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    I can now take it(well not it all but you get the point). . . . Thanks to everyone here :)

    The whole world seems to be against me, nothing's going right. Feel as though I should end the pain now, what with all the pressure on my shoulders, with my mum having the "C" word, and school work piling up, is there any chance it gets better after the age of 14?!?

    I really just cannot cope with it anymore

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    :)Yes, Yes & Yes Again! It gets better - but you will develop some great character going through these tough days! Stick at it - you are never alone!

    surely the weekend score helped a bit mate?

    2-1 to the mighty bears

    Hope it all gets better

    Banned

    would you like some one to talk to?

    these people are brilliant...

    getconnected.org.uk/

    head up matey - i promise it gets better... i have been there and i know how hard it seems for you now..

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    its only me;6507066

    :)Yes, Yes & Yes Again! It gets better - but you will develop some great … :)Yes, Yes & Yes Again! It gets better - but you will develop some great character going through these tough days! Stick at it - you are never alone!



    Thanks. Hope so.

    cribert;6507067

    surely the weekend score helped a bit mate?2-1 to the mighty bears



    Not much, but was a surprise to be honest. :thumbsup:

    strike;6507068

    there is no school work at 14.Get a punch bag and vent yourself. Or get … there is no school work at 14.Get a punch bag and vent yourself. Or get into couple of fights. You loose some and you win some but heck you feel better after



    In Scotland, Yes there is.

    life can be tough at times m8, but keep going and it's sure to get a whole lot better, it's only the tough times that make you appriciate the good..

    Keep ya chin up dude

    oh am so sorry is there nobody you can talk to face to face ?

    dontdothatagain;6507078

    Thanks. Hope so. :)Not much, but was a surprise to be honest. … Thanks. Hope so. :)Not much, but was a surprise to be honest. :thumbsup:In Scotland, Yes there is.



    maybe talk to some teachers. They will actually listen and help you organise your work. if its too much tell them you need longer.

    Yeah, things will get better and what is happening now will be making you in to a stronger person so stick with it.

    Child line are always there to listen if you need to talk to somebody about anything :thumbsup:

    once you finish school the world is your oyster
    its amazing out there

    keep your chin up mate:thumbsup::thumbsup::)

    honestly at the age of 14 your hormones are doing your thinking, not your brain.
    Maybe get out and socialise more, get a girlfriend, get into fights even, whatever is your release, do it.
    You should never feel like that at 14, i went through a phase of not liking myself and wanting to hurt myself as a release...im not violent person but i ended up getting in a few fights...many which i couldnt win (generally several on one dont work well).
    But honestly life gets better, much better, you just need to realise what is important to you, whether that be friends, family, etc and just embrace that, make a bigger effort, learn to ignore the things that annoy you and get support in any way shape or form you can.

    But whatever you do get a life plan, get your gcse's then decide what you want to do with your life, what career, what you want to do, what you want out of life, what you want to see, do, travel, the world is your oyster, it just might take some time and some work.

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    junkenstein73;6507080

    life can be tough at times m8, but keep going and it's sure to get a … life can be tough at times m8, but keep going and it's sure to get a whole lot better, it's only the tough times that make you appriciate the good..Keep ya chin up dude



    Thanks mate.

    tinktink;6507086

    oh am so sorry is there nobody you can talk to face to face ?



    Not really, cos we are all affected by it. :-(
    strike;6507089

    maybe talk to some teachers. They will actually listen and help you … maybe talk to some teachers. They will actually listen and help you organise your work. if its too much tell them you need longer.



    Hope so, never had to deal with something like this.

    Speak to someone you can trust. I'm sure a teacher at your school would sit down with you and help you. It wil get better x

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    The JFK;6507124

    [COLOR=Red]LOL @ you having a mental breakdown at 13. Life gets harder as … [COLOR=Red]LOL @ you having a mental breakdown at 13. Life gets harder as you get older (serious)[/COLOR]



    You are a complete ****.

    When you walk through a storm
    Hold your head up high
    And don't be afraid of the dark

    At the end of the storm
    Is a golden sky
    And the sweet silver song of the lark

    Walk on through the wind
    Walk on through the rain
    Though your dreams be tossed and blown

    Walk on walk on with hope in your heart
    And you'll never walk alone
    You'll never walk alone

    When you walk through a storm
    Hold your head up high
    And don't be afraid of the dark

    At the end of the storm
    Is a golden sky
    And the sweet silver song of the lark

    Walk on through the wind
    Walk on through the rain
    Though your dreams be tossed and blown

    Walk on walk on with hope in your heart
    And you'll never walk alone
    You'll never walk

    You'll never walk
    You'll never walk alone.

    davidn84;6507164

    You'll never walkYou'll never walk alone.



    Probably not the best song to quote to a Rangers fan..!

    Keep your chin up mate...

    Banned

    what we go through in life makes us who we are, nothing easy is worth having xx

    awoodhall2003;6507161

    depends on your life...i hope you ****ing kill yourself, a kid does not … depends on your life...i hope you ****ing kill yourself, a kid does not need your arrogant troll1ing posts...reported for being an absolute ****


    Reported too. He just doesn't know when to stop and has no usuful input ever. Time to get rid.

    Banned

    + 1 + 1

    You gotta keep your chin up mate.
    No matter HOW bad it is right now, it will at some point get better.
    Unfortunately it might not be as quick as you want it to happen, but it WILL get better.

    I have been real low believe me.
    I had the perfect life .... a nice house, a fiancee who was a model, a limited edition monte carlo escort cosworth car, money etc. I was really living the dream.
    Unfortunately the fiancee cheated on me (twice), so i lost her and with her went my job, then my car and then my house!
    As if that wasn't bad enough (i dont know how i got through it), my dad who then lived in america, then got the "C" word.
    he lost his business, house, everything and had to come back to England and live with me.
    I had to see him deteriorate and unfortunately he passed away 2 years ago.
    That was the hardest time of my life BUT...... i now have a good job, a wonderful girlfriend and kids and i remember the good times that i sharded with my dad.
    I'm not gonna lie, it still hurts and i miss my dad terribly but with each new day, the pain eases a little and each day does get easier.

    I suggest you might think about getting some councilling.
    I did and ended up going for 18 months and it was the best thing ive ever done.
    A year after my dad passed away, my eldest son was still finding it hard so i arranged for him to see a councillor and it made all the difference to him

    Look into it.
    It REALLY will help you.

    Just PM me if ya wanna talk more about it

    Flodd;6507177

    Probably not the best song to quote to a Rangers fan..!Keep your chin up … Probably not the best song to quote to a Rangers fan..!Keep your chin up mate...



    Song itself maybe not...but i think the lyrics speak for themselves

    davidn84;6507164

    When you walk through a stormHold your head up highAnd don't be afraid of … When you walk through a stormHold your head up highAnd don't be afraid of the darkAt the end of the stormIs a golden skyAnd the sweet silver song of the larkWalk on through the windWalk on through the rainThough your dreams be tossed and blownWalk on walk on with hope in your heartAnd you'll never walk aloneYou'll never walk aloneWhen you walk through a stormHold your head up highAnd don't be afraid of the darkAt the end of the stormIs a golden skyAnd the sweet silver song of the larkWalk on through the windWalk on through the rainThough your dreams be tossed and blownWalk on walk on with hope in your heartAnd you'll never walk aloneYou'll never walkYou'll never walkYou'll never walk alone.



    :roll::roll::roll:

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    sassie;6507179

    what we go through in life makes us who we are, nothing easy is worth … what we go through in life makes us who we are, nothing easy is worth having xx



    God I hope so much it does.

    Also, thanks guys for reporting the troll, I hope mods come down hard on him.

    Banned

    sassie;6507179

    what we go through in life makes us who we are, nothing easy is worth … what we go through in life makes us who we are, nothing easy is worth having xx



    strike;6507167

    i want to deck you one



    magough;6507195

    You gotta keep your chin up mate.No matter HOW bad it is right now, it … You gotta keep your chin up mate.No matter HOW bad it is right now, it will at some point get better.Unfortunately it might not be as quick as you want it to happen, but it WILL get better.I have been real low believe me.I had the perfect life .... a nice house, a fiancee who was a model, a limited edition monte acrlo escort cosworth car, money etc. I was really living the dream.Unfortunately the fiancee cheated on me (twice), so i lost her and with her went my job, then my car and then my house!As if that wasn't bad enough (i dont know how i got through it), my dad who then lived in america, then got the "C" word.he lost his business, house, everything and had to come back to England and live with me.I had to see him deteriorate and unfortunately he passed away 2 years ago.That was the hardest time of my life BUT...... i now have a good job, a wonderful girlfriend and kids and i remember the good times that i sharded with my dad.I'm not gonna lie, it still hurts and i miss my dad terribly but with each new day, the pain eases a little and each day does get easier.I suggest you might think about getting some councilling.I did and ended up going for 18 months and it was the best thing ive ever done.A year after my dad passed away, my eldest son was still finding it hard so i arranged for him to see a councillor and it made all the difference to him :)Look into it.It REALLY will help you.Just PM me if ya wanna talk more about it



    sorry to hear that mate... your a good person...

    shame every ones not like you

    DDTA, how you feeling today hun?

    Hope you are feeling a lil better now xx

    Stay strong hun, let your friends support you, we're all here for you xx

    Banned

    dontdothatagain;6507201

    God I hope so much it does. Also, thanks guys for reporting the troll, I … God I hope so much it does. Also, thanks guys for reporting the troll, I hope mods come down hard on him.



    the crap we go through makes us strong, or we can allow it to drag us down, its up to you where you want ti to go, stay strong mate, life sometimes is so unfair but its still life xx

    DDTA, i been through nearly the same thing and I'm still here, i just cherish the time the person is with me. I have felt down, i quit college for it and everything keeps going wrong but always keep thinking it can only get better!

    Don't let it get to you too much, talk to someone you can trust about it (something i didn't do) and now i regret not doing it.

    If you wanna talk to me, then pm me, but just keep your chin up

    Do you play sports?

    If so, try some new ones?

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    ClarityofMind;6507217

    DDTA, how you feeling today hun?Hope you are feeling a lil better now … DDTA, how you feeling today hun?Hope you are feeling a lil better now xxStay strong hun, let your friends support you, we're all here for you xx



    Thanks CoM.

    sassie;6507220

    the crap we go through makes us strong, or we can allow it to drag us … the crap we go through makes us strong, or we can allow it to drag us down, its up to you where you want ti to go, stay strong mate, life sometimes is so unfair but its still life xx



    I guess it all makes sense. Thanks Sassie.
    magough;6507195

    You gotta keep your chin up mate.No matter HOW bad it is right now, it … You gotta keep your chin up mate.No matter HOW bad it is right now, it will at some point get better.Unfortunately it might not be as quick as you want it to happen, but it WILL get better.I have been real low believe me.I had the perfect life .... a nice house, a fiancee who was a model, a limited edition monte carlo escort cosworth car, money etc. I was really living the dream.Unfortunately the fiancee cheated on me (twice), so i lost her and with her went my job, then my car and then my house!As if that wasn't bad enough (i dont know how i got through it), my dad who then lived in america, then got the "C" word.he lost his business, house, everything and had to come back to England and live with me.I had to see him deteriorate and unfortunately he passed away 2 years ago.That was the hardest time of my life BUT...... i now have a good job, a wonderful girlfriend and kids and i remember the good times that i sharded with my dad.I'm not gonna lie, it still hurts and i miss my dad terribly but with each new day, the pain eases a little and each day does get easier.I suggest you might think about getting some councilling.I did and ended up going for 18 months and it was the best thing ive ever done.A year after my dad passed away, my eldest son was still finding it hard so i arranged for him to see a councillor and it made all the difference to him :)Look into it.It REALLY will help you.Just PM me if ya wanna talk more about it



    Thanks mate, I'll remember that. Sorry to hear about your loss. :thumbsup:

    also OP respect to you for being so open and honest and brave in posting that as too many people keep feelings like that to themself which does you no good.

    :thumbsup:

    Sounds like you're having a tough time DDTA. I know a "keep your chin up" from an anonymous stranger on the net isn't really that helpful but keep your chin up mate. Talk to someone, anyone. There are people that can help.

    dontdothatagain;6507260

    Thanks CoM.



    you're welcome hun, Pm me anytime xx

    and don't worry hun, we all feel like this at times, you're not alone xxx

    hi,my dad has the c word too and now it's terminal I know how u are feeling,keeep positive and it will get easier,life is soo short cherish every day,pm me if need a chat take care xx

    take up running! i am so stressed and depressed atm doing my A-Levels. i started running to take my mind and just get any fustration and anger out of me and it does work (still talk to someone though - it you can it can help alot, i just cant put into words how i feel and why though )

    Speak to your year head at school. Mention everything you have here. There are things in lace for people like yourself. One of them is called Time For You, which gives you chance to speak to a trained person who comes into the school. Unless they think you are at harm, or are going to do harm to yourself for real, they won't disclose what goes on when you meet together. Its a little like Counselling, which I know might sound extreme, but it really does work. I have referred lots of my pupils to it over the years, and they are usually grateful for coming to speak to me in the first place.

    It will get better and easier, but take all the help you can get now - there is no shame and it will make you realise you aren't alone

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    DDTA, try and keep your chin up fella, everything's going to seem pretty bleak at the moment but just keep moving through it, you'll come out the other side a stronger person.

    had this copied since the thread went kaput.

    When i first joined this site i hardly ever went out, I had mates but never went out to see them, no girlfriend and was starting to get unfit, my gran had been diagnosed with the "c" word again and i felt like you are now. My gran passed away a few days after Xmas and I was feeling really down from then. A few months afterwards, my aunty also was diagnosed with it and also she passed away at the end of May and i marked this as the change. I started to go out more, i got on the football team, started to get fit again, got a girlfriend (broke up about a month ago but still all good) and last friday i went to a party, the first ever party of this kind. Came home at half 11, got drunk and let loose, it was one of the best experiences of my life. I know there will be times in the future i am down like you are but i'm going to try my hardest to overcome them. Then i come on here and hear all the age jokes and people taking the mick all the time but that would of got on my nerves a year ago but i seemed to be more laid back now. Chin up mate. It'll get better.

    Mate, you will be fine, I know its hard, I know more than others, was in a very similar situation to you, I know its hard to look forward into the future and see yourself happy, but things do get better.

    Im 20 now and things are ok, so I hope things work out for you.

    If you want a chat anytime, pm me and add me on msn or something k.

    There are lots of people here for you.

    Your 14. Never knew that.

    Well your hormones are all over the place.

    Banned

    school years should be the best of your life, unfortunately for most they are the worst I promise it gets better, but not before you've met the woman of your dreams though. Before that it's just hell....pure and unending hell! on earth! :thumbsup:
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