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    I know this isn't the right kind of thing to ask for on here but i can't seem to find any answers online. It's to do with a family situation so really looking for advice for someone who may have been through the same situation.

    My sister in law is being treated badly by her partner (mentally not physically) and is very ill at the moment. She is in hospital and due to be released (I think) and is still being treated like crap by her partner. I don't want to go too much into depth with the situation but she is on the verge of leaving him.
    They aren't married but have been together for about 15 years and have 3 kids (13, 10 and 4). They have a mortgage together (in Scotland) and she thinks that if they split up, she will have to leave with the children. He works but she stays at home. Does anyone have any advice on what she can do?
    Thanks.

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    Im not sure what the law is in Scotland regarding this. Best advice would be to speak to a solicitor. You get free advice.



    Very complicated when kids are involved, and a mortage. Good luck, It was a nightmare for me when i split with my parter of 5 years. We didnt have any kids but had a house together. Good luck!

    Editor

    Sorry to hear this ....

    She should also consider going to womens aid or a similar independant group and speak to them.

    ]Link to Womans Aid


    My sister in law is being treated badly by her partner (mentally not … My sister in law is being treated badly by her partner (mentally not physically) and is very ill at the moment

    They deal with domestic abuse situations which would also include mental abuse. They may not know all the answers but the likelyhood is that they can refer to the correct place to get them.

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    millarcat;6204711

    Sorry to hear this ....She should also consider going to womens aid or a … Sorry to hear this ....She should also consider going to womens aid or a similar independant group and speak to them. ]http://www.scottishwomensaid.org.uk/They deal with domestic abuse situations which would also include mental abuse. They may not know all the answers but the likelyhood is that they can refer to the correct place to get them.


    Thanks. I'll pass on the details. I really hope she goes ahead with it because her partner is just acting worse. She's not even been released from hospital yet and he's organised to go and play darts tomorrow. How bad is that? My wife could happily kill him for treating her sister like that.

    Supermod

    I would have been able to give you some pretty comprehensive advice but seeing as it is in Scotland it is best that you consult with one of the links above. English jurisdiction is more my thing.

    I hope your sister in law recovers well - it's very hard - especially as mental abuse can't be seen.

    My mum left my dad and took us 5 kids - (but in the UK) being a kid I obviously couldn't understand the implications of the divorce.

    We did leave him with the house though, and came back to London and lived in a 1 bedroom flat for over a year until we got ourselves organised again. We were all much happier being able to get on with our lives without the torment our dad was giving my mum (that affected us).

    Best wishes xxX

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    Thanks. She's really worried about having nowhere to go with 3 kids. In my opinion, he should move out and leave her in the house with the kids. The kids are more important.

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    Reddwarfposse5;6204966

    Thanks. She's really worried about having nowhere to go with 3 kids. In … Thanks. She's really worried about having nowhere to go with 3 kids. In my opinion, he should move out and leave her in the house with the kids. The kids are more important.



    Im pretty sure that is the case in Scotland, esp if the house is in both names.

    Hope she goes through with it and feels better soon!

    xx

    If children, money or housing is involved she must get legal advice.

    Citizens Advice Bureau
    adviceguide.org.uk/ind…htm
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    Good luck to your sister-in-law x x

    It must be horrible for you watching her go through this and wanting to help.

    Best thing you can do is arrange to get some serious legal advice. However accept she isn't going to be able to do anything until she's feeling much stronger.

    Take care xx

    Reddwarfposse5;6204743

    Thanks. I'll pass on the details. I really hope she goes ahead with it … Thanks. I'll pass on the details. I really hope she goes ahead with it because her partner is just acting worse. She's not even been released from hospital yet and he's organised to go and play darts tomorrow. How bad is that? My wife could happily kill him for treating her sister like that.



    So he should to stay in all day whilst his wife is in hospital? He shouldn't play darts?

    peodude;6206154

    So he should to stay in all day whilst his wife is in hospital? He … So he should to stay in all day whilst his wife is in hospital? He shouldn't play darts?



    I think OP means he should be more concerned for his wife than his dart score :roll:

    hi im a support worker at a womens refuge and would recomend she gets in touch with 08082000247 this is for england not sure it includes scotland but im sure theyll be able to help further good luck

    If they do split up then she won't be able to pay for the mortgage if she isn't working so I guess she will have to accept that they will have to leave.

    It will be a huge struggle and very stressful but it will be SOOO worth it if she goes for it - for herself and her children.

    I am sorry I can't be of any help but I really wish her all the best
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