My daughter who is pregnant with her first child lives with her partner down a terrace street, which like many terrace streets up and down the country is quite congested. They both have cars, her partner also has a high sided van and they both work hard, doing overtime when available.
My daughters partner sometimes parks his van outside neighbours houses rather than outside their house, I presume and hope this is because he wants to leave the parking space outside their house for my daughter, as she is pregnant, and I presume he thinks it’s better for her not to have to waddle too far home. Anyhow a neighbour left a note on his van questioning why he isn’t parking on his own front, stating that if he doesn’t want his own van parked at the front of his house, why does he think they want it outside theirs? They also state that all they ask for is a little respect, and that they all get on down the street, and so could he, if he shows a little respect.
So I’m just curious on what other people’s views are on this? Yes, I would be a little peeved off having a large van parked outside my home, but people should know what it’s like for parking down a terrace street before they purchase a house there, and yes I know they’re not moaning about taking the space but rather parking a large van there. I’ve told my daughter to tell him to carry on parking where he likes and to just smile and walk away if he ever gets confronted about it. End of the day, he’s just trying to make a living to support his family, he’s doing nothing wrong. What’s people’s opinion looking at it from both sides?
My daughters partner sometimes parks his van outside neighbours houses rather than outside their house, I presume and hope this is because he wants to leave the parking space outside their house for my daughter, as she is pregnant, and I presume he thinks it’s better for her not to have to waddle too far home. Anyhow a neighbour left a note on his van questioning why he isn’t parking on his own front, stating that if he doesn’t want his own van parked at the front of his house, why does he think they want it outside theirs? They also state that all they ask for is a little respect, and that they all get on down the street, and so could he, if he shows a little respect.
So I’m just curious on what other people’s views are on this? Yes, I would be a little peeved off having a large van parked outside my home, but people should know what it’s like for parking down a terrace street before they purchase a house there, and yes I know they’re not moaning about taking the space but rather parking a large van there. I’ve told my daughter to tell him to carry on parking where he likes and to just smile and walk away if he ever gets confronted about it. End of the day, he’s just trying to make a living to support his family, he’s doing nothing wrong. What’s people’s opinion looking at it from both sides?
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sorted byDid they not think about the parking in the street before buying the house?
Works both ways. It may be that its all people can afford so don't have the luxury of affording a property with a parking space or a drive.
If it was me and the van was constantly being parked in the same position every day, I would be peeved about it as nobody wants a high sided panel van outside their house, even if its their own. I don't see the relevance of being pregnant has on parking. I am sure she is more than capable of walking down a street even at 9 months pregnant? Exercise is good for mum and baby and pregnant women don't need to be wrapped up in cotton wool.
Seems to me a slight sense of entitlement because she's pregnant personally.
Solutions? Park the van somewhere else, rent a garage and park the unused car there whilst van is being used (unless I am mistaken, 2 people can't drive 3 vehicles at the same time), sell one car.
Your family are out of order. Not only taking a disproportionate number of spaces, but also parking a high van outside other peoples houses instead of your own is.... Well I can't use the terms that I would due to the site rules.
Just being entitled. Have some respect for the people you live among.
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Another one I dislike is that other quote ppl used to use “I would die for my family blah blah” …. Try living for them unless you got a death wish!
Whereas it's not his fault for not parking outside his own house because he got his partner pregnant?
Is that the jist of it? (edited)
I think you are getting the jist of how this thread is going, so accept that your daughter and partner are taking the pish and tell them to listen to the neighbour. Why would they want to upset neighbours, they have to live there.
Well, you asked for a view.
If you wish to have any courtesy then at least stick the big van outside your own property. It must be quite annoying seeing that being done to you every single day.
ps: Your title is "neighbours moaning regarding parking" when it should read "neighbours politely ask for respect regarding parking". "Moaning" evidently suggests that you don't care in the least (edited)
I always try to park at the end of a road where you are alongside gardens of the neighbouring road not in front of houses.
Parking the van outside my house when the space outside yours is empty would wind me up. I think it would do with most people.
*Should* he park his van outside neighbours' properties? Well, only he can make that call really but he should ask himself if he would like someone else doing the same outside his.
Personally, I don't buy the "leaving the space for pregnant partner" as if it's anything like when I lived in a terrace, someone else would have been in there in a heartbeat.
If I had the van I would be parking it outside my own house due to above reasons, It would only be fair, the only reason not to be doing really is because I wouldn't want those issues blocked light/view myself.
My wife didn't pass her driving test till after she had our children so she was walking everywhere if I was at work (Schools, shopping, visiting friends) without any issues whilst pregnant and it would previously be the normal. Leaving a parking space for that reason isn't really valid.
That being said provided all vehicles are legally on the road there's no reason not to park where they want. Obviously neighbourly relations might be stretched if it continues as they have already aired their concerns but that's upto whoever is involved if that concerns them enough. I would be parking the van outside my house. (edited)
I’d be livid if I was in this situation, a polite note would be the last thing on my mind
At the end of the day the neighbours can moan, but I’m sure if they ever needed a favour they would knock on the door. I wouldn’t worry about it
I know a number of women who were cycling and even going to the gym when 8 months pregnant.
Occasionally, a high sided van gets parked outside of our house, and it does block the light (and terraced houses are notorious for being a bit gloomy inside anyhow). The missus gets properly narked by it, but I'm fine. We have a drive, but no car so don't really mind if people park in front of that. The missus isn't impressed though.
Three vehicles between two people is a tad excessive imo. (edited)
He can walk can’t he!
I doesn't sound like the neighbours have an issue with you parking in front of their house it's possible more of the an issue with the van.
I'll have to agree with the majority of this thread.
Your advice to your daughter is just entitlement and clearly shows your attitude to being good with neighbours. Yes, its a public road and yes they can park anywhere but parking the van outside someone else's house, on the pretext of your daughter being pregnant, its just an excuse. Im sure the walk for your daughter would be a few yards away, not exactly miles.
your attitude OP is exactly the problem and you giving such advice is shameful. and using pregnancy, working hard and overtime as some sort of justification. I guess OP will just ignore what people here are saying anyway as they probably just wanted some confirmation bias. Think the OP must be surprised with the responses. (edited)
Parking is a big issue for most properties and streets and majority of people realise this and try to be as considerate as possible when parking - your family do not appear to be in this majority.
Amazed the tyres in van are still inflated - I’m sure there’d be many of people who would have reached the end of the tether with this selfish behaviour and would not be leaving a note but a brick instead
when confronted the owner of the van stated they couldn’t park it outside their own home because they could never get a space. Low and behold when they were arguing this point the van pulled up onto our street and would you believe it…there was no car parked outside of their house. So their argument was a lie.
They owned 2 cars, the work van AND had a drive. Clearly they didn’t want the van outside of their home. They now ‘make space’ for all of their vehicles in front of their own house!
Yes, they can park anywhere but this is about being considerate, especially if you have more than 1 car. Theres been a few recent major incidents where parking issues have been one of the issues with neighbours and its come to very serious consequences.
If i ever park outside my neighbours, as soon as a spot opens outside mine, i'll go and change it. Its called being considerate of everyone.
absolute entitlement of not parking his own large van outside his own house. park the car outside neighbours which is still annoying and park the big van outside your own.
This could be going on for the next 15yrs if more kids come along.
For what it's worth, at home I don't park outside other people's houses. One of my cars lives in a garage, the other directly outside the house. There is a hard standing in front of the garage but it's not wide enough to open your car door and get out, and parking there blocks bikes/bins/the other car getting out of the garage.
If I get a skip or similar I shift my other car round to a side street so that I'm not taking up extra space on the street, or parking in front of anyone else's house.
I don't think you can realistically expect to 'reserve' a space on a terraced street.
If you leave a car directly outside your own house and don't move it (as I'm sure lots of us did over lockdown) I don't think anyone can really have any complaints. But leaving one outside someone else's house, when you've got space in front of your own, is going to cause complaints. (edited)