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    I lost my virginity very young but I don't really know what influenced me =/ I was happy in the relationship at the time so I just thought why not?

    Embarrassment about seeking protection (pill, condoms etc) could lead to problems in sexual health
    Media (rightly or wrongly) reporting that girls who get themselves pregnant get free housing and all sorts of benefits - making it appealing

    Internet porn

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    kelly_o_fanatic;5890141

    Embarrassment about seeking protection (pill, condoms etc) could lead to … Embarrassment about seeking protection (pill, condoms etc) could lead to problems in sexual healthMedia (rightly or wrongly) reporting that girls who get themselves pregnant get free housing and all sorts of benefits - making it appealing



    Thank you, thats great

    Banned

    They realise it's fun

    treble99;5890157

    Do you mind if I ask if you are male or female? and how long had you been … Do you mind if I ask if you are male or female? and how long had you been in a relationship? did you have sex to get your virginity out of the way or because you both wanted to(Apologies If have asked too much info:oops:). One thing I have identified amongst young people is that attitudes towards sex and sexual health differs greatly amongst boys and girls



    I'm male. I had been in the relationship about 5 months. It was a bit of both really, I wanted to do it more than her but waited until we were both ready.

    [COLOR="Red"]A lot of kids want to be like The JFK and live a playboy lifestyle.[/COLOR]

    Original Poster

    tonyg1962;5890149

    Internet porn



    Thanks I have included a section about internet porn, its ready availability for young men and included a report from scientists in America which concluded that internet porn was more addictive than crack cocaine and distorted male preceptions of what women should be like

    The JFK;5890181

    [COLOR="Red"]A lot of kids want to be like The JFK and live a playboy … [COLOR="Red"]A lot of kids want to be like The JFK and live a playboy lifestyle.[/COLOR]



    What sat at their PC making up stories lol,

    they believe they are in love bless

    Home life, being made to grow up faster due to problems and use it as an escape.
    I had 2 children at the age of 19.

    The JFK;5890181

    [COLOR=Red]A lot of kids want to be like The JFK and live a playboy … [COLOR=Red]A lot of kids want to be like The JFK and live a playboy lifestyle.[/COLOR]



    You really should use this as your avatar...........

    http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_V93iC7EA3_0/R4qOew-Bl2I/AAAAAAAAAGE/21XvZilw0To/s320/Jackanory.jpg

    Original Poster

    macdoona;5890434

    Home life, being made to grow up faster due to problems and use it as an … Home life, being made to grow up faster due to problems and use it as an escape.I had 2 children at the age of 19.



    Do you mind if I ask if it was a generational thing, was your mum/dad a young parent.

    ill tell you who influences most people around here, Andy Pearson.

    tonyg1962;5890149

    Internet porn



    whats that? :whistling:

    I had my daughter at 19. My parents were in there 20's when they had me, I led a normal(ish) childhood, I lost a parent at a young age but that didnt make any difference to why I had a baby at 19. I was in a loving relationship of 4 years and it just happened.

    treble99;5890479

    Do you mind if I ask if it was a generational thing, was your mum/dad a … Do you mind if I ask if it was a generational thing, was your mum/dad a young parent.



    mum was 20 and dad was 26 when they had my sis and 22/28 with me.
    None of my children were planned, I was married at 18 and taking the pill but for so unknown reason it failed twice.

    Didn't have our first child (i'm male) till i was 28.............haven't stopped coming since though. :lol:

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    I personally think that having a child after the age of 18/19 is acceptable and is part of the step upto adulthood. However each person is different and matures at a different time. I have worked with kids who have become parents at 16 and have really taken to it and also worked with adults who had kids at 18+ who dont have a clue what their doing when it comes to parenting.
    Anyway back on topic, do people feel that being under the influence of alcohol or drugs has any effect on attitude towards sex and contraception, ie, is someone more likely to have unprotected sex when drunk.

    treble99;5890563

    I personally think that having a child after the age of 18/19 is … I personally think that having a child after the age of 18/19 is acceptable and is part of the step upto adulthood. However each person is different and matures at a different time. I have worked with kids who have become parents at 16 and have really taken to it and also worked with parents who had kids at 18+ who dont have a clue what their doing when it comes to parenting. Anyway back on topic, do people feel that being under the influence of alcohol or drugs has any effect on attitude towards sex and contraception, ie, is someone more likely to have unprotected sex when drunk.



    personally no. but yes to a lot of people. When drunk I still know what I am doing, I never get myself into silly states but I have been with my partner since I was 15..... and I am now 24. So maybe if I didnt have a partner and went out drinking on the pull.... yes?

    treble99;5890563

    Anyway back on topic, do people feel that being under the influence of … Anyway back on topic, do people feel that being under the influence of alcohol or drugs has any effect on attitude towards sex and contraception, ie, is someone more likely to have unprotected sex when drunk.



    It's common knowledge that drunk people are far more "up for it" so yes but forgetting contraception is another thing, some people just don't like using any.

    I don't think alcohol should affect people's decision to put something on the end of it. I personally wouldn't want a baby at 15-19 so I used contraception, maybe some people are just stupid and/or not thinking about that at the time.

    rwm24;5890666

    It's common knowledge that drunk people are far more "up for it" so yes … It's common knowledge that drunk people are far more "up for it" so yes but forgetting contraception is another thing, some people just don't like using any.I don't think alcohol should affect people's decision to put something on the end of it. I personally wouldn't want a baby at 15-19 so I used contraception, maybe some people are just stupid? :whistling:



    It does not make you stupid having a baby at 19? :roll:

    4lyons09;5890701

    It does not make you stupid having a baby at 19? :roll:



    I didn't say everyone that had a baby at 19 was stupid, i'm saying some people that just have lots of casual unprotected sex and are suprised by the fact they end up a parent are stupid

    I did a ninja edit after you quoted that anyway :-D

    4lyons09;5890701

    It does not make you stupid having a baby at 19? :roll:



    Nope.........matter of personal choice. We are all different.

    I didn't want kids till later on in my 20's as there was lots i wanted to do first like buy a house, travel etc and get secure. There is no right and wrong.

    rwm24;5890715

    I didn't say everyone that had a baby at 19 was stupid, i'm saying some … I didn't say everyone that had a baby at 19 was stupid, i'm saying some people that just have lots of casual unprotected sex and are suprised by the fact they end up a parent are stupid



    why didnt you say that then :whistling:

    i think males aged 16-19 are affected more if there are more males at the home, i guess this comes under peer pressure, but just saying.

    Original Poster

    Smeagol i think males aged 16-19 are affected more if there are more males at the home, i guess this comes under peer pressure, but just saying.

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    Hi
    I had a baby at 15 after losing my virginity with my bf at 15. We did it because we were 'in love' and very naive. Feel free to ask me any questions you like
    Im now 21, have lived with my partner for 3 years and have another little girl (who was planned). Im at uni finishing a degree and am 100% happy with the way my life is x

    EDIT - Just to make it clear i wouldnt advise anyone to become teenage parents as its not easy, i dont want people to think im glamourising it in any way. Im just making the best of the situation i put myself in and obviously I wouldnt change a thing as they are my babies

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    student_mummy;5890880

    Hi :)I had a baby at 15 after losing my virginity with my bf at 15. We … Hi :)I had a baby at 15 after losing my virginity with my bf at 15. We did it because we were 'in love' and very naive. Feel free to ask me any questions you like Im now 21, have lived with my partner for 3 years and have another little girl (who was planned). Im at uni finishing a degree and am 100% happy with the way my life is x



    This might sound stupid but were you aware of the risks of pregnancy/STI's when you first started having sex? One of the things I am trying to get across in the report is that Britain has one the highest teen pregnancy and STI's rates in the developed world. The sexual education delivered in schools is clearly not getting its messages across to young people so we need to develop an alternative method of delivering this message to young people.

    PS. Congrats on getting a degree after being such a young mum, cant have been easy

    treble99;5890845

    Do you mean if it is a male dominated household, ie, more men than women?



    yea, i think it defintly impacts on the young male, if he lives with all women for w/e reason then i think there far less pressure on him to do these things,(like me) but if its split men and women or all male then theres more pressure.(my cousin)

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    treble99;5890947

    This might sound stupid but were you aware of the risks of … This might sound stupid but were you aware of the risks of pregnancy/STI's when you first started having sex? One of the things I am trying to get across in the report is that Britain has one the highest teen pregnancy and STI's rates in the developed world. The sexual education delivered in schools is cleary not getting its messages across to young people so we need to develop an alternative method of delivering this message to young people.



    No I honestly didnt think about it. like I said I was naive and assumed it just wouldnt happen to me. I actually cant even remember my sex ed at school. There were 3 girls in my year pregnant (the first at the school for 7 years) and I was the only one who went back.

    I came from a family who never talked about sex openly. We had never even discussed periods etc and my parents are still the same. On the other hand my boyfriends (at the time) parents were graphically open with him about all things sexual yet we were still careless so i dont believe either approah works.

    I don't think sex education is taken seriously when tought in schools. It just makes a whole class of 30 make remarks and giggle. Well thats how it was at my school. I think tv adverts would be a better way of putting things accross and maybe other ways, sex education is just a giggle to a bunch of teenagers at school.

    Original Poster

    Smeagol yea, i think it defintly impacts on the young male, if he lives with all women for w/e reason then i think there far less pressure on him to do these things,(like me) but if its split men and women or all male then theres more pressure.(my cousin)

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    4lyons09;5890998

    I don't think sex education is taken seriously when tought in schools. It … I don't think sex education is taken seriously when tought in schools. It just makes a whole class of 30 make remarks and giggle. Well thats how it was at my school. I think tv adverts would be a better way of putting things accross and maybe other ways, sex education is just a giggle to a bunch of teenagers at school.



    +10000 hun

    I honestly think it might have helped me if my mum was more approachable. I had asked to go on the pill when i turned 15 but my dad wouldnt let me and i thought i needed his permission (I was very naive!) x

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    student_mummy;5890989

    No I honestly didnt think about it. like I said I was naive and assumed … No I honestly didnt think about it. like I said I was naive and assumed it just wouldnt happen to me. I actually cant even remember my sex ed at school. There were 3 girls in my year pregnant (the first at the school for 7 years) and I was the only one who went back.I came from a family who never talked about sex openly. We had never even discussed periods etc and my parents are still the same. On the other hand my boyfriends (at the time) parents were graphically open with him about all things sexual yet we were still careless so i dont believe either approah works.



    This is another thing Im trying to highlight. The government promotes parents being the biggest influence in a childs education and children being able to fulfill their potential. Yet it is still strange that we expect school teaches to "teach" our children about sex and sexual health, when really it should be a parents job.

    treble99;5891004

    Thanks for that, do you think it works the same for girls?



    i really cant say, im male and can only give a males perspective on it, but i would imagine it works the same for the females as well, would be nice to hear a females opinion on this.

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    treble99;5891025

    This is another thing Im trying to highlight. The government promotes … This is another thing Im trying to highlight. The government promotes parents being the biggest influence in a childs education and children being able to fulfill their potential. Yet it is still strange that we expect school teaches to "teach" our children about sex and sexual health, when really it should be a parents job.



    Definitely. The one thing i was worried about most when i realised i was pregnant was my dads reaction and him being ashamed of me.
    If they had been a bit more open with me i would have had a better understanding of sex and i may have waited. At the time i just didnt think it was a big deal and i wanted it over and done with.
    Im going to be a lot more approachable with my girls (not graphically though) and hope that they feel they can talk to me. I would rather know my daughters were having sex at 15 safely than not know and find out they are pregnant.

    Forgot to say earlier we didnt worry and STI's as we were both each others first. I just didnt think that i would fall pregnant.

    Smeagol i really cant say, im male and can only give a males perspective on it, but i would imagine it works the same for the females as well, would be nice to hear a females opinion on this.

    ilovelilac;5891070

    hia smeagol :-D found you :w00t:i never gave into peer pressure, i think … hia smeagol :-D found you :w00t:i never gave into peer pressure, i think most people do though :thumbsup:



    hello, how comes my stalkers always find me :thinking: weird :-D

    did you live with all females then?

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    treble99;5891025

    This is another thing Im trying to highlight. The government promotes … This is another thing Im trying to highlight. The government promotes parents being the biggest influence in a childs education and children being able to fulfill their potential. Yet it is still strange that we expect school teaches to "teach" our children about sex and sexual health, when really it should be a parents job.



    My parents were fuming at his parents as they knew we were having sex and treated it as a joke. They never told my parents and still let him come to my house to stay over (he was my brothers best friend at the time). Obviously at the time I liked that but now im a parent i realise that that was hideously wrong.
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