Small gift following an operation

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Posted 28th Jun 2020
Anyone got any ideas on what I can give to my nearly 60 year old married male neighbour to let him know we are thinking of him as he recovers? He has had three lots of day surgery and is now due to go back into hospital for a fourth operation next week and will be in for at least two days. His wife said it was '...male issues..' - we're neighbourly, but not friends as such, so not entirely sure what the problem is.

He no longer drinks or smokes and is not fit enough to do the garden currently, so that rules out a few ideas.

Thank you.
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How about a game that he can play to pass the time as he recovers?

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No seriously, a nice jigsaw puzzle, board game, or card game could be good.
Edited by: "Haircut_100" 28th Jun
ndyanem28/06/2020 12:07

A lovely card, something sweet and if he reads the paper or books …A lovely card, something sweet and if he reads the paper or books something like that. Just the card shows your thinking of them and that will cheer somebody up any day of the week



Exactly. Just a nice card with some kind words in is sufficient. Especially if you are; as you say; "not friends." Anything more can seem a bit 'overbearing' to some. Many people are quite private and don't always do the 'friendly neighbours' thing - as nice as you may feel it is.

It may sound like I'm a grumpy-gus but I have had neighbours in the past who were the overbearing type from the word go and "nice" to the point of being irritating. It was actually a blessed relief when they moved. Sometimes people have to remember that there's 'friendly' and there's over-friendly! I'm all for building a rapport with a neighbour and passing the time of day but I draw the line at living their lives "with" them.

That's my tuppence dished out for today...
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How about a game that he can play to pass the time as he recovers?

41232361.jpg

No seriously, a nice jigsaw puzzle, board game, or card game could be good.
Edited by: "Haircut_100" 28th Jun
A lovely card, something sweet and if he reads the paper or books something like that. Just the card shows your thinking of them and that will cheer somebody up any day of the week
ndyanem28/06/2020 12:07

A lovely card, something sweet and if he reads the paper or books …A lovely card, something sweet and if he reads the paper or books something like that. Just the card shows your thinking of them and that will cheer somebody up any day of the week



Exactly. Just a nice card with some kind words in is sufficient. Especially if you are; as you say; "not friends." Anything more can seem a bit 'overbearing' to some. Many people are quite private and don't always do the 'friendly neighbours' thing - as nice as you may feel it is.

It may sound like I'm a grumpy-gus but I have had neighbours in the past who were the overbearing type from the word go and "nice" to the point of being irritating. It was actually a blessed relief when they moved. Sometimes people have to remember that there's 'friendly' and there's over-friendly! I'm all for building a rapport with a neighbour and passing the time of day but I draw the line at living their lives "with" them.

That's my tuppence dished out for today...
Very true, but due to problems in the past with their scaffolding lorries etc I am now about the only neighbour that speaks to them. They have family, but he has actually been stuck indoors since February, and they decided not to tell anyone until they found out that he needs to be admitted for much more major surgery. I am the only neighbour who knows, and am certainly not one of those over-friendly or irritating ones, purely thought it would be a nice gesture.
JimboParrot28/06/2020 12:34

Very true, but due to problems in the past with their scaffolding lorries …Very true, but due to problems in the past with their scaffolding lorries etc I am now about the only neighbour that speaks to them. They have family, but he has actually been stuck indoors since February, and they decided not to tell anyone until they found out that he needs to be admitted for much more major surgery. I am the only neighbour who knows, and am certainly not one of those over-friendly or irritating ones, purely thought it would be a nice gesture.


Just drop a card round and a box of chocolates. Thinking about somebody in these times of uncertainty will grow bonds and bring smiles
I’d go for a nice card and inside put your mobile number and say call anytime if they need a lift to the hospital or help with anything.

How about make them a lasagne or something so one of the days they don’t have to cook. It’ll be stressful for them, and cooking becomes such a chore.

A Netflix month gift card could be a nice gift.
If he can’t work on the garden you could offer to mow the lawn?

My friend is helping my Dad out that way and it makes a HUGE difference. It only takes my friend 20 mins but means so much to my parents and I
you are a lovely neighbour! you can come live next to us if you like - update, just saw your username and realised who you are, so i am withdrawing this invitation immediately

i would send a get well card and some flowers.
Edited by: "mutley1" 28th Jun
Box of biscuits or grapes and a card.
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I asked purely because I don't know what a nearly 60 year old male would appreciate. Knowing that there are some gentlemen on here of that age I thought maybe they could suggest something.

Ladies are much easier - flowers certainly. As for offering to do the garden - I run a gardening business anyway, but they have family and 'lads' that work for them that have been doing that.

I consider myself a kind and considerate neighbour, parking all four vehicles off the road so never blocking drives etc. My parrots were a bit noisy at time, but sadly they are no longer with us, not that anyone ever complained.
Afternoon tea delivered, a cake, selection of biscuits. There’s a theme here to my suggestions isn’t there?
Ask his wife if hes got a tablet , if he has get him a now tv pass .
Thank you for all the suggestions. Unfortunately,an ambulance was called last night and he was taken to hospital so fingers crossed.
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