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reading/poem for my dads funeral

Posted 29th Dec 2008
dont know if anyone can help me...im looking for a reading/poem to read at my dads funeral on friday...ive trawled the internet for 2 hours tonight and the ones ive found seem either too childish or just not suitable..i want something from a daughter to a dad..ive even tried to write something but im not clever enough to put into words my feelings...any help would be greatfully appreciated
karen x
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can't remember who wrote it

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
...Its not a case of being clever enough...if you can manage to write down what you feel then it would be more personal to you. It would be very lucky/hard to find a poem online that means as much to you as your own thoughts and feelings do...hope you sort it xxx
I don't know whether this is appropriate for your circumstances but my other half used this when her Dad died of cancer earlier this year.

God saw you getting tired,
A cure was not meant to be,
So He put His arms around you,
And whispered, "Come to me."
With tearful eyes we watched you,
As we saw you pass away,
Although we loved you deeply,
We could not make you stay.
Your golden heart stopped beating,
Hard working hands at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best.

Hope you find one suitable. Condolences to you and your family.

Col xx
Sorry to hear about your loss!

These have been read recently at a funeral I attended, and touched my heart (as well as others):

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!)

(there are quite a few variations of the above)


You can shed tears that he is gone
or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back
or you can open your eyes and see all he's left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he's gone
or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
or you can do what he'd want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Just a couple of ideas! Hope this helps a little

sorry to hear of your loss

dont worry for sounding silly. Thats not what matters

try here - voicesnet.org/all…010

i dont know if any suit.

i found this -

Not Good-Bye, but see you later
Dressed in the color of black,
Celebrating one’s new journey
Tears stream down my face
Burning from the sorrow,
of the words Good-Bye
Before my eyes,
you were gone like the night.
Higher, higher, push me higher
On the swings we played
And hugs and kisses we shared
Now at your grave,
knowing that you are not there
But standing here beside me
Watching over me and waiting
Till the day we meet again
So it’s not a Good-Bye, but see you later
As I walk away, I hear you say
Sweet Dreams Little Angel
and I say the same
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
whatever we were to each other
that we still are
call me by my old familiar name
speak to me in the easy way
which you always used
put no difference in your tone
wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together
pray smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was
Let it be spoken without effort
without the trace of a shadow in it
Life means all that it ever meant
it is the same as it ever was
there is unbroken continuity
why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you
somewhere very near
just around the corner
All is well

My mum took comfort in this after my brothers funeral x
I was just about to post this one - the most beautiful funeral poem

Death is nothing at all...
I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way you always used.
Put no difference into your tone
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effort,
without the ghost of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was;
there is absolutely unbroken continuity....

Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you for an interval,
Somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well

[Henry Scott Holland, English clergyman, First World War, slightly adapted
Do your own if at all possible, it will mean much more.

Did my dads, got up about 3am one morning and just wrote how I felt.

Doesn't matter if you aren't the best at writing, go for it.
thank you so much for all your kind words and help
If you are reading the words yourself, you have to remember how difficult it might be. As true, honest and heartwarming a lot of words are - if you are saying them at such an emotional moment, you might find yourself overwhelmed.
Could you choose a special poem ( many lovely ones mentioned already) that some other family member or friend could read out, and perhaps you could read something that might not evoke too much pain/emotion at a moment that you may not want to?
To stand in front of a number of people at an extremely emotional/heartfelt time can be too much in my opinion. I wonder if you might delegate so that someone else could read "your thoughts"?
Whatever you decide, it will be right - it's your farewell.
thank you...i have sat while on here writing down feelings and memories...i must admit i dont know if i will cope but i know if needs be my hubby will step up to help me...
you are all great thanks so much for your help
best wishes to you all...
and lots of luck and happiness for the new year
so sorry to hear of your loss. hope you and your family are ok and i hope the reading/ poem is what you hope it to be :friends:
Sorry for you loss and stay strong for you Dad, i'm sure he will be watching over you and proud of what ever you read for him..
i wrote my own one for my dad, more memories of him than a poem. but some of these brought a tear to my eye, very moving. sorry to hear of your loss
I found this which I thought was rather good without being too over the top........condolences for your loss.

I thought of you with love today
but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday
and days before that too,
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name
All I have are memories
and your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake
with which I’ll never part
God has you in His keeping
I have you in my heart
thank you again...your kind words are really appreciated
love to you all
karen xx
Im not a very good writer but i wrote my granda a poem it wasn't for his funeral but to put inside card for his birthday since i wasn't able to give him one in person. It tells him how i feel and relates to our relationship with bits like i am your little angel (thats what he always called me). Sorry for your loss.xxx
I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your Dad - it's always something that you know will happen one day, but that doesn't stop it from being devastating when it happens.

Whatever you say will be appreciated by those attending the funeral, and it doesn't matter how you say it either - the important thing is that you're there, and you're doing whatever you can in the most difficult of circumstances.

You will come to terms with your loss, but you'll always remember the good times you had with your Dad as well.

I hope all goes well for you - I'm sure it will.
I read this one at my mums funeral earlier this year. I don't know how appropriate it is for your dad though I have to say It was amoung the hardest things I have ever done. Your in my thoughts hun

dry your tears and laugh again,
Let go your hurt, release your pain,
Accept that my time on earth was complete,
My lessons all learned, some bitter, some sweet.
Envisage me, healthy and strong,
Don't hold the memory of where it went wrong,
Know that the place where I am feels so right,
I'm surrounded by love and bathed in white light.
Don't cling on to heartache and think I'm afar,
For I stand by your side, wherever you are,
In your joy and your sorrow, every night, every day,
I'm there with my love, just one thought away.
Step into the sunshine, come out of the rain;
For me dry your tears, for me laugh again.
Author unknown

Also if you at all religous 'footsteps' is a lovley reading
[FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2]Close friend died of bowel cancer few weeks ago. This had me in tears, can adapt it slightly. Bette Midler, the Rose[/SIZE][/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2]Some say love, it is a river
that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor
that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
an endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower,
and you its only seed.

It's the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance.
It's the dream afraid of waking
that never takes the chance.
It's the one who won't be taken,
who cannot seem to give,
and the soul afraid of dyin'
that never learns to live.

When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been to long,
and you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong,
just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snows
lies the seed that with the sun's love
in the spring becomes the rose.[/SIZE][/FONT]

I am sorry for your loss, can't imagine what you must be going through. … I am sorry for your loss, can't imagine what you must be going through. The following was read at my husbands fathers funeral.You can only have one fatherPatient, kind and trueNo other friend in all the worldWill be the same to youWhen other friends forsake youTo your father you will turnFor all his loving kindnessHe asks nothing in returnAs we look upon his pictureSweet memories we recallOf a face so full of sunshineAnd a smile for one and allSweet Jesus take this messageTo our dear father up aboveTell how much we miss himAnd give him all our love

This is beautiful. Thankyou for sharing it with us.
they have all been so beautiful and so moving...thank you all so very much
karen x

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