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    I can't remember if my Dad said his Mum had passed away, is there anyway of finding out without asking him as I would hate to ask him. I might text his wife but wondered if there was an even better option, like using a website online for deaths of a certain surname?

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    Do you know what graveyard she is buried in? if you could find that out then i think the church will hold records of the burial

    Is this recently, or years ago?

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    Shambolic;4782491

    Is this recently, or years ago?



    last few years I think, I remember him saying she was really ill but we only talk about once a year. It's just I want my girlfriend to meet her, we used to be close.

    DarkKnight;4782472

    Do you know what graveyard she is buried in? if you could find that out … Do you know what graveyard she is buried in? if you could find that out then i think the church will hold records of the burial



    There are 11 churches in her area, think it's just going to be easier to text my step mum hu?

    If she'd pased away wouldn't you have gone to the funeral though!

    is there anyone else in the family you could ask?

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    deb8z;4782586

    If she'd pased away wouldn't you have gone to the funeral though!



    He didn't invite me to my Grandad's ;-) They thought I was too young for to understand.

    lucerysmum;4782593

    is there anyone else in the family you could ask?



    No don't talk with any one on my Dad's side. My Mum and brother don't even talk to him any more

    deb8z;4782586

    If she'd pased away wouldn't you have gone to the funeral though!




    Not if they didn't know she'd died. I think that's the problem.

    You may have been lost in Amsterdam at the time?

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    Shambolic;4782656

    You may have been lost in Amsterdam at the time?



    Perhaps

    If you have her name, date of birth, and perhaps your' birth cert', I'm sure the local registrar could tell you.

    She may not have been buried, if perhaps cremated?

    if they didnt invite u to ur grandads funeral then this one must have been ur grandmother? is my logic wrong here?

    Shambolic;4782634

    Not if they didn't know she'd died. I think that's the problem.



    As i read the OP,its only him who doesn't know not his Dad,his Dad knows, the OP just doesn't wanna ask him as it would be rather insensitive to ask such a question:w00t:

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    magicbeans;4782692

    if they didnt invite u to ur grandads funeral then this one must have … if they didnt invite u to ur grandads funeral then this one must have been ur grandmother? is my logic wrong here?



    Yeah we called them by their first/nick names though

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    how strange, you want your gf to meet someone you dont even know that is alve or dead, weeirrrrrd

    sassie;4782720

    how strange, you want your gf to meet someone you dont even know that is … how strange, you want your gf to meet someone you dont even know that is alve or dead, weeirrrrrd



    Thank you,i was struggling to say it..lol

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    sassie;4782720

    how strange, you want your gf to meet someone you dont even know that is … how strange, you want your gf to meet someone you dont even know that is alve or dead, weeirrrrrd



    Of course I know her, she child sat me and my brother for years before and after my Dad left my Mum

    I can't get my head around someone forgetting whether their Grandmother is alive or not.

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    lumoruk;4782754

    Of course I know her, she child sat me and my brother for years before … Of course I know her, she child sat me and my brother for years before and after my Dad left my Mum



    I never said you didnt know her, just i found it weird from a gf perspective you would want her to meet someone who you didnt know was still on our planet, sorry didnt mean to cause offence, just found it strange

    good luck..... u could jus text ur dad and say when was the last time u saw 'grandma' or grandad...and see his reposne...if hes like wtf...u go yeah last time u went to grave cos i wanna go next time?!

    Right, ask your' Dad if he did anything for mothers day, last Sunday.

    If he took flowers to her grave - she died.

    If he took her out for a meal - she didn't.

    Sorted.

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    sassie;4782787

    I never said you didnt know her, just i found it weird from a gf … I never said you didnt know her, just i found it weird from a gf perspective you would want her to meet someone who you didnt know was still on our planet, sorry didnt mean to cause offence, just found it strange



    Maybe but I would have loved her to have met my Grandad on that side he was such a loveable character

    Shambolic;4782826

    Right, ask your' Dad if he did anything for mothers day, last Sunday.If … Right, ask your' Dad if he did anything for mothers day, last Sunday.If he took flowers to her grave - she died.If he took her out for a meal - she didn't.Sorted.



    Wow, that is spot on you are a genius thanks

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    magicbeans;4782798

    good luck..... u could jus text ur dad and say when was the last time u … good luck..... u could jus text ur dad and say when was the last time u saw 'grandma' or grandad...and see his reposne...if hes like wtf...u go yeah last time u went to grave cos i wanna go next time?!



    yes, or just say you would like to visit grandma but you dont know where she is, that way all angles covered

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    Wow I've just had an amazing insight in to the way you women think :w00t: always catching us men out

    That's because women think with their brains?

    I am a guy by the way, honestly :-D

    You can't ask if your Dad did anything for Mother's day if shes passed away, OMG if a relative asked me that i'd be mortified!

    sassie;4782846

    yes, or just say you would like to visit grandma but you dont know where … yes, or just say you would like to visit grandma but you dont know where she is, that way all angles covered



    oooo thats clever!!

    deb8z;4782967

    You can't ask if your Dad did anything for Mother's day if shes passed … You can't ask if your Dad did anything for Mother's day if shes passed away, OMG if a relative asked me that i'd be mortified!



    Yes you can. He could have visited her grave.
    Anyhow, he should have told him his gran had died when it happened.
    I don't get this funerals by invitation only thing?
    Anyone who wants to pay their last respects should be allowed to attend surely?

    Shambolic;4782995

    Yes you can. He could have visited her grave.Anyhow, he should have told … Yes you can. He could have visited her grave.Anyhow, he should have told him his gran had died when it happened.I don't get this funerals by invitation only thing?




    In the OP it said he MIGHT have told him and hes forgotten thats the point!

    I think the OP's question has been answered to be honest.

    deb8z;4783014

    In the OP it said he MIGHT have told him and hes forgotten thats the … In the OP it said he MIGHT have told him and hes forgotten thats the point!



    What rubbish. I'm sure I would remember if I was told my Gran was dead!

    I hope he finds out what he needs to know - and doesn't forget again!!

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    deek72;4783123

    What rubbish. I'm sure I would remember if I was told my Gran was dead!



    If only my world was as perfect as yours :lazy:

    lumoruk;4783291

    If only my world was as perfect as yours :lazy:



    Yeah, if only. xxxxx.
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