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    Thinking of re-homing our dog - any ideas on how to go about it?

    We have a baby boy who is now 7 weeks old. My wife has always struggled with disciplining the dog and is now struggling to cope with providing him with enough care and attention while looking after the baby. He is a great dog however, and is very obedient when I'm around.

    We've thought long and hard about it however, and we reckon it's for the best that we find him a new home so that he can get the care and attention and exercise he needs. Otherwise he may get bored and unhappy.

    We obviously would like to ensure he gets a good home, so if anyone here has had such an experience, please let me know how you went about it.

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    Original Poster

    This is a wee pic of him last year:

    http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y264/the-moob/zakmumsgardenmay.jpg

    ahh bless, i re homed my dog after having her 5 years it was 2 kids later the 2nd was 5 months the eldest 3,he really tormented her and I didn't feel I could give her the attention she needed, I used a site I found on the net, it was just for boxer dogs though, I did however really regret my decision, and tried so hard to get her back but couldn't, as the people who re homed her, took her to her new home without me knowing where it was, hopefully she is ok but I cried for months after, wishing I had spent my evenings walking her rather than having a much needed sit down.... please think long and hard.

    Aww he is lovely and if my situation was a bit more stable I would have him

    I had to go through the same thing with my border collie - once I started full time work he was locked inside for 8 hours a day. Unfair on him

    Anyway I advertised him in the local paper but made it clear any potential owners would be vetted - it took weeks as there was lots of interest and I visited alot of unsuitable families/houses before I found him the perfect home.

    Please look into a specialist re-homing group for his breed, he looks an absolute beauty and Im sure they will find a loving home for him, but as said above, please think long and hard about this decision.
    I have 2 dogs already but believe me if i was able i would take him like a shot x

    Original Poster

    Yeah, we've been considering it for ages - it just isn't fair on him. I think we'd be selfish to keep him, as he isn't getting the attention he craves. He is very loving and needs to be babied all the time, but that is what the baby needs as well, and he comes first, obviously.

    We thought that we might be trying for another baby in the not too distant future, so it would only get worse.

    We love him dearly, but he needs things we just can't give him.

    moob;4728334

    Yeah, we've been considering it for ages - it just isn't fair on him. I … Yeah, we've been considering it for ages - it just isn't fair on him. I think we'd be selfish to keep him, as he isn't getting the attention he craves. He is very loving and needs to be babied all the time, but that is what the baby needs as well, and he comes first, obviously.We thought that we might be trying for another baby in the not too distant future, so it would only get worse.We love him dearly, but he needs things we just can't give him.




    Exact same situation as me - believe me it was absolutely heartbreaking and still is looking at old pictures. As others have said be totally sure - obviously the baby comes first but in 6/12 months time the baby won't need so much attention

    You know what is right for him and your family though so the best of luck

    He is a great looking dog. If I was in your situation I would find it really difficult to get rid of a family pet. Has he shown aggression towards your baby??? It is a tough call for someone to make, ultimately your family must come first.

    keep the dog kick your wife out, much better option.
    my dog died in november i would have never given her up.

    just been on google and there are lots of Labrador rescue sites, maybe there is one near you that can advise you further?

    what a lush dog how can you let him go you will miss him loads
    i would love a dog but i dont have the time for one

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    Train Driver;4728398

    He is a great looking dog. If I was in your situation I would find it … He is a great looking dog. If I was in your situation I would find it really difficult to get rid of a family pet. Has he shown aggression towards your baby??? It is a tough call for someone to make, ultimately your family must come first.



    No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show aggression to my wife however, but he was just challenging her.

    There are many issues, perhaps one of the most significant is that he pulls when she walks him alongside the pram, and when he sees food on the pavement for example, he will pull/jerk and it sometimes unbalances the pram.

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    bitseylango;4728412

    just been on google and there are lots of Labrador rescue sites, maybe … just been on google and there are lots of Labrador rescue sites, maybe there is one near you that can advise you further?



    Cheers bitsey, saw those sites, there a lab rescue trust based in Scotland - and I might try them - but I was thinking of trying to find someone local, so I can view their house/set-up etc, as I'm not just gonna give him to anyone.:thumbsup:

    m8 is there no way you could stick it out for a bit longer i was going through the same had lee as a baby and sammy as a puppy but there both 2 and a bit now and its much easier to handle, i no not everyone can do it etc, but it would be such a shame to lose a family pet

    moob;4728442

    No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show … No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show aggression to my wife however, but he was just challenging her.There are many issues, perhaps one of the most significant is that he pulls when she walks him alongside the pram, and when he sees food on the pavement for example, he will pull/jerk and it sometimes unbalances the pram.



    Can't you take him for a walk instead....

    Lovely looking dog :thumbsup:

    As mentioned above go direct to Labrador Rescue, they have a huge waiting list of people who they vet themselves to make sure the houses, family members etc are all suitable. They have local agents who do the checks and dog exchanges.

    It is very unlikely the dog would be re homed near you so you dont have the suprise of bumping into him when you're out - gotta be an unpleasant experience.

    Lab rescue would want to know details about his innoculations, specific info. I remember we got a "dog cv" which listed commands he knew, areas he liked, things to be acreful of etc etc - they do take alot of care about the process

    moob;4728442

    No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show … No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show aggression to my wife however, but he was just challenging her.There are many issues, perhaps one of the most significant is that he pulls when she walks him alongside the pram, and when he sees food on the pavement for example, he will pull/jerk and it sometimes unbalances the pram.



    My lab pulls on the lead when my wife walks her, she doesn't do it with me though. How old is he?? They do settle down after a couple of years:)

    moob;4728465

    Cheers bitsey, saw those sites, there a lab rescue trust based in … Cheers bitsey, saw those sites, there a lab rescue trust based in Scotland - and I might try them - but I was thinking of trying to find someone local, so I can view their house/set-up etc, as I'm not just gonna give him to anyone.:thumbsup:



    give them a call and discuss the situation with them, most of these rescue places are pretty strict when it comes to adoption. It must be so hard for you to make this decision as he looks so beautiful, but as you say, family has to come first, good luck with the choices you decide x

    Best of luck making the right decision for you and your dog, he is a stunner. Personally I'd know if I'd let my dog go I'd regret it but then I don't have a baby to worry about and can't begin to imagine how much of your time gets taken up!

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    Dub1;4728469

    m8 is there no way you could stick it out for a bit longer i was going … m8 is there no way you could stick it out for a bit longer i was going through the same had lee as a baby and sammy as a puppy but there both 2 and a bit now and its much easier to handle, i no not everyone can do it etc, but it would be such a shame to lose a family pet



    Like I said, we have thought about it loads.

    We are going to have another child in the none too distant future, and we would have one miserable dog during all that time. We have to consider what the dog needs, more than what we need in a pet.

    It's hard to explain how difficult it is over a forum, but trust me, we've been everywhere with this dog on holidays etc, we love him dearly.

    That must have been a really tough decision to make and I don't envy you.

    We had a dog that we shared with my husbands mum & dad that really needed babying & we were really worried about how he would cope when we had our baby girl but when I was 8 months pregnant he went for my 1 year old niece & he had to be put down - my point is that its better that you recognised the problem now and try to let him go to another good home than to leave it until he resents the new baby and something unthinkable happens which is no good for anyone involved.

    I would think about asking your vets if you could put something on their notice board.

    Good luck & don't forget at the end of the day your baby & wife are far more important than your dog. :thumbsup:

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    starsparkle2311;4728473

    As above, a specialist re-homing place will take him. He's a beauty, I'm … As above, a specialist re-homing place will take him. He's a beauty, I'm sure he'll be taken very good care of by someone. It's sad for you to part with him, but needs must.People are always looking for pets, we just got a kitten and it took ages to get one, we got him via gumtree, you could advertise on there, it's up to you who you let him go to. Rather like a job interview, check the applicants out.How is your new baby by the way, I remember your thread, hope you are all well!



    Cheers SS. The wee man is coming on great thanks for asking! He put on 2lbs in 2 weeks the other day, and had the health visitor scratching her head - they're only supposed to gain 4oz/week on average!

    He looks just like my old lab Jack who I had to rehome. Still miss him every day and would have him back in a heartbeat. Think carefully, I'm sure you have already.

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    deb8z;4728485

    Can't you take him for a walk instead....



    Yeah, I do, but there's only so much time I get to walk him when I'm out at work all day from 8am-6pm, and I need to spend time with my son as well. He just doesn't get enough exercise.

    moob;4728442

    No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show … No, he's not been aggressive to the wee one - used to sometimes show aggression to my wife however, but he was just challenging her.There are many issues, perhaps one of the most significant is that he pulls when she walks him alongside the pram, and when he sees food on the pavement for example, he will pull/jerk and it sometimes unbalances the pram.



    I had a 10 year old Springer when I first had my first baby,, he was a pain in the arrass for pulling, so I bought him a halti head collar and it stopped it straight away, he was a big strong lad and im only little but the control over him was amazing.

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    Train Driver;4728492

    My lab pulls on the lead when my wife walks her, she doesn't do it with … My lab pulls on the lead when my wife walks her, she doesn't do it with me though. How old is he?? They do settle down after a couple of years:)




    He's 5 1/2 mate - she's been trying for all that time to get him to obey - he thinks it's a game!

    Original Poster

    Thanks for all your help and suggestions folks - will rep when this daft site allows me to - damn rep boxes keep closing on me when I mouse over to enter the text!

    let us know how you get on Moob x

    bitseylango;4728548

    I had a 10 year old Springer when I first had my first baby,, he was a … I had a 10 year old Springer when I first had my first baby,, he was a pain in the arrass for pulling, so I bought him a halti head collar and it stopped it straight away, he was a big strong lad and im only little but the control over him was amazing.



    Yep halti collar has worked wonders for my new lab - he is only 8 months old and already 30kg so is going to be a big boy! It was getting to the stage where he was just too strong for me to control him (and I'm no weed!) but the halti has changed everything. Definitely worth a try if you haven't already.

    I was in a very similar position to you, we used labrador rescue and they were great. All the people who want to re house labs are vetted and have to meet certain criteria also you can meet the potential owners and check out their home to put your mind at rest. I was really, really down when our lab went, but it helped to know he had a nice home and new owners to care for him.

    moob;4728558

    He's 5 1/2 mate - she's been trying for all that time to get him to obey … He's 5 1/2 mate - she's been trying for all that time to get him to obey - he thinks it's a game!



    It would break my heart to be in your situation moob. Hope you get something sorted:)

    Original Poster

    Update.

    Just gave him away to a nice retired couple who stay near the beach. He will get all the attention he needs from them I'm sure.

    Plenty of tears and snotters unfortunately.:-(

    moob;4821283

    Update.Just gave him away to a nice retired couple who stay near the … Update.Just gave him away to a nice retired couple who stay near the beach. He will get all the attention he needs from them I'm sure.Plenty of tears and snotters unfortunately.:-(



    Thanks for the update:) Sounds like he will be happy where he is:)

    You did the right thing. Loss of attention, which is only natural with a new baby, could lead to jealously towards the baby, and the babies safety comes first over the dog every single time.

    I'd never have a baby or young children and a dog at the same time. It's just not worth the risk.

    Original Poster

    Thanks guys - house feels rather empty now however.

    Will take time, but we'll get over it.
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