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    Is this fair ? 6 yr olds football team !

    6 yr old son plays in a footy team and is doing really well ( sooo proud ! ) he has played 5 matches this season and has been 'man of match ' for 3 of them !( they get to take a little trophy home for the week ) this is decided by the opponents team and today he was awarded it again !! But football manager awarded it to someone else, to make it fair !!!!!
    Sons not aware /bothered by this at all , but i just think its defeting the object, he was mom in the other teams eyes regardless of how many times he has had it !..so he should get it regardless........am i right ?,,,,,,on the other hand im thinking the manager is right as in giving the other kids a turn and to give them a boost as there only 6/7 yrs old

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    It's fair. It's meant to be fun at that age and all kids need rewarding.

    Otherwise all that will happen is the other kids will end up resenting your son, hating him and probably giving him a beating.

    u know he was MoM....... is not nice but somehwat fair if it happens here and there

    yay to a good footballer there!

    What's the point of doing it if everyone's going to get the award at some point, no matter how bad they play.

    Either award it to the one that deserves it, or not at all.

    sorry op-but imho,its a team game,and at that age NOBODY should be getting a man of the match award-there is a time for such things later on-at 6 years old they should play for fun and no other reason. Another team of 6 year olds are not in a position to judge this award anyway-they will always go for the flashier players and ignore for instance a defender who has done his job the entire game-they dont understand the finer points.

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    not fair imo

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    Syzable

    It's fair. It's meant to be fun at that age and all kids need … It's fair. It's meant to be fun at that age and all kids need rewarding.Otherwise all that will happen is the other kids will end up resenting your son, hating him and probably giving him a beating.



    i can see what you mean ( resenting etc ) thats why i am asking tbh as as they are so young they arnt at that stage yet as far as i can see and they just enjoy playing,
    As for them hating him and beating him up .................well they gotta get past me first !X)......lol, nah he's too popular for that to happen !

    Kids are evil and fickle.........best always play safe. X)

    If he isn't bothered then leave it. Simples

    My mate's kid's go to my old primary school he was telling me that at their sports day they don't have 1st, 2nd & 3rd anymore everyone who takes part get's a winners badge?

    Absolutely mental, this is the same school that has canceled Christmas and now celebrates winterfest!

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    barky

    sorry op-but imho,its a team game,and at that age NOBODY should be … sorry op-but imho,its a team game,and at that age NOBODY should be getting a man of the match award-there is a time for such things later on-at 6 years old they should play for fun and no other reason. Another team of 6 year olds are not in a position to judge this award anyway-they will always go for the flashier players and ignore for instance a defender who has done his job the entire game-they dont understand the finer points.




    Barky , its the other teams manager/coach who decides not the kids ,...........i agree its fun and thats how my son see's it , his team got beat 11-0 a few weeks back but he wasnt a bit phased about it , he just said 'oh well'' !..and thats how i want to keep it, i dont want him turning into a competitive footy freak !, lol

    at that age it is fun and thats the way it should stay until they are in a league and competing.

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    My littlun has been MOM in 3 of his 5 games this season, decided by the coach. I'm fairly sure he would "mix it" so its not him each week, though the 2 weeks he didnt win, he wasn't MOM anyway. They have decided that the player of the season will be player with the most MOM.

    There are a couple of lads who were close to being MOM, so personally, I hope they get it at some point when its a close call for who gets it.

    Tough game tomorrow boys.......... put in the effort and you'll get your 3rd league win of the season. Europe beckons!X)

    I am joint coach in my son's football team (6/7) and we do something similar. We do 'best in training' on the saturday and the person who gets it get's to be captain on Sundays proper match. We make sure it's taken in turns tho....all our kids try their hardest and just because they didn't score a goal or save one doesn't mean they didn't work hard to help the team. The problem with letting the other team choose is that, because of their age they are influenced by the person that scores the most goals etc.. and can't always see how well, say the defender did. At this age they are not in a legue as such as they are not supposed to be competative.....it is just for fun. I do understand where u are coming from but I think it is important for the other children to believe that they helped in being a team and playing the game. xx

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    pinkshaz

    at that age it is fun and thats the way it should stay until they are in … at that age it is fun and thats the way it should stay until they are in a league and competing.



    Thats it they are in a league and competing , as young as they are

    This would be a good time to point out by letting the other boys have a turn at the trophy, even though the other team thought he was the best, he is being a good sportsman and team player.

    If some of the plonkers in the premiership had this instilled in them from an early age, we would probably watch a better game these days.

    shopstilldrops

    Thats it they are in a league and competing , as young as they are


    i meant a proper league when they are older as all my sons play football but it is not until they reach 11,s it really starts my youngest got player of the year but they dont do a weekly mom though.

    shopstilldrops

    Thats it they are in a league and competing , as young as they are



    As far as I know hun, that's not possible. The FA doesn't allow it until they reach under 9's. They can play through the FA from under 7's but not officially in a league ........ I believe.
    Edited by: "hannah19790" 16th Oct 2010

    competitive football starts at u13,s

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    can i just say i totally agree with all your answers about -fairness-age-etc, and i suppose if Joseph had not been awarded mom yet i would be feeling for him, but i just think it looks bad as another team manager has awarded mom to someone ( who doesnt know them and doesnt know if theyve been mom in previous games ) and our manager changes it so doesnt upset anyone !......it all goes on the teams website also, so the other team could think ' hang on it was blah blah mom, not him '
    Anyway , not too bothered nor is son , he/we are just enjoying it , standing in the freezing cold, p*ssing rain !!X)

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    hannah19790

    As far as I know hun, that's not possible. The FA doesn't allow it until … As far as I know hun, that's not possible. The FA doesn't allow it until they reach under 9's. They can play through the FA from under 7's but not officially in a league ........ I believe.



    Well you know they play weekly and in a 'sort of league' if that makes sense lol, they have fixtures etc and a league table

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    hannah19790

    As far as I know hun, that's not possible. The FA doesn't allow it until … As far as I know hun, that's not possible. The FA doesn't allow it until they reach under 9's. They can play through the FA from under 7's but not officially in a league ........ I believe.



    True...... but that doesn't stop the coaches / parents from doing it. This is the league my littlun plays in that confirms what you've said. (Though I'm 100% certain at under 9s they DID have leagues - so this is new in the last couple of years.

    Personally I think the concept of not having losers and winning not being encouraged, is not a good thing. Taking part is important...... but not when it means winning isn't a good thing.

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    pinkshaz

    competitive football starts at u13,s



    Nonsense.

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    Nonsense.


    one word? well correct me?

    pinkshaz

    competitive football starts at u13,s



    Says who?

    he should have recieved it , it should inspire his team mates to try harder.
    it is never to young to learn one of the fundamentals of life,life is a competition, your good at somethings and not so good at others.
    what about the demoralising effect it may be having on your son, he tries his hardest and doesnt get rewarded, he may think why bother in the future if he was a class above the other players.

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    pinkshaz

    one word? well correct me?



    I already have shown you a link in a previous post.

    Next.........

    CFC_Mark

    Says who?


    sfa non competitive football until 13,s.

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    compo1 person likes this

    he should have recieved it , it should inspire his team mates to try … he should have recieved it , it should inspire his team mates to try harder. it is never to young to learn one of the fundamentals of life,life is a competition, your good at somethings and not so good at others.what about the demoralising effect it may be having on your son, he tries his hardest and doesnt get rewarded, he may think why bother in the future if he was a class above the other players.




    Thats exactly what i was thinking compo !.........kids have got to learn, you cant always win etc and also if you deserve a reward ( regardless if you have had it previous) then so be it , he;s earned it......so give it him !!

    pinkshaz

    sfa non competitive football until 13,s.



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    pinkshaz

    sfa non competitive football until 13,s.



    I didn't think they played competitive football in Scotland at any age tbh.

    ^^^whatever scotland differs from england on this obviously.......
    Edited by: "pinkshaz" 16th Oct 2010

    Just because ur littlen might be a better footballer than the others it doesn't mean that the others don't deserve it too. He might be the one that stands out from the rest, which I can imagine makes u very proud, but the other kids have also played to the best of their ability and have been part of the team...ur son can't play on his own. I know ur just asking for opinions hun and are in too minds about it but that is just my opinion x

    guv

    True...... but that doesn't stop the coaches / parents from doing it. … True...... but that doesn't stop the coaches / parents from doing it. This is the league my littlun plays in that confirms what you've said. (Though I'm 100% certain at under 9s they DID have leagues - so this is new in the last couple of years.Personally I think the concept of not having losers and winning not being encouraged, is not a good thing. Taking part is important...... but not when it means winning isn't a good thing.



    Yh I agree with u, seems silly.....who make the decision that 8 year olds are ready for competative sport but 7's aren't??

    slamdunkin

    My lad plays in a league (under 9's)



    Yes, first year it's allowed as far as I know (_;)

    hannah19790

    Yes, first year it's allowed as far as I know (_;)


    yes england is u9, scotland u13

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    hannah19790

    Just because ur littlen might be a better footballer than the others it … Just because ur littlen might be a better footballer than the others it doesn't mean that the others don't deserve it too. He might be the one that stands out from the rest, which I can imagine makes u very proud, but the other kids have also played to the best of their ability and have been part of the team...ur son can't play on his own. I know ur just asking for opinions hun and are in too minds about it but that is just my opinion x




    Hannah i totally agree tbh, and i would be proud of him no matter what ! and tbh i totally agree at this young age of giving them all a go at 'mom' and getting the trophy for a week ( give them a boost ) just it was the other team that said my son was mom etc and will be on website blah blah ,

    It would bother me more if my son got the Man of the match, and didn't deserve it.

    totally fair that the manager shares it out amongst all the kids, anybody who has a problem with is just weird, my dad was coach of my rugby team and subseqeuntly i could never win anything as it would be seen as favouritism.. kinda annoyed me a little

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    thesaint

    It would bother me more if my son got the Man of the match, and didn't … It would bother me more if my son got the Man of the match, and didn't deserve it.




    exactly

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    I think it is ridiculous that the opposing team of 6 year olds get to nominate man of the match, after all at that age they are likely to be far more impressed with goal scorers than they will be defenders or mid fielders.

    My son plays in under 9's and they have 2 man of the match trophies awarded after each game. One goes to the best player of the game and the other is awarded to the player who has shown the most improvement or grown in confidence. The decision is made by their coach/manager who knows them well and understands the game more fully than most 6 year olds!

    We have one boy who lacks confidence and didn't score a goal at all last season but last week he put his first ball in the net and was awarded man of the match. Even though he wasn't the best player on the day both his team mates and the parents were delighted for him. It's called "being part of a team" and it takes more than one star player to make a strong team.

    As a parent it's your job to encourage him to share the limelight not to feel hard done by if other people get recognised for their efforts.
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