Step Gran - whats the etiquette?

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Found 9th Sep 2007
Okay - long story short - Mr Biscuits is older than me and as a result has a grown up son who's partner is now with child, making him a Grandpa (obviously) I am not thrilled at the prospect of being a Grandma at 32 plus there is already 2 natural Granny's for this little one.

So who am I to this child? Has anyone been in a similar situation or had a grandad who is not with Gran but has a wife? What do you call her? I would be happy just being Auntie Fi...... Like I am to my childminding kids!

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When the kid's born you'll fall in love with it ('less it's REALLY ugly) & you won't even care what it calls you!!!?!?

Original Poster

probably but I am just soooo not ready to be called gran - and do you not think that it may pi$$ the other grans off a bit seeing as I am not actually so?

crunchybiscuits

I am not thrilled at the prospect of being a Grandma at 32


:lol: :lol: :lol:

Yup, I'd say your a "step gran"!

Congrats!, You're officially old! :giggle:

crunchybiscuits

probably but I am just soooo not ready to be called gran - and do you not … probably but I am just soooo not ready to be called gran - and do you not think that it may pi$$ the other grans off a bit seeing as I am not actually so?


How about "this is your Grandad & his floozy, Madame Crunchy Biscuits"?!?!


Or maybe the baby could call you "CeeBee"??!

jennybubbles

:lol: :lol: :lol:


Wouldn't that make you a GREAT-AUNT(not talking quality-wise here obviously!!) at an even younger age?!?

Banned

I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of this child and will treat it the same as your Mr biscuit so as far as i can see you will be its grandma, i think when you come into a families life when they are a certain age its different but if your there from the start theres nothing really step about it. Well that made sense to me only i think :oops:

Original Poster

If I had known this was gonna turn into a pi$$ take I would never have posted I'm not old!!!!!!!! (She's says trying to get out the rocking chair)

I prefer the floozy reference to be called old!!

Original Poster

sassie

I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of … I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of this child and will treat it the same as your Mr biscuit so as far as i can see you will be its grandma, i think when you come into a families life when they are a certain age its different but if your there from the start theres nothing really step about it. Well that made sense to me only i think :oops:


Thank you Sassy a sensible comment at last!

sassie

I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of … I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of this child and will treat it the same as your Mr biscuit so as far as i can see you will be its grandma, i think when you come into a families life when they are a certain age its different but if your there from the start theres nothing really step about it. Well that made sense to me only i think :oops:


I'm only 'extracting the urine' because I agree 100% with Sassie...get over the age thing & let the kid call you Granny Floozy!!!

CHARLIETHIRTYTWO

Wouldn't that make you a GREAT-AUNT(not talking quality-wise here … Wouldn't that make you a GREAT-AUNT(not talking quality-wise here obviously!!) at an even younger age?!?


well lets see my husband sisters husbands sons girlfriend.......

errrmmm...........nope I'm in the clear :lol:

Banned

crunchybiscuits

Thank you Sassy a sensible comment at last!


Sensible!!!!!!!!!!Me!!!!!!!!!!!! :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

Original Poster

Granny Floozy - thats probably what the other Gran will call me anyway!

crunchybiscuits
If I had known this was gonna turn into a pi$$ take I would never have posted I'm not old!!!!!!!! (She's says trying to get out the rocking chair)

I prefer the floozy reference to be called old!!


sorry fif I should respect my elders :-D

I'd imagine you'll just be called by your real name.........

Original Poster

Do you want your Monday off?

crunchybiscuits

Do you want your Monday off?



Not really......

i would go with just your name , be a friend and a loved one not a label , i do understand the asspect of feeling old due to your partner but 32 is nothing but a baby still in my eyes and just out of being a dumb teenager , concider if its a girl then you wont be too old to go out drinking and dancing when shes old enough

Iom-RF

Not really......


Why not??!...you have every other day off....

Original Poster

Sorry Hun that was for Jen, I reckon I will be called by my name too - but Mr B insists I should be gran - it's all so confusing...........:-(

crunchybiscuits

Do you want your Monday off?



Please I'm shattered

Original Poster

izzzzythedog

i would go with just your name , be a friend and a loved one not a label … i would go with just your name , be a friend and a loved one not a label , i do understand the asspect of feeling old due to your partner but 32 is nothing but a baby still in my eyes and just out of being a dumb teenager , concider if its a girl then you wont be too old to go out drinking and dancing when shes old enough


whoo hoo to that!

crunchybiscuits

Sorry Hun that was for Jen, I reckon I will be called by my name too - … Sorry Hun that was for Jen, I reckon I will be called by my name too - but Mr B insists I should be gran - it's all so confusing...........:-(



Nah, I'd just say it should be your real name...

And your not married to Mr bubbles surely..... :shock:

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Iom-RF

Nah, I'd just say it should be your real name...And your not married to … Nah, I'd just say it should be your real name...And your not married to Mr bubbles surely..... :shock:


Certainly not - there's laws against that

crunchybiscuits

Certainly not - there's laws against that


Someone shoulda told Jen....
(Iom woulda still been in with a chance!!?!)

CHARLIETHIRTYTWO

Someone shoulda told Jen....(Iom woulda still been in with a chance!!?!)



Someone should have told jen cos thats just vile!!!!!!!!

jennybubbles

Someone should have told jen cos thats just vile!!!!!!!!


Didn't mean Iom shoulda married him....

jennybubbles

Someone should have told jen cos thats just vile!!!!!!!!



Kick his ass big style!! :giggle:

Iom-RF

Kick his ass big style!! :giggle:


Sweetie we stay in scotland not hick country

jennybubbles

Sweetie we stay in scotland not hick country



Meant "kick his ass out big style...."

Me move in of course...... ;-) :-D

CHARLIETHIRTYTWO

Wouldn't that make you a GREAT-AUNT(not talking quality-wise here … Wouldn't that make you a GREAT-AUNT(not talking quality-wise here obviously!!) at an even younger age?!?




im a great aunt 15 times over...and only 30!! :w00t:

jennybubbles

Sweetie we stay in scotland not hick country


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Original Poster

loupomm

im a great aunt 15 times over...and only 30!! :w00t:


Right Loup - spill!!!

CHARLIETHIRTYTWO



We all wear that on a saturday night 'tis like a uniform

Original Poster

Okay - I'm off - too much of a lightweight for all this I need my bed, hopefully some more experienced grandparents - grandchildren of step-grandparents will have som suggestions tomorrow, thanks to all replys - nods of acknowledgements to the thread jackers and Loup, keen to see your reply hun! Night - peace out xx

crunchybiscuits

Right Loup - spill!!!



lol -

im the youngest of 9

all of us have kids

9 of my direct nieces/nephews have kids, some are the same age as my kids :giggle:

You know I became an aunt at a young age and wasn't comfortable with being called 'aunt jen' I belive my neice and her mum and I came to an agreement that as soon as my neice was old enough she could decid what she wanted to call me untill then I should go with the 'respectful' title.
perhaps going along with it just now untill the babes old enough to make their own choice might be an idea. I actually grew to like my title it made me feel like a real part of the family :thumbsup:

sassie

I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of … I think this step stuff is stupid, you will be there from the birth of this child and will treat it the same as your Mr biscuit so as far as i can see you will be its grandma, i think when you come into a families life when they are a certain age its different but if your there from the start theres nothing really step about it. Well that made sense to me only i think :oops:



I agree, my aunty is in this situation and has been 'nanny' since the start! She was thrilled to get her first nanny card on her birthday, and is now trying to get the baby to say nanny (baby is 9months and starting to talk)

Ive got the same problem with my OH's step mam, baby will have 2 grannys, therefore she will just be...grandad and sarah!
Shes not a granny, so i aint pretending for her to be one...confusing for the child!

jennybubbles

You know I became an aunt at a young age and wasn't comfortable with … You know I became an aunt at a young age and wasn't comfortable with being called 'aunt jen'



I was an uncle at 6.......... doesn't get much younger than that......
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