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    if u dont go to a kid's birthday party....

    ...do u still give them a pressie afterwards when u see them at school. got the kids voucher should i give it to them on monday? whats the done thing?

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    I would...but thats just me

    Yesss.

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    ODB_69;4699134

    I would...but thats just me



    dont like the kid but...meh ur right....yeah i hold grudges against 5 year olds. haha

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    Trickyjabs;4699136

    Yesss.



    screw it...... ok then will defo try make the kiddy party today to maximise the ten quid voucher...i went all out!

    if it was a good friend then I would give a small gift, however if its a case of them inviting the whole class then I don't always.

    last yr my son's 2 good friends couldn't make his party, and they didn't even give a card, thought that was a bit off.

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    owens101;4699141

    if it was a good friend then I would give a small gift, however if its a … if it was a good friend then I would give a small gift, however if its a case of them inviting the whole class then I don't always.last yr my son's 2 good friends couldn't make his party, and they didn't even give a card, thought that was a bit off.



    thing is its year 1....so they invite less people....so its kids they reckon are their friends..and with boys....its friends one day and picking on them the next...so thats why i dont like the kid that much..but then i think well maybe thats just the way kids are.... reckon will try go today, depends if son is up for it as he was up super early and was sick....

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    o yeah no rep powers at mo sowi! x

    I wouldn't bother unless it is a really great friend. I certainly wouldn't spend more than £5 on a present either. I buy stuff when I see it and keep my bargains in a box for the year. Got loads from boots sale

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    wookiemummy;4699190

    I wouldn't bother unless it is a really great friend. I certainly … I wouldn't bother unless it is a really great friend. I certainly wouldn't spend more than £5 on a present either. I buy stuff when I see it and keep my bargains in a box for the year. Got loads from boots sale



    i used to as well....but seems like people spend about a tenner...dont wanna be the only weirdo..plus i asked mum what her brat wanted!!

    but thanks!

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    If it is a best mate sure, if it's just another kid in the class no.

    owens101;4699141

    last yr my son's 2 good friends couldn't make his party, and they didn't … last yr my son's 2 good friends couldn't make his party, and they didn't even give a card, thought that was a bit off.



    They are just kids, your attitude stinks!

    magicbeans;4699138

    dont like the kid but...meh ur right....yeah i hold grudges against 5 … dont like the kid but...meh ur right....yeah i hold grudges against 5 year olds. haha



    :lol:

    No shin kicking when you get there..........it would just be wrong. lol

    at my kids school we don't usually do gifts if we can'tmake the party unless they are really good friends - and wow to the £10!! we do a £5 limit (although some of the wealthier mums go all-out and get amazing prezzies!!)

    My nephew is nearly 6,his mum doesn't buy a pressie unless he is attending the party:thumbsup:

    It depends whether you want to get into sending pressies party or not,because to my mind if you start sending pressies you will have to continue to do so every year.

    If you are going to the party, then get a gift, if not, don't bother. Thats how we do it & my daughter is 5yrs old

    lumoruk;4699234

    If it is a best mate sure, if it's just another kid in the class no.They … If it is a best mate sure, if it's just another kid in the class no.They are just kids, your attitude stinks!



    easy now, no need for that. One was a 'best mate' and the other a good friend who came to play a lot. Both were on hols at time so fine, was reffering to the parents for being a bit off by not giving a card, not the kids. No 'attitude'

    yes give a gift,

    A couple of the kids that came to AM party didn't bring a gift but they did turn up and at the end of the day thats what AM wanted. He's rather have 2 hours running daft with his friends than some toy that only gonna gather dust under his bed. (he did realy apprisiate the box of maltesers though :lol:

    If my kids don't go to the party then they don't give them a pressie, unless I'd already bought one and they were poorly on the day of the party, if they were never going to go I wouldn't get them a pressie and that's never been done back either so I shouldn't bother. I'd only give pressies in this instance if it was a family friend that I would buy a pressie for anyway, and also £10 is very generous!!

    i had a 4th birthday party for my son a couple of weeks back. i didnt expect anything from the ones that didnt come to the party. i dont buy a gift if my kids arent going to the party unless it is a close friend.

    I dont do that and £5 is my limit otherwise it gets ridiculous. Last year my daughter had 5 parties in a month to go to!

    If I had answered that we were going to the party I would then give a gift if we couldn't go but if I said that we couldn't make it from the beginning I dont think id bother,

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    Syzable;4699249

    :lol: No shin kicking when you get there..........it would just be wrong. … :lol: No shin kicking when you get there..........it would just be wrong. lol


    some of the two yr olds wind me up!! its all about fake smiles!!


    helcatamy1;4699262

    at my kids school we don't usually do gifts if we can'tmake the party … at my kids school we don't usually do gifts if we can'tmake the party unless they are really good friends - and wow to the £10!! we do a £5 limit (although some of the wealthier mums go all-out and get amazing prezzies!!)


    its becoming more about vouchers now at this school..so has to be a tenner minimum!

    deb8z;4699273

    My nephew is nearly 6,his mum doesn't buy a pressie unless he is … My nephew is nearly 6,his mum doesn't buy a pressie unless he is attending the party:thumbsup:It depends whether you want to get into sending pressies party or not,because to my mind if you start sending pressies you will have to continue to do so every year.


    thing is the older they get the fewer parties they go to!!

    MsMJB;4699286

    If you are going to the party, then get a gift, if not, don't bother. … If you are going to the party, then get a gift, if not, don't bother. Thats how we do it & my daughter is 5yrs old


    hey welcome to hukd xxxx

    mumofthree;4699931

    If I had answered that we were going to the party I would then give a … If I had answered that we were going to the party I would then give a gift if we couldn't go but if I said that we couldn't make it from the beginning I dont think id bother,

    thats just it i said id go and cancelled last minute and text her...she text back saying ok ill bring his gift bag/party bag to school...so defo will have to give the card and voucher now or ill feel really pathetic!

    thanks everyone for replies! x

    depends if he was invited-if not -then NO. If yes, and he couldn't go just a token gift unless a best friend like some sweets or an Easter egg? If you said yes, then didn't turn up i probably would-although might substitute it for something of less value.

    Also would probably depend on whether the party was just a load of kids or if my child had been paid for and i hadn't gone eg. pictures or funbarn type of party.

    See if they give your little fella a party bag on monday?

    magicbeans;4700990

    some of the two yr olds wind me up!! its all about fake smiles!!its … some of the two yr olds wind me up!! its all about fake smiles!!its becoming more about vouchers now at this school..so has to be a tenner minimum!thing is the older they get the fewer parties they go to!!hey welcome to hukd xxxxthats just it i said id go and cancelled last minute and text her...she text back saying ok ill bring his gift bag/party bag to school...so defo will have to give the card and voucher now or ill feel really pathetic!thanks everyone for replies! x




    If your son feels loads loads better you could always say he is feeling better and it was just that he ate too much etc and take him to get your moneys worth !

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    haha thanks but son was asleep at party time...unusual for him but good i got him to sleep as hubby home with illness and dont want him to catch any bugs x

    magicbeans;4705485

    haha thanks but son was asleep at party time...unusual for him but good i … haha thanks but son was asleep at party time...unusual for him but good i got him to sleep as hubby home with illness and dont want him to catch any bugs x



    ow-bless-hope it all worked out ok in the end ! And the party bag is good if you gave the pressie !:thumbsup:
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