Posted 20 December 2015

A thought for are loved ones that won't be here this christmas

Just a thought for the ones who we loved, and will not be here with us this christmas .

Lost my Dad 3 and a half years ago and still miss him all the time . He was my Dad and was one of my best friends .

Thoughts with the ones who's lost a loved one at this time of year .

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20th Dec 2015
Has a feeling that people here will need one of these

I know I do !
20th Dec 2015
To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 years ago, the only reason he hung on as long as he did was the fact my wife was pregnant with his first grandchild and wouldn't let the doctors tell write him off so soon..
My son is a constant reminder of my dad and I love him for it, but I still hate Christmas no matter how hard I try for the kids, my mum can still see I am upset at the same time.
20th Dec 2015
I really don't think I should be 'liking' the comments in this thread, but it's purely a mark of respect

When someone you love dies, your life is never quite the same, you just learn to adapt, time does partly heal but the heart really doesn't x
20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 … To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 years ago, the only reason he hung on as long as he did was the fact my wife was pregnant with his first grandchild and wouldn't let the doctors tell write him off so soon..My son is a constant reminder of my dad and I love him for it, but I still hate Christmas no matter how hard I try for the kids, my mum can still see I am upset at the same time.

Same here with my Grandad.
He battled with his cancer so he could see my daughter.
I miss him every day and wish that she knew the loving, wonderful man that he was!
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20th Dec 2015
20th Dec 2015
My son was only 4 months old when he passed away so he doesn't remember him but we talk about Grandad Dave all the time and I have photos all over and so does my mum (she never met anyone else)
My daughter is 8 now so only knows him through photos and stories (there are LOTS of stories)
20th Dec 2015
I lost my dad in march. He was my world. My best friend, dad, mum, idol, everything rolled into one. Sudden, no illness. I take comfort in the fact I saw him couple of week before n the last time I saw him I kissed him and told him I loved him.

I found out I was going to become a dad again in April which broke my heart as my dad isn't going to be here to see his new grandson.

It was his birthday last month which was scandalously hard. Just don't fancy Christmas one bit this year.
20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
My son was only 4 months old when he passed away so he doesn't remember … My son was only 4 months old when he passed away so he doesn't remember him but we talk about Grandad Dave all the time and I have photos all over and so does my mum (she never met anyone else)My daughter is 8 now so only knows him through photos and stories (there are LOTS of stories)

My Dad passed away on the 23rd of December 2001, worst Christmas ever. My youngest son was born in September 2002 so never got to meet him & the same as you photos & stories & a lot of happy memories.
20th Dec 2015
Sorry to read all of these posts, its so sad

I lost my Grandad on New Years Eve a few years ago and we always do a little something as the clock strikes. This year going to be the worst ever as this will be my mother in laws last Christmas, we are all going to make sure its the best ever for all the children but she is only 54 and it make me so angry how cruel the world can be. Its just so hard feeling like you do, knowing there is absolutely nothing you can do and hurts more so when all the grandkids, especially our own have no idea as she looks so fit and healthy from the outside.

Though this year we wont be celebrating any New Years but remembering and enjoying the one that just ended

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20th Dec 2015
Lost my Mum around about the same time as you lost your Dad, Phil. June 2012. I miss her all the time but even more so at Christmas because she used to love it so much.
20th Dec 2015
Same it's 20 years this month not a big fan of Christmas but u have to try when you have a 9 year old
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20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 … To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 years ago, the only reason he hung on as long as he did was the fact my wife was pregnant with his first grandchild and wouldn't let the doctors tell write him off so soon..My son is a constant reminder of my dad and I love him for it, but I still hate Christmas no matter how hard I try for the kids, my mum can still see I am upset at the same time.

It's hard mate . I only do christmas because of my 3 children, if it was not for them I would not bother. My Dad did see my first 2 children, but not my little girl and its bloody hard as you think what they would think of them now .
20th Dec 2015
20th Dec 2015
First year for me without a mum at Xmas, she passed away in Feb and suffered for 6 months. She'd looked after my mentally and physically disabled brother from his birth, he'll be 51 on the 29th and is still in nappies. She didn't deserve that suffering after such a life.
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20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
My dad had the same thing Phil (glioblastoma IV) thought he had epilepsy … My dad had the same thing Phil (glioblastoma IV) thought he had epilepsy at first but was mis-diagnosed, they gave him 8 months but he lasted 14months to see my lad. he spent all the time he was able fixing up mums house so that there was nothing that needed doing after he'd gone ... was a very hands on person building and fixing pretty much anything that needed doing himself.

Its what my Dad had, he went when he was 74 he had only been in hospital when he was 8 years old (I don't know what for) Mum and Dads bungalow was great as he done everything with it, he still had time to help me out all the time .
20th Dec 2015
unfortunately I lost my dad when I was 7,he was 30.he never got to meet his grandchildren or my husband but hes always in my thoughts.
20th Dec 2015
Losing a loved one is never easy, i lost both my parents suddenly, my dad when i was 14 and my mum when i was 28. Its hard because 1 day theyre there and theyre fine and the next theyre gone. holidays are really hard but we have to keep strong for our kids, lifes really difficult sometimes but the things we go through make us stronger
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20th Dec 2015
maccy1
I really don't think I should be 'liking' the comments in this thread, … I really don't think I should be 'liking' the comments in this thread, but it's purely a mark of respect <3When someone you love dies, your life is never quite the same, you just learn to adapt, time does partly heal but the heart really doesn't x

As you say Maccy its just a mark of respect for the ones that have posted about their loved ones
20th Dec 2015
I lost my nan 4 weeks ago to lung and liver cancer. Thankfully she didn't suffer for long - only one week after full diagnosis. Glad she didn't suffer but miss her every second. We have just celebrated my son's first birthday and that was really hard. She adored him and I am so privileged to have had her in my life for so long. My boy, Rory, learnt to say "nan nan" and every time we took him to see her he would use the sofa to walk up to where she was sitting or lying, and he'd call her Nan-nan and kiss her hand or arm. She completely lit up and for a few seconds the world was perfect. I'll miss her every second for the rest of life. This Christmas will be very hard for the family. Best wishes to everyone who will struggle to enjoy this year. Raise a glass to absent friends.
20th Dec 2015
Not just Christmas, but always. I still find death (particularly of my loved ones) so hard to get my head around and tbh most of the time I just try not to think about it.
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20th Dec 2015
chuckiedoll
Same here with my Grandad. He battled with his cancer so he could see my … Same here with my Grandad. He battled with his cancer so he could see my daughter. I miss him every day and wish that she knew the loving, wonderful man that he was!

My Dad died of a brain tumor, had it 6 months and then he went, He was doing my new house at the time, he was doing his car (changing a wheel) and could not pick up the nuts, so my sister took him down the hospital and he went down hill from there .
20th Dec 2015
You made me all emotional! January 2nd 2014 Granddad xx

I swear this is the only thread on HUKD to make me cry, wow.
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20th Dec 2015
My dad had the same thing Phil (glioblastoma IV) thought he had epilepsy at first but was mis-diagnosed, they gave him 8 months but he lasted 14months to see my lad.
he spent all the time he was able fixing up mums house so that there was nothing that needed doing after he'd gone ... was a very hands on person building and fixing pretty much anything that needed doing himself.
21st Dec 2015
For all of us who will be missing loved ones even more, at Christmas

youtube.com/wat…1sY

peace and love to everyone xxx
20th Dec 2015
transit

Transit, thanks for posting this message It brings a tear to your eye
20th Dec 2015
was his 60th birthday just over a week ago ...

that day really sucked!
20th Dec 2015
philmitchell
As you say Maccy its just a mark of respect for the ones that have posted … As you say Maccy its just a mark of respect for the ones that have posted about their loved ones <3

Absolutely phil, life can be so hard and you never really realise until it hits you, there are people out there that haven't had their parents (children and all) as long as others and my heart goes out to those, you're never ready to lose anyone you love but most can treasure that they've had a happy life with the ones that also have enjoyed a happy long life until they passed away
20th Dec 2015
chuckiedoll

Another great message to remind us of the loss of our loved one's
20th Dec 2015
summerof76
Transit, thanks for posting this message

Meant to turn the webcam off oO
20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
was his 60th birthday just over a week ago ...that day really sucked!

Sorry to hear that arcangel
21st Dec 2015
my dad died last Christmas, I thought my heart would break, he was such a good friend to me. Not looking forward to festivities this year but guess I will paint on a smile.
21st Dec 2015
Lost my Dad a year and a half ago and it still hurts. Never a day goes by without me missing him.
Thinking of you all. xx
21st Dec 2015
I'm so sorry to read about everyone's loss. This time of year can make the loss of a loved one even harder to bare than 'normal', no matter how long ago they passed.
It will be 12 years for my Mam on Valentines day and it still really upsets me. I miss her so much.
I always look at the empty chair at our table and I know if she was still with us, she'd be sat there tucking into her dinner.
I often worry about our daughter when we go. She's a lovely girl and we're so proud of her. I'd hate her to suffer losing us, but I'd much prefer that than the other way around. No child should ever go before their parents.
God Bless our loved ones in Heaven and may they sleep peacefully with the Angels.
Be strong and think how lucky we are to have had them in our lives. They're memories will continue to live on in us.
21st Dec 2015
lost my dad very suddenly it l be our second xmas without him . i tried c p r but didnt work the shock was awful.still think
about what happened at least he didn t suffer.love and miss him every day. just think hes with his son and our dear brother that died aged 29 .it has been hard for my mam and dad to get over the loss of theyr son . miss them both .be raising a glass christmas day .thoughts are with you all.
21st Dec 2015
lost my niece christmas eve 1999 she was only 3 and i still miss her just as much.
21st Dec 2015
arcangel111
To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 … To be honest I hate Christmas for this very reason... My dad passed 13 years ago, the only reason he hung on as long as he did was the fact my wife was pregnant with his first grandchild and wouldn't let the doctors tell write him off so soon..My son is a constant reminder of my dad and I love him for it, but I still hate Christmas no matter how hard I try for the kids, my mum can still see I am upset at the same time.

I know how you feel lost my dad 18 Dec 1990
Then father in law 15 Jan 1991
My mum 31 Dec 1993
So I am glad when Christmas and New Year's Eve are over
Put brave face on for great grand children
20th Dec 2015
arcangel111
Has a feeling that people here will need one of these I know I do !
21st Dec 2015
It's a very emotional time of year.
21st Dec 2015
This was the poem (part of a much larger memorium) I put in the paper when my dad passed away

Though tears in my eyes do not glisten,
And my face is not always sad,
There is never a night or morning,
That I think of the father I had.
Not a day do I forget you,
In my heart you are always here,
For I love you and miss you,
You are my Dad.
21st Dec 2015
life goes on. My Dad passed away 3 and a half years ago and I think about him everyday. luckily for my kids they have better coping mechanisms. Christmas day isn't a great reminder of the happy years gone by.