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    What would you say?

    So my sister got back from Uni today and told me that shes done no Xmas shopping yet and is skint so was it possible for us to do joint gifts for our parents cos she knows I have it already sorted. She did something similar last year as well (basically left it all to me), she says shes skint but she always has money to go out and she goes out a lot. She finished uni a couple of weeks ago so has been free every day whereas I work.and still found time to do shopping. But then it is the season to be kind towards each other.....

    so what would you say to her........

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    sounds selfish to me,if she wanted to do a joint present then the 22nd isnt the time to propose it

    There is a huge difference between good will and someone taking the mick - Sorry, but I think you should tell her to get real and deall with it!!

    if she has money to go out she has money to buy a couple of small little things...surely. Doesn't have to break the bank

    Tell her to make something using glitter and dried pasta.

    I would ask why she has no money...if she can come up with a decent valid excuse that the money has gone on something needed then I would share....if not then I wouldnt...I graduated this year and always found the money over the past 3 years to get presents.....

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    so what would you say to her........


    well my daughter would say, jog on, i would say go ************** *********** ***********

    i'd say no. nights out aren't cheap so she can afford a few prezzies. i think she's taking the mick tbh

    id cry then make a thread about it

    my brother has done exactly the same to me!

    tell her to jog on

    if she can afford to go out and get laid then she should get her own pressies

    i would say yes...goto pound shop...get them something really really tacky eg a pack of nails/screws...wrap them up from her.

    still give parents your gifts from you....simple

    yep i agree - if she wanted to do joint then she should have said way back and gave some ideas and money - tell her tough!

    akme;7301459

    i would say yes...goto pound shop...get them something really really … i would say yes...goto pound shop...get them something really really tacky eg a pack of nails/screws...wrap them up from her.still give parents your gifts from you....simple


    lolol

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    its more the total lack of effort that bothers me. I know she'll take all the credit on the day as well. Thing is she doesnt seem to think that her behaviour is out of order at all

    roryk83;7301514

    its more the total lack of effort that bothers me. I know she'll take … its more the total lack of effort that bothers me. I know she'll take all the credit on the day as well. Thing is she doesnt seem to think that her behaviour is out of order at all



    how about you tell her instead of telling us?

    roryk83;7301514

    its more the total lack of effort that bothers me. I know she'll take … its more the total lack of effort that bothers me. I know she'll take all the credit on the day as well. Thing is she doesnt seem to think that her behaviour is out of order at all



    i wouldnt do it that is unless you want her to do this every year then go ahead, she sure knows it worked last year so shes trying it on again.

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    black gerbil1;7301540

    how about you tell her instead of telling us?



    was just wondering what the general consensus was, thought maybe some people would say let it go seeing what time of year it was but apparantly not

    greyparrot;7301550

    i wouldnt do it that is unless you want her to do this every year then go … i wouldnt do it that is unless you want her to do this every year then go ahead, she sure knows it worked last year so shes trying it on again.



    I agree with that ^^^ she's an adult,if she's too tight to buy her own gifts there's no way i'd fall for that,once maybe,but not twice!

    roryk83;7301559

    was just wondering what the general consensus was, thought maybe some … was just wondering what the general consensus was, thought maybe some people would say let it go seeing what time of year it was but apparantly not



    Why let it go,it's not like she's not had enough notice it's Christmas:roll:

    She's walking all over you and will continue to do so unless you say no:thumbsup:

    I'd tell her where to go! I would maybe at a push give her one gift to give to your parents from her, make sure it's the least expensive one but don't do the half in thing and make sure she gives you the money back but I doubt it. If she's done it before and she can afford to out, I'd probably gladly sit and tell mum n dad, by the way, I paid and went for all the pressies!

    Nope i ouldnt share but i would give her £20 -£30 to help her out x

    So 52 weeks wasn't long enough for her to save up a bit of cash and do a bit of shopping for the people she is supposedly closest to?
    Yeah, Christmas is all about being close to family, but it seems like she just can't be arsed, which isn't quite the point.
    Personally I'd tell her to stick it... (but if she won't budge then I like the idea of the tacky gifts from the pound shop too - She won't do it again then )

    MissRoo;7301415

    if she has money to go out she has money to buy a couple of small little … if she has money to go out she has money to buy a couple of small little things...surely. Doesn't have to break the bank



    bishibashi;7301418

    Tell her to make something using glitter and dried pasta.



    missp27;7301432

    i'd say no. nights out aren't cheap so she can afford a few prezzies. i … i'd say no. nights out aren't cheap so she can afford a few prezzies. i think she's taking the mick tbh



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    Tell you cant as the present is from you and your new GF, and if she ever thjought about people at home she would know that lol

    ur descripition is me :lol: but im not your sister lol, im going to do mine tomorrow lol

    she is playing you for a fool mate, tell her to :whistling:

    Like somebody said previous chuck her £20 so she can get a token gift (not that you should have to do that) she needs to budget which is what everyone else has to do this time of year

    I personally would do it this once and tell her to sort them out herself next year

    If it's her first year a student, tell her to use her overdraft like anyone else owuld.
    If it''s not her first year it's her own bloody fault for being disorganised, and you shouldn't have to bail her out.
    Either tell her where to shove it, or wrap up some complete crap and make her look an idiot on xmas when she gives it to your parents. Perhaps a note saying "I couldn't be bothered to budget, or buy gifts, so enjoy this festive ... Loo roll?!"

    Tell her to sort it out herself or you'll be stuck with this every year.

    My son is unemployed since Woolworths closed but he's managed to save enough out of his jobseekers to buy everyone a small present - and he has to pay rent and food as he lives in town and not at home anymore.

    Also daughter is a 2nd year uni student and is doing her shopping this week now she's home - again without any handouts from me.

    If my 2 can manage to do this then anyone can - especially as neither of my 2 get any regular financial support as my husband is disabled and I work for myself. I help them out whenever I can but they are sensible enough to not rely on this.

    Tinkytayls;7301652

    Nope i ouldnt share but i would give her £20 -£30 to help her out x



    This is what I'd be doing. At least then, when she's still got no gift for your parents and they look at you like you should have let her share yours, you can say you gave her money to go out and buy her own present - so where is it? Maybe she'll learn to do it herself next year. And stress it's a loan... you want the money back.
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