Is HUKD Misc a place for therapy...

105 replies
Found 13th Sep 2008
... and if so, in what ways? and do you think it works?

(Apols for another HUKD navel-starin' thread!)

It seems to me the site gives opportunities for 'therapy' by providing a forum for such things as: (1) expressing personal feeling and/or frustrations (2) saying things that can't be said elsewhere, (3) exercising power in little ways, (4) finding support for emotional dilemmas, (5) building a sense of self-esteem through interaction with others (in ways that perhaps doesn't work quite so easily 'outside'), (6) getting over specific issues, etc., etc.

In other words, aside from its stated aims, does HUKD Misc serve therapeutic purposes for some of its members?

Your thoughts very welcome!

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Would it not be true to say, that if HUKD meant all this to members, then we are a bunch of very sad people who are truly in need of therapy?

My thoughts ?

What does it do for you Liddle ??

You did remember it's (relatively)early on a saturday morning...

p.s. I'm sure many a member is one mainly for some of your examples above - just gotta look at the post count to see who's hooked the most:)

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liddle do you need to talk to someone cause its ok if you do

i,m here for you mate

Its helpfull when ppl get support when they have a rant, (Aha !! I knew I wasn't going mad) LoL

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robtallica;2959250

You did remember it's (relatively)early on a saturday morning...p.s. I'm … You did remember it's (relatively)early on a saturday morning...p.s. I'm sure many a member is one mainly for some of your examples above - just gotta look at the post count to see who's hooked the most:)



I'm hoooked and in need of a good session :roll:

DLM;2959330

I'm hoooked and in need of a good session :roll:



Whatever could you mean...:whistling:

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robtallica;2959346

Whatever could you mean...:whistling:



Who knows, maybe i need to go back to bed :roll:

DLM;2959356

Who knows, maybe i need to go back to bed :roll:



Are you a screamer too:p

2nd today:whistling:

Some of those examples are just facets of normal human interactions - what friends are 'for'. So, if you have friends on here, which I do, then the answer is ' I have friends'. Whether this makes misc therapeutic or not, I do not know.
They make me laugh and I enjoy their cyber-company and they demand nothing from me.They give me advice and we share experiences. They are very dear to me. I would not include:
(3) exercising power in little ways
(5) building a sense of self-esteem through interaction with others (in ways that perhaps doesn't work quite so easily 'outside'),
as examples which are relevant to me.

Predi: we might be anyway.:p

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robtallica;2959367

Are you a screamer too:p2nd today:whistling:



Maybe :whistling:

DLM;2959385

Maybe :whistling:



About you moving to Windsor....

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robtallica;2959399

About you moving to Windsor....



I'm all ears :-D

DLM;2959403

I'm all ears :-D



Oh stop it you:p

Bye:)

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robtallica;2959418

Oh stop it you:pBye:)



Goodbye x x

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No.

For me it is a place to pass the time (especially if I am sat in the home office covering calls) and for entertainment.

Any therapeutic needs are fulfilled elsewhere in the real world.

To paraphrase Liddle ol' me, "Are some HUKDers, especially those who post in the Misc section, disfunctional people who cannot interact with the real world?" Sorry if I'm putting words in your mouth Liddle ol' me.

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Predikuesi;2959229

Would it not be true to say, that if HUKD meant all this to members, then … Would it not be true to say, that if HUKD meant all this to members, then we are a bunch of very sad people who are truly in need of therapy?



No, I don't think so, but we probably do represent the spectrum (or a skewed slice) of society, so there will probably be a few who are in need of something like therapy (or professional help / support - whatever you wanna call it).

fragaliciousbob;2959252

liddle do you need to talk to someone cause its ok if you do :)i,m here … liddle do you need to talk to someone cause its ok if you do :)i,m here for you mate



Thanks frag - I'll give you a call when I'm feeling down and exploring my childhood traumas for answers (pls pm me your mobile number) :thumbsup:

chesso;2959382

Some of those examples are just facets of normal human interactions - … Some of those examples are just facets of normal human interactions - what friends are 'for'. So, if you have friends on here, which I do, then the answer is ' I have friends'. Whether this makes misc therapeutic or not, I do not know.They make me laugh and I enjoy their cyber-company and they demand nothing from me.They give me advice and we share experiences. They are very dear to me. I would not include:(3) exercising power in little ways(5) building a sense of self-esteem through interaction with others (in ways that perhaps doesn't work quite so easily 'outside'), as examples which are relevant to me.



Yep, agreed that these things are everyday human behaviour, but I would include the last two for everybody. We all exercise power in small ways all the time - we couldn't survive otherwise. Sometimes that power is manifested in passive (seemingly) non-powerful ways, but I do think it is an essential ever-present element. And building self-esteem is probably already built-in to your answer concerning the need for friendship etc.

Hmm... thinking aloud here and may have invalidated my whole 'therapy' thesis by doing so! I don't know much about this topic, but a few specific examples (which I won't mention) raised the issue for me, including some others referencing this topic in various ways by pm.

Liddle ol' me;2959474

No, I don't think so, but we probably do represent the spectrum (or a … No, I don't think so, but we probably do represent the spectrum (or a skewed slice) of society, so there will probably be a few who are in need of something like therapy (or professional help / support - whatever you wanna call it).



Then in other words, HUKD is actually very normal, since the things you suggest are evident in almost every walk of life. What is supposed to ne normal is only the estimation of those who think themselves to be superior to those they look down their noses at. Some of the greatest people in history had severe emotional and mental problems (composers, artists, scientists), yet left us with works that we admire today. I believe that there is worth in every person, and to some degree each one of us has a purpose and gift we can share with others.

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Predikuesi;2959457

To paraphrase Liddle ol' me, "Are some HUKDers, especially those who post … To paraphrase Liddle ol' me, "Are some HUKDers, especially those who post in the Misc section, disfunctional people who cannot interact with the real world?" Sorry if I'm putting words in your mouth Liddle ol' me.



Hmmm ... I think we are all (we as in humans in general) dysfunctional to a degree. i.e. We don't function well in certain domains of society. But I would never try to claim that HUKD'ers can't function in the "real world" (and btw, HUKD is also in the real world!). To be frank, that would be a ridiculous thing to say!

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Predikuesi;2959505

Then in other words, HUKD is actually very normal, since the things you … Then in other words, HUKD is actually very normal, since the things you suggest are evident in every walk and faction of life.



Yes, maybe. But normal in a very unique way!

Liddle ol' me;2959474

Yep, agreed that these things are everyday human behaviour, but I would … Yep, agreed that these things are everyday human behaviour, but I would include the last two for everybody. We all exercise power in small ways all the time - we couldn't survive otherwise. Sometimes that power is manifested in passive (seemingly) non-powerful ways, but I do think it is an essential ever-present element. And building self-esteem is probably already built-in to your answer concerning the need for friendship etc. Hmm... thinking aloud here and may have invalidated my whole 'therapy' thesis by doing so! I don't know much about this topic, but a few specific examples (which I won't mention) raised the issue for me, including some others referencing this topic in various ways by pm.


I'm not saying that exercising power isn't an aspect of human behaviour but it's not particularly valid in relation to HUKD and its therapeutic value. Actually here, the power is in the typing fingers of others and their responses, isn't it? Yes, you build self-esteem by interacting with friends but again in relation to HUKD I would venture that it is a poor medium.
I think, as you have started to suspect, your therapy theory is hitting the fan!!;-)

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chesso;2959519

I think, as you have started to suspect, your therapy theory is hitting … I think, as you have started to suspect, your therapy theory is hitting the fan!!;-)



Yes, quite possibly! Oh well, I won't bemoan its death - it was the product of about 5 minutes thinking time!

chesso;2959519

I'm not saying that exercising power isn't an aspect of human behaviour … I'm not saying that exercising power isn't an aspect of human behaviour but it's not particularly valid in relation to HUKD and its therapeutic value. Actually here, the power is in the typing fingers of others and their responses, isn't it? Yes, you build self-esteem by interacting with friends but again in relation to HUKD I would venture that it is a poor medium.



I see the exercise of power as fundamental to human nature / animal instinct, so I actually couldn't tease it apart from the therapy argument - or any other aspect of human intention.

I completely agree with the point about it being a poor medium. In fact, if anything, it's probably a better medium for the opposite at times. Anonymity itself frees people from the usual societal constraints, and perhaps this is where my thinking lies. I can't quite put my finger on the emerging link between what I'm saying here and the OP, but I feel there are connections that can be teased out. Ah, which helps me answer hottoshop's question - perhaps the therapy for me here is something to do with getting help sorting out confused (emerging) ideas in my head. The therapy is in the interaction and in the answers I arrive at in the process. Maybe. Or maybe I'm just mad!

Liddle ol' me;2959582

Or maybe I'm just mad!



Sorry can't resist this : "Much learning doth make thee mad" (Acts 26:24) I don't mean it, honest:thumbsup:

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Predikuesi;2959605

Sorry can't resist this : "Much learning doth make thee mad" (Acts 26:24) … Sorry can't resist this : "Much learning doth make thee mad" (Acts 26:24) I don't mean it, honest:thumbsup:



Np's - we've already sorted out our very different positions on the issue of god. But I do thank you for this quote. I can use it as another example of the anti-intellectual nature of theism!

yes, it is for me.

so thx to all of you who have helped me out in the past.

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blackpeppa;2959623

yes, it is for me.so thx to all of you who have helped me out in the past.



That's a good honest answer. Thanks for it :thumbsup: Perhaps my mini-thesis has some value after all (although I'm sure chesso will keep me on my toes!)

Liddle ol' me;2959617

I can use it as another example of the anti-intellectual nature of … I can use it as another example of the anti-intellectual nature of theism!


No. It was actually said by an enemy of the apostle Paul.

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Predikuesi;2959645

No. It was actually said by an enemy of the apostle Paul.



Ok, sorry about that! Darn, thought you'd given me a gem too! :thumbsup:

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Liddle ol' me;2959582

Or maybe I'm just mad!



http://images.despair.com/products/demotivators/madness.jpg

HUKD to me means,
Helping with Xmas stuff,
Passed the time whist ive been home with my ankle.
Keeps me sane whilst kids are watching spongebob which drives me mad.
A place to banter on topics - entertaining

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Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few who use Misc as an opportunity to attack others at every opportunity? Is that a form of therapy for them - maybe a place to vent hate in a controlled environment?

Liddle ol' me;2959694

Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few … Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few who use Misc as an opportunity to attack others at every opportunity? Is that a form of therapy for them - maybe a place to vent hate in a controlled environment?



Are you talking about yourself in the third person?

I agree though. There are some who use it in this way.

All sorted then. HUKD - little or no therapeutic value but helpful in sorting the actualities of existence. Madness results from over-thinking as described by the enemy of religious thought. It can be illustrated in blue!!
Next topic??

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pcnutta;2959692

HUKD to me means,Helping with Xmas stuff,Passed the time whist ive been … HUKD to me means,Helping with Xmas stuff,Passed the time whist ive been home with my ankle.Keeps me sane whilst kids are watching spongebob which drives me mad.A place to banter on topics - entertaining



I think that sums up the majority of women on here:-D

heheh i felt like i was filling in a job application form..

what do you feel we have to offer you... lol

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Liddle ol' me;2959694

Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few … Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few who use Misc as an opportunity to attack others at every opportunity? Is that a form of therapy for them - maybe a place to vent hate in a controlled environment?



And now the real reason for the thread sees the light of day:roll:

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Liddle ol' me;2959694

Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few … Another example that has just sprung to mind :roll: What about those few who use Misc as an opportunity to attack others at every opportunity? Is that a form of therapy for them - maybe a place to vent hate in a controlled environment?



And what of the even smaller minority that post on here purely for a negative response:whistling:

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Predikuesi;2959701

Are you talking about yourself in the third person?



Oh come now, that's a bit below the belt Pred. I'll grant you that I am interested in critiquing ideas and ideologies, but I'm hardly driven by hate and I certainly have no desire to attack others. Are you buying into that circulating discourse about me? I thought you'd moved beyond that

Or maybe a place for people whos on anger management ... lol
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