Kids and their eating habits ???

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Found 10th Jan 2009
My sis is in her 40's now but always used to be a fairly fussy eater - could never understand y, the rest of us (5 kids in total) always ate normally. A friend of mine, in her 30's is the same only much worse - basically will ONLY eat sausages, fish cakes, and burgers as a dinner. I just don't get it!! But now my little girl (3 next month) is getting like it. She loves sausages and fishfingers the best and makes such a fuss at anything else (we are a pretty healthy eating family, I cook thngs like shepherds pie, fish pie, spag bol, roast on Sundays - I mean who don't like roasts?!!!! lol and veg with most meals too).
I've always been 'it's that or nothing at all' kinda mum but she's not fussed - she'd go without! If my kids eat their dinner then they often get a treat of some sort but this doesn't seem to do the trick with her.
Anyone else have this trouble??

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One of my kid's was the same, just keep plugging away they will grow out of it in time.

It's a battle of wills. Is your will stronger than hers?

she wont starve but will test you all she can!! i remember when i was little my bro would go days withouyt eating anything he wasnt fussy would just stop lol the doc always said he isnt going to starve himself let him get on with it!

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Benson's Bargain;4019339

One of my kid's was the same, just keep plugging away they will grow out … One of my kid's was the same, just keep plugging away they will grow out of it in time.



That's what I was hoping but then I think about my sis and m8 and I wonder if that is the case:? I'm happier that ur little one grew out of it though - fingers crossed then. Thanks hun:thumbsup:

thesaint;4019340

It's a battle of wills. Is your will stronger than hers?




Hmm.......I am determined for it to be but yeh, have wondered:roll:

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foxymissroxy;4019393

she wont starve but will test you all she can!! i remember when i was … she wont starve but will test you all she can!! i remember when i was little my bro would go days withouyt eating anything he wasnt fussy would just stop lol the doc always said he isnt going to starve himself let him get on with it!



Yh that's true, will just keep it up then thnks sweet:thumbsup:

One of mine was like this ( have 5 ). Very fussy eater. She literally went two weeks without eating once when she was little! She's now a normal healthy teenager.

If she limits her intake out of choice, ( rather than because she has a sore throat or a cold putting her off ) try all the positive rewarding you can when she tries something a little different.

Possibly if she realises she's worrying you, she may do it more! So don't let her see you are bothered when she doesn't eat what you want her to.

Do you give them vitamins? May want to if you think they're eating less healthily than you would prefer. May also increase her appetite.

I was once advised by a specialist to consider all they eat in a week rather than day by day. If she is still taking in some veggies/fruit and a balanced array of food groups over the entire week then I wouldnt worry. It is a notoriously difficult age group for faddy eating. You aren't alone!!!

HTH! xx

I am a VERY fussy eater, no fruit and veg for me (unless potatoes and strawberry milkshake count :p) Joking, i am better now I am older but still don't eat anything like what 'normal' people eat.

As my kiddies were growing, well still are, if they don't like something they still keep getting it, then they start to like it. My son didn't really like any form of meat, now he is eating them fine. I still get the odd things they don't want to eat but just gotta keep up with it - don't want them to end up like me, if I didn't like something then my Mum just didn't give me it again, worse thing you can do (I am proof!)

Also, I have read that it's not good to try and 'bribe' kids to eat by telling them they can have a treat after, unless you are talking healthy stuff like fruit/yoghurt, etc

Natalie 3 in a fortnight has decided she's not a big fan of meat but loves veg and would rather have a plate of peas, carrots, califlower, sweede, potatoes & parsnips than anything else

Positive rewards...are smiles, hugs, kisses, "wow, did you eat that for mommy? thank you sooo much!!" Didnt mean sweeties lol

Absolutely true that if you keep presenting a food to a child, they are more likely to like it eventually, than if they never see it again, obviously! Was told by someone takes about 20 possible "no's" before you can hope for a yes!

my five year old girl is like this. I can't understand it. I love food. She is even like it with puddings, if its not yoghurt she would rather not bother.

I don't stress, just let her get hungry, although I won't send her to school with stuff she won't eat, she needs energy for school.

However, I think it is a matter of opinion. when i go to my inlaws, twice a year, my kids (and I ) find their style of eating hard, and it is seen as fussy. I don't think they are being fussy, its just not their eating style.

I think generally kids are all the same, iv got 3 and my youngest has become a nitemare with food. All he wants to eat is toast for every meal. He will go without if he doesnt want wots on offer, but im hopeful that if i stick with it he'l come rnd in th end!

good Luck

make sure she isn't filling up with liquids as well.

could you treat her with fish fingers and sausages? mine have to eat their veggies before i put the sauages/ fish fingers on the plate.

My two girls are totally different....My eldest knows what she likes and likes what she knows. My youngest will try anything and likes just about everything.....As a kid I was fussy but now I eat anything (and have the tummy to prove it).

I wouldn't be too worried Hannah:)

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ClarityofMind;4019539

One of mine was like this ( have 5 ). Very fussy eater. She literally … One of mine was like this ( have 5 ). Very fussy eater. She literally went two weeks without eating once when she was little! She's now a normal healthy teenager. If she limits her intake out of choice, ( rather than because she has a sore throat or a cold putting her off ) try all the positive rewarding you can when she tries something a little different. Possibly if she realises she's worrying you, she may do it more! So don't let her see you are bothered when she doesn't eat what you want her to.Do you give them vitamins? May want to if you think they're eating less healthily than you would prefer. May also increase her appetite.I was once advised by a specialist to consider all they eat in a week rather than day by day. If she is still taking in some veggies/fruit and a balanced array of food groups over the entire week then I wouldnt worry. It is a notoriously difficult age group for faddy eating. You aren't alone!!!Someone said that to me before about the food intake over a week, think that might have been when my daughter was on milk and somedays wouldn't take a lot but I'd 4gotten. No, have never given them vitimins but might speak to the doc or pharmacy and see wht they say then. Relieved I'm not the only one anyway, thanks for your help hun, feel better about it now;-)HTH! xx



[QUOTE=Mrs.Z;4019581]I am a VERY fussy eater, no fruit and veg for me (unless potatoes and strawberry milkshake count :p) Joking, i am better now I am older but still don't eat anything like what 'normal' people eat.

As my kiddies were growing, well still are, if they don't like something they still keep getting it, then they start to like it. My son didn't really like any form of meat, now he is eating them fine. I still get the odd things they don't want to eat but just gotta keep up with it - don't want them to end up like me, if I didn't like something then my Mum just didn't give me it again, worse thing you can do (I am proof!)

Also, I have read that it's not good to try and 'bribe' kids to eat by telling them they can have a treat after, unless you are talking healthy stuff like fruit/yoghurt, etc[/QUOTE


See thts what I thought but my friend sid that her parents MADE her eat what she was given and that's made her more like the way she is! It's so difficult. I won't give in though - like u say keep giving it too her and hopefully she'll get used to it:thumbsup:

There treat usually is a yoghurt although at the moment as they hve so much choc due to xmas they have some of that after their dinner

Is she practising her assertiveness through food? My DD does this often.

She has refused to eat foods that she used to eat for about a year now.... I continuously put them on the plate, and on ours. I make sure she notices that I am eating (and enjoying it)

Just this week she tried the rice and said she really liked it. There has been 3 things this week that she is willing to try again! Yay.

Another thing - if my DD makes things 'herself''then she also more willing to give it a go!

Like the others say she will eat when she is hungry.

I dont think it matters what you do as a parent sometimes... everyone goes through this..

"You are to BLAME for what I am, if YOU hadn't forced me to
a) eat up all my greens
b) take up a sport/playing a musical instrument
c) join a nunnery
I wouldnt be as confused as I am today" stage!

We all just muddle through parenthood doing the best that we can. Can't be perfect all the time. And if they grow up safe and sound and relatively happy and successful, then Yay! I guess thats because we...
a) made them eat their greens
b) made em take up a sport/playing a musical instrument
c) forced them to join a nunnery!!

:-D

I was forced to eat veg as a child and remember vividly at the age of 8 being forced to eat the 2 brussel sprouts I had left on my plate.....I told my paents that they made me feel sick but was told that if i didnt eat them for they would be served up for tea/breakfast until I ate them. I put one in my mouth and promptly threw up all over the dinner table......I was given a good hiding and sent to bed! At the age of 8 it was hard to comprehend why I had been punished so severley when I had told them they made me feel sick!
Since then I hate brussels and have never had them in my house!
I have never forced my boys to eat their veg....yes I have hidden them, mushed up or grated into their dinner, but if they refused to eat them I always let it go.
They are now 19. 13 and 12 and eat a well balanced diet of home cooked food.
I grew up in a house where dinner time was always a constant battle of wills and often ended in tears......I refuse to bring my kids up the same way.

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blackpeppa;4019679

my five year old girl is like this. I can't understand it. I love food. … my five year old girl is like this. I can't understand it. I love food. She is even like it with puddings, if its not yoghurt she would rather not bother.I don't stress, just let her get hungry, although I won't send her to school with stuff she won't eat, she needs energy for school.However, I think it is a matter of opinion. when i go to my inlaws, twice a year, my kids (and I ) find their style of eating hard, and it is seen as fussy. I don't think they are being fussy, its just not their eating style.



Yh she cn be like tht with desserts too sometimes. I agree with the school thing, like u say they need there energy:thumbsup:

vinylandtrinkets;4019692

My son is exactly the same and he's now 7. It started when he was 18 … My son is exactly the same and he's now 7. It started when he was 18 months old, he just stopped eating altogether, wouldnt drink cows milk so we had to put him back on formula milk, Midwife and GP just said he wont starve, leave finger foods round for him to pick at, we tried this and he ignored everything, the only thing he would eat was MacDonalds chicken nuggets and chips, so for almost 2 years he lived on those and bread, when he started school and ate meals with the other kids he would try different things, but still the same at home, now he's 7 and its still hard as he will only eat chicken, beef, chips,sausage, smilies faces,ham the smallest amount of sweetcorn i can get on the plate. Apples once in a blue moon and crisps/sweets which he doesnt have a lot of.He is slowly getting better and hes growning normally, not under weight or anaemic, and our Gp isnt worried, But i'm constantly worried about him, but he is getting there, hopefully when your little one starts school she'll see the other kids eating different foods and want to try them, it helped my songood luck with it and try not to stress to much.


God that sounds tough hun, she isn't quite like that yet but it does worry me. Yh, like u say, perhaps when she starts school she'll be better, hope so. Hope ur boy starts to enjoy food a lot more too hun x

PrettyInPinkTink;4019695

I think generally kids are all the same, iv got 3 and my youngest has … I think generally kids are all the same, iv got 3 and my youngest has become a nitemare with food. All he wants to eat is toast for every meal. He will go without if he doesnt want wots on offer, but im hopeful that if i stick with it he'l come rnd in th end!good Luck



By the sounds of it ur right, lots of kids the same - I just swore I would never let one of mine be like this lol

blackpeppa;4019718

make sure she isn't filling up with liquids as well.could you treat her … make sure she isn't filling up with liquids as well.could you treat her with fish fingers and sausages? mine have to eat their veggies before i put the sauages/ fish fingers on the plate.


She only really drinks water, same as me - seems odd but she's not all that fussed with anything else, which I'm pretty happy bout anyway.
yh we do this when we have spag bol for instants. She loves the garlic bread but she's not allowed any until she's eaten the meat - does work although still tough. Funny enough she eats alot of her veg, with a little encouragement but nonetheless lol and she loves things like olives - I mean OLIVES!! yuk lmao

Train Driver;4019719

My two girls are totally different....My eldest knows what she likes and … My two girls are totally different....My eldest knows what she likes and likes what she knows. My youngest will try anything and likes just about everything.....As a kid I was fussy but now I eat anything (and have the tummy to prove it).I wouldn't be too worried Hannah:)



I'm sure tht's it, she's just different to my boy and I can't understand it!
And u aint got a belly, hark t ya :-D
Thanks hun x

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Butterflies;4019961

Is she practising her assertiveness through food? My DD does this … Is she practising her assertiveness through food? My DD does this often.She has refused to eat foods that she used to eat for about a year now.... I continuously put them on the plate, and on ours. I make sure she notices that I am eating (and enjoying it)Just this week she tried the rice and said she really liked it. There has been 3 things this week that she is willing to try again! Yay.Another thing - if my DD makes things 'herself''then she also more willing to give it a go!Like the others say she will eat when she is hungry.



Yes, she is VERY stubbon and agues black is white, this could be just wht u say and her practising her assertiveness - I WILL WIN!!:-D

ClarityofMind;4019983

I dont think it matters what you do as a parent sometimes... everyone … I dont think it matters what you do as a parent sometimes... everyone goes through this.. "You are to BLAME for what I am, if YOU hadn't forced me toa) eat up all my greensb) take up a sport/playing a musical instrumentc) join a nunneryI wouldnt be as confused as I am today" stage!We all just muddle through parenthood doing the best that we can. Can't be perfect all the time. And if they grow up safe and sound and relatively happy and successful, then Yay! I guess thats because we...a) made them eat their greensb) made em take up a sport/playing a musical instrumentc) forced them to join a nunnery!!:-D



haha that's a good way of putting it:thumbsup:

bitseylango;4019998

I was forced to eat veg as a child and remember vividly at the age of 8 … I was forced to eat veg as a child and remember vividly at the age of 8 being forced to eat the 2 brussel sprouts I had left on my plate.....I told my paents that they made me feel sick but was told that if i didnt eat them for they would be served up for tea/breakfast until I ate them. I put one in my mouth and promptly threw up all over the dinner table......I was given a good hiding and sent to bed! At the age of 8 it was hard to comprehend why I had been punished so severley when I had told them they made me feel sick!Since then I hate brussels and have never had them in my house! I have never forced my boys to eat their veg....yes I have hidden them, mushed up or grated into their dinner, but if they refused to eat them I always let it go. They are now 19. 13 and 12 and eat a well balanced diet of home cooked food. I grew up in a house where dinner time was always a constant battle of wills and often ended in tears......I refuse to bring my kids up the same way.



This is exctly wot my mte says but she feeds her kids chicken nuggets and chips every night and choc for breakfast, now that just can't be healthy?? :?

hannah19790;4020089

Yes, she is VERY stubbon and agues black is white, this could be just … Yes, she is VERY stubbon and agues black is white, this could be just wht u say and her practising her assertiveness - I WILL WIN!!:-Dhaha that's a good way of putting it:thumbsup:This is exctly wot my mte says but she feeds her kids chicken nuggets and chips every night and choc for breakfast, now that just can't be healthy?? :?



no its not healthy at all....when the going got really tough and they went thro the stage of refusing veg I opted for vitamins and supplements for them...but they ate either toast or cereal for breakfast, sandwiches at lunch and a good meal ( shepherds pie, spag bog, and once a week fisfingers and chips at teatime. Finding a happy medium is very hard but it can be found.
Their favourite meal now is a full sunday roast with veg :-D

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bitseylango;4020139

no its not healthy at all....when the going got really tough and they … no its not healthy at all....when the going got really tough and they went thro the stage of refusing veg I opted for vitamins and supplements for them...but they ate either toast or cereal for breakfast, sandwiches at lunch and a good meal ( shepherds pie, spag bog, and once a week fisfingers and chips at teatime. Finding a happy medium is very hard but it can be found. Their favourite meal now is a full sunday roast with veg :-D



This is what I try and do, give them their favourite meal once a week but only if they eat our favs too. They both love their brecky and have sarnies for lunch and alwys fruit but dinners......??? Aarrghh!!! Can't wait till mine enjoy Sunday roasts too they're my favourite yum yum lol

I'm getting hungry....lol
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