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    Saturday night and i am in need of some TLC!

    Well lets start the sob story ...

    Its a saturday night and i am home with the kids whilst my Hubby and Step son are in Birmingham watching Aston Villa (we are not fans, it was a trip organized by my step sons football team)

    I am feeling a bit sorry for myself; the past 3 months have been a whirlwind.
    I have recently had a baby and he has been quite unwell, he caught e-coli and has been in hospital, he is only 12 weeks and we have just found out he is lactose intolerant but that should solve a few problems.
    I have also been looking after my mother in law who has terminal cancer and the nurses recently told us that it could any day now; its so sad as i have never met such a kind hearted woman and we were really close.
    My grandparents who bought me up have also been ill. My grandfather had a nasty fall which bought on a stroke and the stress of it all bought my grandmother to have a heart attack.

    I dont know what else could possibly happen and there is not enough hours in the day. Between looking after my boys (12 wks, 3 and 9) driving 15 miles to see my MIL and 15 miles in the opposite direction to visit my grandparents i feel like i am losing my sanity!
    I am only 23 so still young and everyone thinks i am so strong by dealing with everything but inside i am crumbling. These few weeks should be precious moments with me and my newborn but i just dont have the energy.

    My social life is suffering and dont feel confident enough to talk to my friends as they think i am the life and soul! I am normally a confident, bubbly girl. How wrong could they be!

    Taxi for Aimee ....

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    I felt sorry 4u... then realised u support the scum... lol... only joking ofcourse.

    You must be strong to cope and I feel for you. You have more than your plate full-is there anyone can help you to take the strain even so you can have an hour or two off?

    It doesn't rain it pours... it seems everything seems to go bad at the same time.

    I feel so bad for you. Stay strong!

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    donbreach;2021667

    I felt sorry 4u... then realised u support the scum... lol... only joking … I felt sorry 4u... then realised u support the scum... lol... only joking ofcourse.



    Dont get me started on that, after the other night i shall hold my head in shame!

    So sorry to read you are having such a rough time of it, try to keep your chin up and solider on. You are abviously a strong indidivual from what you say.

    Take care and keep on keeping on :friends:

    Aimee1985;2021687

    Dont get me started on that, after the other night i shall hold my head … Dont get me started on that, after the other night i shall hold my head in shame!



    Nothing to be ashame of being beaten by the mighty Chelsea... we will do u lot proud against the mancs come 21st May.

    mmm-have fun here cos my older kids are like beachballs bouncing in and out of home at will with all the problems associated..elderly parents needing help and all the stress. Thankfully my small son although he has noonan syndrome is healthy right now and funny and a joy to have. Kids put things in perspective! I dont have the problems you have and am so sorry for one so young you have to deal with it..

    Reading that puts our own grumbles and moans into perspective. I am sure you have plenty of friends here Aimee:)

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    louloo;2021676

    You must be strong to cope and I feel for you. You have more than your … You must be strong to cope and I feel for you. You have more than your plate full-is there anyone can help you to take the strain even so you can have an hour or two off?



    Got the day off today, if you call looking after my little rascals a day off! My aunty helps with my grandparents but she has recently jetted off to florida and the cancer nurses help with my MIL but they only visit 2/3 times a day.

    Thanks for all the support, i will read it all tonight when i get a minute. Hopefully things will mellow out soon, i think i deserve a holiday when things calm down; its the only thing keeping me going :thumbsup:

    Going to entertain the little ones now.

    Thanks everyone :-D

    I was about to give ya a hug & kiss, but then.....

    Aimee1985;2021687

    ............ after the other night i shall hold my head in shame!




    ........go away and repent :x

    You are having such a bad time - its a wonder you haven't turned to drink!
    Maybe you should tell one of your friends but it would probably open the floodgates.
    Sounds like you need a good cry.
    Its hard enough with a new baby as it is but with everthing else you have to contend with, wow.
    Its amazing how people cope when the chips are down but they cope and sounds like you are as well - just about.
    Poor you x

    It is quite difficult but you need to give yourself some me time... event if it is just closing yourself in the bathroom and having an indulgent bath where you have some oils, and candles to help you relax. Let your hubby look after the baby for an hour while you get that treat.

    Not a lot I know but it will help to just reset your body clock and system overall. get a hug too babes that relieves a lot of stress.

    Have you ever heard of ]homestart? They are an excellent organisation that I believe be of great benefit to you and your family.

    Puts my probs in perspective

    Take care of urself hun and make use of all family and friends offers

    chin up chick it can only get better

    i guess you have macmillan nurses-if not try them for the mil?

    Banned

    get a cleaner... not that expensive

    Big hugs for you Aimee life tough and so unfair xxx

    its surprising how strong we are when we need to be and you are proof of that, just keep on being the good person you are and you are going to have some beautiful children grow into beautiful adults and look back on this time and remember how strong you were to get through

    Hi Aimee, Lib's is 12 weeks too so drop me a line if you want to have a chat

    Lulu'sMammy;2022148

    Hi Aimee, Lib's is 12 weeks too so drop me a line if you want to have a … Hi Aimee, Lib's is 12 weeks too so drop me a line if you want to have a chat



    She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never be regained.

    Banned

    thesaint;2022168

    She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never … She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never be regained.



    PWNED!!

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    Oh dear of you! Things can't get much worse! I hope everything works out for you especially your little one getting better, i'm sure he will, babies are stronger than we expect! Good luck with everything! xx

    bloody hell girl you need a night out....its so difficult when there isn't anyone to talk to, I was lucky to find a friend who sees me as me, not the joker I front out....have you got a friend you know who would go out just as the two of you?? Being a parent is a blessing and just occassionally a curve ball knocks us right back...they bounce back though
    never feel guilty for wanting some self time....even half an hour to yourself doing something as a treat will help your spirits.
    Keep strong.

    That's a lot for a 23 year old to cope with. But it sounds like you are a strong person. You will get though this, in the meantime - thoughts are with you. Chin up. :friends:

    thesaint;2022168

    She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never … She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never be regained.


    I wont offer again....you not noticed i've calmed down lately!!! Eeeeesssshhh!

    Lulu'sMammy;2022946

    I wont offer again....you not noticed i've calmed down lately!!! … I wont offer again....you not noticed i've calmed down lately!!! Eeeeesssshhh!



    I've calmed down as well, only 2 people have added me to their "Ignore" list today. :giggle:

    thesaint;2022964

    I've calmed down as well, only 2 people have added me to their "Ignore" … I've calmed down as well, only 2 people have added me to their "Ignore" list today. :giggle:


    Your not on mine, i'm still waiting to see if your a big hunk of a stud muffin!!

    Lulu'sMammy;2022975

    Your not on mine, i'm still waiting to see if your a big hunk of a stud … Your not on mine, i'm still waiting to see if your a big hunk of a stud muffin!!



    I don't see you the same anymore since you had 'lib', have you been doing your pelvic floor exercises?

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    thesaint;2022168

    She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never … She's only 23, please don't corrupt her. Innocence once lost can never be regained.



    LOL!
    Thanks for link to Home start, i used to volunteer when i was in college studying a Diploma in Childcare. How the tables turn! Might give them a ring.

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    imranmaz;2021935

    get a cleaner... not that expensive



    Now that would be nice but i am a SAHM and only have one income coming in, big mortgage and receive no benefits although its appealing.

    Anyone offering to do it at a reduced rate!?

    Aimee1985;2023032

    LOL! Thanks for link to Home start, i used to volunteer when i was in … LOL! Thanks for link to Home start, i used to volunteer when i was in college studying a Diploma in Childcare. How the tables turn! Might give them a ring.



    They get people going from being a family to a volunteer all the time, I don't think that they get people going the other way(Volunteer-Family) much.

    You should definitely give them a call, I can't recommend them enough.

    I featured on the front of a leaflet a few years ago, I don't know whether they still use it.

    thesaint;2023002

    I don't see you the same anymore since you had 'lib', have you been doing … I don't see you the same anymore since you had 'lib', have you been doing your pelvic floor exercises?


    It's Libby to you!!

    Lulu'sMammy;2023125

    It's Libby to you!!



    I didn't know how you spelled it, and I couldn't be arsed to search as there was a hottie on the box whilst I was typing.

    Banned

    Aimee1985;2023071

    Now that would be nice but i am a SAHM and only have one income coming … Now that would be nice but i am a SAHM and only have one income coming in, big mortgage and receive no benefits although its appealing. Anyone offering to do it at a reduced rate!?



    did you mean SHAM? :?

    thesaint;2023153

    I didn't know how you spelled it, and I couldn't be arsed to search as … I didn't know how you spelled it, and I couldn't be arsed to search as there was a hottie on the box whilst I was typing.


    But i was'nt on the telly tonight?

    imranmaz;2023163

    did you mean SHAM? :?


    A stay at home mother is a sham?

    Banned

    oh stay at home mum... how do you work then?

    imranmaz;2023176

    oh stay at home mum... how do you work then?


    She didnt say she worked did she? she said she had one wage coming in IE her husband!
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