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    im really annoyed over what my OH just said!!!

    my eldest son has just come home from high school and said next week there is an open evening at school and u have to come with me to speak to my teachers about my options to do with his gcse
    i asked when it will be and he said prob around tea time
    so when my son left the room my OH said to me "why cant his dad take him" i said its ok i want to go with him
    my OH then said well in that case seen as it will be tea time are u gonna take all the other kids with u there?
    WTF???
    i just said i couldnt believe what he had just said and left it at that,but it has really peed me off

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    You should speak to him about it.

    Getting silent or abusive(waits for the women to enter the thread) is detrimental to your relationship.

    That's a bit unfair of him, if i was you i would want to go aswell, men are sooo insensitive sometimes :x

    tell him seeing at it's at dinner time HE WILL have to get the other kids dinners ready :lol:

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    thesaint;3139360

    You should speak to him about it.



    yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are around
    what he did say was "u moan if i go out at tea time" and yes i do moan if he decides to take dog for a walk leaving me to cook tea and watch the 5 kids but this is different
    if i ever go out at tea time i ALWAYS prepare tea for everyone first or when i get back

    Original Poster

    i dont care what he says im going anyway

    but what is his problem,i dont get it??

    jellybaby22;3139354

    thats a bit unreasonable....WTF is wrong with men..really...why are they … thats a bit unreasonable....WTF is wrong with men..really...why are they all such ............(fill in the blank)




    How long have you got for me to fill in the blank :roll:

    edjaned;3139418

    yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are … yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are aroundwhat he did say was "u moan if i go out at tea time" and yes i do moan if he decides to take dog for a walk leaving me to cook tea and watch the 5 kids but this is differentif i ever go out at tea time i ALWAYS prepare tea for everyone first or when i get back



    Yes definately talk to him and hopefully you will get somewhere, sounds very much like mine though, the kids are my responsibility at ALL times

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    cheerleader;3139401

    tell him seeing at it's at dinner time HE WILL have to get the other kids … tell him seeing at it's at dinner time HE WILL have to get the other kids dinners ready :lol:



    yeah i will :x

    if he cooks for them though its always chips!!

    anyway how are u feeling today hope u are feeling better xx

    Banned

    my daughter is only 21 months today and when she goes to school i would like both me and my partner to go to her parents nights when we both can unless his is working of course which then he cant lol but otherwise we both will be going

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    OH wont come as he is not his dad my 2 eldest are from a previous partner so anything to do with the 2 eldest myself or their dad deal with it

    edjaned;3139418

    yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are … yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are around



    Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.

    You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset.

    thesaint;3139476

    Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up … Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset.



    cant fault that advice :thumbsup:

    I don't get it :?

    Banned

    Tell him to stop being such a lazy ass and take some damn responsibility for his children. Sounds like he has issues.

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    thesaint;3139476

    Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up … Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset.



    bitseylango;3139487

    cant fault that advice :thumbsup:



    Tip top :thumbsup:

    Foosball Chum;3139496

    Tell him to stop being such a lazy ass and take some damn responsibility … Tell him to stop being such a lazy ass and take some damn responsibility for his children. Sounds like he has issues.



    dont you think that will result in a huge bust up? namecalling isnt going to solve anything

    Shengis;3139492

    I don't get it :?



    you should get out more:oops:

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    bitseylango;3139513

    dont you think that will result in a huge bust up? namecalling isnt going … dont you think that will result in a huge bust up? namecalling isnt going to solve anything



    Say it as I see it babes, you know me :roll:

    edjaned;3139437

    i dont care what he says im going anywaybut what is his problem,i dont … i dont care what he says im going anywaybut what is his problem,i dont get it??



    mmm i would tell him if you have to take the others you might aswel be a single parent family:w00t:

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    thesaint;3139476

    Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up … Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset.



    its not me who argues
    when i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog out

    tbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,

    i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is

    louloo;3139523

    you should get out more:oops:



    Nope, im the happy hermit:-D

    Foosball Chum;3139529

    Say it as I see it babes, you know me :roll:



    yep strangely one of the few men who can see the female side-maybe its all the time you spend chatting em up gives you an insite:roll:

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    edjaned;3139546

    its not me who argueswhen i try and have an adult conversation with him … its not me who argueswhen i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog outtbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is



    I take the dog out for a walk to throw the ball and get rid of some rage. Last thing I want is to get heated and end up punching the wall (it hurts), but it also gives me time to think about what I want to say reasonably..........might be worth telling him to take the dog out :-D

    [QUOTE

    resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest


    sounds like you know the reason;-)

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    louloo;3139554

    yep strangely one of the few men who can see the female side-maybe its … yep strangely one of the few men who can see the female side-maybe its all the time you spend chatting em up gives you an insite:roll:



    Hmmm, probably........most of my best friends are women, I tend to not have great friendships with men. Strange, but hey :roll:

    Original Poster

    he has just got back from taking the dog after his comment
    will see what he says.........

    when my boy had his parents ev it was at tea time so u get a baby sitter in or someone as in my eyes they grow quick so u wont get another chance

    edjaned;3139546

    its not me who argueswhen i try and have an adult conversation with him … its not me who argueswhen i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog outtbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is



    Oh Dear, :-(

    It takes at least two people to argue, if he starts raising his voice, you need to make an extra special effort to lower yours and be in control of the situation.
    If he takes the dog out, let him.
    When he comes back, tell him calmly that you need to discuss the matter as it hasn't been resolved.

    If the father of your child isn't going, then your OH should be going in his place. You shouldn't let that situation develop any further, it's not healthy.

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    Foosball Chum;3139583

    Hmmm, probably........most of my best friends are women, I tend to not … Hmmm, probably........most of my best friends are women, I tend to not have great friendships with men. Strange, but hey :roll:



    im the same
    i tend to get on better with males than females always have done

    edjaned;3139473

    OH wont come as he is not his dad my 2 eldest are from a previous partner … OH wont come as he is not his dad my 2 eldest are from a previous partner so anything to do with the 2 eldest myself or their dad deal with it



    Thats a shame tbh.
    Hope your OH sees sense and will go.

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    louloo;3139572

    [QUOTEresents me having anytime with the 2 eldestsounds like you know the … [QUOTEresents me having anytime with the 2 eldestsounds like you know the reason;-)



    Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB

    Foosball Chum;3139616

    Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if … Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB



    odb? what did he say?

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    ADAMHODG;3139615

    Thats a shame tbh.Hope your OH sees sense and will go.



    he wont come

    he never has done

    Foosball Chum;3139616

    Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if … Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB



    now im totally lost :thinking:

    edjaned;3139659

    he wont comehe never has done



    my partner doesnt-although he does many other things for my kids-so i dont worry about it.

    bitseylango;3139664

    now im totally lost :thinking:



    yep me too:oops: FC please explain??

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    louloo;3139667

    my partner doesnt-although he does many other things for my kids-so i … my partner doesnt-although he does many other things for my kids-so i dont worry about it.



    he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrens
    he is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(

    edjaned;3139659

    he wont comehe never has done



    Well i guess everyone is different etc.
    If it were me i would go, but im not in that situation so cant really comment.

    edjaned;3139709

    he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrenshe … he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrenshe is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(



    yep teenage is worse...even with your own kids sometimes its hard to really like them (sorry if this offends some people!) They can be the most difficult selfish, lazy, well i could go on:oops:
    Anyways hopefully later in life things will change and he will be friends with him at least:thumbsup:
    I have three over teenage years now so have experience of all the pitfalls-but still make mistakes on a daily basis.
    People can say 'well i would do this' but all families are different and you got to figure what works for you. If you are not happy with it change it if you can.

    edjaned;3139709

    he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrenshe … he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrenshe is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(



    My OH has brought up my eldest as his own since he was 4, they used to get on really well until he hit his teens. I used to feel like piggy in the middle with the two of them arguing all the time, feeling like I should stick up for my son and back my husband up at the same time.
    We have 2 younger sons together and he always appeared to favour them.................however, now that they are approaching/entering their teen years I hear the same arguements between them and their dad as I did from the eldest!! It really is just a clash of hormones and personalities and all of them attempting to rule the roost.............when will they ever learn.......I am head of this household! :-D

    bitseylango;3139775

    My OH has brought up my eldest as his own since he was 4, they used to … My OH has brought up my eldest as his own since he was 4, they used to get on really well until he hit his teens. I used to feel like piggy in the middle with the two of them arguing all the time, feeling like I should stick up for my son and back my husband up at the same time. We have 2 younger sons together and he always appeared to favour them.................however, now that they are approaching/entering their teen years I hear the same arguements between them and their dad as I did from the eldest!! It really is just a clash of hormones and personalities and all of them attempting to rule the roost.............when will they ever learn.......I am head of this household! :-D



    lol here, here:thumbsup:
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