Im 25 and im attracted to a girl whos almost 18, what would you say to that

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Found 6th Mar 2008
Essentially I made friends with this girl a few months ago as shes at the same college, I normally just chat to her but I did find her attractive but as im older I ignored it, anyway it turns out she really fancies me too and wants to be my girlfriend, shes 18 in a few weeks anyway but I dont know how people will react to the age difference, especially as I look my age if not older and shes a stunner and im the stereotyoe geek and overweight and wear glasses and get stick over my look even nowadays.

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Go for it, it's like 16,23 sounds like a massive age gap [same amount of time] but say you were 43 and she was 36. Sounds like no problem.

Do what makes you happy. If she is keen on you too then you should go for it.
Good luck :thumbsup:

As she is over 16 I don't see any problem with it,go for it if you like her.When I was 16 I had plenty boy friends in their 20's and even 1 who was in early 30's.There almost 5 yr difference between me and my partner.

I think its sad u need to seek approval from a bunch of strangers, she can see something in you, take it at that and stop being so self obsessed and worrying bout what others will think
and also im sure with the well known biological /emotional maturity rate difference between sexes means with u and this girl, theres little in "real"age difference

Do what you both want to do, sod everyone else, as long as you and her are happy who cares!!!

Im 27 and my hubby is nearly 36 im not fussed, I got together with him when he was 25 and i was 18 just turned! We now been together 10yrs this august, happily married with 4 boys and his son.

Mum2Connor&Cerys;1676245

As she is over 16 I don't see any problem with it,go for it if you like … As she is over 16 I don't see any problem with it,go for it if you like her.When I was 16 I had plenty boy friends in their 20's and even 1 who was in early 30's.There almost 5 yr difference between me and my partner.



So how are Connor and Cerys Doin?

Me and my friend's always talk about a general rule.

To find out the minimum age of a girl that you should go you with:
Half your own age and add 7.


So for you it would be 19.5 years old.

Obviously this is just a made up rule used by us teens, and we only take it as a guide line.
I don't think that there is any problem with your ages to be honest. Go for it!

age aint nothing but a number as long as its legal lol then why not, do what pleases you, its your life

:)go for it it not that much of a gap i was 16 and boyfriend was 22 :roll:still happily married with 3 kids 19 years later ,age is only a number:-D shes above the legal age limit so whatever makes you happy

Original Poster Banned

Well i just wanted some opinions on people who I didnt know as the general consensus among people I see is that its around 2.5 years of your own age.

But at same time if she wa s 20 and me 25 or 26 it would be ok, but people have this strange view of teens as if you are taking advantage

saayinla;1676256

So how are Connor and Cerys Doin?


Fine,and how do you mean?

By the sounds of it, you are in not much of a position to be choosing.
Fill your boots FFS.

Original Poster Banned

Lol yes and no im a shy guy(more paranoid and unlucky in love lol) so I have had some stunners in past want me but I can never tell if they were just trying it on lol so never try anything as on the occasions I have I have been hurt.

There is another girl I really like and is much closer my age but I thought she had a boyfriend too but the halls went drinking last night and she was all over me, telling me she liked me and didnt I like her, then late just jumping back onto my lap kissing my cheek and taking a picture etc.

So I think Im having luck recently lol.

Im just insecure as I want something long term leading to more, so dont want to destroy her teen years by dating me lol

Anyway I will date her anyway, will fill you all in on how we get on

Well i'm 37 and the wife's 28. But as I always say....

When I was 20 it felt quite acceptable to go out with an 18 yo,
When I was 25 it was a bit iffy.
Now i'm 37 I would consider myself to be a right pervert to go out with an 18 yo.

On balance, being a pervs not so bad. I could live with it ;-)

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Lol she is a pretty girl that was what put me off a bit too, im plain and geeky and shes slim blonde, blue eyed and curvy and really sweet, seems too good to be true for me lol.

supercell;1676309

Lol yes and no im a shy guy(more paranoid and unlucky in love lol) so I … Lol yes and no im a shy guy(more paranoid and unlucky in love lol) so I have had some stunners in past want me but I can never tell if they were just trying it on lol so never try anything as on the occasions I have I have been hurt.



Try it on, 99% of the time you will crash and burn, but 1% of them will be so drunk that they will give you a little something-something.


supercell;1676309

There is another girl I really like and is much closer my age but I … There is another girl I really like and is much closer my age but I thought she had a boyfriend too but the halls went drinking last night and she was all over me, telling me she liked me and didnt I like her, then late just jumping back onto my lap kissing my cheek and taking a picture etc.



Try and date them both, who cares if she has a boyfriend? At least you don't have to buy her presents etc. Sort her out once or twice a week and no whining when you forget her birthday and all that. Next time she hops on your lap, let her 'feel' that you like her. ;-)

If she stays there, you're well in.


supercell;1676309

So I think Im having luck recently lol.Im just insecure as I want … So I think Im having luck recently lol.Im just insecure as I want something long term leading to more, so dont want to destroy her teen years by dating me lol



Yeah, but you're going home alone to relieve the tension by yourself, this may be the best oppurtunity of your life, don't throw it away.


supercell;1676309

Anyway I will date her anyway, will fill you all in on how we get on



There's only one person that needs filling in, and it's none of us on HUKD.

Perhaps she's a serial killer in training.... :evil: :lol:

Original Poster Banned

Gonna sound rude but theres also the prospect of me being her "first" lol she mentions shes never had a bf before and has been waiting for the right guy and someone special.

Im living the dream lol

supercell;1676347

Im living the dream lol



Are you living the dream, or living in a dream world?

PM me her number, I'll find out her true intentions.

Go for it fella. My motto is you are as old as the woman you feel!!:-D

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adamsxi;1676364

Go for it fella. My motto is you are as old as the woman you feel!!:-D



My friends is "old enough to bleed old enough to breed" in relation to girls kinda sick really (though he wouldnt date a girl under 16 obvously)

thesaint;1676358

Are you living the dream, or living in a dream world?PM me her number, … Are you living the dream, or living in a dream world?PM me her number, I'll find out her true intentions.



Bit of both really lol im in a dream thinking that I am living the dream lol

I think you know the answer already and are just bragging!! she is hot 18 and dying to go out with you. I wonder what i would say??

Original Poster Banned

Lol I just felt I was taking advantage and people would say the same, but I also posted this on another forum and they are saying the same as here lol.

TBH I think shes a bit shy with the guys though and it was just luck we fancied each other as it was pretty much her saying to her friends shes fed up of being single and wishes she had a nice boyfriend and my mate saying Im the only other single friend in the group, and left us alone and we started talking and realised we had a lot in common lol

I clicked on this hoping it was a FS/FT. Quite disappointed now.

Wait til after she's 18...............no need for a massive 18th birthday pressie then lol

My Hubby and I have a 7 year age gap, I was 20 when we first started going out together and he was 27. We are still together and will be celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary next year.

Just to prepare you if you follow our pattern you will be married with children within three and a half years from now!

I'd say go for it, it was the best thing I ever did. :-D

thesaint;1676295

By the sounds of it, you are in not much of a position to be … By the sounds of it, you are in not much of a position to be choosing.Fill your boots FFS.


LMFAO your shocking you are boy!!
As my other half said....any holes a goal....hope he did'nt use that theroy on me though!!

Post a pic of yourself, i could be a 3rd girl thats interested!

Lol guys, there seems to be a common trend on here that we are all in relationships where the man is 7 or 8 years older than the woman! It's the same in my case too, I am 27 and my husband is 35.
I think an age gap of this proportion is needed as it does seem to take most chappies a bit longer to mature, bless em!

Peeeeeeadooooo, just joking mate. Seriously though, what are you waiting for. You might never get a chance like this again! Especially if you're a 'nerd'.

you must think its wrong or you wouldn;t be asking.
its a case of its alright coz its not my daughter.:whistling::whistling

Abvance;1676725

Peeeeeeadooooo, just joking mate. Seriously though, what are you waiting … Peeeeeeadooooo, just joking mate. Seriously though, what are you waiting for. You might never get a chance like this again! Especially if you're a 'nerd'.


LOL funny! Im starting to wish i was a nerd with a toy boy!

lol- thesaint i reckon you should have your own show! :-D

aww, i wouldnt bother what anyone else thinks, im 36 this year and my husbands 29 and its never really been an issue for us or anyone else tbh.. As long as youre both consenting adults, then i dont see a problem.. Her dad might view it differently tho

Sloth/Mod

I say if you need to ask a bunch of strangers on a website how to conduct your personal life then you are going to end up a very lonely and sad person.
She'll dump you anyway as each time she asks something you'll have to wait for someone to reply here to tell you what to do.

supercell;1676309

Im just insecure as I want something long term leading to more, so dont … Im just insecure as I want something long term leading to more, so dont want to destroy her teen years by dating me lol



This is your thread, but I can fully understand this statement and it's one I'm having trouble getting over myself.

If your confident enough it can work, then go for it and try it. But that's easier said than done.

One word...RESULT!

My fiancee was 18 when i met her, i was 27. its been over 4 years and we had a daughter together and are engaged, lol obviously as i referred to her as my fiancee

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so what aftershave do you wear then

amcol;1676253

Do what you both want to do, sod everyone else, as long as you and her … Do what you both want to do, sod everyone else, as long as you and her are happy who cares!!!


Totally agree:thumbsup:

how sweet
but i believe you don't act 25
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