964225

    Not taking it personally, just thought the poster got a bit of a hard … Not taking it personally, just thought the poster got a bit of a hard time for asking for advice about Christening. I got a bit of a hard time from most people, including my family, for Christening my son when everyone assumed I don't have any religious beliefs because I don't go to church (and his estranged father is from a different religious group). I do agree though, it is a bit pointless to do if you don't believe any of it.



    Well sorry you got a hard time about it,its everyones choice but i was just giving my opinion on the point.
    Sadly, if you ask advice on these sorts of websites then you have to be expecting peoples opinions and obviously not everyone feels the same about things.
    Well i hope the op gets it sorted!!

    choose where you want it done first-do you go to any mums&tots groups in church halls-or will your little one go to a school attached to a church-all things worth thinking about.

    I think it depends on each individual minister alot of the time whether you need to attend church first etc-and how much you need to commit to the church.

    I went to a naming ceremony for a friends baby who had no particular religious beliefs which was really nice-similar to a Christening-but without the promise to bring to Sunday School etc which they could not commit to. It was at the Salvation Army.
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