I'll rattle off his workings over the last 2 or so years:
- has parties inside, and outside way past midnight, sometimes till 5am (does not care when I raised the issue, the man is pushing 50)
- uses pressure washer to clean the pathway/pavement and sprays all the muck AT MY CAR, rather than the other way. Tells me to \"f*ck off\" when I say, \"are you going to clean my car now?\"
- threatened me if I sprayed it back in his direction - \"you will see what happens if you do it\"
- said I couldn't have a Driveway because:
.I needed planning permission (I checked, I didn't for my size)
.the angle of the driveway was breaching privacy law
.he didn't want to look out the window and see my car
.said I owned enough cars (I own 4, and 2 are in the garage)
.it would devalue his house if I parked a van there
.illegal as the wildlife will be disrupted in the bush (to the pavement)
.he would get his solicitor legal friend to stop me - \"he\" never showed up
.kept coming out and telling the driveway specialists that I needed plan perm while I was getting quotes
.said for me to get a bush put up in the middle of the two houses so that he didn't have to see my cars
.to put it in writing, in the deeds (or something) that the bush doesn't get cut down
- agreed to have the bush directly in the middle of the property, but he wanted to dictate how high my other bush to the pavement was, because this new one needed sunlight
- uses pressure washer to water the middle bush with my car parked the other side of it, so its filthy
- cuts his lawn, and sprays it all onto my driveway with a pressure washer (says its my leaves that are in his garden, despite him owning a tree). Speaks to me, and my girlfriend like sh*t when we call him out
- tells me I need to trim the bush (to the pavement) down, tells me I don't clean my windows, tells me I do nothing to my house
- moans because my dog barks in the garden
- storms round your house if you park 1 inch onto his section of the road (two cars can fit on the road, 1 is mine, 1 is his)
- has his friends park their cars in that spot if we take that car out...
- moves my bins in my front garden while I am out
- friendly to me when he needs something.. strange that
I have been trying to move house for 6 months (had a few hiccups with chains falling through, etc) so I am actively trying my best to exit the situation I am in!
But...
I need to find other ways of dealing with him! Ignorance is NOT the answer because he will continue.
Nothing I say, or do, seems to make a difference. I do not respect him. I do not acknowledge him if he is outside. I am not afraid of him. He reminds me of a primary/secondary school bully. I refuse to let someone walk all over me like this.","comment":[{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204401","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"tonymgx"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T16:45:52.000Z","text":"He sounds like a pleasure... personally I would just move - not worth the mental abuse, I would only be pleasant now with neighbours but not have much to do with them - really minimal, some people really don't realise over over bearing they are in life. In the mean time I would put up a camera - though I am sure he would have something to say about that too, but tough"},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51203938","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"Toon_army"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T15:32:19.000Z","text":"Why don't you have a Halloween party this year and invite all us. We'll take turns going to the toilet in his garden "},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204010","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"mad.dog"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T15:43:09.000Z","text":"If you're moving I'd just ignore him - it'll have the added bonus of riling him up more without you having to do anything whatsoever! He's obviously looking for a reaction from you
As I see it you really don't want to poke the bear anymore if you are trying to move house, and definitely don't report anything as you'll have to declare it to the buyers"},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204002","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"HonourableGentleman"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T15:42:27.000Z","text":"Some people can't be reasoned with. My neighbour has been horrible for years. Then his wife died. He had a go at me in the street for not offering my condolences (I had no idea she had died) then after that was nice as pie! Lent me stuff, chatted to me for ages when I was working outside. Now he has gone back to being rude and ignoring me. I make a point of saying hello whenever I see him as I know it winds him up. Not everyone is a nice person.
In your situation, I pity the poor soul that buys your house, but karma is a b1tch so hopefully he meets someone just as obnoxious!"},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51203707","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"dipsylalapo"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T14:52:43.000Z","text":"Best way....depends on what you want...if you're planning on moving why bother with the person if you think they're a waste of space? Personally wouldn't think it would be worth the effort."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51208543","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"Corner_taken_quickly"},"datePublished":"2023-10-17T11:05:38.000Z","text":"Print off multiple letters stating that *** at number *** is a kiddy fiddler. Pop every letter through the doors of every other house on ur street and then sit back and watch everybody turn on him...."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51203698","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"DaddyPig"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T14:52:06.000Z","text":"Just keep a log of things that he do . If he's having parties then you can make a log of them and then contact the council (There is a out of hours number as well if your council has one) .
I would put some extra cameras up , they don't cost that much these days . You would have more evidence if things get even worse then you can build a case against him that way ."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204001","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"D3LL80Y"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T15:42:09.000Z","text":"Consider something discreet like sunglasses that record video with sound. Sounds very 007 but will get some close up evidence and they do exist.
Also can put voice recorder evidence etc and then eventually you will have to report it if you want some change.
Anything you physically want do about it will end in you getting in more trouble than them so stay out of that level of aggression if it comes to it.
You definitely need to build multiple versions of evidence before you do anything, make sure you know your rights and you stick up for what is right"},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204012","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"mutley1"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T15:43:20.000Z","text":"it is always bad when you have an argument with the neighbour as it means selling your property will be difficult as you have to disclose disputes with neighbours. this will put potential buyers off if they know that they have to live next to a wick.
so difficult to advise on this as it is very personal and it can escalate things. i always try to calm things down for the reason that i don't want my house devalued and if it was a neighbour a bit further down the road, then i would certainly have a fight, but next door, no, not a good idea.
if you want some comfort, you could bite your tongue until you have been able to move and then come back and have it out with him "},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51204790","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"tempt"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T17:49:07.000Z","text":"If he treats other neighbours as bad, you could get together and make a joint representation to the council and get him sanctioned for ASBO. Ask your local councillor if they can help."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51205201","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"bluetang"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T18:49:43.000Z","text":"If you think you have problems now you could be in a whole world of financial pain if you fail to disclose the problems to new buyers and the problem neighbour starts mouthing off to them as well and also mentioning you.
Best disclose everything, honestly, and sleep easy once you have moved."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51206684","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"James_SmithsAX"},"datePublished":"2023-10-17T02:33:42.000Z","text":"Try talking, involve authorities if necessary, seek help from a mediator, and keep your distance if needed. Stay calm and rational, and don't let their behavior get to you."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51215055","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"Bbqueue"},"datePublished":"2023-10-18T08:42:40.000Z","text":"You need to post his and your addresses on here so none of us buy your house or move anywhere near him "},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51203457","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"deleted9453"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T14:11:29.000Z","text":"I had similar at my old house. Nice as pie until a personal situation turned him into a childish imbecile.
I spent 2yrs ignoring him after being pretty much best of friends for 6yrs. I then moved as all it does is make you anxious and nervous to do anything.
Best thing to do is to flat out blank him. Do you and ignore him if he tries to call you out on it.
This is one of many prime examples of his pettiness. At least a 7 car drive (he turned front garden into a driveway) but chose to park inches from a car I was trying to clean. He did it because he knew I was cleaning it and standing right there where I took photo because he wanted a reaction. He didn't get one but I sent photo to other neighbours who also knew of his childish behaviour to reinforce his behaviour to them to further alienate him from the neighbours.
"},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51203494","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"DJSlime"},"datePublished":"2023-10-16T14:20:02.000Z","text":"I would have him for affray if he's threatening you. Try and get some evidence, whether that's installing CCTV or secretly recording a conversation."},{"@type":"Comment","@id":"https://www.hotukdeals.com/comments/permalink/51228470","author":{"@type":"Person","name":"ashmac"},"datePublished":"2023-10-20T02:04:22.000Z","text":"I’d either whop his ass up and down the street or sell . Couldn’t live with that not a chance I’d be off in a shot"}],"commentCount":60,"interactionStatistic":29,"articleSection":"Ask"}