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Strange but serious dilemma, I have depression and have met 2 women

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Found 14th Aug 2008
As I say this is a serious thread

Ok have suffered for depression most of my teen life and into my mid twenties due to being popular until I started high school then badly bullied.

Now whats happened is I have got accepted into uni a few days ago, and got really excited and saw a new place which I love and was buzzing

Met this woman who was a friend of a friend, gorgeous but 12 years older than me with a kid(That doesnt mind me) really shes a stunner, curvy yet slim, busty and we click on so many levels its just the age gap

Today I met this barmaid when going for a drink as was bored

Stunning and curvy again but only 18 and she kept looking at me every time I turned my head she was looking and/or blushing.

So I chatted to her and got her number

Now I know depression was the main thing holding me back in past as when I was 21 it didnt affect me much and I got a lot of female attention(just was too shy to do anything about it)

It was just when I was 22 and a family death destroyed me depression hit me hard.

Anyway also im in McDonalds on the free wifi so if I dont reply its due to my battery dying

Whats peoples thoughts though as I have a choice of 2 stunning women for first time in life.

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do them both. that'll put a smile on yer face

Original Poster Banned

I would but was brought up to be a gentleman lol, hence me not "Pulling" on nights out due to not wanting to take advantage

All I got about them is how curvy and busty they were!!!!! On what other levels did they attract you
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wow...stunning sotry...hap[py ending...i feel for you mate...its good that you have over come it


personally....just chat to them...get to know them...then make your choice...its up to you. You got 2 chances on your side you lucky person lol
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unlike me :-(

Why do you need to make a decision? But if you feel you must - Which one makes you happier/relaxed - go for that one. Just have a bit of fun, you deserve it.

choc1969;2748517

All I got about them is how curvy and busty they were!!!!! On what other … All I got about them is how curvy and busty they were!!!!! On what other levels did they attract you ?



Good point

you say you clicked on so many levels with the older woman.

What's it like with the barmaid?

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choc1969;2748517

All I got about them is how curvy and busty they were!!!!! On what other … All I got about them is how curvy and busty they were!!!!! On what other levels did they attract you ?



Physical attraction isnt all but the young one im smitten with as shes sweet and seemingly up for a laugh and at least can be a good friend

The older one is more settled as you expect and great to just talk to and I think shes adorable

You need time to make sure which one you really want to spend quality time with.... remember that you need to make up for loss time so no point wasting time with someone you really don't want a relationship with.

the older one will want to settle down

the younger one may just want a good time

you decide what you want?

Depends what you're after in the relationship - if you are looking for a long term relationship go with the one you gel with best.....

Original Poster Banned

Well I want a long term relationship but in a way dont want my first LTR to be my last and want some fun along the way but Im a lonely person so donbt want to have short term relationships

Why not date them both then see how you go. Because you shouldnt jump in and decide before getting to know them. If you do then you might choose the wropng one and regret it. Theres nothing stopping you dating them both to see. If you go out with both then see how good you get on then decide. Good luck!!

Maybe you should make vdrinkers no 3. lol

If you don't know straight away which one is right for you then perhaps neither of them are. When you find "the right one" you will know although it sounds to me that you are more keen on the first one, just worried about the age gap, don't be, age doesn't matter if the two people are meant to be together.

That sounds really deep but basically, if all that's keeping you from asking the first one out is the age gap, just go for it.

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Annie1508;2748570

If you don't know straight away which one is right for you then perhaps … If you don't know straight away which one is right for you then perhaps neither of them are. When you find "the right one" you will know although it sounds to me that you are more keen on the first one, just worried about the age gap, don't be, age doesn't matter if the two people are meant to be together.That sounds really deep but basically, if all that's keeping you from asking the first one out is the age gap, just go for it.



Well its that and im paranoid as she seems to be like really keen over me and barely knows me!

Telling me how excellent I am, how great I am, im great looking, sweet etc and shes only known me a few days

drbluebox;2748587

Well its that and im paranoid as she seems to be like really keen over me … Well its that and im paranoid as she seems to be like really keen over me and barely knows me!Telling me how excellent I am, how great I am, im great looking, sweet etc and shes only known me a few days



Don't mean to sound patronising but perhaps if she's that bit older she's learnt to "know" when someone is special which is why she's not pussy-footing around. I'm 35 (well 36 tomorrow actually but trying to cling on to 35) and the older you get, especially when you have children, you just can't be bothered to faff about. I'm far more direct than I was 15 years ago because you just feel that life is too short and you just get on with things rather than being the embarrassed and shy teenager.

Take a couple of days to think it over without seeing either of them (ignoring the curves!!) and perhaps the decision will be a bit clearer.

Good luck!!!!!!!

How old are you now ?

Do all three.








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jbarnett;2748726

Do all three....



3.....:?....dont you mean 2????

samwhitewick;2748818

3.....:?....dont you mean 2????



plus v2drinkers :thumbsup:

twinks;2748809

Who do you feel happier with? How old are you? Many men like older women, … Who do you feel happier with? How old are you? Many men like older women, many like younger, you have the opportunity to choose, so what is it that you want out of a relationship right now? With the older woman you will gain experience, maturity and overall a more mature outlook to having a relationship, with the younger girl it may be more fun, more spontaneous? It really depends so much on how much you want to give and how much you want back. Good luck hun. x



My wife is 15 years older than me, and it's worked perfectly - I prefer a more mature lifestyle rather than a young, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants one, but like Twinks says, it's down to personal preference :thumbsup:

samwhitewick;2748818

3.....:?....dont you mean 2????



Nope, I mean 3. I'll let you figure it out for yourself.

It's a joke by the way, before anyone who has figured out what I'm referring to gets offended.

Nothing wrong with going on a date or two with each of them? Anyway just because you get serious with one doesnt mean you cant ever see the other again, can just be friends.
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