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    Whats up with my 2 younger brothers??

    I know this isnt the family counselling forums and im sure some smartass will take the mickey out of me, but something is worrying me about my two younger brothers. To start off I treat them with so much respect its not funny, but they ignore me or act like they dont have time for me. I feel like I dont even know or have a relationship with them anymore. I try making convo with them, but all they care about are thier friends and other trivial things.

    Should I just leave them and let it be or try harder to get along with them?

    ps: I seem to get along with my older brother just fine.

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    how old are they?

    Original Poster

    DangerGod

    how old are they?



    24 and 25 yrs old

    How old are you?

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    sigh.

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    angelfairee

    How old are you?



    im in my late 20's

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    more details.. do you live with them? has it always been this way? etc..

    so you're 29

    do you all still live together? how often are you contacting them?

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    http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/00795/alan-partridge460_795711c.jpg

    Would you describe yourself as high maintenance?

    Original Poster

    One of them has thier own place who I see a couple of times a week, and the other is living at home with my mother. Both seem to be acting more and more distant towards me, I cant figure it out, but for some reason my older brother and I get along just fine.

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    numptyj

    so you're 29 :pdo you all still live together? how often are you … so you're 29 :pdo you all still live together? how often are you contacting them?



    Twice a day to invite them to an autojumble

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    Will you be my friend?

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    mate sounds like your just being emotional to be honest.. they are in there 20s same as me.. not being funny but me and my bro get on but we dont really show each other it? if you know what i mean.

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    starsparkle2311

    FFS Hi DLM you ok babes?



    Yes

    Did you see my kitten pic's

    OP looking for some emotional bromance

    every family is different, my 2 older brothers dont talk except at family occasions, not coz they dont like each other but they lead seperate lives, and i have younger twin brothers that have absolutely nothing in common what-so-ever apart from occasionally playing a computer game together but thats rare!! we all get along in our own way but just because we're related doesnt mean our personalities are the same!

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    DangerGod

    mate sounds like your just being emotional to be honest.. they are in … mate sounds like your just being emotional to be honest.. they are in there 20s same as me.. not being funny but me and my bro get on but we dont really show each other it? if you know what i mean.



    What really gets to me is that I find it hard to get a few words out of them when I try and make convo with them, but as soon as they get a phone call from one of thier mates they talk on the phone to them to what seems to me like forever but as soon as the call ends they go back into silent mode looking like they dont want to be disturbed by me oO.
    Edited by: "DEALofaLifetime" 18th Sep 2010

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    starsparkle2311

    I love my brother, but only ever see him on Xmas day,lol. Or randomly … I love my brother, but only ever see him on Xmas day,lol. Or randomly through the year when he wants something. He's just a lazy fecker, but lovely with it, so he gets away with it.



    Does he live near you?

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    starsparkle2311

    Bout a 5 minute walk,lol. He's spoilt, actually we both are. Get on … Bout a 5 minute walk,lol. He's spoilt, actually we both are. Get on great, but we just never see each other, neither makes the effort either.



    You must make the effort.

    Life is short and you will miss him if he goes 1st x x

    Maybe they don;t like you and perhaps you should stop being so clingy. You cant choose your family after all.

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    starsparkle2311

    LOL you don't know my brother, or my family, doesn't quite work like … LOL you don't know my brother, or my family, doesn't quite work like that sometimes. Don't get morbid either DLM, jees



    Sorry

    I am a little bit like that with my brother also x x

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    choc1969

    Maybe they don;t like you and perhaps you should stop being so clingy. … Maybe they don;t like you and perhaps you should stop being so clingy. You cant choose your family after all.



    I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and live my own life! Im a man Godamnit and men shouldnt whine like this on internet message boards. Starting from tomorrow I going to make a permanent change. for the better!!

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    DEALofaLifetime

    I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and … I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and live my own life! Im a man Godamnit and men shouldnt whine like this on internet message boards. Starting from tomorrow I going to make a permanent change. for the better!!



    About time too

    DEALofaLifetime

    I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and … I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and live my own life! Im a man Godamnit and men shouldnt whine like this on internet message boards. Starting from tomorrow I going to make a permanent change. for the better!!



    you wanna go for a drink ?

    Just beat them up.

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    DEALofaLifetime

    I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and … I guess your right I should stop being the emotional freak that I am, and live my own life! Im a man Godamnit and men shouldnt whine like this on internet message boards. Starting from tomorrow I going to make a permanent change. for the better!!



    You cant delete your account, been asked a few times

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    Dealofalifetime

    My sister is 32, me and my brother are 26/27 so can relate. We are family and that's all that matters. Talking to her sometimes is strange its like we have nothing in common but 16 yrs of living together when she moved out, only memories really are of us fighting. You don't need to be best friends with your family just need to get along. You can sit in comfortable silence.

    Any chance you could speak to you mum to see if she can clue you in? But I would agree, younger men have their own agenda and usually only involves them and what they need, I know I have 2 younger bros and only see them if we have family gatherings, they dont have kids. When we see them they are there 100%, but otherwise we hear nothing from them the rest of the year. Ive seen them once this year at a family do and previous to that not for 3 years. They are single and can travel anywhere, the rest of us have kids to pack etc, My bros cant be bothered, the rest of us used to do all the visits. So live your life and let them get on with theirs.
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