Its official I drive women mad!!!!

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Found 17th Feb 2010
On a serious note though, found out today that a friend (not a close close friend but someone I see pretty much most days and talk to) was sectioned last night, now when/if she is released I'm going to feel pretty awkward around her, what do you say to someone in a situation like this?

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Just act normal like nothing has happened, unless she speaks to you about it then I wouldn't mention it

Supermod

Speak to the family and see what they think is the "best thing to do".

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munnski;7872715

Just act normal like nothing has happened, unless she speaks to you about … Just act normal like nothing has happened, unless she speaks to you about it then I wouldn't mention it



Trouble with me is I tend to find humour in most situations however tasteless:oops: I'm liable to say something about her pet duck driving her quackers.

Sounds like she was pretty messed up though, apparantley she was going on about an hitman who was watching her, poor mare,

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magicjay1986;7872736

Speak to the family and see what they think is the "best thing to do".



She doesnt really have any family though.

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harlzter;7872755

She doesnt really have any family though.



Ah. Do they have a group of friends? Entirely up to you. Only you would know what was best.

The last thing you should do is act different, she is ill, you go to a hospital when you need a heart op etc.. if you're ill you get treatment, she sounds like she was in a really bad place in her mind, how about going to visit her? and sometimes jokes are ok, at least you won't be tip toeing around her

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Sometimes humor is the best cure. Just be open about it, she'll talk as much or as little as she wants to. If she talks to you about how she feels try not to tell her anything she says is wrong, its just the way she feels and she cant help it either way.

yes I agree dont act different but do not avoid her or the subject, allow her to either open the subject or ask her if she is ok and can you do anything to help. The worst thing you can do is avoid and act awkward, people do that when someone has died and its the wrong thing to do. Just give support silently until she gives you the go ahead to ask. Hope she is doing ok and her friends stick around.

just be normal with her,its an illness which she will get over one day and she will be normal again too x
poor lass , mental illness is so so common and yet still has massive stigma attatched x

harlzter;7872747

I'm liable to say something about her pet duck driving her quackers.



LOL! Sorry but that was quality... I'm a bit sick that way as well :whistling:

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The best thing for her is for you to be the same to her, just be normal, its bad enough for her without being treated strangely for it.

it's not as though she wont have a sense of humour about her problem, so if you slip you will be fine
But let her lead, if she wants to bring it up or not, go with that.

1 in 4 people will suffer from mental health problems in their life.

Keep a bag of KP handy and just always eat them when round her.

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glam-R;7872851

just be normal with her,its an illness which she will get over one day … just be normal with her,its an illness which she will get over one day and she will be normal again too xpoor lass , mental illness is so so common and yet still has massive stigma attatched x



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DLM;7873091

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Hey there you how are you?

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just say "oh wow, crazy to bump into you... i've been going insane trying to find your number... this phone drives me round the bend ect ect"

thought it was quite a coinsidence reading your thread, my mother in law got sectioned last night , she is only 49 and suddenly started talking about angles, and being reincarnated, spirits were talking through her. We havent visited her yet, going friday as she is in hampshire and we are in wales. She doesnt even realise that there is a problem yet. So in answer to your question take her lead, she may want comfort, a friend or a laugh. I am dreading it

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surfbunny;7874476

thought it was quite a coinsidence reading your thread, my mother in law … thought it was quite a coinsidence reading your thread, my mother in law got sectioned last night , she is only 49 and suddenly started talking about angles, and being reincarnated, spirits were talking through her. We havent visited her yet, going friday as she is in hampshire and we are in wales. She doesnt even realise that there is a problem yet. So in answer to your question take her lead, she may want comfort, a friend or a laugh. I am dreading it



Aw, hope she gets better soon :thumbsup:

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harlzter;7874343

Hey there you how are you?



I am fine.

Just busy posting my pic :oops:

Hope you are well :thumbsup:

DLM;7874490

Aw, hope she gets better soon :thumbsup:



Thankyou, its just mad how one min your fine the next your gone :?

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surfbunny;7874522

Thankyou, its just mad how one min your fine the next your gone :?



I know, hopefully she will make a full recovery.

Maybe it is just stress x x

Harlz, people get sectioned for all sorts of mental illness - usually an acute attack, but bear in mind that the mental health service in the UK is generally pretty dire and treatment regimes are erratic, as is aftercare, so if/when she is back then she will no doubt be feeling very stressed as a result of the sectioning apart from anything else. It is probably best to behave as you would if someone had simply been taken ill, with let's say a gynaecological problem, so slightly embarrassing.
But it depends on loads of things. One of which is - How much responsibility do you want to take on with this lady?

It's important to know that just like physical illnesses:

It's possible to recover completely from mental distress and many do. … It's possible to recover completely from mental distress and many do. Sometimes, they even emerge from the experience feeling stronger and wiser. Others get over the worst, but remain vulnerable, and relapse from time to time. Some don't recover, and will continue to receive treatment in the long term.


Mental distress may be temporary and mental illness may be permanent.


MIND have a lot on information about mental health issues and their website is pretty user friendly
mind.org.uk/hel…e?1
I think that these of their information resources are relevant to your question.
mind.org.uk/hel…ess
mind.org.uk/hel…ess
mind.org.uk/hel…are

i know a few people who should be ........sectioned........ But they are not.....:?. Good that your friend is sectioned, that way, she will get the help she needs.....

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How about going to see her. I have a friend sectioned at the moment and she certainly appreciates a visitor. She´s not mad you know.

surfbunny;7874476

thought it was quite a coinsidence reading your thread, my mother in law … thought it was quite a coinsidence reading your thread, my mother in law got sectioned last night , she is only 49 and suddenly started talking about angles, and being reincarnated, spirits were talking through her. We havent visited her yet, going friday as she is in hampshire and we are in wales. She doesnt even realise that there is a problem yet. So in answer to your question take her lead, she may want comfort, a friend or a laugh. I am dreading it



hope she has a speedy recovery x
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