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    all my other children have been happy babies,but my latest son who is 7 months i cant do anything with him!whilst sat on my knee he is a happy baby but as soon as i put him down he cries,my house has turned into a doss hole,i just dont get the time to do it
    was anyone elses baby like this and when did they grow out of it?i have 4 other children to look after so its hard work now its the easter hols

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    Original Poster

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    not as innocent as he looks

    Invest in a baby sling.

    I used to need constant holding when I was a baby because I was lactose intollerant and had stomach pains, mum found a baby sling invaluable as it meant she could tidy up or play with my brother, but I was still happy

    Not sure if he has always been like that, but around that age they go through a 'strange' phase where they are starting to recognise faces and realise when you are gone. They become very attached to the person who spends the most time with them and wont even let them out of the room to make a drink or something. They grow out of it, but it can take a few months (Sure you know this though as you already have kids)

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    its because my others werent like this they were ok if i would go out the room for a minute or two not done anything different with this one he is just "clingy"
    at first i was using a sling but now he is far to big for it
    i just hope he will grow out of it as my sister told me her mates little boy was still like that at 3

    Most babies do go through a strange phase, as mentioned above. It will get better if it is that, but the more you can leave him with someone else the better for both of you.

    Just start by getting someone else to hold him while you are in the room, then when you leave the room, progress to 10 minutes out of the room etc.

    It will break your heart to begin with, but will be better in the end for both of you

    BTW, totally GORGEOUS pic! I'll take him for you

    Try to think of things that usually make him calm. And what kind of things might agitate him? If you go through the various options like this and try them out you might find certain practices that will help. Although I must admit, this is difficult when you've already got kids running around. But it is still worth thinking about - some kids respond well/badly to everyday sounds etc that you can increase/cut down once you know what they are. Some examples are: soothing music / dim lights / sound of mother's voice reading (you can record it) / turning off TV / having a dummy or other comfort device / cutting out sugars (e.g. fruit juices, etc) / finding food allergys so as to avoid / etc. etc.

    Sorry, just brainstorming here, but this process of elimination has helped us work out these kind of things in the past. Good luck - it's tough having a needy baby. Hope the phase is a short one...

    I remember watching something ages ago about clingy babies... It seemed to help when the mummy left something that was hers with the baby and the little one knew was "mummy's" when she went out of the room... You need to do it bit by bit like Kelly_O says and keep building up the length of time you can leave him...

    Also completely agree that he is GORGEOUS!! My little one had the same bouncy seat too so you have fab taste! :lol: (Mamas&Papas?)

    Lots of love & luck! I hope things get better for you xx

    I know how you feel. First time mum to eight month old and he too is clingy.
    Must be worse for you with other children - bet you are at your wits end sometimes.

    My fourth was like that! she had to see my face all the time. I had two doors in the lounge and if I went out of one she went off like a siren! she was quiet in seconds if she saw my face!! Anyway she stopped it as soon as she became mobile. Have you tried a baby walker? He may be just bored as I suspect she was..I tried the control crying method and didnt work. As soon as she was off crawling she was fine. Funny thing was if my Mum minded her at her house she was an angel and Mum could do anything...weird. Anyway 14years on and I much prefer the crying to the teen tantrums

    oh and doss-hole?? it gets worse when they are older trust me...

    My youngest of 3 is coming up for 7 months old and hates to be put down, is constantly wanting cuddles and only with me! I left her with her granny for the first time ever the other day as my eldest had a hospital appointment. I was expecting her to be crying for me all day but she was the perfect baby - until i came home and she saw me then she bawled her eyes out! I dont really have any suggestions as im in the same situation but just so you know, you are not alone! lol

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    kelly_o_fanatic;1766050

    Most babies do go through a strange phase, as mentioned above. It will … Most babies do go through a strange phase, as mentioned above. It will get better if it is that, but the more you can leave him with someone else the better for both of you.Just start by getting someone else to hold him while you are in the room, then when you leave the room, progress to 10 minutes out of the room etc.It will break your heart to begin with, but will be better in the end for both of youBTW, totally GORGEOUS pic! I'll take him for you



    i think that may be the problem my oh parents have both passed on and i keep my family at arms distance(a long story)
    so he has always been with me,i only have a couple of mates(proper mates) who i rarely see now,i have never left him with anyone
    its that bad he starts as soon as i lift my bum of the sofa

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    Liddle ol' me;1766090

    Try to think of things that usually make him calm. And what kind of … Try to think of things that usually make him calm. And what kind of things might agitate him? If you go through the various options like this and try them out you might find certain practices that will help. Although I must admit, this is difficult when you've already got kids running around. But it is still worth thinking about - some kids respond well/badly to everyday sounds etc that you can increase/cut down once you know what they are. Some examples are: soothing music / dim lights / sound of mother's voice reading (you can record it) / turning off TV / having a dummy or other comfort device / cutting out sugars (e.g. fruit juices, etc) / finding food allergys so as to avoid / etc. etc.Sorry, just brainstorming here, but this process of elimination has helped us work out these kind of things in the past. Good luck - it's tough having a needy baby. Hope the phase is a short one...



    thank u,the only thing that seems to comfort him is breastfeeding or giving him attention
    i hope its a short phase too

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    sadiebabes;1766122

    I remember watching something ages ago about clingy babies... It seemed … I remember watching something ages ago about clingy babies... It seemed to help when the mummy left something that was hers with the baby and the little one knew was "mummy's" when she went out of the room... You need to do it bit by bit like Kelly_O says and keep building up the length of time you can leave him... Also completely agree that he is GORGEOUS!! My little one had the same bouncy seat too so you have fab taste! :lol: (Mamas&Papas?) Lots of love & luck! I hope things get better for you xx



    yep m & p :thumbsup:

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    pinkkitty2007;1766351

    My youngest of 3 is coming up for 7 months old and hates to be put down, … My youngest of 3 is coming up for 7 months old and hates to be put down, is constantly wanting cuddles and only with me! I left her with her granny for the first time ever the other day as my eldest had a hospital appointment. I was expecting her to be crying for me all day but she was the perfect baby - until i came home and she saw me then she bawled her eyes out! I dont really have any suggestions as im in the same situation but just so you know, you are not alone! lol



    thanks

    He's lovely.
    Maybe he grow out of it when he gets on the move which shouldn't be too far away.I remember times when my 1st was clingy,well from the time he was 4-10mths we stayed at my parents and there was always someone to pick him up.So,when I moved out,he used to scream when I'd go into garden to hang out washing and stuff.If I needed to get on,yeh it sounds cruel but I just let him cry and he soon figured out I wasn't going pick him up and it wasn't like at my parents when someone always be there on his every call.

    It soon passed when he got a bit more active,pulled up on sofa and found things more interesting without me.It was totally different the 2nd time round as my daughter was really content just watching her brother playing and she be fascinated by him,and for that time when she could turned clingy he was he most of time as only went to nursery 2 full days. She was so content to sit about and watch everything going on,she never actually walked till 21mths,she felt no need to I guess.However she can be quite clingy now around strangers or people she don't know very well and if we go round to houses she not familair with and she 5 now and she does not like men,only her Dad.
    Does he watch tv at all,there some baby channels on Sky and they can quite be soothing as sometime smy daughter will watch a little when she sleepy and they don't need much attention.

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    louloo;1766204

    My fourth was like that! she had to see my face all the time. I had two … My fourth was like that! she had to see my face all the time. I had two doors in the lounge and if I went out of one she went off like a siren! she was quiet in seconds if she saw my face!! Anyway she stopped it as soon as she became mobile. Have you tried a baby walker? He may be just bored as I suspect she was..I tried the control crying method and didnt work. As soon as she was off crawling she was fine. Funny thing was if my Mum minded her at her house she was an angel and Mum could do anything...weird. Anyway 14years on and I much prefer the crying to the teen tantrums



    yes i have put a thread in the wtd section for a walker but no replies as yet

    my eldest are 12 & 11 then 5,2 and 1/2 and the baby so i have a mixture of the crying and the tantrums

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    nikkib123;1766140

    I know how you feel. First time mum to eight month old and he too is … I know how you feel. First time mum to eight month old and he too is clingy.Must be worse for you with other children - bet you are at your wits end sometimes.



    yes i am i could cry myself at times :cry:

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    Mum2Connor&Cerys;1766548

    He's lovely.Maybe he grow out of it when he gets on the move which … He's lovely.Maybe he grow out of it when he gets on the move which shouldn't be too far away.I remember times when my 1st was clingy,well from the time he was 4-10mths we stayed at my parents and there was always someone to pick him up.So,when I moved out,he used to scream when I'd go into garden to hang out washing and stuff.If I needed to get on,yeh it sounds cruel but I just let him cry and he soon figured out I wasn't going pick him up and it wasn't like at my parents when someone always be there on his every call.It soon passed when he got a bit more active,pulled up on sofa and found things more interesting without me.It was totally different the 2nd time round as my daughter was really content just watching her brother playing and she be fascinated by him,and for that time when she could turned clingy he was he most of time as only went to nursery 2 full days. She was so content to sit about and watch everything going on,she never actually walked till 21mths,she felt no need to I guess.However she can be quite clingy now around strangers or people she don't know very well and if we go round to houses she not familair with and she 5 now and she does not like men,only her Dad.Does he watch tv at all,there some baby channels on Sky and they can quite be soothing as sometime smy daughter will watch a little when she sleepy and they don't need much attention.



    i do leave him if something needs doing but if it can be left i leave it
    i think your right i prob have been soft and picked him up quite quickly
    sometimes i think anything for a quiet life!
    and i dont need much of an excuse to put of the housework :oops:
    he doesnt have any interest in tv at the mo unfortunatly

    I'm sure he will only be like it a while longer and probably come Autumn he could be walking and will want everything else instead you holding him all time.

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    It's a phase(Unless you have one of them kids that were on TV last year still breast feeding at the age of 9)

    waterloo;1766653

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    thesaint;1766658

    It's a phase(Unless you have one of them kids that were on TV last year … It's a phase(Unless you have one of them kids that were on TV last year still breast feeding at the age of 9)



    !!!!

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    thesaint;1766658

    It's a phase(Unless you have one of them kids that were on TV last year … It's a phase(Unless you have one of them kids that were on TV last year still breast feeding at the age of 9)



    deffinatly not ewww

    Have you tried freecycle for the walker? i just got a buggy-board for grandson (not a bad swap!)
    Seriously try your area and another locally and im sure you will be lucky.
    In the meantime when he cries try singing very loudly!!! sometimes the shock stops em in their tracks!
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