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    Hi,

    My work colleague attended an old school friends wedding just over a month ago. The bride groom (who had invited him) supplied him and a few other invitees with a morning suit - the big day went ahead as planned and everything was fine until yesterday.....

    ....when the bride groom contacted my work colleague claiming that he was a bit skint, is going away to Prague next week and could he have the money (£70) for the suit that he had paid for. The bride grooom has asked the same to the other chaps who were supplied with suits.

    My colleague being a nice chap has offered to pay £50 but his mate has come back to him and said that 'it would be best if he paid the full £70 and then he would be debt free !!'

    I've told my work colleague to tell his mate to p*ss off and that he was going to be nominated for 'P*ss taker of the week'.

    Just thought we would poll opinion on here before he replies back to mate....

    37 Comments

    Tell the groom to F off.
    It was his wedding, and he decided to pay for the suits. Just cos he needs the money now it's tough.
    I got married last year and paid for all the suits too, it's the done thing.

    "Hey, will you come to my wedding please, oh it will cost you £70 to wear a nice suit though". I think not.

    What you said innit :thumbsup:

    Was he part of the wedding party?Just as all weddings i have been to if your not a usher you wear your own suit or shirt... bit weird they want him to pay now

    At least his mate has been honest and said he is skint. Fair enough he should have taken the £50 quid as a fair offer but Weddings are expensive and the cost mounts up and up. If he has offered to provide morning suits to his closet mates, then surely his closest mates can understand the cirsumstances and would want to help out. I would pay the £70 and think nothing of it.

    Damn cheek. Am i reading this right, did the work colleagues not realise they would have to pay for it

    Original Poster

    Lilly_White;8589145

    Damn cheek. Am i reading this right, did the work colleagues not realise … Damn cheek. Am i reading this right, did the work colleagues not realise they would have to pay for it


    Correct - the assumption was that the bride groom would pay but he's just changed his mind, is skint and wants everyone to pay him back !!!

    tell him to do one, if he was asked to wear a suit to be part of the wedding party then that is not someone saying hire this suit so we all look the same.

    not a chance would i be paying.

    Lilly_White;8589145

    Damn cheek. Am i reading this right, did the work colleagues not realise … Damn cheek. Am i reading this right, did the work colleagues not realise they would have to pay for it



    No you are not reading it right!
    The groom paid for the suits, and it's only because he's now skint that he suddenly wants the others to pay for their own, after the fact.

    Bit of a cheek by the bridegroom depends on wether you can afford it and if your friendship is worth £70.

    i'd tell him where to go to be honest, it's a bit cheeky!

    Truly an embarrassing situation for the groom.... He must be fairly desperate as I would imagine he toiled over the situation knowing he would be mocked relentlessly.

    Could provide the best man some great ammunition for the speech :-D
    (approached in a subtle manner of course....)

    What a brass neck he has! That's the joys of getting married - he's paying for it now quite literally. If he couldn't afford it he shouldn't have done it. Up to your mate if he wants to pay him back but I think the groom has got a cheek. Tell him to pawn some of his wedding gifts if he's needing cash quick.

    MBeeching;8589229

    Truly an embarrassing situation for the groom.... He must be fairly … Truly an embarrassing situation for the groom.... He must be fairly desperate as I would imagine he toiled over the situation knowing he would be mocked relentlessly.Could provide the best man some great ammunition for the speech :-D(approached in a subtle manner of course....)



    Wedding has already taken place

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    MBeeching;8589229

    Could provide the best man some great ammunition for the speech :-D



    A bit late considering it was a month ago.

    OP the groom has some cheek to ask for the money and even then turn his nose up at the £50. He is just after some easy money for his holiday. I wouldn't give him a penny for it the chancer prob only paid £40 to rent each suit

    God he must be desperate to be on the nag for the money back, id be highly embarrased, cheeky imo

    pipsqueak;8589259

    Wedding has already taken place



    Ahh, I see. Well then it's a whole different ball game.
    £50 is more than generous.

    I skimmed the opening lines and foolishly assumed the trip to Prague was the stag-do for the impending wedding :thumbsup:

    Original Poster

    Current feeling from my colleague is that he wants to tell his mate where to go but feels that he will end up paying some or all of it !

    At the same time my mate has upgraded the nomination from 'P*ss taker of the week' to 'P*ss taker of the month' !!

    PS - some more info - there were 3 ushers plus the best man so he stands to claw back 4 * £70 = £280 if everybody pays up.

    I feel sorry for the girl he married if he is that much of an a***hole

    I wouldn't pay up if I was your friend, it should have been clearly stated beforehand that he wanted the cash. Such as: 'Want to be an usher at my wedding, btw it will cost you £70 for the privilege' Some people have such cheek.

    Banned

    I think he'd be in with a shout for 'P*ss taker of the year'

    Tell him to get knotted....or give him the suit back to see the look on his face! :-D

    Tell the bride that her new hubby should pay for this one and you will consider paying at his next wedding;-)

    Banned

    My wife wanted the ushers to chip in, only her dad and brother paid £50 towards their suits it was about £70 as well. Had to pay for my brother, my dad and best man. After the wedding I soon forgot about the money and was just chuffed to bits to be married to the girl of my dreams.

    I paid for 15 of them at my wedding!!!!

    Tell him to cancel his holiday if he can't afford to go.
    And tell him you can't afford £70 as you are skint.

    chester123;8589580

    I paid for 15 of them at my wedding!!!!



    15 ushers? Insane and awesome.

    The one-upmanship stopped at 7 in our group, though there are several of us left to go

    MBeeching;8589624

    15 ushers? Insane and awesome.The one-upmanship stopped at 7 in our … 15 ushers? Insane and awesome.The one-upmanship stopped at 7 in our group, though there are several of us left to go



    10 ushers, 2 brothers, 2 fathers and me.

    omg, lmao.

    what a complete and utter pleb. If it was me I would tell him where to go, and I wouldn't be very polite about it.

    Banned

    Babbabooey;8589127

    Tell the groom to F off.It was his wedding, and he decided to pay for the … Tell the groom to F off.It was his wedding, and he decided to pay for the suits. Just cos he needs the money now it's tough.I got married last year and paid for all the suits too, it's the done thing."Hey, will you come to my wedding please, oh it will cost you £70 to wear a nice suit though". I think not.



    This^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    What a cheeky so and so, I want to go to Florida, I am gonna go around asking everyone for the clothes money, dinner, booze, and hotel money back, quids in, especially when I add interest.

    surely if he is a newlywed he would have got a wad of cash re. gifts.

    Think is he prob lying about being skint and now just narked he paid for these suits

    I personally wouldnt want to lose a friend over money though - but - if he was a good friend he should be able to comfortably ask for money from a friend.

    tell him NO NO NO

    Cant see the marriage lasting tbh. The fella is clearly starting out by living beyond his means. Then expecting others to foot the bill. Doesnt bode well imo.
    If you havent paid DONT

    Paddy Charlie;8589268

    A bit late considering it was a month ago.OP the groom has some cheek to … A bit late considering it was a month ago.OP the groom has some cheek to ask for the money and even then turn his nose up at the £50. He is just after some easy money for his holiday. I wouldn't give him a penny for it the chancer prob only paid £40 to rent each suit



    I think you find it is pretty pricey for nice wedding suits

    Banned

    bossyboots;8590030

    surely if he is a newlywed he would have got a wad of cash re. gifts. O



    Yeah but it's not like you get a lot for brand new tack

    I paid for all the suits for my wedding. Sounds like he is desparate and juts using this as an attempt to get his hands on some cash

    I lost a good friend over an stupid argument before my wedding, it was about time i wanted her to spend doing something, it was not worth it. If he is a good friend just pay and put it down to experience, offer half now half at a later date. A good friend however stupid they are, is worth more than £70.
    If he is not a good friend then i think its time id maybe offer half as a gesture then move on.

    Original Poster

    UPDATE

    My mate went home last night to think it over before making his next move. He sent a text to his so called friend saying "Debt you cheeky ****** ! Your lucky your getting a bean ! I'll be kind and put £50 in and thats it ! Don't come back and try and charge me for the meal !". He then paid the £50 via electronic transfer. A text came back "Ha ha ha, Ta".

    Thanks for all your input !

    Heh, i suppose it turned out alright then
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