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    You cant choose your family-fuming!

    Just had a phonecall from my brother-he has just returned from holiday-we were on holiday the week before.

    In the space of the 7 days we were away,he has accepted an offer for my mothers house from a cash buyer,paperwork is completed and the deal completes in ten days. He and my other brother took the decision in my absence to take a 10 grand drop in the price with no reference to me as required under scottish law.

    Point is,although its been on the market so long,I would have agreed to the price drop for fast completion,they just did this without my knowledge. I had my mobile with me in paris-no texts,no voicemail,they just decided since I was away they would go ahead and accept.

    And then they go on holiday and wait til they come back til they tell me!!

    Just called my lawyer and I am legally entitled to hold them responsible for my share of the shortfall-would anyone do that to their own brothers?? Wife says I should since they paid me no regard in the matter.

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    Tricky one when it is your own family.

    As you said you would have accepted the drop in price so it's not the money its the fact they did not consult you which isnt really OK.

    Avoid Lawyers and Solicitors no matter how angry you or your wife may be feeling as it will just cost you money.

    Rather than it destroying the relationship with your siblings tell them how annoyed you are, dont bottle it all up and create resentment confront them instead, easier said than done but you will feel much better afterwards.

    But you would have agreed anyway, seems to me they did you a favour. They knew you well enough to know that you would agree, they obviously had a quick think before they did this and probably thought it best not to worry you with the detail whilst you were on holiday.

    Just take a few moment and let it sink in, aren't you better off with a house that's sold?

    steveb_1966;6612417

    Tricky one when it is your own family.As you said you would have accepted … Tricky one when it is your own family.As you said you would have accepted the drop in price so it's not the money its the fact they did not consult you which isnt really OK.Avoid Lawyers and Solicitors no matter how angry you or your wife may be feeling as it will just cost you money.Rather than it destroying the relationship with your siblings tell them how annoyed you are, dont bottle it all up and create resentment confront them instead, easier said than done but you will feel much better afterwards.



    + 1

    Perhaps speak to them instead of posting on here?
    It's sold now so better than being unsold and sounds like you would have said yes anyway!

    Banned

    stop whinging and move on I would say - you said yourself you would have accepted the offer

    I behaving like a bit of a dick to be honest, it's been on the market for ages and you would have agreed anyway.

    so you want to sue your brothers for just over £1,600 each? glad you aren't in my family! If you were that bothered about the price you should have made it clear to solicitors before you went away. Maybe they thought they were making a wise decision in your absence?

    you could always walk away and tell them to keep the lot and want nothing more to do with them? LOL

    whats the problem?,you would have accepted it anyway

    if this is your reaction over a couple of grand then,no wonder they left you out of the decision


    biggest unwarranted rant ever

    the money in the bank will gain the amount back in interest sooner or later. better to have the capital working for you instead of an asset sitting there going nowhere and earning you nothing.

    and yes, I suppose you should discuss things with your brothers, but also, I think that courting opinion on here will give you time to get a pragmatic perspective instead of going to speal to them from an emotional perspective. Principles and morals are expensive, financially and emotionally.

    I see your point totally, I wouldnt call it whinging or call you a dick eirther! if you would have accepted yourself I would just leave it and tell him how you feel.

    Hope you sort it, life is too short to argue with family, I learned the hard way

    boothy;6612506

    whats the problem?,you would have accepted it anywayif this is your … whats the problem?,you would have accepted it anywayif this is your reaction over a couple of grand then,no wonder they left you out of the decisionbiggest unwarranted rant ever



    agreed

    the house is sold and your brothers made a decision you would've accepted anywho so it would appear they know you pretty well :roll:

    4lyons09;6612584

    I see your point totally, I wouldnt call it whinging or call you a dick … I see your point totally, I wouldnt call it whinging or call you a dick eirther! if you would have accepted yourself I would just leave it and tell him how you feel.Hope you sort it, life is too short to argue with family, I learned the hard way



    +1 nice advice :thumbsup:

    This thread has given me an idea

    I will put my mother in a home and sell her house - that's xmas sorted for me :thumbsup:

    Banned

    So you're family has sold a house that has been on the market for a while, for a price you find agreeable, to a cash buyer with a quick turnaround and did so without bothering you on your holiday?:thinking:

    Seems like there are deeper issues here.

    Somebody needs a hug:)

    FilthAndFurry;6612631

    So you're family has sold a house that has been on the market for a … So you're family has sold a house that has been on the market for a while, for a price you find agreeable, to a cash buyer with a quick turnaround and did so without bothering you on your holiday?:thinking:Seems like there are deeper issues here.Somebody needs a hug:)



    you sound like tinky winky:-D

    Understand why you're fuming but unsure as to why solicitors need to be involved as you said you would have accepted :?

    Perhaps deep down you didn't want to sell the house and this really isn't about the money

    as stated previously it was your mums house so has a lot of emotional feelings involved so let them know what anguish you are feeling about giving it up.maybe try and resolve the issues.

    Take the hit - is it really worth fighting with your family over an inheritance issue?

    Supermod

    Would you have accepted the price reduction?
    Edit: Just re-read the opening post.

    Did you tell them previously what level of other you would have accepted.

    As others have stated, this doesnt sound as if its just a lack of confiding.

    Banned

    The house was in Scotland, so probably not worth much anyway.

    Amirite?

    steveb_1966;6612417

    Tricky one when it is your own family.As you said you would have accepted … Tricky one when it is your own family.As you said you would have accepted the drop in price so it's not the money its the fact they did not consult you which isnt really OK.Avoid Lawyers and Solicitors no matter how angry you or your wife may be feeling as it will just cost you money.Rather than it destroying the relationship with your siblings tell them how annoyed you are, dont bottle it all up and create resentment confront them instead, easier said than done but you will feel much better afterwards.


    very good bit of advice there,

    Banned

    ADZ1478;6612645

    you sound like tinky winky:-D



    I've noticed that too.

    I havent read anyone's response to this hun...

    I wouldn't do it to my brother babe. Kith n kin n all that...

    However i can hear your pain and recognise it's more to do with your relationship to them being overlooked and your Mother's home...

    Do what you feel to be right hun and whatever you do carry it through to its fruition... no going back and all that.

    Remember there will be consequences to whatever you decide to do.... if these consequences cause more pain to you and to those you love... are they worth doing?

    4lyons09;6612584

    I see your point totally, I wouldnt call it whinging or call you a dick … I see your point totally, I wouldnt call it whinging or call you a dick eirther! if you would have accepted yourself I would just leave it and tell him how you feel.Hope you sort it, life is too short to argue with family, I learned the hard way



    munnski;6612600

    +1 nice advice :thumbsup:



    'solutely xxxx

    Though I'm assuming the brother's know theyve done wrong... hence the not mentioning it till after their holiday. But these are the kind of things that split familities as easily as bananas... I'd invite em out for a beer and talk it over in another environment. xx

    But barky whatever you decide to do is up to you babe xxx

    Banned

    some people forget everything for money, there is more to life......think about the consequences and maybe re-evaluate your relationships........wife and brothers!!!!

    Family is more important than money.

    guv;6613256

    The house was in Scotland, so probably not worth much anyway.Amirite?



    Here we go again...:roll: :lol:

    I've never understood the point of an online rant, nothing anyone says here is gonna change whats already been done.

    speak to your brothers and move on with your life....richer life:thumbsup:

    surly the bottem line is whether or not you ever want to speak to them again

    Banned

    renown;6613755

    surly the bottem line is whether or not you ever want to speak to them … surly the bottem line is whether or not you ever want to speak to them again



    exactly.......seems the wife has made her view pretty clear on it tho:-D

    Banned

    tinkerbell28;6613940

    I think it's probably not helped by your wife maybe egging you on,



    Good point:thumbsup:

    Wifey seems to be stirring the pot a little.

    http://www.strangebreedcartoons.com/images/henpecked.gif

    It's not that unusual for a wife to try and alienate her husband from their blood relatives. I lost my brother that way and he hasnt had any contact with the family in over 15 years.

    no response from op

    boothy;6614559

    no response from op



    probably because the responses havnt been what he wanted. I'll look forward to the "my solicitor sued ny brothers but my wife thinks he over charged me" thread.

    It'll cost you 3 grand to get 3 grand. Small claims so no costs so not really worth it. Then they probably won't pay so you'll need to enforce, that'll cost you more, again, non recoverable.

    That's my opinion.

    Sounds like a lot of aggro for three grand to me; surely family is worth more than three grand. And it's not just about you and your wife not getting on with your brothers. If you have or already have kids then we are talking about them maybe not seeing their uncles/aunts/cousins. Makes three grand seem like naff all imo.

    What if the family had waited til you/they got back from their hols and the cash buyer had moved on to something else? Be happy they bit the bullet and made the decision. But I know how frustrating families can be believe me, my swollen eyes from the tears tonight confirm this :-(

    They were acting in all your best interests so cut them some slack

    I'd be fuming too if it was me,can't believe they didn't bother to try and contact you.

    fireheaven;6616151

    What if the family had waited til you/they got back from their hols and … What if the family had waited til you/they got back from their hols and the cash buyer had moved on to something else? Be happy they bit the bullet and made the decision. But I know how frustrating families can be believe me, my swollen eyes from the tears tonight confirm this :-(They were acting in all your best interests so cut them some slack



    I hope you're alright hun, you need to yell at someone just holler xxxx
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